Tablets by post?

[StormGrey]

Hello - has anyone got experience please of taking the tablets by post? I just found out I’m pregnant, which is a totally shock. I don’t want to go through my GP and I don’t want to have a face to face appointment or scan. I think it would break my heart to see a baby on a scan, so I think the tablets by post make more sense. I’ve previously taken the MAP, so I’m trying to think of it similarly.

I’ve only had chance to Google Marie Stopes so far and that’s where I saw it as an option. Are there any other private clinics I should contact? Thank you

Thanks @coconutandlime I would do a stomach bug but annoyingly I already had one a few weeks ago from my daughters nursery 🤦🏻‍♀️ not sure I could get away with it again. I think I'll be honest with my manager she's very understanding so I hope she'll cover for me if I have to take a day off.

What are the chances! @Busylizzie85
If she's understanding then that's probably the best option, it will be one less thing to worry about then. Hope your consultation goes ok and try to avoid the horror stories x

For those of you unsure of decision .. whether you are in possession or not yet
Please do not start any treatment while you have doubts
Bpas and MSI both offer counselling before and after TOP
Be sure it's the right thing for you before you take anything!

Approaching a termination provider does not automatically guarantee you will progress to termination .. there is a chance to discuss your options and really offers breathing space to say .. hold on ... slow down and lets talk

The Pills by Post is not a guarantee either , there is a strict criteria to follow and all the questions asked in your consultation are what is deciding what is right for you .. that doesn't mean you won't get an abortion but it may mean we recommend counselling , bring you in for a scan or refer you to an NHS hospital if you have a medical condition that means you need further monitoring

Hi @Busylizzie85 sorry you're in this dilemma too. The wait till the appt is hard. I'll update after my call with MSI on Monday x

Thanks @coconutandlime for sharing your experience. It helps to know the physical process doesn't need to be horrific. I'm in denial a bit about the process, but I know I'll be sobbing before taking any tablets. I've decided to tell my boss that I'm having a gynae day op. That will stop him in his tracks, so will be enough to have a day or two of space off work if needed x

@66babe thank you for sharing your advice. I've seen your replies on other threads on this topic and appreciate your kindness.

I am a little concerned about the idea of the tablets actually, as I had 2 failed inductions with my DC, so needed csections both times. I am a bit worried I wouldn't pass a pregnancy properly and need intervention. I'll mention this to the nurse during my appt on Monday x

@StormGrey there is a very big difference in inducing a fully grown baby and softening the cervix and allowing the membrane walls to come away in a very early pregnancy but yes please discuss all your fears with your midwife
I hope you get all the answers you need

Thank you @66babe x

@StormGrey I was very much in denial too, but after the counselling and a lot of soul searching I firmly believe it was right for me. But please make sure you're certain before you do anything. They were happy to offer me as much counselling as I needed. Every single member of staff I spoke to was so helpful.
I felt sad and do feel guilty, which I think can only be natural. But I still feel I made the right choice. But it has to be absolutely your choice.
Just seen your other post about the induction. I didn't have a failed induction but it was a very very long process. It didn't cross my mind until I was about to take the tablets and I worried if it would mean this process wouldn't be successful/take much longer than normal. Fortunately it all went textbook for me. During my consultation they did ask how previous DC were delivered, so definitely mention it then. Thinking of you, it's so incredibly difficult and never ever a position I thought I would be in xx

Thinking of you all. This is incredibly difficult.

I had a termination in March. I still feel sad, guilty and quit flat about it at times. But suppose that is only natural. I do still also believe it was correct thing to do in that moment.x

@ED81 you too can think about counselling , if you had with Bpas then just the BIC a call and ask them for Post TOP counselling
6 weeks , 6 months 6 years - we will still be there for you
I am sure MSI will be the same .

Thanks. To be honest I’m not sure what I’m upset about at times. I really hope I don’t feel like this after 6 years!

I’m actually receiving counselling. It’s private and more generic.

That's good to hear ... more generic may help in the broader scheme of things but if it's the TOP on your mind it may be worth considering that too ... it's free , what harm can it do ? If you don't feel the benefit then you can just end the session ?

That is exactly correct 24-48 hrs after Mifepristone take 4 Misoprostol either vaginally or buccally then 3/4 hrs after that use the other 2 - even if you have already started bleeding
Good luck lovely, you will be fine

I was told different advice regarding the 6 tablets. I was told to take the 4 and then to only take the additional 2 if I didn’t start bleeding. I did bleed so I didn’t take the extra two, now I’m a little worried that I should have done! Advice seems to be different from different providers.

We didn't use the extra 2 when clients came into the clinic
It's only since Covid where it is more difficult and more preferable to have less face to face contact that we want to give the treatment the best chance of working
I've known ladies who have squatted over the toilet and dropped at least 3 down the pan and it's still worked
It's the combination of the Mife and the Miso that complete the treatment
So 4 or 6 Miso is not such a major issue
One of the most important things I would advise is to allow at least 24 hrs between the Mife and Miso .. when we gave them on the same day a few years ago the failure rate increased significantly.. so that is vital

Don't be afraid @sam433
You can manage them with just taking things easy , using paracetamol and ibuprofen, hot water bottle , nice warm shower , gentle walk if you feel like it
Have nice things and nice people around you ... candle, nice snack , music , book whatever is relaxing for you and when you are at the worst of it ... it will pass and settle quickly , you will be ok I promise

Well that's a very brave decision then , you've put your 3 children and your own mental well-being first
It's never ever an easy decision .. some people do breeze through but I think that's a coping mechanism more than anything
You just be you and be kind to yourself .. once those pregnancy hormones have settled you may feel a bit better about it as you know you are doing the right thing for you at this time .. 💐

It will be uncomfortable... like a heavy period
You may have some nausea dizziness fever cramping ... but it won't last for long and ... you may have none of that !
Every woman reacts differently but I guarantee if you tell yourself this is going to be awful then it will
Tell yourself .. I can do this
I'm in this situation and i want to do something about it
I can manage these few hours
I have a family and a future to look forward to
This does not define me
It will be all over within the next couple of days and then I start to move on ....

I have messaged you @sam433 I've never sent or received a PM so I hope it is ok