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Tablets by post?

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StormGrey · 27/06/2021 19:19

Hello - has anyone got experience please of taking the tablets by post? I just found out I’m pregnant, which is a totally shock. I don’t want to go through my GP and I don’t want to have a face to face appointment or scan. I think it would break my heart to see a baby on a scan, so I think the tablets by post make more sense. I’ve previously taken the MAP, so I’m trying to think of it similarly.

I’ve only had chance to Google Marie Stopes so far and that’s where I saw it as an option. Are there any other private clinics I should contact? Thank you

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ED81 · 11/07/2021 18:58

It’s a difficult thing to do.
Hope the rest of the day as been ok.xx

StormGrey · 11/07/2021 21:33

I took the tablet a couple of hours ago. I'm still shocked that I did. I've cried all of the tears and feel empty and exhausted. In a way, there's a feeling of relief that I no longer have this dreadful indecision hanging over me.

Thank you again for the support and kindness on here xx

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66babe · 11/07/2021 21:41

Be kind to yourself @StormGrey
We are here for you

ED81 · 11/07/2021 22:28

Xx

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StormGrey · 12/07/2021 09:09

Morning - I'm exhausted and dizzy this morning. No idea why. I think I slept ok, but my eyes feel heavy. Maybe I'm dehydrated from the crying last night.

The grey drizzly weather and everyone else's reaction to the football result mirror my own slightly somber mood. I don't care about football, but it's a good cover for being a bit down today.

On the whole though, I'm feeling calmer today than at any point over the past 2 weeks. The tricky decision is made and now I will get through today and take the other tablets tomorrow morning.

I have a lot to look forward to, so will try to focus on that xx

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66babe · 12/07/2021 11:16

That's right @StormGrey
You will get through this and things will definitely start to look up
Feeling a little dizzy can be a side affect of your first tablet- Mife
Just keep hydrated and rest when you need to
💐

sam433 · 12/07/2021 13:24

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StormGrey · 12/07/2021 17:13

@sam433 I think it's the finality of taking the tablet. It's just a little pill and I held it for ages and kept picking it up and putting it down.

Nearly all of my symptoms have disappeared now. Still a little dizzy, but the nausea has gone and I'm no longer weeing every 40 mins. The first tablets stops the production of progesterone, so maybe that's what caused those symptoms in the first place.

Thinking of you xx

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phoebewallyfridge · 12/07/2021 17:19

Hi, I did this a few months ago, it was via BPAS.

Obviously, it was painful and upsetting but the process of getting the pills and doing it at home etc was pretty straightforward

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StormGrey · 12/07/2021 17:49

This afternoon I saw a very heavily pregnant woman at the supermarket and thought "thank goodness that's not me" and then saw a friend's newborn photos on fb and thought "no thanks".

Then I've just looked at my 2 DC sitting at the table eating dinner now and I can't imagine another DC sitting there. So that's quite calming.

@sam433 I empathise with the sadness, but take the time. Can you call for some counselling perhaps? Xx

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sam433 · 12/07/2021 17:52

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66babe · 12/07/2021 18:03

You are ok @sam433
Sit down now and concentrate on your breathing
Relax your shoulders and just ... breathe
The decision is made , it's done
Now we move on ... keep your routine tonight , sort the children , enjoy a nice bubble bath , relax
Go to bed and just rest..
Don't overthink or wait for side affects , if you tell yourself you feel dizzy .. then you will feel dizzy

Concentrate on the lovely family around you .. you will be ok ❤️

Busylizzie85 · 12/07/2021 18:08

My tablets came Friday and I plan on taking the first one tomorrow followed by the others on Wednesday whilst daughter is at nursery.
I have been lucky and so far other than bloating I've had no real Symptoms which I think makes it easier for my head to think there is nothing going on and this is just a thing I have to do if that makes sense. We have had a terrible week of teething/sleepless nights which I just can't contemplate doing again so soon.

sam433 · 12/07/2021 18:20

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StormGrey · 12/07/2021 21:15

Awwww @sam433 I'd give you a hug if I could. Hopefully you can snuggle up in bed and get some sleep soon.

You've been in turmoil for weeks about what to do and that stress doesn't disappear immediately. I know my first thought after taking the tablet was "why did I do that? I can't believe I did that". It was a shock and wanting to undo it. That feel has waned for me today, but it still hurts my heart.

Will your DH/DP be home soon? Xx

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StormGrey · 12/07/2021 21:38

@sam433 you've made such a selfless decision for your 3 DC. You can be the best mum to them and continue to protect your mental health at the same time. Lean on counselling talking therapy and help from the GP (antidepressants) if needed.

It's helping me now to think of the positives and things ahead to look forward to with my DH and DC. The things that wouldn't have been possible whilst pregnant or with a new baby. DC1 asked me this evening if we can go to LegoLand for their next birthday, so I've been looking at the LegoLand Hotel for a special birthday weekend trip (no big class party this year).

It's small steps. I'm looking for positives. Although to be honest, I've enjoyed the drizzle and thunderstorms this afternoon. I'm glad it's gloomy outside. I found one of my positive pregnancy tests in my bedside drawer earlier (an IC that still has the strong positive line on it). That hurt. It hurts because it wasn't a happy exciting result like I felt in my previous pregnancies. I feel very sad and guilty that I wasn't ready to have this baby.

I'm scared of tomorrow. I don't know what to expect of the pain and I am dreading seeing anything traumatic 😔

Xx

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StormGrey · 12/07/2021 21:52

@66babe please can I ask if it's likely I'll see anything tomorrow when I take the 4 tablets?

I'm 5+6 today. I was reading earlier on here and another person saw the sac and fetus when they passed a 6 week pregnancy. I don't know if they specifically looked for something.

I know it's gruesome to think about, but I wasn't expecting that. I'm sad if I pass my baby in the toilet without a care in the world. Do you have any advice to prepare myself please?

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