Tablets by post?

[StormGrey]

Hello - has anyone got experience please of taking the tablets by post? I just found out I’m pregnant, which is a totally shock. I don’t want to go through my GP and I don’t want to have a face to face appointment or scan. I think it would break my heart to see a baby on a scan, so I think the tablets by post make more sense. I’ve previously taken the MAP, so I’m trying to think of it similarly.

I’ve only had chance to Google Marie Stopes so far and that’s where I saw it as an option. Are there any other private clinics I should contact? Thank you

The worst of the sickness is often in the earlyish part of first trimester. You might feel loads better in a few weeks!

Just saw your update @sam433

Sending a virtual hug x

@sam433 how are you this morning? xx

Morning @StormGrey and @sam433
How are you both this morning ?

@sam433 I think something is holding you back
Please call your provider today and ask for a counselling appt ... if TOP is the right thing for you then perhaps a silurgical option would be better
If continuing the pregnancy is your choice can your GP provide you with an anti emetic and some vitamins or advice on general well being to help you through this ?

If you are delaying the treatment then it's clearly not the right thing for you
Please don't take any unless you are sure

@sam433 we are here for you . Post as much as you like
Apologies for my awful spelling on last post .. fat fingers I think

You are right lovely
It's an awful decision
I think you know what you want to do , you just hate being responsible for doing it

You are very wise to be mindful of your mental health , your existing children and the practicality of being at home for another few years

None of these things are impossible and if you want another then you will manage
If you don't , you don't have to

You can also have as many sessions as you want with the listeners ..

💐

You have nothing to feel guilty about ? You would have done the right thing for your babies , especially as one needs special attention
You'd have protected your mental health
You can access counselling after also
Perhaps when the pregnancy hormones have gone you may think more clearly and feel better about this

What you don't want is to go through with termination and then not cope at all with your decision - this would also have a massive impact on your mental health

Sit down and write a list on a bit of paper
1- good things about having a baby
2- not so good things about having a baby

Maybe seeing it in front of you will help you

@sam433 you're being so strong. You sound like a wonderful mum to your current DC.

Totally understand your delay. I'm doing the same.

100% I don't want a baby. I'm not excited about a baby, I've looked at other babies over the past couple of weeks and thought "oh Christ", I stood in the baby clothes section at M&S and Next and thought "this doesn't look fun". It's like a switch in my head since previously being pregnant when it was all exciting. I think I'm too old also. Perhaps if it was a first pregnancy at age 42 and I could nap through the first trimester, but I need to be the best mum to my current DC and be energetic and fun for them.

Having said all of that, I'm really struggling to take the bloody tablet!! It's a responsibility I don't want.

Xx

Sending you both a massive virtual hug
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@66babe glad you've suggested making a list. I tried it on the same day I got the positive test and wasn't thinking clearly then.

Having a baby:

• good things...cuddles, lovely smell, another gorgeous DC sitting around the table (when they're age 4+)

• bad things...morning sickness, exhaustion, high risk of genetic issues given my age, not being as available for DC1&2 whilst breastfeeding baby and putting baby down for naps, carting around baby stuff, sleepless nights (years of it if similar to DC2!), frustrations with DH as he is always working, compromises on education and experiences for DC1&2 (the cost of to privately educating a third DC is extortionate), big age difference would mean little commonality between siblings, delays my career progression (which is back on track after a few years as a SAHM), long time till we can do skiing/adventure holidays, I'd also put back on the 25kg I finally lost last year after getting massive when pregnant!!

So what is stopping you now @StormGrey ?
Please don't think I say that harshly , I really do not

The list is very useful I agree
It just helps to make things clear and seeing it in black and white makes things seem more real sometimes

@66babe such a good question. I suppose it's the finality of my fertile years being over. Assume it's hormones going a bit crazy.

Also there are few things in life that are irreversible. So a house or marriage or job can all be changed. But not when it's dealing with lives.

Something that I forgot from my list was climate change/environment/pandemic... namely the world doesn't need me to have another child.

My mind is settling. Thank you for your kindness and endless patience xx

@sam433 actually haven't seen her yet. They're now arriving tomorrow lunchtime x

Thinking of you all xx

@sam433 sorry to hear you've been poorly. Hope you had a good night rest and we're sick overnight too xx

I was awake a lot of the night with DC2, who had nightmares. So tired. I'm just too exhausted for night waking. Sat at the kitchen table holding the tablet and clutching a glass of water for 30 mins earlier. Haven't taken the tablet though. It's now on a high shelf. I don't want to feel bloated and nauseous and I don't want a baby. Still can't take the tablet 😔