Late term abortion

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Feel so awful even posting this but I’m absolutely deverstated & don’t know what else to do Im 20 weeks pregnant & have just been dumped by my bf he says he wants to help raise the baby but not be with me I’m absolutely heartbroken we both have mental health problems I have anxiety & depression still PND with my 4 year old daughter from a previous relationship & do not really enjoy being a parent which makes me think how on earth will I cope with 2 being single!?! I have booked for a abortion next week but I can’t decide what to do to make things worse I have had to move back home 40 miles away from my bf which will make co parenting very difficult :( please help I know I’m a disgusting awful person for considering abortion or having another baby when I don’t even enjoy looking after my daughter

Given your update OP, you need to take some responsibility here for your actions. Because they've put you where you are today.

I'd imagine you are very young.

Because these aren't the actions of a responsible adult, being honest.

OP, it wasn't you (re 'stillborns'), it was a PP. I see this expression quite often on here and it's just horrible.

OP, you seem to be ruled by quite intense emotions and very impulsive decisions that are too big to be impulsive. I think you need to try and calm down. WHats at the bottom of this impulsivity ? Do you have adhd or asd?

I'm alarmed at the number of mumsnetters that are telling the op what she should and shouldn't do based on your opinions or your own past. You aren't her and some of you are highly judgemental . She's asking for advice on here as she's obviously distressed and opening up so she needs kindness and understanding

@NamelessGem

Don’t sound too judgemental now will you dear

NamelessGem.......kindly keep your derogatory comments to yourself. I don't think that phrase you just posted is appropriate

Nameless

Keep your vile comments to yourself.

I have reported your post.

Op, I had a late termination, the same gestation as you and in similar circumstances. The procedure was surgical but done in two stages. No pain or complications. It was a long time ago now and my life has changed a lot since then. I have no doubt in my mind that it was the right thing for me to do at that time. You MUST do what's right for you and seek all the counselling you can beforehand. You are not a bad person if this is the decision you make. I feel sad about that time in my life but don't regret the decision I made as it was the right one for me and my circumstances at that time.

There's an adoption board here on MN OP, if it's something you wanted to ask about there.

Well that’s why I’m on here trying to get advise to decide weather to keep it or not because no I made be 28 but I am not a responsible adult at all & an even worse parent

Strangers on the internet can't advise you whether to Keep 'it' or not.

I just think its too late to have a abortion this far on, it maybe hard for u to deal with if u go ahead ,only u know whats best for u

Do you think I’m stupid or something & don’t realise the seriousness of the situation? I planned it on the basis of having full time support from the baby’s daddy living with him & having my daughter there not raising 2 kids with a 40 mile distance! Maybe you should think before writing such stupid comments

@12345gl oh the irony of your last sentence 😂

Glad you are enjoying having a good laugh at someone else’s desperation & sadness! Irony is most people on here probably have never been dumped half way though a pregnancy with pre existing PND & mental health problems & had their worlds turned to black & upside down

If u dont want the baby then give it up once u have give birth,then your child gets to live and have a happy life and at the same time u get what u want too.

Then what else are you laughing at then? I’m glad your life must be so perfect & together!

I assure you no one is laughing on this thread.

I agree no one is laughing, this is a baby's life we are talking about ,its a upsetting thread to read in my view.

I find it difficult reading your updates that you seem to be willing to at least consider what you choose to do, based on 'likes' for which course of action you should take- almost like a Facebook poll. You chose to have a child, and now that the circumstances have changes, at quite a late stage, it's plan changed, so get rid? Ultimately this is your choice and only your choice, you have autonomy over your body, but you don't seem to have really though through the pregnancy past the my partner and I will have one stage. What if he left you six months later? What if he says he'll try again? You're basing the initiall pregnancy and subsequent decisions on not much. You said you have MH issue, depression and he has that and more- and yet you went ahead. And now he's backed off, you figure meh I should to. I really think you need to speak to someone in regards to this who is properly impartial, and in real life. Can you get a referral to someone? You need to work out what you're doing and quickly, but not as a knee jerk reaction. You don't seem to have much attachment to this baby from the way you're talking- it would be good for you to be able to work out emotionally where you're at with someone qualified to help you.

12345gl. You have my full sympathy and understanding. More than I can say for the judgemental smug attitudes I'm reading on here. I'm embarrassed that other females can be so callous and marrow minded in their attitude

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