Totally's Grads Part Deux - Let's handhold through pregnancy after MC

[LeeWT]

So many threads by so many names but this thread is a place to come after TTC after MC..

Deposit your worries in the box by the door and grab a cuppa! :-)

Hi girls, just arrived here, was feeling pretty content and now this morning have been knocked sideways. Woke up with an uncomfortable UTI, had a couple post MC so it's suddenly all flooding back. Now I don't know if the waves of nausea are pg symptom or fear...
I was so determined to stay away from the docs and just get on with it for a month, but am now booked in for an 11am appt and fear all I'll do is blub.
This is normal, right??? And if it is, how will I keep my sanity? This is so hard already.

Alba I hope your drs appt goes well. Don't worry if you cry, it's better to let it all out than bottle it up. It's perfectly OK to feel upset and for this to bring back memories for you. I remember watching a certain film when I was going through my first miscarriage and every time I see it mentioned etc now I only remember how I was bleeding, in pain and upset. Keep talking about how you feel and let your emotions out, I think that will help; I know it does me. (hugs)

Hey Happy - that is good news!! It's totally understandable to feel a bit down about the weeks thing as it's a bit confusing, but that sounds perfectly normal, and the ovulation tests aren't too accurate after mc (I had very confusing results!). A heartbeat is excellent news

Alba you are in the right place, I think that does sound normal, and it will also be normal to have a cry in front of the GP, I know I did!! I am finding it hard to think of anything else right now, it is really hard. Hope the appointment goes ok and you feel better soon xxx

I was awake in the night with really strong period pains again, it's terrible at that time as I'm so tired I can't think reasonably so I just start crying that it's all over. I know that these are normal, it just feels like it's not!!

xxx

Hoorah Happy a happy heartbeat! That's the only thing you need to know from your scan. Meh to the dates. Stop googling immediately! You'll only make yourself needlessly fret and that's not good for you or little bean!

A heartbeat! I'm so thrilled for you!

Alba sorry you're having an emotional time. Hope the doc makes you feel better.

Luckybear ouch to the cramps! That sounds bloody horrid and bound to upset you.

Happy - congratulations!

Alba - UTI's are common in pregnancy but cystitis is very common in early pregnancy. See your GP for peace of mind (and some antibiotics), have a good snot and sniffle - they expect it!
GLB - cramps are normal, but so is worrying!

The hardest thing about a pregnancy after miscarriage for me is the waiting. And wondering. And worrying. And the fact that with everything else in my life I have some sort of control, yet this, the most important thing in the world to me, is out of my control. I'm taking the folic acid (not smoking despite every fibre in my stressed body SCREAMING for a fag)and eating right, and I'm just hoping.......

It doesn't look good for me - some spotting and some pain. I am due to be scanned in a week, I know I could be scanned earlier, but I'm just going to wait and see. I know this way it's a week of worry but next week it will be crystal clear on scan ie there should be a heartbeat at 7+3 where as now, at 6+3 they might not be able to give me a definate without bloods and stuff. I'm hoping and praying for the best, and for GLB and Alba too.

Malteser yes it's the waiting that is awful. I'm sorry to read about the cramps and pain and really hope that it is all OK for you next week. I completely agree with your viewpoint about waiting until 7+3 too, I'm determined to do the same.

Alba welcome and I hope you got on OK at the docs and don't worry if you cried blimey I cried at the docs too last time just at the thought of being sent for a scan, they must to be used to weepy hormonal women. Hope that your UTI clears up soon and you can start to feel calmer.

Goodluckbear I hope your cramps have eased. Am I right in thinking you're due a scan soon? Hope it all goes well and you get to see a hb.

Happygirl great news about seeing a heartbeat.

Time is going so slowly, still not even 5 weeks and feeling tired and weepy. Marked in my calendar when I can go see doc and when I should ring for an appointment.

Lots of people also feeling the waiting today it seems. I'm with you on this. DH is definitely finding today tough even though he's not telling me so as not to worry.

I think it's a good idea to wait til 7+3 girls - it's definitely reassuring to see the heartbeat. Fingers crossed for you all.

I'm getting a scan when I'm 7+3 at the end of the week - fingers crossed for the heartbeat!!

Malty, my fingers are crossed for you too. And everyone else!! Gah, waiting = pants!!

xxxx

Best of luck GLB!

hi all wow theres lots new faces on here so im totally out of the loop sorry!!

also sorry for being MIA, have had such a lot on the last month that the days and weeks are running into each other.. the highlight of my busy month was going to see Whitney Houston.. god love her she was a bombscare but it was a great show!

im 18 weeks now but unfortunately they cant fit me in for me big scan til 22 weeks so feels like forever away!

did meita get away?!

sorry for generic post i am just too behind!

xxx

Hello everyone,

Haven't posted in ages as really busy at school again...I'm not a term time poster! Welcome to all the newbies and hi to all the oldies (so to speak) .

For all those worried in the early stages, it's totally normal and expected to be worried. I felt much better after my 12 week scan...I finally felt that there was actually a baby in there and that I'd overcome the worst. I was really unwell and with exhaustion too, the first three months were really tough, emotionally and physically. I found that it helped to take a day at a time and to focus on how far I had come, celebrating each little milestone.

I think that I might be feeling the baby move now although it's so long since DD1 & 2 (they are 11 and 9 years old for those who are new) I can't remember what the early sensations are like. I keep getting the feeling that there is a tickle on the inside of my tummy and want to rub it. If this is the baby then it's been dead busy today I've been noticing it all the time! Knowing me it'll be the skin stretching or something completely explainable and nothing to do with baby movements at all! It is about the right time to feel the baby move isn't it? I'm 15 weeks today.

I'm off to see the midwife in the morning for a routine check up. I feel a little wobbly but am trying to stay on the positive side. It will be lovely to hear the little heart beating.

Sorry that my post is a little generic and quite a bit about me, hope everyone is well. I will try to follow more closely and post more often from now on! SB x

Aww Sam I haven't had time to catch up properly but I'm only two days behind you so it's great you've felt your baby move! I haven't yet, but will definitely look out for it now!! Brilliant news x x

Hello Sarahlou, Samantha and Lee! Hope you don't mind the newbie influx. It's great to be able to chat with you ladies who are further along. I've spent so long anxiously trying to get diffed, then worrying about staying diffed, it hasn't really sunk in that, although I'm a little diffed, eventually (hopefully) I too will be properly preggers, with scans and a bump and everything! Still not looking forward far enough to think about actually giving birth, or even having a child after that, but softly softly catchee baby!

Luckybear well done you on getting an early scan in. Very exciting!

Teaser big hug to you. Sorry you've having a nervewracking time. Hang in there.

Alba how's tricks? Feeling any better?

Clare with you on the waiting game. Ho hum

Going a little cross eyed on the iPod screen so will say nightie night to all.

Hi, am quietly sneaking in... hopefully to stay. Read a few pages and recognise quite a few names, very encouraging to see your progress So far not quite 5 weeks, tired, emotional and crampy but feels different to the last pg which I am taking to be a good sign...

Had my scan yesterday and it went well, still early so no heartbeat yet but we saw the gestational sac and yolk sac, all the right size and in the right place so I'm really happy with that. They've booked me another for 2 weeks so we can, hopefully, see the heartbeat.

Good morning all,

GLB, hope you had a good nights sleep and no pains waking you in the small hours? I remembered what you said when I got a funny stitch pain yesterday evening, and it soon went away, but they sure are worrying aren't they?

Malteser thanks for giving me the definitive midwife reassurance - much better than I got from the docs. But so sorry you're having a worrying time, that's very strong of you to hold out and wait. Having read Unbuffy's news, from thinking all was lost to a healthy heartbeat it could most definitely all be well. My fingers are crossed for you.

Claire isn't it funny, not yet 5 weeks, but feels like we've known forever??

Lee, Samantha and SarahLou, very kind of you ladies to share your thread and reassurances, enjoy those lovely baby kicks!

Jodie, how do you get those early scans?? Are you doing them privately? Not a hope of any reassurance round here unless you get your credit card out (which I plan to do at 8 weeks if we get there) - lovely to know all well so far.

Sparkly and Gi1da - hello!

As for me, well, the doc was anything but reassuring, she was running late, I felt like I was an inconvenience to her, but I do indeed have an infection and now have anti-biotics (oh joy, they upset my gut at the best of times, combined with morning sickness it's going to be horrid, but needs must...).
I then asked her about the blood tests I'd had about 6 weeks ago - full blood count, hormones and importantly, antiphospholipid antibodies, which I'd been told were all fine when I called for results (and at the time had specifically asked for the last one as I knew it took a while and they assured me it was back and fine).
Well, she couldn't find it, couldn't read the results properly and said I should check with the front desk then retracted and said she'd check with my regular GP.
I called later and asked to speak to my usual GP as I figured I'd cut out the middle man.
He apologised and said the test hadn't actually been done ... that had been my confidence that the mmc in Feb and the chem preg last month were both just bad luck and probably chromosomal, nothing I could do anything about.
He muttered about it not really being essential and hadn't been done as 'not indicated' (ie I hadn't had enough miscarriages). I was furious, I'd been told it was ok!
Anyway - I've arranged to have it done myself, today, privately. It's no more expensive than an early scan and I want to know if baby aspirin are going to help (I'm told I shouldn't take them if not - but no real explanation of why). The private hospital couldn't have been more helpful, thankfully, so hopefully will have my confidence back in a week or so when I get the results... but I'm so so so cross with the GP. He tried to tell me it wasn't really necessary and talk me out of it, I wonder if he's worried how much trouble he'll be in if I get a positive result?? I'm trying not to get too cross, need to be calm and de-stressed, and this is most certainly not helping.....
DH thinks I should just take the baby aspirin anyway, there's so much bad press about aspirin but it probably will do no harm at all... we grew up on junior aspirin as the painkiller of choice in the days before Calpol, with no ill effects. I'm tending to agree with him but still a niggling worry that it might do more harm than good if not needed iyswim... anyone been given a proper medical reason why you shouldn't take it?

Lee, Sam, Sarah, thanks for the welcome.

Alba - can totally understand that you are well and truly hacked off when you thought the tests were normal and haven't even been done......that's shocking behaviour by your GP.

Right - are you ready for my advice?

Low dose or 'baby' aspirin is safe to take in pregnancy, so whether you need it or not, it will not cause any harm.

The research as to whether it is beneficial for those who have had repeated miscarriage without a thromobophilia (clotting disorder) is inconclusive. Those who has a diagnosed thrombophilia such as APL would been seen by a haematologist and probably prescribed something more heavy duty like tinzaparin.

I know you have had the tests now Alba, and the results will not be long, but to reassure you in the meantime - those with a thrombophilia tend to bleed and miscarry as it is suspected that they clot too easily, and these clots affect the placental blood vessels, women like you and me who have MMC are less likely to have a thrombophilia as the pregnancy hasn't been miscarried - it is usually a developmental problem (ie chromosomal)which you body hasn't recognised.

Some proper medical advice? Take it for piece of mind (and DH too) if you want as it won't do any harm, but the chances are it won't be of benefit either. Sitting on the fence? Moi? Never!

Deep calming breaths, and a good day to all.
I'm resting before nightshift at the weekend .

Alba that is really terrible, you shouldn't have to go private to get a blood test done such as that. I'd make a complaint to the manager there. I don't know about the baby asprin but I'd be tempted to google. I hope the blood test today can help you relax and put your mind at rest a little.

I had some pain and spotting so I went in for a blood test and exmaination on Monday, the levels were 1500 so they said they could scan me, booked me in for yesterday. Also, I've had 6 miscarriages so they're happier to scan me in that respect.

Thank you Malteser, once again exactly what I needed to find out! Rest well before the nightshift, I'm still crossing my fingers for no more spotting for you and a lovely healthy heartbeat next week

Jodie, gosh, you must be strong, and you absolutely need those scans, I'm feeling a little humbled. I hope you've had every test going and you're being extremely well looked after. To be honest I don't resent paying for the bloodtest myself, I want it done, it's not standard till 3 m/cs, but I'm happy to pay for the reassurance as it's something that is so treatable. But what I am so upset about is having been told it had been done when it hadn't - I could have done it myself sooner and not be pregnant again and worrying.

Right back to work, new plan is to keep very busy over the next few weeks and distract myself did that work for anyone ??

Alba, at your GP!! It makes it sound like they weren't being honest, they led you to believe they'd done it and it was fine. I hope the private test gives you some peace of mind. I also wish they would at least offer an early scan rather than you having to go private. Feels like it's hit or miss on how much support you get.

Waiting waiting waiting for that scan. There should be a [waiting] emoticon.

Hello sparkly!! Welcome, glad to see you here.

Good news about your scan Jodie, that sounds really good, and glad you are getting another in 2 weeks, that will be really reassuring.

xxxxx

Alba no need to feel humbled at all, I don't see myself as in any worse position than anyone else. I was referred to a recurrent miscarriage specialist (after blood tests which came back fine) after the first 4 but was pregnant by the time the appointment came through and so he looked after me with early scans and help in early pregnancy. Funnily my first pregnancy was fine, then had 4 losses, another baby and then another loss. Had a third baby and just had another loss a few months ago. Hoping this one sticks

I'm trying distraction, plenty to keep me busy but being pregnant seems to be the only thing on my mind!

Thanks Goodluckbear I'm hoping everything goes well at it, 2 weeks seems like such a long time to wait when I know that, realistically, it's not long at all.

Hello everyone old and new, theres loads over here now, im loosing track!
JodieO, i've had a similar pattern of losses as you, my 1st was a mmc, then three problem free pregnancys, then two miscarriages, then another baby after a large gap, then another mmc, now another pregnancy. Never had any tests done though as i've never had three losses in a row. Good luck with everything, sticky vibes to all the newly pregnant ladies.
I keep getting headaches, everyday, really getting me down at the moment.

Jodie, when's the scan? - and good luck, most would have given up hope had they had your obstetric history.

Sparkly - big hello!

GLB - I find four nightshifts over the bank hol weekend really helps time fly by the time they are done it will nearly be scan time for me too! Fingers and toes crossed for you. Is it today?

Effilump - I suffer from migraines so you have my whole hearted sympathy, nothing worse than a bad head. Especially when all the good prescription stuff is off limits!

Alba - anytime.

My scan will be on the 12th May in the morning, hopefully will see a heartbeat then, assuming everything goes well until then. It's not easy at times but I'm trying to stay positive about things.

Good luck for your scan malterser

Alba so so sorry for all you have been through. Can't quite believe your GP would mislead you. Hope the private tests work out.

Hello to all the 'oldies'! Great to see that it is possible to get by these 12 weeks and be properly preggers!

I'm really struggling in the afternoons now. I just get so exhausted I'm not complaining I will do or put up with absolutely anything but it's really tough. Trying a lucozade now for some energy but not sure how safe it is for the little bean so now feeling guilty about having some. Oh dear.

This is definitely the longest week in a long long time.