Totally's Grads Part Deux - Let's handhold through pregnancy after MC

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So many threads by so many names but this thread is a place to come after TTC after MC..

Deposit your worries in the box by the door and grab a cuppa! :-)

Fab news Louise - What names are you contemplating (if I'm allowed to ask?)

Hi Gi1da, bout time you made your way here! There is a list somewhere (fetches telescope and has a squint) How are you feeling?

Hello everyone else! Still a bit too pleased here, will get over it soon and start worrying again...

Hi Gilda welcome and thanks X

Thanks UNBUFFY one of the names we BOTH love is Georgina !!!! If we can learn how to spell it!!!! Off to buy a names bookon payday on Wed to peruse the same.

unbuffy so pleased to hear you had some good news.

Louise - congratulations!! A little girl, how exciting!!

Hi Gilda, good to see you, congrats again!! I saw there are a couple more BFPs over on the other thread, really nice to see happy news, particularly on a grey Monday morning.

Unbuffy so so so glad to hear your great news. I was watching all day on Friday and then when we came in from dinner on Friday night I checked my phone and was just over the moon to hear your good news. Really pleased for you.

Gilda congrats to you also and welcome!

How is everyone else? Hope you are all well.

I'm grand, I had my MW appt last Monday and she said she would book me in for my 12 week scan. On Friday I come home to a letter saying my scan is Tuesday (tomorrow). I will only be 8 weeks 4/5 days. Now I was desperate for an early scan but my GP told me not possible so I never even asked the MW for one so I'm hoping maybe the hospital noticed I had a previous MC and gave me an early scan?? I'm petrified though now that they won't give me a 12 week scan. Presumably they will though?

I'm so so incredibly nervous now that we do have the scan tomorrow. I have barely slept all weekend. I just hope so so so much that everything will be okay. I know it sounds absolutely ridiculous but tomorrow afternoon just seems like ages away.

Do you think I'll still get a 12 week scan?

Also strangely the letter doesn't say to have a full bladder.. this is in a different hospital to where I've usually been (we moved house) but for all of my ovarian cyst ultrasounds I've always needed a really full bladder. Maybe they will do an internal scan due to me being only 8 + 4 (the fun of that!).

DH doesn't quite understand either that if everything is okay tomorrow that we will be able to see a little bean on the screen.. I don't think he quite gets that.

Nervous nervous nervous.

Hi Happy,

Try not to worry too much, although I have to say I didn't sleep much before last Friday either. I would say yes, it will probably be an internal (I got lucky as I have a small bladder that fills fast (tmi) and Bean was in the right place - ie high up!), although they might try an external first just in case (Is what happened on Friday ).

I think you should also get a 12 week scan as at this stage they can't date too accurately due to yolk sac (apparently) potentially bugg*ring up measurements, also they can't see any anomalies and if you get the combined test (nuchal fold & bloods) done in your area that can only be done between 11 and 13+6 weeks. Ask; if they don't know then kick up a fuss and make sure you get one - after all, you need to make sure all is well at the end of the first trimester - as we all know, things can still go wrong .

Oh, and don't expect your bean to look like more than a flickering blob; I could not find mine on the screen !

Fingers, toes and legs crossed for you.

All will be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things will be well.

Thanks Unbuffy hopefully. I can't believe it's only 3.45 honestly today has been the longest day ever.

That's the thing I wonder have they booked me in so early because I said I didn't want the Downs Syndrome test (purely because I'm a worrier and either way I would keep the baby - I know it's really good for some people to know though, that's just me) but I am getting some other test she recommended. Sugar I can't actually remember what it was called now. Basically she said a dating scan and something else but not the DS one. Oh gosh I'm useless I should have paid more attention at the appointment.

I will definitely definitely ask for a scan at 12 weeks. I literally will not cope without one cos we aren't telling anyone and had wanted to wait until hopefully things were okay at 12 weeks.

It's such a long long wait but hopefully will be worth it in the end. That's what I keep telling myself.

Hope you are all having a good day.

ps thanks for the info - i'll drink tons of water just in case (i have a tiny bladder too so hopefully will be okay!)

Hi all,

I don't know if anyone will recognise me but I was on the original thread with Totally all that time ago, this time last year I think. Any way, I am pregnant again with dc 3. I can only be a matter of days, rather than weeks. I feel sick, I am sooo tired and of course the sore boobs. And also I am desperate for jelly worms! But I am very nervous as last year I had two mc and have had 3 in total. So I will hover, if that's ok with you.

Hi *LUCKYWINNER" [grins]

Thanks GOODLUCKBEAR X

Hi to all.

Just think Happy this time tomorrow you'll have had your scan, everything will be fine and you can relax! Maybe take a notebook and write down any questions you want to ask today, or anything they tell you tomorrow in case you forget in all the excitement!

oooooo Luckywinner why did you have to mention jelly worms. I LOVE jelly worms. So much so that I have been known to eat the whole packet then feel sick.

Bufferoo hope you're not still feeling queasy. Oh so much to look forward to!!

Luckybear helloo! Lots of great news on the other side, Springtime frolicking!

I'm feeling that it's such early days its gonna take F O R E V E R for anything to happen for me! Just feeling really really tired. And I do get little crampinesses every now and then, which I'm kinda getting used to but it's not my favourite feeling. Anyone else have that early on?

Congrats Luckywinner!! That's great news

Gilda thanks - fingers crossed that's what it'll be like later.

Pretty much a nervous wreck. I've taken a half day cos I think either way I'm going to be an emotional lady afterwards. I can't quite believe that there is a chance that we will actually hear a heartbeat or see a flicker. It just seems surreal. It would be amazing. Fingers crossed. It's going to be a long long morning I think

Hi everyone, can I join?

I'm 5+3 with my 4th baby, I've had 6 previous miscarriages, the last of which was a few months ago. I was at the hospital yesterday getting checked over at the epau after having cramps and some spotting. My cervix was closed, all looked good and got blood test results last night and have a beta hcg level of 1500. That's ok isn't it? I'm booked in for a scan tomorrow as it was over 1000.

So nervous!

Hi luckywinner and JodieO, congrats on your BFPs.

Gilda, I'm getting cramps too, like period pains, I get them every so often. I think it's ok, my impression from all the googling I've been doing (and searching on MN!) is that anything goes, and cramps and bleeding can be quite normal. It's hard though as it is hard to remember that it is probably just because things are shifting around down there!!

JodieO - I don't know about the hcg levels, but sounds like it is looking good. I had a scan at 5+3 and they just saw a gestation sac and a yolk sac was starting to appear. Hope your scan tomorrow goes ok, it is pretty nerve wracking!! Will you get a follow up scan after that? I am getting one later this week when I'll be 7+3 to check it has developed ok....keeping fingers crossed for all of us!!

xxxx

Thanks Goodluckbear, nothing has been said yet about what will happen next, it will depend on what's seen tomorrow I think. So, hopefully will be good news! I hope your follow up scan goes well, fingers crossed for you too!

Cramps here too. One of the things that really worried me last week was the awful period-type squeezings that were going on. But all seems to be well! Am also thoroughly knackered, and toddler deciding to start walking after months of not bothering doesn't help...

Sickness a bit better since cutting out bread (bloatiness is bad) and discovering the Lucozade and Ryvita diet (about all I can stomach!!) BUT had pizza yesterday as got bored... yummy but oooh afterwards not so good.

Thinking of you HAPPY

Waves to newbies and old-bie too (iyswim)!

Quiet little hello... just having a read through to get up to speed with where you all are. Lots of familiar names here. Will sit quietly in the back for now whilst it sinks in. Hope to be sticking around for quite some time

Waves for Alba yay!! Am whispering as I know you are sitting quietly, very pleased to see you here.

Thanks for all your messages girls. Today I am feeling truly shite. I have peed on 5 sticks in total now since Sunday. Two have come up with faint positives. 3 came up with BFNs, and one was a morning wee one. So I am now pretty convinced that this is game over all over again.

I have no idea when I ovulated or when I am due on, my longest cycle has been 38 days which would take me to next Monday. Could it be I have just tested far too soon? Bloody hell I hate this being pregnant/not pregnant stuff. Also one last question. Is it possible to have pregnant symptoms and get a bfn? Waaah, what is going on?

Lucky I'd say it could be too early. My cycles are erratic and the longest has been 8 weeks.... I know it's hard but try to leave it a few days and then test again with fmu. Hoping things go well for you.

Alba hey, early days for me too, fingers crossed for us both.

Thanks Jodie, I feel so miserable. This one wasn't really planned, but it doesn't make it any better. I want to stick my head under my duvet and hide, but ds has his completely manic friend here and dd is tired and grumpy. Oh happy days. Keeping my fingers crossed for all of us.

Oh what a pain Lucky. Bloody tests. Sounds like it's just too early but once the thought's in your head it's so hard to forget about it for a few days. Hope the wait goes quick and you get a proper result, the right one!

My mum blames technology for all the stress. In my day, yes bless she really did say it, if you missed one period you thought eh up . If you miss two, start knitting!

Goodie and Buffy thanks for putting my mind at rest over the crampage. Sorry you have it too, but nice to know it's normal. What a bloody rollercoaster it all is!

Thinking of you Happy and hoping all's well x

Get yourself comfy Alba. Nice to see you, and congrats again.

Hello to Jodie and all other thread residents!

Well I had my scan yesterday and they saw a heartbeat which was amazing. I'm a bit down though as they pushed back my dates saying that I'm only 7 weeks 3 days when I was sure I am 8 weeks 4 days. She said it's completely normal especially because I'm coming straight off the back of a MC and that everything looked fine for this stage of pregnancy. But I know when I got the positive ovulation test and like I dunno I just don't understand how it could be a week late. I am just so worried that the little bean isn't developing properly. I went to bed super early last night as a result in case I'm not getting enough sleep for it. But don't get me wrong, I keep looking at the picture which is amazing (even though it's just a blob - is that normal? Unbuffy I think you said similar).. and to see the heartbeat flicker was great too. The MW was fab and all that was great but just the week backwards is tough. I feel like I'll never get to 9 weeks now let alone 12 weeks. Fingers crossed I will though. Has anyone ever heard of anyone going backwards in dates by a week? THey are giving me a 12 week scan to date it too which is good. So 5 weeks yesterday.

Hope you all have a good Wednesday! I've been so worried that i've been useless in work this week, I really need to get my act together.

Ladies I feel really bad saying that I'm a bit down after yesterday. I am and was so so happy also - I was in tears when the heart beat came up. I just can't find anything about weeks going backwards on google i'm obviously googling the wrong thing or oh I dunno.

The one funny / scary thing yesterday was she started the scan and there was this huge big empty sac and I burst into tears cos I knew I could see nothing there.. turns out it was my bladder! Clearly I don't know anything about my insides! Looking at the picture my bladder looks gigantic in comparison to my womb. She laughed and was like no that's your bladder which is crazy full.. apparently I didn't need to drink tons of water!

Happygirl that's really great that you saw a heartbeat! I believe that ovulation tests aren't always accurate especially if you have irregular cycles or something like pcos (which I have) as the levels can surge without you actually ovulating. I really wouldn't worry about the dates based on ov tests.

A blob is normal at that stage, I found a great website where you can look at scan photos at different weeks, it's sorted by week too www.amazingpregnancy-pictures.com/photopost/index.php/cat/2.