Just found out im pregnant at 15, what do I do?

[jazminemarie]

I just recently found out im pregnant and im 15, i genuinely don’t know what to do im really really scared about everything. I don’t know if I should even keep it. I don’t know if I should tell anyone and if I do how do I tell them? Especially my dad?? I’m really nervous and I feel so stupid and dumb for it even happening. The worst part is I don’t even know who the dad would be… please try not to be judgmental im genuinely really worried.

and yes im expecting to be judged and name called…

Oh bless you. Could you tell a teacher at school or another trusted adult. Please talk to someone and get support. Big hugs to you.

How far along are you, think about an adult you can talk to either at school or home and remember you probably have options about whether to proceed or not.
Please, for your own sake then reflect on how you got here and how you can avoid it happening again

Okay, deep breath OP! If you're worried about telling your dad, what about your mum, aunt, sister, cousin, someone you can trust? It is good to have RL support - in fact I'd say it's vital. If you decide to terminate then very few people need to know and tbh I wouldn't wish pregnancy/motherhood on any child. It's just so hard and it will change your life in so many ways. It's not impossible and there is support out there if it's what you decide to do, but you need support and helpful, kind, practical advice while you decide what to do 💐

I could but then id just feel more embarrassed that my teachers know im pregnant… they always judge me anyway

You need to tell an adult immediately really.
My advice would be to terminate the pregnancy because honestly it is bloody hard and you're too young.

I only my dad I don’t really have any female figures in my life tbh…

What family do you have?

My advice would be to consider termination too. 15 years old is far too young to be having a baby, and it’ll hugely impact your education and life.

Can you visit a family planning/sexual health centre or a school nurse? Take a trusted friend with you?

About 4 weeks along

Ok OP. Best thing to do is go see your GP. You are what is called “Gillick competent” so he won’t need to tell your parent yet. Although you will need their support. There are also women’s charities who can help you. I think you need to start minding yourself here and try not to spiral into panic. My sons are 15 and I can’t imagine how hard it must be for you dealing with this alone. Please don’t feel that everyone is judging you. It’s more important to prioritise your health and safety. Go see your GP for options. Mind yourself. Xx

How far along are you? That makes a big difference to what decisions you need to make.

If it's very early then just breath.

First decision is if you want to keep it. That means a life changing upheaval to your life, delaying your education and future plans but it can be done if it's what you really want.

First things first. Contact your GP for advice. Speak to the nursing team about your options. Check if you need to involve your parents or if you can get help as a minor. That's not to say you shouldn't tell them, it might make things easier for you if you can defer that decision until you have gotten over the shock.

I don't think any 15 year old should have a baby really so if you don't want to have one, you don't have to. If you don't want to talk to family or school then go to the GP asap to talk about your options. If you do want to keep it then you'll have to tell your family soon but if you don't, they don't need to know if you don't want them to.

Im a teacher and can assure you teachers want to help you. There is support please don’t feel embarrassed you are not the first girl in this situation.

when I was at school in my class a 14 year old got pregnant. It really isn’t unusual.

Do you have a female family member to talk to?

Can you speak to your GP, the faster the better?

Also your father might surprise you. Please don’t write him off. Xx

(I don’t think there will be a poster on here who feels other than compassion and worry for you.)

This might be helpful for you:

https://www.msichoices.org.uk/support/i-am-pregnant-what-are-my-options/

there are people out there that will help you. Going to your GP is also another good idea

Honestly I don’t really and I wish I had teachers like you

That’s very sweet thank you xx
buf i genuinely can’t see him being particularly pleased about it🤣

At four weeks a termination is just pills. It will get harder the later you leave it.

Having a baby at 15/16 will be very hard. Even if the father wants to be involved you won't be getting much support from them assuming similar age.

My dad and his parents

You still have 3 more years of school is there an adult who csn raise this child while you finish school ?

you need to tell someone do they can find out option if you keep it like education

the school needs to support you as your unsafe sex with two? boys - men ? Means they may be pedophilles if older than you

only you can make the decision but id abort snd have kids with a supportive partner later

I don’t know who the father is and I’ve heard the pills can be very hard mentally can’t it?

Okay, in that case please call your GP surgery first thing on Monday (or use the app for booking, if that's what they have - you can usually find a link on the surgery's web page). They will get you in for an appointment asap and you can get your pregnancy test verified and they will help you to access support. I promise they won't judge you - medics deal with this kind of thing all the time and it's their job to help, not judge.

You can also find info via the BPAS (British Pregnancy Advisory Service) www.bpas.org

And keep posting on here. There are women on here who had babies young and there are mums who have daughters who have had babies as teenagers too.

Why not? It’s an anonymous forum for mums…. Lol

Are you close to any of your friends mums? Could you talk to them?