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Just found out im pregnant at 15, what do I do?

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jazminemarie · 14/03/2026 11:35

I just recently found out im pregnant and im 15, i genuinely don’t know what to do im really really scared about everything. I don’t know if I should even keep it. I don’t know if I should tell anyone and if I do how do I tell them? Especially my dad?? I’m really nervous and I feel so stupid and dumb for it even happening. The worst part is I don’t even know who the dad would be… please try not to be judgmental im genuinely really worried.

and yes im expecting to be judged and name called…

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jazminemarie · 14/03/2026 11:52

I don’t know who the father is and I’ve heard the pills can be very hard mentally can’t it?

It's like having a heavy period. Not nice, but you can manage it at home.

Halfull · 14/03/2026 11:54

Ok if you don’t have any female figures in your life is there a friends mum you can talk to? Don’t beat yourself up. It’s happened before to lots of people, it’ll happen again to lots of people. It doesn’t make you a terrible person but you need support. Look around for your nearest sexual health clinic, they will have seen it all before and will be able to help you make some decisions. I understand that you’re scared, that’s natural, but 4 weeks isn’t that far along. Just take the first step.

Onmytod24 · 14/03/2026 11:54

You’re 15 I know you feel grown up, but you’re a child. You had sex like thousands of girls your age do. only you got pregnant.
Is a problem you wish you didn’t have and it can all go away go and see your GP and talk to them. All the best.

Cakeandcardio · 14/03/2026 11:54

I am a teacher and a 15 year old once told me that she was pregnant. She went onto have a termination. I never judged her - pregnancy happens. But I was glad she felt able to tell me and I could help her. Please reach out. You deserve to be supported. Xx

Bigearringsbigsmile · 14/03/2026 11:55

jazminemarie · 14/03/2026 11:51

That’s very sweet thank you xx
buf i genuinely can’t see him being particularly pleased about it🤣

He won't be pleased about it but that doesn't mean he won't be supportive. You know him best.
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Bigearringsbigsmile · 14/03/2026 11:56

So you've got a grandma? Can you talk to her?

jazminemarie · 14/03/2026 11:56

Thank you for everyone being so kind i genuinely didn’t expect any of this! Was really expecting to be slut shamed and judged so thank you xx

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TalulahJP · 14/03/2026 11:57

the pills are fine. lots of us have had to do that. it’s just like a heavy period.

make a gp appointment asap (phone from somewhere you cannot be overheard by your relatives etc as youll be telling the receptionist why you need an urgent appointment as this isn’t somethimg you want to delay)

at four weeks i dont personally feel it’s a baby, ive had spots last longer.

Echobelly · 14/03/2026 11:57

I think you need to try, hard as it is, to be awkwardness or embarrassment and fear of judgement at the back of your mind. That is the least important thing right now. As @Halfull says, this has happened to many, many people.

Is there maybe a school nurse/health assistant you could talk to as a first step? I'm sure she could signpost you in the right direction.

Kingdomofsleep · 14/03/2026 11:59

jazminemarie · 14/03/2026 11:52

I don’t know who the father is and I’ve heard the pills can be very hard mentally can’t it?

Any other option would be much, much harder mentally. Including following through with the pregnancy, but especially terminating at a later stage.

Try to contact your GP today and get an appointment.

Kingdomofsleep · 14/03/2026 11:59

If you don't know who the dad is... are you safe? Are there older men who have been sexually active with you?

Anewerforest · 14/03/2026 12:01

You must be really scared, but start with your GP and ask for some counselling about what to do next. Many girls have been in this position before you, and nobody you speak to in this context will judge or insult you.
Best of luck.

Vivienne1000 · 14/03/2026 12:02

If you have a good relationship with your Dad, please tell him this weekend. Then Dad and you can visit the GP on Monday. They will keep everything confidential and no one at school needs to know. You can have pills to end the pregnancy. If you want to continue the pregnancy, then again you need your Dad. The GP will support you and explain everything.
This is a something that happens, so deep breaths, but don’t bury your head.

jazminemarie · 14/03/2026 12:02

Kingdomofsleep · 14/03/2026 11:59

If you don't know who the dad is... are you safe? Are there older men who have been sexually active with you?

I’ve just been around with quite a few people

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Kingdomofsleep · 14/03/2026 12:04

jazminemarie · 14/03/2026 12:02

I’ve just been around with quite a few people

You don't have to answer this... but if you've been pressured at all, it's not OK and you can get help. You can tell a teacher for example and they would get help for you.

If I'm off the mark and you've just had multiple boyfriends that you've chosen to be with, then ignore this comment

But still get that appt with the gp

Kingdomofsleep · 14/03/2026 12:06

And don't worry about teachers judging you. I'm a secondary teacher and I wouldn't judge you although I'd feel concerned for you.

We don't gossip either, we'd only share the info with people who need to know to help keep you safe.

You might tell your head of year for example.

TheTattooedLady · 14/03/2026 12:07

Yes, the pills are absolutely fine. It wasn’t too painful for me and the bleeding was manageable too.

WearyAuldWumman · 14/03/2026 12:07

iamamickey · 14/03/2026 11:46

Ok OP. Best thing to do is go see your GP. You are what is called “Gillick competent” so he won’t need to tell your parent yet. Although you will need their support. There are also women’s charities who can help you. I think you need to start minding yourself here and try not to spiral into panic. My sons are 15 and I can’t imagine how hard it must be for you dealing with this alone. Please don’t feel that everyone is judging you. It’s more important to prioritise your health and safety. Go see your GP for options. Mind yourself. Xx

Assuming that the OP is genuine, this. Go and see your GP. You've knocked back every other suggestion that I've seen so far. Waiting and doing nothing isn't a option.

Make an appointment with a GP and discuss the situation there.

StationJack · 14/03/2026 12:07

jazminemarie · 14/03/2026 11:52

I don’t know who the father is and I’ve heard the pills can be very hard mentally can’t it?

Not as hard as having a baby who'll then be a toddler then a child then a teenager.

Ilovelurchers · 14/03/2026 12:07

I've been a teacher for decades and known quite a few girls this has happened to - and I haven't judged them in the slightest! It's not unusual to be sexually active at 15, and though personally I would advise to wait a bit longer in an ideal world, I certainly don't judge or blame young women who don't in any way!

I do potentially judged their partners, depending how old they are - so once you have sorted your current situation, it might be worth reflecting on how you feel about the sex you are having, do you feel pressured into it, is it something you want to keep doing? It's really common for young people hour age to be pressured into sex by older partners, and there is definitely support out there for you if you feel in any way that may be happening.

But right now, you need to decide what to do about the pregnancy. I would strongly recommend termination in your circumstances personally, as it does not sound like you would have much support in raining a child. (Though ultimately it's your body and your choice).

Can you phone your GP surgery Monday morning and make an appointment? Is it somewhere you can get to on foot or on a bus? If you show school evidence of your appointment, you should be able to sign out and not get into trouble for truanting.

And it would be much better, practically and mental health wise, if you had some support, whether that is from school, family, a friend's parent.....

But do think carefully before telling your dad if there is any history of violence etc. As your parent he would be the ideal person to speak to in many ways, but you know better than us what he is like and how he might react.....

Also, if you prefer not to say that you don't know who the father is, you don't have to! Just say you don't wish to speak about it .....

Mich1986 · 14/03/2026 12:08

you are very early in the pregnancy so you have some time to make a decision, the sooner the better. I would avoid telling friends and speak to an adult whether that be a teacher at your school or your dad. I went to a girls school and quite a few became pregnant, some continued with their pregnancies and some terminated.

Landlubber2019 · 14/03/2026 12:09

Schools often have a nurse drop in, does yours? I would urge you to make an appointment or see your GP, the sooner you have those discussions you can decide what is best.

It's also worth considering how this happened, would you normally use contraception and if not, please consider the contraception choices going forward.

This must be very worrying but these things happen and you did well posting on here. Good luck 🤞

CoffeeBeansGalore · 14/03/2026 12:09

I'm sorry you are in this position but the sooner you get your head around it the better. Do you have a friend's mum who could help support you?
Contact your GP asap. At the moment it's a cluster of cells, not a baby. At 15 and with little support I truly believe you should end the pregnancy.
Yes you will be emotional for a while. You will always remember this time. But make it a positive point. It's time to be sensible going forward. Sort out contraception and do not be taken advantage of. This is your life, your body, your choices.
Please take care of yourself.

MyOpalCat · 14/03/2026 12:10

Make a GP appointment - they should be able to get you support and talk you through your options - and you can go along along and talk it though with them. The early you can access medical help the more options you have. Local sexual health clinics may also be a way to access medical help and counseling services.

Idelaly there should also be some wider support for you from a parent or someone at school - but that depends on who you think may be supportive to you.

Merryoldgoat · 14/03/2026 12:10

I’m not sure why you WOULD have this baby:

You don’t know the father
You don’t have support
You are still in school

Having a baby now seems really unwise.