Due September 4.5 🐣♥️🧡💜

[Xur]

Hello ladies,
as per suggestion in respect to the owner of the previous thread I’ve created a new (continued) thread for us.

How long did you give it for the NIPT test results before you chased/when should you expect them? Oh and congrats on the girl 🩷👑🩷👑 think I'll be adding a girl by the end of the month. .....

@TripleESept24 thank you 🫶🏻! I had my blood tests last Monday midday, she said it usually take ten days but as I'd just hit the NIPT run right I'd know by the end of the week. I decided to ring late this afternoon to chase and she said she'd definitely sent them Thursday (yesterday) dinner time, they arrived in my inbox while I was talking to her.

Aww, I'm so glad you get to tell them your amazing news tomorrow! So exciting! 🥰 And it's also a definitive relief going into your 12 week scan on Tuesday knowing the results from your NIPT. So you can properly enjoy your weekend without worrying about it.

Ahhh, congratulations!! 🥹 on both parts of the results 💕

Can I ask when your NIPT bloods were taken? I’m nowhere near the “it’s been long enough so I should chase up stage” but also, I’m very impatient 🤣

@MudandMoet oop, just seen your reply to @TripleESept24! so don’t worry about answering again 🩷

Yay!! It’s about time some girls started showing up around here 🫶🏼💕✨

Amazing news @VT6 how did you spend the day/evening? Did you get up to anything nice?

Hey lovely, I’m so sorry to hear you’re feeling anxiety about this. I agree that sometimes thoughts can run away with us, however it shouldn’t take over your life/headspace. Understandably you’re worrying because your brain is trying to “prepare” you for the worst, but really all it does is steal your present joy. Try switching up the thoughts and instead of thinking “what if my baby isn’t doing well in there” think “what is my baby IS doing well in there? What if they’re thriving and what if it all goes ok?” Perhaps vow to yourself to only worry unless you’ve been given a reason to. If that doesn’t help, I’d definitely recommend speaking to someone in person. Getting it all out verbally can be a nice release. And if you’re still struggling then, speak to your midwife. Maybe they can help you with fact/statistics or even medication if you felt comfortable.

Don’t feel bad for thinking the worst, it’s your brain trying to help you, but it’s doing the opposite so you need to try find some coping mechanisms to challenge those thoughts. After all, unless you have proof of reason to believe your current baby isn’t thriving then I don’t think you should indulge those thoughts for too long 🧡

Feel free to private message me at any tome, I’m really happy to sit and listen. Don’t go through anything alone!

Wohoo, welcome little girl 👧🏼 🩷 Congratulations on the lovely news!

@SantasRubiksCube I know exactly what you mean and I could have written that myself.

I have my 12 week scan next week and feel like I'm preparing for the worst even though I have no reason to. I feel like I can't enjoy my pregnancy and I definitely can't let myself start thinking about babies. People who know I'm pregnant speak with such confidence about me having a baby... Like they have no doubt in their mind that everything is going to be fine. Why can't I be like that. Ugh.

I’m in the same boat! Scan next week and now I just feel like somethings gonna burst my bubble!

all the way through I’ve been a bit anxious but had a private scan at 8 weeks and since then I’ve been so excited like so positive and just imagining life but now the scans getting closer I’m just thinking the worst all the time and don’t want to talk about it! Then I feel bad like I’m putting these thoughts out into the universe and I should be positive but it’s hard 🤷🏼‍♀️

I can completely sympathise with how you're feeling. Having gone through a previous loss put a real fear in me for subsequent pregnancies. I was fortunate to have a rainbow baby and now expecting my 2nd, but the fear is always there. Although I think I'm managing it a bit better this time and just tell myself what's meant to be will be. I've read a book called Pregnancy After Loss by Zoe Clarke-Coates and would definitely recommend it. Don't feel bad about how you're feeling. Everything you're feeling is valid. 💕

@HRP1990 well I was meant to work which didn’t happen! We then went to see my OH’s dad and partner and told them which was very special 💕
we then went to our local pub and told our shared two closest friends so an afternoon/evening of baby talk 🥹
I’m now sat on my bed with papa johns pizza watching MAFS Aus 😂

Haha love that bit of realness - MAFS Aus is the best!! I’ve just binged Love is Blind just waiting on the final episode next week!

I bet it feels so nice to share the news and talk to others about the pregnancy, not just your OH🥰. We’re telling our mums Sunday which I’m very excited for 🙌🏻

Lovely scan @VT6 pleased you've had a lovely day and some lovely baby talk.

I'm so excited but also really weirdly nervous about telling family this weekend.

How many days since your NIPT @Honeyandsunshine1 ?

…only 2 @MudandMoet 🤣

@Honeyandsunshine1 😂🤭😂🤭

@MudandMoet Ha! You know what this means now right! Means when your husband will annoy you can tell him you’ve made sure you’ve given an attitude to his daughter 😂
congratulations🎀 do you think you’ll be embracing the all pink vibe?
cos I think I won’t, regardless of the gender. I think I’ll be going for all dinosaur or space vibe 😂 nerding out with my own little obsessions 😂

@SantasRubiksCube

You couldn't have said it better. This is exactly my thought process! I feel bad keep shutting people down when they get excited because I'm trying to be realistic that something could go wrong. I don't want to say I'm having a baby until I get through 12 week scan and have disabilities ruled out. Everyone says stay positive and don't think like that.
I'm 40, first pregnancy, didn't happen for over 2 years. I don't know what's normal or not.
I felt awful for first 10 weeks; nausea, cramps, tired and emotional. Then get to 11 weeks and all my symptoms have gone (apart from sore boobs.) so my instant thought is that something bad has happened.
Partly I think it's a way of protecting ourselves from what may happen. It's so hard not to think this way.
I'm a mental health nurse 😅 so work with people with anxiety and intrusive thoughts day in day out. Always give the advice to think of the positives, don't let anxiety take over, Hard to practice it yourself though!
My scan is on the 15th. After that, if it goes well I will self refer for talking therapy. You'll be fast tracked as pregnant

@SantasRubiksCube I know the feeling all too well, after 2 miscarriages myself. Try and stay positive i know its easier said than done. I only had my scan a couple of days ago and thoughts are already creeping back, before my scan i felt so sick with anxiety and cried when they said theres your baby with a heartbeat. We told our kids the news who were both excited but couldn't stop myself from saying that like people babys can still get poorly inside and something could happen (my kids are 8 and nearly 12) i felt bad afterwards saying it, its like i don't want anyone to get too excited yet. It does help to talk about it, I talk to my Husband about it a lot. Hoping it gets better once i can feel movements

@SantasRubiksCube

I’m turning 14 weeks tomorrow and even though I’ve not had any miscarriages before and this is my first pregnancy I am the same. Personally for me, I don’t think this overthinkers stress is going to be over before the baby is out and well. I’ve just sort of made peace with it. I can’t help myself thinking about it at the back of my head. My partner doesn’t take my worries seriously either. So I have just stopped speaking about it and continue about my days internalising it. I don’t think there’s any peace of mind out there for someone like me.

@SantasRubiksCube Thank you so much for saying out loud what it turns out loads of us have been thinking on our own.

Since the start of always kept saying, “of course it’s still early days” whenever I talk about it with anyone, but over the last few days the full on anxiety of “what if I get to the scan and my baby isn’t ok?” has really taken over. I woke my husband up in the middle of the night last night in floods of tears over it. I have been incredibly stressed generally over the last few days, now signed off work with stress (and vomiting) because when I went to the GP about my sickness my blood pressure cleared 240. Now that anxiety is creating more anxiety - I am worried about the baby, so my blood pressure has increased, so I’m scared that’ll harm the baby, so I worry about the baby more, and my blood pressure goes up again. It’s a vicious cycle and for the first time this morning I sat down with my husband and made a wellbeing plan to help me to try to relax. I’m going to get back to the gym (just swimming), get out of the house every day even if it’s just a walk to shops and back, when I lie down for a nap I’ll put spa music on, I’m going to set myself a little project to pull the winter weeds up from the garden now we’re getting to Spring.

I know none of us want to voice the darkest fears we have - I didn’t even want to say the ultimate “what if” out loud to my husband in case I jinxed it - but in a way it is comforting to know that we all have some level of feeling the same.

I really value this community - I don’t know how mothers in previous generations coped on their own!

Just realised in my excitement yesterday I never said congrats to @luckyfaith and @Decaffe on the NIPT results and little boys 🫶🏻 🩵

@Xur good point... I think my family will auto buy all pink but I think like you, I'll go my own way with it. I have a 6 yo niece who is so obsessed with dinosaurs and has been since she was about 3! Jojo maman bebe always comes good for her birthdays and Christmas!

Thank you all for your replies, I honestly didn't realise how common it was to feel this way and although it's bloody horrible, it helps to know I'm not the only one. I try to balance it out with positive thoughts (yes so and so might happen but there's every chance it won't etc). I think like everyone says, these thoughts and worries won't go away til I have a healthy baby in my arms. Sending hugs and positivity to everyone out there xxx

@MudandMoet Welcome to the girl club 🎀💕🎀 !! Lovely news on this and your NIPT! X