He's not happy with the gender.

[TeaBookcats]

This is my first baby, his second baby.

He has a daughter already, today we found out we are having a baby girl. I understand he's disappointed but he won't even sit in the same room as me. He said he hasn't got the motivation for another girl. I said that it was upsetting, what he said, he responded by saying I only think about myself, I'm selfish.

We had our private scan today, where we found out and he was miserable after, before we even knew. I was excited and he was just so down. We did a cannon reveal so his 7 year old daughter could find out with us.

What can I do about this? I’m feeling so lonely and disappointed, I understand he’s upset but this is my first baby, I want it to be special. Do I just let him get on with it?

[Lockdownbear]

Op have you tried calling your landlord?

[ilikemethewayiam]

@mathanxiety

It's given you the final insight into what an absolute meathead piece of shit he is, and you can get away. Meanwhile, in another parallel Sliding-Doors dimension, there's a desperately unhappy version of you with a desperately unhappy little boy who's scared of his father bellowing at him to BE A MAAAAAAN and throwing tantrums at any suggestion that he won't be a MMA fighter.

THIS ^^

There are lots of sad cases in the region where I live of horrible 'men' attempting to 'man up' their little sons, resulting in terrible injuries, brain damage, and death.

Triggers for these 'men' included babies crying for milk, babies wanting to be held by their mothers, babies wanting to play with stuffed animals.

BEG your landlord to let you stay.
DO NOT move in with this toxic man.
END the relationship.

If necessary, stay with your sister for a while. Pay her rent if it comes to that.

Jeez @Mathanxiety, where you live the men sound horrific! Those poor little boys 😢. We need to rid this world of toxic masculinity.