Morning everyone! It's much cooler up here where we are today so I hope everyone is feeling better. I had a mini emotional meltdown this morning...I'm moving in a couple of weeks, I got all organised with ordering the broadband well in advance and then I spoke to them yesterday and they were like ohh..we've cancelled the order by mistake, so it might not be through in time, but we'll try and sort it! Got my texts through this morning saying it won't be in time. And they're closed today so I just broke down and had a cry. Like ffs it's just broadband but now I have to deal with ringing them up and complaining until they sort it ughhhh irritating.
Last night I was sure that I could feel the baby kicking from the outside, I put my husband's hand on my bump and he was sure he felt something but then we are both just like...surely not?? I have an anterior placenta and I just feel a bit like it's just gas or something haha but who knows! It was quite low down, maybe it avoided the placenta?? I'm 21 weeks now.
So glad all was well @catnip99!
@Bluebell2020 Lack of sleep definitely is a big worry for me. Nothing else really worries me other than that. I am so awful without sleep. We watched the free online Baby Academy thing and I read an article about SIDS after watching it and it freaks me out so much the idea I could fall asleep on the sofa or in a chair with the baby. Basically it made me decide if the baby is not on me in a harness while I'm standing up or feeding, it's on a sleep safe surface, like its crib either in our room or the lounge. So that'll mean no Sleepyhead, no bouncer, no nothing until/unless I get used to the lack of sleep. I just don't trust that I won't fall asleep when they're in something that I need to be supervising them in. That doesn't help the whole idea I might fall asleep while I'm feeding them though?? Is this something that's likely? How do you avoid this?
@confused107 I don't think that's naive at all, it's so unpredictable and I think definitely disappointment and even shame about not getting the exact planned birth is a real thing. I kind of think of my 'birth plan' as more like a guide to sort of how I'll make decisions at each stage...so although yes my best case scenario is I would like a birth pool in the midwife led unit, if that doesn't work for whatever reason, that's fair enough. I just want to feel like I have information so I don't feel totally out of control. It's more important for me I suppose to feel like I know the different things that could happen, and the pros and cons to different interventions, so I don't go in with no idea wtf is happening! So it doesn't matter what it is that does happen, it's more like how it happens maybe? And my husband is my advocate in that regard if I'm out of it, which he's fine with.
@PipTed I definitely want to do the Positive Birth Company hynobirth course, like @peachypetite yes I've heard a lot of people recommend it! I'm just so busy atm I don't have time yet, but I'm thinking I'll get a couple of books about it to prep and then October I'll start it properly. Next on my reading list is this one amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1780664303/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?smid=A3P5ROKL5A1OLE&psc=1]]