👣 Due Nov/Dec 👣 the second trimester continues

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New thread!

Seems a lot of us had bad nights. @nearlyamummyof2boys I love the sleigh style too! I had a nice shower and feeling fresher now, thanks ladies. This thread is a godsend because we are all at the same stage of pregnancy and it’s more reassuring when others have experienced the same weird things.

Wondering if anyone can give any advice, I'm 20 weeks today with first baby, got my 20 week scan Monday however I've only felt baby a couple of times thismorning which is significantly less than usual, I've also only been feeling the movements for just over 2 weeks now so am I overthinking things or should I call up? Do I phone triage or the labour ward? I don't have a midwife so can only phone the community midwives hub which takes an arm and a leg to get through to so any reassurance or advice would be great, was going to call the hospital soon regardless just wondered if anyone could give any advice

@catnip99 movement is still really variable at this time. There's not a huge amount anybody can do even at 20 weeks other than scan you for peace of mind. Personally I'd just hang on until
Monday which is probably what they will tell you if you call.

@catnip99 try eating a bit of chocolate and having a lie down

@catnip99 I am 20 weeks today with baby number 2 and still only feeling the odd flutter and it's not regular. As I understand it there is still a bit of room in there so you won't necessarily feel every movement just yet.

@catnip99 Whilst that is quite normal at the stage, I would call for peace of mind but be prepared that they may ask you to come in to check the heartbeat.
I went in at 18 weeks and again at 23 to get it checked and had to call maternity triage, some areas have an MAU so maybe call them? If you go through to the maternity ward, I'm sure they will direct you to the right people.

I'm 22 weeks with fourth child and mine arent consistant yet I've had a good few days where can feel flutters then yesterday and today not so much I'm not worried as still have movement and like a few have said where baby is still small and have room prob wont feel all time and I do believe it's from 24 weeks is wen u start counting but if ever in doubt worried etc always best to ring x

I haven’t been focusing on any pattern yet either, I’m almost 24 weeks and hadn’t felt anything by the time I had my 20 week scan due to anterior placenta. If you are feeling really anxious call them though.

@catnip99 My baby is very active but he had a day last week where he didn't move at all! I drank a cold full fat coke, had a lie down & within 10 mins he was kicking & rolling around again

Hi all just an update, I suffer with anxiety so couldn't really shake the thought of something being wrong, I phoned up and the midwife told me I was doing the absolute right thing

I only live a 5 minute drive from the hospital so wasnt an issue to go have a quick check.
When I got there I was seen immediately, turns out my baby is just being a typical boy and has his back to my stomach so she really struggled to find his heartbeat but it's definitely there he is just being awkward

Thank you for all of the reassurance tho everyone 💜

@catnip99 you absolutely did the right thing! For the sake of a couple of hours putting your mind at ease! The last thing the baby needs is you to be stressed - and the last thing you need as well!
So glad it's all ok! 💙

How's everyone managed the heat I think today's been the worse had a terrible stomach as well not sure if heat related?

@catnip99 I know those feelings of anxiety and not being able to shake it so you definitely did the right thing, better safe than sorry as the midwives said to me. Glad to hear everything is good with the baby

I felt silly for worrying but was made to feel like the least silly person in the world once I had got there and it's also nice to know that I am not alone in any of this !! Thank you ladies 💜

Glad ur reassured I'm an anxious person to I worry bout everything from a little niggle to a itch lmao but I think where I've had a few kids u sort of get to know what's right and what's not quite right I'd be living up the hospital if I didn't get my anxiety under control lol

@catnip99 glad everything is ok with the baby and you can put your mind at ease.

@nearlyamummyof2boys the heat is awful, I've got fans strategically positioned around the place! When DS1 was born it was this hot (July baby). I don't know how I coped being 40+ weeks in these temps. 🥵

Glad all ok. I think most people go in for monitoring at some point in their pregnancy.

Anybody else on here who already has dc starting to panic a bit about how they'll cope? My first was very high needs, colicky, refluxy and seemed to always have some bug or infection up until she was about 2 really. I found it really hard, had bad pnd and was convinced I didn't want more for a good few years and only changed my mind recently. I came across a post I'd written on my old birth board the other day and it reminded me how dark those days were. Obviously I'm happy to be pregnant but I am panicking.

@loobeelou I can remember how hot it was in the hospital when I gave birth (late August!) so glad it's going to be cooler this time around.

@chubbyhotchoc I am definitely thinking about it. My DS1 was so chilled and the easiest baby ever so I'm worried we will be in for a shock with this one plus he will only be 14 months. Plus this one moves none stop now so reckon he will be a handful lol. Also especially in lockdown it's generally always just me, my OH and my DS so I am worried about how he will react to another baby as it's just me and him a lot of the time. I hoping he might just be a bit too young to be jealous?

@catnip99 glad everything is ok with baby! Not sure it helps but I'm 24 weeks with first baby. Not over weight or anything and still have days where I feel absolutely nothing at all. Even if I lie on my back and do everything they say to do like drink a fizzy drink! Only occasionally do I get really strong kicks that can be felt on the outside. I think some little ones are just a bit more chilled. Another of my family members is also pregnant and at this stage in her pregnancy her little one was moving all the time! Actually quite frustrating some days!!!

Also anyone else worry about the lack of sleep? Our of everything it is my biggest worry 🙈 I'm so so grumpy and can't cope with less than 8 hours so really worrying I'm not going to cope at all... Ahhh!!!

I'm really worried about that @Bluebell2020. That and the birth are three two main things I worry about, and how I will recover from the birth with lack of sleep. I love my sleep and I'm awful when i don't sleep enough, I find it hard to function and just become an all round cranky arse when I'm tired. I don't know how I'll cope.

You've just got to hope you get a sleeper but if you don't you do eventually get used to less. I can manage perfectly ok on 5/6 hours these days . I also found accepting it rather than worrying about it made it easier mentally. Plus you all have your partners I think? I decided to go it alone with my first so that made it harder.

Yes! My biggest concern is not being able to physically cope with the birth! I really want a homebirth and I’m worried that I just won’t be able to do it naturally. I do keep psyching myself up that all my friends, etc have been able to and that what will be, will be, but get a little self doubt every now and then.

I want to try hypnobirth - is it too early to start now?

@Bluebell2020 thanks for that. I'm 23 weeks and feel the same. Friday night she was so active, yesterday hardly anything. Only a couple of flutters this morning too. It's worrying sometimes but I think as long as I feel something at this stage it's ok 🤷‍♀️

I've not really thought about the birth. I've never had much interest in 'birthing story's' and never watched anything like one born every minute. I figure the basics will be covered in my antenatal class. I don't really want to make plans as I don't want to feel disappointed not to have the birth I wanted if you know what I mean? All I care about is her arriving safely. Hopefully I'm not being too naive about it

@confused107 are you booked onto an antenatal course? OH and I are currently doing one, and it’s just got to the part about labour but the info is quite generic as everyone has a different preference. I mean with covid I suppose we can’t really make many plans as everything is changing all the time.

@confused107 I think you've got the right attitude. Mothers who go in with lots of set ideas about birthing pools and drug free births can end up being really disappointed and depressed afterwards. You have to have a go with the flow attitude really as anything can happen. I wanted a epidural with my first so everything was nice and calm but I ended up with a precipitous labour and no drugs whatsoever which was a shock to me. This time my only hope is to make it to the hospital and to have a baby in my arms at the end of it.

Yes we are booked onto a little stork one. Cancelled the NCT as it was long Sunday's on zoom! How are you getting on with yours @PipTed