So many messages since I last read... Hope I haven't missed anybody xx
@MOGMOGMOG85 Ah, the pub sounds awful, are they still going every night? Two weeks is shocking. I had this about 15 years ago where I lived, massive speakers moved to the beer garden, after the second night I called the council and they dealt with it that day. So annoying they’re making you wait. (Also, after my last birth, I think shabby vagina pains is probably appropriate!!) And l love reading the tree planting tips!
@avocuddles @Knotemma Hope the heartburn has settled down the last few days.
@Rachael321 – my eyes are the same! So overdue a test, feeling really blurry eyed at the moment, made worse because I’m quite tired all the time. Really annoying timing.
@valeriesparx Gentle congratulations to you, I was going to write the first few weeks are so hard, but I’m still very anxious at 28 weeks, so I think the whole of pregnancy after loss is just hard and different. Sending hugs. Try and find the ways that help you with the anxiety. Everyone is different but I wish I’d tried to figure out my coping mechanisms earlier rather than waiting for my anxiety to go away.
@marmitecheesetoast No advice but sending a massive hug as it is just so hard when you’ve had a baby that didn’t come home. I hope the bereavement midwife and counselling can help you along this journey. Cannot believe the insensitivity of your friend. I’d definitely be choosing who I spent time with to protect myself. Definitely not a fraud being on mat leave. The government is not generous at all with these things, so if they feel it’s important then it definitely is. You need time to recover mentally and physically. Never feel like you shouldn’t be taking that time.
@anxietylady1 Congratulations on getting to 24 weeks. I was exactly the same, I really thought my anxiety would have subsided by now! Movements (once they settle down) I find really comforting though.
@Hagster – my trust is still not allowing partners. To be honest, my DH would be home with our son anyway so don’t think it really affects me that much. I think the rules for all hospital patients needs to be looked at. I know too many people having to be in having palliative care, or very scary treatments, or get difficult news on their own. If everyone is wearing masks I think those who need it should be allowed someone with them across all departments.
@anon20something Massive hugs to you, every day is hard but these milestones are just so tough. Glad your friends are being sensitive. My loss was early but I have two friends who gave birth when I was supposed to and I have to work so hard to block the ‘what would my baby be like now’ thoughts. Hope you’re being very gentle and kind to yourself.
@shefliesonherownwings Also big hugs to you. You’ve been through so much already, then having to go through everything again and again and deal with the autopsy report is just so awful. So pleased you’re little wriggly boy is doing well.
@Turquoisebaby – keeping everything crossed for your scan today. Definitely don’t feel guilt about getting rid of ‘friends’ who are all about themselves. Your mental health (and who you spend your time with) is more important than that.