Pregnant after loss and dreaming of rainbows - 2

[Avocuddles]

Just setting up a new thread to keep the 🌈 conversation going....

@Mimba1 @whiffle77 @AliSxo thanks for the kind words - I was lucky it happened first time (twice!) considering I have 5 periods a year. 3rd time lucky I guess for me. I have a small ray of hope it will be okay but also trying to come to terms with it not so I can move on. Coronavirus has also impacted my care as the dr said usually they would do bloodwork every couple of days and another scan. But it is safer just to do the one scan next friday instead.

Has anyone here got low progesterone or thyroid issues?? I think one of these what my problem is but my GP wont look into it. I started taking lots of supplements last month after researching and thats when I got my shortest cycle (would have been without pregnancy)!

@Mimba1 @MOGMOGMOG85 I was 34 when we started trying and baby is due a matter of weeks before my 37th birthday. It's been a long few weeks but as long as we get a healthy baby at the end of it I'll consider it well worth the wait! You're definitely not old and you're definitely not broken but I can completely see how distressing it must have been hearing about that girls abortion - I think I would have been in pieces so not surprised it's something that has stayed with you. Let us know what mocktail you make!

@fmturn so sorry to hear about your situation, I hope it isn't what you fear. I wondered about low progesterone too but was told without a known issue I wouldn't be considered for treatment until we'd had three losses. My cycles were always very long and irregular and I was about to start ovulation induction when I fell naturally pregnant again. If your cycles are irregular or usually longer than 35 days then it's worth speaking to your doctor about this as there may be additional support / tests available?

Fed up today, I'm having mild cramps, had really sore back and keep feeling like I've come on my period, I think I need a bath and early night xx

I feel less sick too, the only thing keeping fake going is my sore boobs x

@fmturn sorry to hear you've had such a shitty day, fingers crossed your dates are wrong and the scan next week is promising. My thoughts will be with you x

@AliSxo from what you said you're still quite early? I know in both of my pregnancies it has felt like PMS for the first couple of weeks. Before 4 weeks I'm not even sure I felt any different at all. Hopefully somebody who's had a successful pregnancy can reassure you as well but I think this is normal. When I went to the midwife last time I said I'd been feeling sick since I found out and she said that was really unusual - apparently nausea doesn't usually start until at least the 6th week so try not to read too much into it fading so early. There's so many things it could be.

@Avocuddles thanks. You always have something lovely and positive to say. I'll try to take it to heart!

@fmturn sounds like you've been on a journey. I only ovulate half the time as well (I have had "cycles" of 11 days and 64 days) and normal-seeming 30 day cycles with no progesterone on blood tests. It's so frustrating when you know something is wrong and the system still says you have to wait and wait until they'll investigate. I hope everything turns out OK for you.

Thanks @Mimba1 I have a few times been feeling like a trickle of discharge and when I go to check there's no blood or anything so I'm just worried and I've got to calm down. My test tonight was much darker than lunch times test so I think that's a really good sign :) xx

@alisxo Hello! know you know this but symptoms are just so variable. With my son (successful pregnancy) I had barely any symptoms at all. With my pregnancy that miscarried at 10 weeks I had all the symptoms and felt awful. This time round (currently 13 weeks) I absolutely knew I was pregnant before testing at 3w 5days. But I had no other symptoms until 5/6, then fatigue & some nausea but very on and off. I’ve never had sore boobs. It’s very hit and miss. I know it’s really hard to not obsess over symptoms but it mostly doesn’t mean much.

Thank you @tmc14 I feel a lot calmer today so that's good, i got myself into a pickle yesterday so I'm going to try and just relax xx thank you for your reply xx

Good morning all, for some reason I didn't get any notifications so missed all these new posts. Just caught up, welcome to the new joiners. Lots of lovely 12 week scans too, hoping we all get there safely.

I'm 9 weeks now, still paranoid and anxious but have a scan tomorrow so fingers crossed all is ok.

However I just jumped on the scales and I nearly fell over. I've gained 5 pounds already. I'm a bit concerned because although I'd managed to lose the baby weight since we lost Isla in November i was already about 2 stone overweight when I fell pregnant with her. Nausea and this lockdown is making my appetite go into overdrive.

The main reason I'm concerned though is that when Isla was born at 41 weeks she was small for her gestation meaning she struggled more with labour. Her size wasn't picked up on before she was born and I am worried it's because when they tape measured my stomach it seemed the correct size because i was overweight already. I know I'll have more scans this time to keep an eye on babys weight but I'm nervous I am putting on too much weight already. I'm only short so BMI is high.

Sorry for rambling, I know I need to cut down on the crap but it's all I seem to want right now :(

@shefliesonherownwings we all absolutely understand that paranoia, it's so hard to not compare so closely to our previous experiences. It's obviously important to look after yourself physically but psychological is just as important so personally I think it's about finding a balance that isn't too extreme either way, restricting or permitting, and looks after your head too. But mainly I'm just sorry you're having so much worry at the moment, it's so hard. Please try to be kind to yourself if you can.

Glad you're feeling better today @AliSxo, the rollercoaster of symptoms!!

Hope you're ok @fmturn, sorry you're going through this right now. Fingers crossed for you.

@avocuddles how are you doing? You're always so supportive of the rest of us, how are you currently post-corona?

Updating weeks as I was 5 weeks out of date 😂
@MOGMOGMOG854 wks (due 13/12/20)
@Doughnut10010wks (due 05/11/20
@teaandtantrums9010 wks (due 07/11/20)
@DressingGown8710wks (23/10/20)
@seaduck12wks (due 17/10/20)
@Hagster13wks (due 12/10/20)⁣
@tmc1413wks (due 11/10/20)
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@Littlegoth13wks (due 30/09/20)
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@SunStruck15wks (due 28/09/20)⁣
@Sunflower160814wks with twins (due 28/09/20)
@avocuddles15wks (due 27/09/20)
@didslysquiddlydoo15wks (due 26/09/20)
@TunnocksTcake15wks (due 26/09/20)
@LilMrsS14wks (due 24/09/20)
@Knotemma16wks⁣ (due 23/09/20)
@SammiLou231217wks⁣ (due 17/09/20)
@Hoping202016wks (due 13/09/20)
@UrsulaSings17wks (due 07/09/20)
@Pugmum1918wks (due 31/08/20)
@Rachael32121wks (due 20/08/20)
@Bellsx21wks (due 20/08/20)

@Shefliesonherownwings it's only natural to worry but if you're having additional growth scans it means that they'll be paying close attention from 28 weeks onwards so if she's smaller than average then it will definitely be picked up. I'm also short and was overweight to start with (bmi around 28) and know that the circumference of my stomach now is probably already bigger than my skinny sister in law who is 7 months! Don't worry yourself too much about the weight unless it continues at such a rapid pace, everyone progresses differently and there are a lot of non pregnant people out there also piling it on at the moment now that most of us are leading less active lifestyles than usual. My daily routine seems to now centre on snack breaks, cake time, crisps.....

@AliSxo that looks like encouraging line progression, glad you're feeling a little calmer today. It's a long journey ahead but we're all here for you.

@Mimba1 your cycles sound similar to mine - I don't ovulate regularly so was due to get fertility support. On the months I do ovulate I've probably got a decent record of conception given that although it took a year to get my first BFP I then conceived 3 times in 9 months!

@Hagster I'm good thanks, still a little run down and coughing intermittently but not too bad otherwise. Ventured into a shop (Tesco express at the end of my road) this morning for the first time in over three weeks, it was weirdly satisfying to see other human beings and the availability was a lot better than I expected - also got myself a nice bunch of flowers and some Easter eggs whilst I was there so I'm sorted for the weekend!

Hi everyone, been reading through the thread over last few days and finding it so helpful seeing I’m not alone in my worries! I am 7+3 (had viability scan at fertility centre at exactly 7 weeks, saw the heartbeat and everything was fine - reassured me for about 10 mins ha ha). My first pregnancy was a mmc at 12weeks, then I had my son (12 years old now!), then years of infertility. Got pregnant couple of years ago but had mmc at 9weeks, and now I’m finally pregnant again with the help of clomid.
So that’s my story. I want this baby so so much, but just can’t believe I’ll have a happy outcome. I remember with my son I never relaxed until he was in my arms, just no faith in my body whatsoever! Was then a totally chilled and non-anxious mum, it’s just pregnancy I find so hard. I think it’s because I know even when you do everything you possibly can it doesn’t guarantee that things will be okay.
So sorry to read of other people’s losses, some of you have had a really hard time. Lovely to see the positive posts of pregnancies progressing.
I’m currently off work (nhs frontline, and am waiting for a non clinical role to be found for me due to pregnancy plus underlying health condition), so I have lots of time to worry and will probably be on the thread a lot!

@MysteriousSheep welcome and gentle congratulations, it sounds like you've had a long rough road to get here. Fingers crossed they can get you sorted in a non-clinical role soon, I'm sure having to worry about work is the very last thing you need.

I had a fun conversation with my parents the other day. Turns out they were on holiday in Scotland when the Chernobyl disaster happened, and we're in the worst place in the UK in relation to the nuclear plume when mum was pregnant with me... They had no idea because obviously there wasn't the same kind of media availability and dad has never been one to read the newspaper. So this will be the second generation baby who gestated during a global emergency 🤦 that my friends just feels typical of my life

Just want to thank everyone for their kind words the last couple of days. Unfortunately this morning I passed what was most definitely not a clot. I have been told to keep my scan on Friday to confirm it has all passed 😪. I will keep my head high and there's always third time lucky! Hope you all have beautiful bouncing babies soon xx

@fmturn I am very sorry to hear that x

Oh @fmturn I am so sorry xxx rest up, take good care of yourself and heal, and you will be back again with a new pregnancy when you're ready xxxx

@fmturn I'm so so sorry. I hope you have someone who can support you. My thoughts will be with you today x

@MysteriousSheep welcome and gentle congratulations.

@Knotemma same(ish)! Parents in Norway whilst pregnant with me when Chernobyl happened... 😬

@Avocuddles must've been so strange getting out again after that time. Well done on the self-care and glad you're on the mend.

@fmturn I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Look after yourself if you can ♥️

@fmturn so sorry that you're going through this again, sending you hugs and positive thoughts x

Have just spent a long while catching up on everything since my last post - welcome to everyone who is new to the thread and hope everyone is doing ok.

@fmturn - I am so sorry. I really hope it’s not what you think. You have my thoughts.

Really pleased to read lots of positive news over the last little while too and I am loving seeing your lovely scan and bump pictures

I was supposed to have my 16-week reassurance scan today (even though I’m now 17, almost 18 weeks) but it’s been cancelled. Understandable but really gutted as could have done with the reassurance. Just trying to take it one day at a time and focus on known truths. What I know for certain just now is that I am pregnant, that we’ve had 5 lovely, successful scans already and baby was wriggling away on the last three. That’s the situation as I know it so I have to assume that’s still the case (easier some days than others). I had a midwife appointment yesterday but it was over the phone so no reassurance. She started asking about feeding and skin-to-skin contact after birth. Those moments are the ideals but I don’t feel ready to talk about them just now, just trying to make it to our next scan (two weeks today). Really wish I’d been able to see her face-to-face and hear baby’s heartbeat, would have been so reassuring.

I think I’ve been feeling some flutters and movements but nothing definite and only when I concentrate on it (and assume I haven’t made them up to stop myself from going mad). Would really like baby to start repeatedly kicking me but I know that’s not likely until after 20 weeks so I’m just sitting tight waiting for the 20-week scan and hoping beyond hope that everything is ok, much like the rest of you.

@Avocuddles - are you feeling better now? Can’t imagine how scary having the virus must have been for you and your family.

Oh I'm so sorry @fmturn rest up and look after yourself xx

I just bought some alcohol free prosecco to celebrate my news. Also some nice beers, in case I have another miscarriage (I know it sounds crass but I do love beer, so I'd like to know I have at least something I can treat myself to that I wouldn't otherwise be allowed), and a word search in case I end up in another awful scan situation where I have to wait with suspected ectopic - it helped last time to have something very easy and mind numbing to do whilst waiting in a scary and sad situation. So I'm covering all bases basically! Hoping beyond hope the prosecco is the only one that gets used xx

@MOGMOGMOG85 When is your scan?