Pregnant after loss and dreaming of rainbows - 2

[Avocuddles]

Just setting up a new thread to keep the 🌈 conversation going....

@MrsMGE you may be pleased to know that I just read that the Next website should be reopening soon.... Yes I had the virus, I wasn't tested as thankfully wasn't hospitalised but did reach the point where paramedics came out to see me and they / my GP were confident of the diagnosis. I was ill for over two weeks of which I was basically bedridden for around a week with every symptom on the list. It was really rough but thankfully I'm better now around four weeks after when I probably caught it.

@SunStruck as @Whiffle77 and @Knotemma say I don't think anyone really knows yet what the end of lockdown in the UK will look like. We're coming up to 4 weeks from the point where 12 weeks was first mentioned now. It may ease sooner, it may not. I'm working on the assumption that the I probably won't be back in the office before June when I'll be getting on for six months! I'm hoping to keep working as long as possible so should get up to three months back at work but guess I'll have to see how I feel at the time.

@MOGMOGMOG85 pregnancy test lines stop getting darker around 6 weeks, I don't know why it reassured me as I had had good line progression last time round (where I miscarried at 8 weeks having stop developing around 6), I guess it just showed that I wasn't having a chemical pregnancy but more just gave me something to do! 8 weeks is good timing for an early scan as everything should be really clear by then - will be wishing you the best of luck. What computer games have you been playing by the way?

Thank you @AnxiousLady1 you've really reassured me 💗 I'm having a duvet day I'll get up later normally I love cleaning and being on top of things but I've got no energy today and that's on xxx

@AliSxo no not wasn't constant it was twinges that came and went, but not in relation to my movements. As @AnxiousLady1 says yours does sound like stretching which can be one sided and is totally normal.

Welcome @coll1984 we have been talking about one sided pain as you can see. Yours could also be your uterus stretching or ligament pain, especially if it happens when you stand up. I am 10w4d so we are right next to each other. Fingers crossed for your scan, mine is April 27th.

@AliSxo I had one sided pain with my last pregnancy in the early weeks. The doctor sent me to the EPU to be on the safe side, and the sonographer said that I had ovulated from that side. Apparently this causes one sided pain often in early pregnancy. Could also just be your uterus stretching as others have said. x

Thanks @Avocuddles. I've been playing Final Fantasy 7 remake - it's a godsend in terms of filling time and stopping me dwelling on things, hours can go past and I've totally forgotten I'm pregnant. I know I should probably be enjoying it more rather than ignoring it but it seems to be working for me for now, I'll get more involved after that 8 week scan god willing.

My previous 8 week scan was so traumatic. Because I have large fibroids, they distort the ultrasound waves and it is really really dodgy viewing in there. The person who scanned me couldn't locate the embryo even though it turned out it was 6 weeks in size, hence I think it would just be stress central for me in so many ways to go any earlier than 8 weeks. Fingers crossed this time it will be a true 8 week embryo, who knows maybe it'll even be measuring ahead(!) and easy to find. I sort of can't bring myself to imagine such a happy outcome, but of course I am hoping for it. I think I'm going to insist on an external scan because last time internal was even worse visibility and also there is just something so traumatic about having someone dig around in there and not find anything... it is just so typical of my luck that I have a womb that is so hard to see in. It's like someone is saying "oh did you think you could have a little bit of control over one tiny thing in this process? Haha no" if that makes sense, it really does take the biscuit! The whole of life seems to be a bit of a slap in the face in terms of you have no control at the moment doesn't it! Your job security in the coronavirus, no! Your freedom to do anything/see anyone, no! Your ability to remain reasonably healthy, no! Whether you get pregnant or not, no! Whether you stay pregnant, no! If you'll even see anything in there if you need to, no! Lol - I did actually say to my friend when the coronavirus broke out that I don't think I was as phased as other people because it just seemed to suit my general position of total lack of control in my life, weirdly. It just seems to fit with the picture rather than being really shocking to me.

When is your next scan and how are you feeling about it?

Thanks everyone!! I've had no cramps today or aches so I'm hoping it doesn't come back tonight xxx

@MOGMOGMOG85 I'm sorry your 8 week scan was so traumatic and appreciate how unsettling an uncertain scan can be. My scan at 9 weeks needed to be internal but I do have a tilted uterus which makes things harder to see, fingers crossed external will work for you.

I've definitely learned to have a relaxed attitude to life ie 'what will be will be'. DH and I have both had (different) serious health problems over the years which could have been fatal, so we know just how valuable our health is, and also that unfortunately sometimes you can have the best will in the world but still experience sheer bad luck. Our TTC journey has been tough but plenty have it far worse. Life in general at the moment is tough, but we'll get through it - there may be tough times ahead, but we've all got our freedom to look forward to!

My next scan (20 weeks) is four weeks today which still feels so far away but lockdown is passing quicker than I expected. I've been playing Two Point Hospital which is a nostalgic update of Theme Hospital which I loved as a teenager, and getting some board games out too. The PS4 and Switch are definitely helping us to both keep occupied as well as lots of reading and some sudokus....

@AliSxo glad you've had no cramps today, fingers crossed that you're over the worst. I was definitely crampy (like period pains) until 5-6 weeks and then just had the most awful digestive cramps instead!

@coll1984 welcome! Sorry you've had cramps, it's always disconcerting but there are plenty of causes so hopefully nothing of concern. We will be rooting for you at your scan!

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@MrsMGE @SunStruck yes I am still alive 😉 I went quiet in the weeks when I found out I was pregnant for the third time as I had quite an intense regime with the private clinic and was taking it day by day. I felt like my days were just consumed focusing on making it through another day pregnant and 'ok', so I selfishly focused on just myself. I'm now almost 19 weeks and have my 20 week scan at the end of April. I am dreading it as have huge scan anxiety still, and also not really felt any definitive baby flutters or bubbles or whatever is suggested should be felt, so, I try and stay clear of anything that could cause me more anxious thoughts!

I am however so delighted to read that you ladies are all doing so well, I knew @SunStruck @Avocuddles were 2 weeks or so behind me in terms of pregnancy week and I thought of you often. @MrsMGE I am so happy to hear you're also pregnant and equally sorry to have read further down that you had also suffered another early miscarriage. I hope you're ok! I somehow couldn't find you on the previous thread on conception or the healthy exercise thread and then I decided to switch off MN for a while!

To everyone else on the thread sorry to barrage in without introductions, I know some of the ladies on here from a previous conception thread!

Sending love to you all! X

@LASandOtto so glad to hear you're doing ok. I haven't felt any movements / flutters yet and don't really have a bump, I can't wait until I actually look / feel pregnant and it might all seem a bit more real.... I don't think scan anxiety will ever go but hopefully it will be a positive and reassuring experience when it comes round.....

@LASandOtto amazing to hear from you !! Wow soon 20 weeks, time flies 😍 do you have a little bump yet?? 😄

Thanks for the replies. Yeah I hope it’s just ligaments. I’m a bit scared but excited at the same time for the scan as with this virus I have been told I have to go on my own. The last time I had a scan is when a had my MC and I was told there was no heartbeat and it broke me. So I have everything crossed this one is a sticky bean. Has anyone else been told they got to go on their own?

Yes I have been sent a text message to go to all maternity appointments on my own. It's a real shame, I have also had scans with bad news and I dread the possibility of receiving more bad news on my own. For one bad news scan I was on my own and it was the worst. I was crying and the doctor was chatting away over my head to the sonographer about how good the image was on screen. They asked to bring students in to see how perfect an example this was of an ectopic and they hadn't even explained what was happening or noticed I was crying. But anyway I'm getting into a rant...

I really wanted to share the excitement of hopefully hearing a heartbeat together. But I think they will let us FaceTime while we are in the scan. And I think it makes sense to limit the people in hospital so what can you do. I also have limited hope that they might change the rules in the next two weeks before my scan but I know it's unlikely!

I've set up the next thread as this one is very close to the limit... hope to see you all there!

Pregnant after loss and dreaming of rainbows - 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3879866-pregnant-after-loss-and-dreaming-of-rainbows-3

Morning ladies!

Has anyone had a dull ofd pain in the groin? Mines usually in my right groin but i have had it in both? When i google im getting results for ligament pain but i didnt think you could get this so early on?

@Pippop21 yes I've had those pains - I remember googling and similarly thinking it was too early for ligament pains. I think it's just things stretching and growing and nothing to worry about though of course it's impossible to not focus on every single twinge and ache! I found I would have dull pains when I was resting but sometimes sharp pains if I stood up suddenly (for example getting off the loo!). I think it probably subsided around 6 or 7 weeks though the various stretching pains have recently come back with a vengeance 10 weeks on!

My thighs ache also, and it is usually while im in bed resting, im too busy to notice things during the day really haha xxx