Pregnant after loss and dreaming of rainbows - 2

[Avocuddles]

Just setting up a new thread to keep the 🌈 conversation going....

I hate any type of cramps I also just fear the worst and keep wiping to see if there's anything, I'm so excited for this pregnant I am trying to keep positive but when the cramps appear and they're mild I'm like no no no 😢 xxx

Just updating my weeks.....also amended the other 16 weekers.

@Bellsx 21wks (due 20/08/20)
@Rachael321 21wks (due 20/08/20)
@Pugmum19 18wks (due 31/08/20)
@UrsulaSings 17wks (due 07/09/20)
@Hoping2020 16wks (due 13/09/20)
@SammiLou2312 17wks⁣ (due 17/09/20)
@Knotemma 16wks⁣ (due 23/09/20)
@LilMrsS 16wks (due 24/09/20)
@didslysquiddlydoo 16wks due 26/09/20)
@TunnocksTcake 16wks (due 26/09/20)
@avocuddles 16wks (due 27/09/20)
@Sunflower1608 16wks with twins (due 28/09/20)
@SunStruck 15wks (due 28/09/20)⁣
@Scout20 14wks (due 29/09/20)
@Littlegoth 13wks (due 30/09/20)
@HighHopes20 13wks (due 03/10/20)⁣
@Treaclepie19 14wks (due 07/10/20)⁣
@Aria2015 10wks
@tmc14 13wks (due 11/10/20)
@Hagster 13wks (due 12/10/20)⁣
@seaduck 12wks (due 17/10/20)
@DressingGown87 10wks (23/10/20)
@Doughnut100 10wks (due 05/11/20)
@teaandtantrums90 10 wks (due 07/11/20)
@MOGMOGMOG85 5 wks (due 13/12/20)

Just realised we're up to over 950 posts already - it'll be time for thread number 3 soon which is great, we've come a long long way!

Hi @Avocuddles 😊 Lovely to see you too!! I ended up getting pg for a second time in Feb/March, but knew it wouldn't go anywhere, the lines were super faint and barely there around CD 40 so no progression. I mcd naturally not long after, it was nowhere near as bad as the MMC before. This has prompted us to see a private consultant, we brought the appointment forward because of the CV (and lucky we did!). Really pleased with her, she's a lovely, reassuring doctor. I never expected that 3 weeks later I'd be pregnant again! And I think because it's been a while since the MMC, I've managed to regain my inner peace after months of grief and anxiety. I'm in a happy place about this pregnancy which after the MMC seemed impossible, and I want to keep things this way. I'm 5 weeks tomorrow and as one of the ladies said on the thread @SunStruck and I met, "today I'm pregnant". And grateful for that.

16 weeks already! You're nearly halfway there, amazing! ❤️ I am guessing the bump is there? How are you feeling physically and mentally? Did you manage to buy any pg clothes? I read Next online and many other retailers shut their websites and I remember thinking, oh here we go re pregnancy and baby stuff! 🤦🏼‍♀️

I'm definitely going to check out your meditations website, so helpful ❤️ I've done most of mine on the app I have and could do with some new free ones!

I'm going to have to tell work before the second trimester too if the lockdown is lifted and we are told to go back to the office, as far as I understand the current guidance, if a pg woman can wfh, she should continue to do so. I doubt they'd take us out of the vulnerable group. I do wonder if this means I'd be at home for the rest of the year now. We shall see.

I say today I'm pregnant @mrsmge! Every day to my husband. I use that and another mantra in my head to try and calm my breathing down (breathe in "today I'm pregnant", breath out a different one - I have a few) when it's all too much...sounds silly but it helps me so much. Today I am pregnant!
Congrats on 16 weeks @Avocuddles that's great news
@AliSxo cramps are very normal, your body is very very busy at the minute. Try not to worry!

Hi @Whiffle77, it's a great mantra to have, isn't it. I think in today's world when everything is so uncertain and having had difficult pregnancy related experiences in the past, the only way we can alleviate the pressure is by grounding ourselves and doing what we can to manage anxiety. I've turned to art which really helps me, as well as meditations. We all have something that can help us right now 😊

@MrsMGE @Avocuddles @Knotemma @Doughnut100 I have to exercise or I go crazy during lockdown! And I really want to try keep fit and healthy because I definitely eat more chocolate and cake now 😳

@MrsMGE well done on your walk! It's good you didn't t try something your Dr hasn't prescribed - cyclogest will definitely be more than enough! I'm just so happy to hear that you're in such a good mind space now, very different from before ❤️

@Avocuddles I completely understand, I was very active before I got pregnant though and have toned it down lots (used to do weights but only doing body weights now, or spin classes for max heart rate but only trying to stay at 80% of max now when doing cardio), so for me it is still taking it easier 🤣 I have days I'm just tired and can't be assed though, and those days I stay in my Pj:s and eat a lot - we all need those days every now and then 😍 so we're 16 weeks today, how are you feeling??

I went for my 16 week scan today alone, and all was well with a waving baby. All measured on point, and the Dr said "well there is no mistaking what sex it is..." 🤣🤣 attaching a pic of the potty shot, and I've circled in the Crown Jewels 🤣 DH is proud!

@Bellsx 21wks (due 20/08/20)
@Rachael321 21wks (due 20/08/20)
@Pugmum19 18wks (due 31/08/20)
@UrsulaSings 17wks (due 07/09/20)
@Hoping2020 16wks (due 13/09/20)
@SammiLou2312 17wks⁣ (due 17/09/20)
@Knotemma 16wks⁣ (due 23/09/20)
@LilMrsS 16wks (due 24/09/20)
@didslysquiddlydoo 16wks due 26/09/20)
@TunnocksTcake 16wks (due 26/09/20)
@avocuddles 16wks (due 27/09/20)
@Sunflower1608 16wks with twins (due 28/09/20)
@SunStruck 16wks (due 28/09/20)⁣
@Scout20 14wks (due 29/09/20)
@Littlegoth 13wks (due 30/09/20)
@HighHopes20 13wks (due 03/10/20)⁣
@Treaclepie19 14wks (due 07/10/20)⁣
@Aria2015 10wks
@tmc14 13wks (due 11/10/20)
@Hagster 13wks (due 12/10/20)⁣
@seaduck 12wks (due 17/10/20)
@DressingGown87 10wks (23/10/20)
@Doughnut100 10wks (due 05/11/20)
@teaandtantrums90 10 wks (due 07/11/20)
@MOGMOGMOG85 5 wks (due 13/12/20)

@SunStruck congratulations on your boy! That's lovely news 😍

@Whiffle77 @MrsMGE my mantra in early pregnancy was just "happy, healthy, pregnant" it really helped me in the difficult moments to just take a breath and say it a few times.

Haha @SunStruck there's no mistaking this, definitely a boy 😂💙

And yes, time is a healer. Weirdly, the current situation has also been helpful, reduced my usual stress related to travelling and workload and I have more time to do things that I like. I now find it a lot easier to accept that most of what's going on is out of our control and not to let it get to me. As a natural planner and an in-control person, I'd go crazy with anxiety if I allowed that now.

I'm wondering if @LASandOtto has been on this thread? LASandOtto, if you're off MN for good, sorry to call you out! Just wanted to say I've been thinking lots about you and hope you're doing well xxx

@MrsMGE it is a strange thought that we might spend most (or even all?) of our pregnancies working from home. I guess only time will tell...
So sorry to hear about your early miscarriage but it sounds like you dealt with it well and it's fantastic that you're in this position so soon - I'm really hoping that it's third time lucky for both of us! I found the early weeks passed so so slowly, I was taking pregnancy tests every few days up to 6 weeks (having got my very faint BFP at 3 +3!) then had early nhs scans at 7 and 9 weeks thanks to the fertility clinic even though I actually conceived before I started taking any meds. The first scan was absolutely terrifying and measuring slightly behind but my 9 and 12 week scans were dated in line with expectation. I wouldn't have had an early scan if not for the clinic as my private scan experience before was very negative and the thought of another one at the same stage would have been far more scary than simply not knowing.
I actually turned 16 weeks yesterday based on my 12 week scan but I'm counting my weeks on a Monday as know for a fact that the baby was conceived on Monday evening! 

I don't really have a bump yet but definitely feel thicker around the middle. I was about a stone overweight to start with, I look and feel fatter but am actually slightly lighter than when I first fell pregnant, my coronavirus experience made me lose a good 4 or 5 pounds so might be another couple of weeks before I regain them even with the mound of Easter eggs I'm working my way through!
I've acquired a few maternity clothes over the past week - the jeans are so comfy for working from home though still a bit loose for walking any distance as I found myself constantly hiking them up! I got the jeans delivered from new look, they're good value but more importantly they come in different leg lengths - I'm only just over five foot so anything that comes in a single length is inevitably too long. I've also ordered a couple of bits from Dorothy Perkins which haven't come yet - they had (have?) a sale on so I was able to order a few items including both trousers and tops for £3 - £8! I figure at the moment cheap and cheerful is the way to go, it's not like we're going to be showing off to an audience any time soon!

@SunStruck congratulations on positive scan and clearly well endowed baby boy! My next scan is 4 weeks today which feels like a lifetime away but need to be patient..... I feel fine at the moment, the first trimester symptoms have pretty much gone though I do have nosebleeds every time I blow my nose. Sometimes the only thing that reminds me I'm pregnant sometime is my slightly chunkier stomach, I can't wait to feel movements as at the moment it feels like I'm in a weird limbo where I keep telling myself that I'm pregnant but there's not a huge amount of outward evidence to support that! How are you feeling?

Thanks @MrsMGE and @Knotemma 🥰

Yes I also wonder where @lasandotto is, haven't seen her for quite a while x

@MrsMGE forgot to ask you, remember the first time you were pregnant you said you KNEW it was a girl... do you have any feeling now? 😄

@Avocuddles did you have the CV in pregnancy? I had no idea! Oh bless you! Sorry, I haven't caught up with nearly 80 pages of the threads, I'm now really late to the party 🤦🏼‍♀️ Glad it's all over and you're feeling well. How did you cope with it? Re clothes, you're absolutely right. I'm sure in time more shops will reopen at least online so that all pregnant women can buy something comfy as and when necessary.

@Knotemma that's a lovely mantra too and clearly helped you, congratulations on your 16 weeks 😊

@Avocuddles I feel the same! I do have a more rounded belly now but it's still very easy to hide in regular clothes (and my work trousers still fit, albeit tighter!). And now when I finally don't feel nauseous anymore I don't feel that pregnant! I can't believe I'll probably be over 20 weeks before I tell work - I come back wi a bump 🤣

How does it work in the Uk, how long do pregnant women get to WFH if they lift the lockdown restriction and people start going back to work?

@SunStruck I immediately thought I'm having a boy this time, again, no idea why and of course it makes no sense early on, just my instinct! If everything goes well we'll find out in a few weeks' time. DH and I wanted to do the NIFTY test around the 12 week mark so we should know then, if I can have it done at the time that is 😊

@MrsMGE how exciting 🥰 I had literally no feeling until after the 12 week scan, I just thought it was a boy! Yeah I recommend those tests, I did the Panorama and it's so reassuring! Especially since we have had miscarriages before x

Ahhh @SunStruck what a lovely scan, pleased it went well!
We have no idea at the minute when lockdown will be over, and what they will do with pregnant women when it is...I'm really hoping I don't have to spend the whole pregnancy in lockdown, I don't have any children and I would feel I was missing out! Plus it would be so hard seeing all my friends and family together
Feeling quite vommy all of a sudden, hoping it's just a one off...!

@SunStruck the original guidance for pregnant women and other vulnerable groups was 12 weeks of self isolation/social distancing, which takes us up to the middle of June. I'm planning on starting maternity around mid August, so I'm going to have a maximum of 8 weeks back in the office for the rest of this year 🤷‍♀️

Thanks @Whiffle77 I was worried as it's more on my left side, immediately just worry about ectopic, it's such a small dull ache and only when I'm lieing down xx

I would keep an eye on it but I think you would be in a lot more pain if it was ectopic, hope you feel better as the day goes on xx

Thanks @Whiffle77 as I've got up and dressed it's not there it's just when I lie down, I will keep my eye on it and thanks for replying xxxx

@SunStruck congrats on your scan, looks brilliant

@AliSxo I have experience with both ectopic and cramps. Cramps are totally fine and normal. I've had period type cramps both this pregnancy and my first one, ranging from mild to strong and painful. Your uterus is likely just stretching.

With my ectopic I had persistent one sided pains but they were very mild. It felt like ovulation pain so just a little twinge, didn't hurt at all really. But I felt these pains quite often over 2 weeks and certainly not just when lying down. So if you keep feeling one sided pain for over a week or so I would go to your EPU and ask for a scan to rule out ectopic. But what you've described so far doesn't sound like an ectopic. In this pregnancy which I know is uterine I have had the odd one-sided pain now and again so I don't think you need to worry.

I know how you feel being jumpy over every little feeling! I hope you find a way to relax a bit.

Thanks @Doughnut100 I'm going to really keep an eye on it, I've had ovulation pain and this ache was similar but not as sharp, I've also had mild Diarrhea today and I feel really nauseous, I didn't sleep well with worry last night so I'm going to nap I think, can I please ask if the pain was just constant? It's gone now which I think is a good sign but if it comes back later I'll be wary. Xx

Hi everyone just wondering if I can join the group. I’m 36. I have a DS age 6 and had MC Oct 2019 at 10w 3days. I’m Now currently 11weeks. Due 1/11/20. I have had a little one sided pain in my right side, when I have been sitting and then go to get up. My scan is not till 24th April just hoping everything is ok this time round.

Hi @AliSxo I don't have experience with ectopic, but I do know I've had left sided pain on both pregnancies. Have looked on different threads and there have been loads out there who experienced similar in first trimester. Mine has also been more when lying down, and now at just over 10 weeks, so I just attribute it to stretching (I'm a side sleeper and generally kick one leg up and finding this to be a little uncomfortable at the moment). It was definitely more dominant from week 5 - 7 I think, so I equally convinced myself it was ectopic, but a scan at 7.5 weeks showed all was where it should be.

Seemingly pain in your shoulder tip can be common with ectopic (albeit unexplained), so that was something I kept looking out for before having a scan. But your pain sounds similar to mine so I would attribute it to stretching. Your other symptoms sound normal and I've had my share of both so far! Take it easy today and rest up regardless. Xx