Sonogropher accidently told us the sex of baby

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So I had a growth scan on Monday 37+6 weeks. As midwife was concerned that baby was on the large side for dates. Scan did reveal that baby was already 8lb with two weeks to go. I’m not surprised my LO (boy) was born 10 days late and weighed 9lb 6oz.

When we went in for the scan we explained that we didn’t know the sex of baby and didn’t want to. She said ok, and seemed to understand this. During the scan she asked my LO what he wanted baby brother or sister he said brother and told her what his name would be. She told him that he’d make a great big brother etc. And then minutes later she said look at your brother.
I take that as we’re having a boy. Over the moon about we were happy with boy or girl as long as baby is healthy! I had a feeling boy all along but can help feeling disappointed that she revelaved this special information weeks away. We love the surprise at birth that’s why everyone gets the choice to find out gender right?

Would anyone complain or try to get confirmation??

Similar thing happened to my friend didn't want to know the sex but slipped up and said he! Turns out it was a girl lol.

“She wasn’t being rude, she was just helpfully trying to tell you that you were whingy, ungrateful and disproportionate!” Oh come on.

OP, you’ll never know 100% whether the sonographer did know it was a boy or if she was just goin along with your son. So I’d class it as still a surprise from your perspective.

Again people getting happy behind their phone. I wasn’t asking to be judged I was asking if anyone would feel how I feel fair enough some people would leave it. Everyone deals with pregnancy differently. (Hormones) I don’t think replying in a rude manner is the way to talk to others. I’d always give my opinion but in a respectful way.
I know NHS is stretched and she’s only human I wasn’t suggesting I want her strung up for this!!

yes I’ve had a sonographer say “he” when a) we didn’t know and b) baby turned out to be a girl anyway. I think some of them just default to one or the other because they don’t like saying “it”.

”I wasn’t cross with her”

If you weren’t cross with her why are you considering complaining?

Also just have a think about this:
Think about the days when the so ographer spits something awful in scan, has to pretend for a few minutes everything is okay, go and get someone else to look at it, and someone has to give the bad news to the family.
Think about the people who give birth to a still born at your baby’s weeks gestation.
The people who would love children, try for years and are still unsuccessful
I just CANNOT get over some people’s sense of entitlement and lack of self awareness.

She honestly may not have heard you properly. Disappointing for you but not that much of a big deal, surely? You don't have long to go now.

Congratulations by the way!

It happened to me for my last two dcs
I told the sonographer that I didn’t want to know the gender. On both occasions I was told. I was a bit gutted, but didn’t complain

So calling someone whingy isn’t rude? I think It is. Why not just say no I’d leave it and be polite?
For god sake. Wish I hadn’t bothered though woman stick together

Sonographer spots, obviously.
On phone

Fucking hell some people are spoiled silly. Complaining because of this, really?

Thank you! 😘

Oh, just seen that you are thinking of complaining. Don't be silly. It was an accident and she may just have got jumbled up as she was referring to your other child being a brother. I don't think you can be certain it's a boy. Seriously, find something else to focus on.

Sorry if I sound prickly. My baby died last week. After I gave birth I had the lovely surprise of finding out he was a boy. His sistera will never know him. Keep things in perspective.

You are not buying a consumer service, this is about the health of your baby. It's great that you and baby are healthy. Your wishes as a consumer not to know your baby's sex are a very tiny part of this picture and I think you are losing perspective a bit.

I hope the next few weekends go well!

What sex was the sonographer?

You'd think the sonographer would be professional enough and experienced enough to keep her mouth shut. It's not hard to do. Especially when your job involves doing this every single day. I'd be pissed.

I would likely have made a sarcastic comment at the time.

I wouldn't complain, no. They in no way compromised your baby's wellbeing or yours.

PhilipSteak you are massively overreacting. I’ve had some of those bad-news scans, it’s horrible, I still don’t feel the need to give OP a kicking over what she asked.

I’m very aware of this. And of course feel for these tragic situations I have friends who have had terrible experiences in pregnancy.

This is a totally different topic. Didn’t really need to get into this.

Good post brown mouse but I suspect it will go over the OP’s head.
OP you one of your party didn’t slip on a wet floor on the way out of the building did you?
If so you need one of those ‘no win, no fee’ lawyers. Get yourself o we there anyway, see if you have a case for your distress.

Sounds to me like she was just humouring your son.

I think keeping the sex as a surprise is one of those things that's nice if possible, but should not be a guaranteed right. At least not here in this country where your scans are being done by the NHS. It's nice of them to try and keep it a surprise, but not the sort of thing you should feel slighted about if they slip up.

I understand that you're disappointed (as I was when we weren't told the sex at our twenty week scan). But ultimately they're just trying to get on with what must be a very stressful job.

You could not have friends who have been through ‘this’. Otherwise you wouldn’t be whining about someone making a slip of the tongue and being ‘only human’. Which you are too, as you do rightly point out.
Your baby is healthy. Stop grumbling about something so utterly insignificant.

Sylvanian. I’m so sorry for your loss.