M.I.L wants to be called Mamma!!

[Sarah1087]

As it says

I don't understand what is wrong with old fashioned Nanan or nana my mum will be being called Nana.
Mamma to me is the definition of mummy I've told Fiance I'm not happy with this, he said what about Mommar but im not happy with that.

Without sounding cruel and not doing into everything personal at the min I feel as though the whole situation is being monopolised this is my first baby after suffering with infertility and I stand by myself in thinking I've every right to disagree with this and even ask for This not to happen.

Does anyone agree with me ?

Yanbu. Mamma is something you call you mum not grandmother.

Mama is ridiculous for a grandmother. Of course you can't agree to this!

Completely agree OP

I'm going to be Nanna/Nanny 😍

Is your MIL pregnant? It won't be happening otherwise.

Tell her to go and have her own baby who can call her mamma. Cheek of the woman, that will piss me off. In French mamma is a mother which I call my own mother. What's with these mil who wants to take over their grandchild!!

Just tell her no it's ridiculous you are not mamma and point out it's important to you because of your fertility issues. Who cares if she gets the hump! Let her have a tantrum. If she pushes it when your baby starts talking say no that's nan over and over.

Yes tell her to pick a grandparents name. Ridiculous.

Is she from a different culture / country that uses Mamma as a term for granny? If nit, she's nuts.

Tell her absolutely, if she prefers mamma she can be grandmama instead of Nanny. Them beam at her and make a lovely remark about how nice it is when people use old fashioned terms for family.

Tell her, in no uncertain terms, fuck off.

Is this a cultural thing? Never heard of grandma's getting Mamma.

I would be very very unhappy about this and refuse. I think it's really rude and insensitive.

What area is she from. My ex’s mum is from up north and mamar is common up here. But yes mama is different

My DD calls my DM mam-ma but this is an abbreviation of grandma as she couldn't say it when she was small and it's stuck.

I wouldn't have chosen something like that but because it just evolved from DD I don't mind at all.

"In French mamma is a mother which I call my own mother."

Isn't mother "maman" in French?

Is it what grandmothers are called in her culture, OP? Or what her other grandchildren call her? Where did it come from?

Absolutely no. I am nanno good friend is Mimi, there are lots of lovely names to chose from.
Mamma? Whatever is she thinking?

"WishingOnABar : Tell her absolutely, if she prefers mamma she can be grandmama instead of Nanny. Them beam at her and make a lovely remark about how nice it is when people use old fashioned terms for family." I agree with this !

Nope!

Where is she from/what culture? What did she call her own Granny.

TBH This wouldn’t bother me.

My MIL wanted to be Mam when I had my DC. I wasn't happy with that, so she chose Gran instead.

I didn't want my children calling her that, I was Mummy or Mum, and I felt that Mam was for a mother not a grandmother.

I agree with you OP.

Mamma is not an unusual word for a grandmother in the Midlands.

i think OP needs to clarify which culture MIL is from. Mamma in some cultures is quite a normal title for an old woman/grandmother.

If MIL prefers a more continental sounding name, how about Nonna? It's Italian for Granny but is perhaps less obviously a grandparent - if this will be her first grandchild, perhaps she's finding it hard to accept that her own child-bearing years are (presumably) behind her. But definitely not Mamma! Remind her that babies often call their mothers Mamma when they are trying to say Mummy and you don't want your baby to be confused!

One of the first sounds a baby forms is Ma ma .. I suspect having had babies she knows this and will 'claim it' as the baby addressing her ! (When we all know it's just a sound - or an attempt at mummy.. which is of course you !)
Mine call me Mama - when they're after something.
Grandmothers in our house are Granny , Grandma and Mare-tow (different culture and directly translates as Old-mother - she can have that one if she likes 🤨)..

You would not be at all unreasonable to put your foot down and insist MIL picks another name, loads to chose from Nana, Nan,Nanny, Grandma, Granny etc. I do know of friends children who call their grandma ‘Meemaw’, because she is young to be a granny so doesn’t want to be referred to as one. Bit odd but each to their own, however in your situation it’s totally crazy that she could even think of Mama being acceptable. Is she usually so unthinkingly self centred and pushy? It’s not fun dealing with overbearing relatives, especially when you’ve no doubt gone through so much to get to this point I’ve also never heard of using Mama for grandma as a cultural thing, and I have a very diverse friend group.

That's a nope from me. My kids call their grandmother Grandma.