M.I.L wants to be called Mamma!!

[Sarah1087]

As it says

I don't understand what is wrong with old fashioned Nanan or nana my mum will be being called Nana.
Mamma to me is the definition of mummy I've told Fiance I'm not happy with this, he said what about Mommar but im not happy with that.

Without sounding cruel and not doing into everything personal at the min I feel as though the whole situation is being monopolised this is my first baby after suffering with infertility and I stand by myself in thinking I've every right to disagree with this and even ask for This not to happen.

Does anyone agree with me ?

Genius

I've seen grannie or granny cards in Card Factory and Clintons.
I'm going to be nana as I think grandma sounds old.
My mil wanted to be grandma, we're all different.
I would have objected to anything sounding like mum though.

DH always called his maternal grandmother Ma-ma as did all his cousins and now the great grandchildren. In South Yorkshire it's a common (I.e not unusual) name for your mum's mum and pronounced differently to mamma.

@OP.
I don't even want Mommar like Fiance is saying shouldn't this be our babies choice ? My own mother isn't as pushy and all she has asked is not to be called grandma as she will feel old lol I'm fine with that.

He see's it that I'm having a go and being horrible towards his mum when I'm not being I'm standing my ground mamma and Mommar are a no from me.

So, you are happy to do as your Mothers asks, but not his Mother.

What a weirdo.

I'd be teaching the baby to call her weirdo at this rate !

My kids call me Mama, why on earth would she want to be called that? I'm Yorkshire Really too and it's very much a term for Mum, not a Grand Parent

In East Midlands, Mamar in a common normal name for grandma. Although when my mamar died, we discovered that although all of her grandchildren called her mamar, we all spelled it slightly differently... and she always wrote cards using the spelling that we each used for her ... on her funeral flowers we had it spelt 3 different ways

Plus I thought it was normal and kind of nice for grandparents to chose what they'd be called.

Seriously who does that! I wouldn't be having that

I'm going to be a first time grandmother soon. I would like to be Nana. Is do understand though, that ultimately the baby will use a name they can say, so I could end up as anything! I don't care too much - I'll still be a grandparent and I can't wait! 😁

I am called Mammar by my grandchildren.

Most of friends are also called Mammar by their grandchildren.

I called my DG Mammar.

My parents called their GMs Mammar.

My grandchildren call their Great GP Grandma and Grandpa.

bluemoon

I am from the Notts/Derbys border.

:)

Just to add...it is pronounced...

MamAar or MomAar.

@Joanna57 Notts/Derby border and never heard anything other than Mamar or Momar since I married into an Ilson family (ish!) 15 years ago!

Why not compromise and call her Grandmama?

Babies call their grandparents whatever their parents refer to them as IME.

Just refer to her as Grandmama from the beginning.

We gave my MIL free choice of what to be called. Slightly annoyingly she choose the same title as my Mum was already using with her other GC but we went with it.

It is sometimes bit confusing and clarification to the children about which Grandmother is regularly required but of course they aren’t aware of any of that.

Exactly Toriray... in the local area would you even be a grandma if you weren't called Mamar! Lol!

Strange how so many have said Mamar is/was used for their grandma. Not so ridiculous after all.

My little brother and sister used marmar for their mums mum and granny for our dads mum? It just comes from grandma and helps distinguish which set of grandparents they were talking about

My MIL came up with a stupid name for herself when ds1 was born. I smiled sweetly and called her Grandma both when she was and wasn't there. Whenever she tried to use the other name I smiled sweetly and promptly forgot the stupid name again. Unsurprisingly the dcs all call her Grandma and stupid name is long forgotten. Unless she is living with you/doing loads of childcare the baby will end up calling her whatever you brainwash it to call her (that's the great thing about babies ). You can remain smiling and pleasant and clearly a bit forgetful when it comes to names.

My grandma is ‘mama’ in my mother tongue, my kids call my mum mama, I am mommy at the moment, will become mum at some point I guess. Never caused an issue here.

In Norwegian your maternal grandmother would be Mormor (literally “Mum’s Mum”). I imagine that Scandinavian linguistic tradition is where Mamar and Momar come from.

East Midlands here - didn't grow up here, but practically everyone I know that did refers to their grandparents as Mamma and Dadda (although pronounced mam-ahh dad-Ahh)

Hadn't ever heard it before moving here, but definitely is a real thing

When I had DD1 the only thing my mum asked was not to be known as Granny surname, as that made her feel like her mil. Fair enough. DH's mum also wanted to be Granny so they were Granny first name. My mil decided when DD was about 3 that she didn't like use of her first name and tried to get her to call her Grandma or Nonna (equally confusing as was what great-grans were called) DD started calling her Daddy's mum. I'd correct her every time until one time, completely exasperated I said "DD just call Granny bloody Granny" so of course she did. She then started differentiating by calling them wee granny & big granny. My mum (wee) thought it was sweet, but mil (obese)wasn't so keen. Shame that as it stuck.

My dc have a nanny and a granny. Mamma is for me! No effing way!!!