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M.I.L wants to be called Mamma!!

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Sarah1087 · 30/03/2018 12:42

As it says

I don't understand what is wrong with old fashioned Nanan or nana my mum will be being called Nana.
Mamma to me is the definition of mummy I've told Fiance I'm not happy with this, he said what about Mommar but im not happy with that.

Without sounding cruel and not doing into everything personal at the min I feel as though the whole situation is being monopolised this is my first baby after suffering with infertility and I stand by myself in thinking I've every right to disagree with this and even ask for This not to happen.

Does anyone agree with me ?

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Cirrys · 30/03/2018 13:06

The grandmother should be something like Gran, Nanna, Grandma, Grandmamma. Imo Mamma is the mother. Get her told!

BertrandRussell · 30/03/2018 13:06

Just googled-apparantly it's a traditional grandmother name. Maybe it's what your mil called her grandmother?

BertrandRussell · 30/03/2018 13:08

But if you don't like it ask her to find something else. Don't go in in a put your foot down/get her told way. Unless you have to.

TheImprobableGirl · 30/03/2018 13:10

dc's call my mum Namma - perhaps that could be a compromise? Its a bit odd though... The other one is Nanar

Nkhutch · 30/03/2018 13:11

How would she feel if she was being told that. I would be annoyed too! Where I'm from we call grandmas mama sometimes spelt as mamar ( but it's pronounced mom-mar) would that not be any better?

LoniceraJaponica · 30/03/2018 13:12

Are you in Sheffield/Barnsley? Nanan is the preferred term round here.

TRALALALALALALALALAAA · 30/03/2018 13:12

I’ve also never heard of using Mama for grandma as a cultural thing, and I have a very diverse friend group.

Like i said, unless OP tell us which culture MIL is from we'll never know. The fact you've never heard of it in your diverse group is irrelevant. Clearly your group isn't as diverse as you think. Ive heard 'mamma' being used for an older woman/grandmother all my life, in my culture. That's not saying in this instance it should be her title. But it would explain where the confusion is coming from rather than the MIL having any sly/evil intent.

JessicaJonesJacket · 30/03/2018 13:12

If you're unhappy, say 'no. One of DH's relatives made an odd naming request of us - think 'get DC to call me granny even though I'm their dad's cousin'. I just laughed and said 'no it would be too confusing for the dc.'
As PPs have said, some cultures do use Mamma for grandmothers. In my DH's family, they call their granny 'Mother'. I assume it's short for grandmother but I've never asked. It didn't affect my DC because for some reason, MIL didn't want to continue the tradition down to her.

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 30/03/2018 13:13

How about MawMaw

Gide · 30/03/2018 13:14

My mother gets marmar from her dgc. They came up with it themselves. I think if you’re not happy, then be firm. To me, mamma is something a doll says when it’s meant to be saying mummy. Creepy, horror movie type dolls. Grin

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 30/03/2018 13:14

Where is she from? Personally can't stand Nana but Mama is weird for a grandma.

Gwenhwyfar · 30/03/2018 13:14

"I do know of friends children who call their grandma ‘Meemaw’, because she is young to be a granny so doesn’t want to be referred to as one. "

Meemaw is the Appalachian name for a grandmother isn't it?

Midnightpony · 30/03/2018 13:14

Nope. Nana nanny grandma granny grandmother grandmamma

They're her options

Mamma ? Nope . You're the mamma. Lunatic Hmm (her not you !)

CowesTwo · 30/03/2018 13:15

What if you told her that you intend to have your child call YOU Mama?

Quietlife1979 · 30/03/2018 13:15

You absolutely in the right to say no

BrazzleDazzleDay · 30/03/2018 13:18

I know a gran referred to as mama, everyone now actually calls her mama betty like its just her name. I hate grandpa, but thats what fil is called by that side of the family. I think its most often just a family thing.

I prefer granny/grandad myself

Slartybartfast · 30/03/2018 13:19

go with granny
or grandma
or grandmama

bossyrossy · 30/03/2018 13:27

Our English teacher told the class that a nanny is a paid help, so it’s grandma for me.

loopylass13 · 30/03/2018 13:29

You could use Grandmamma :) We do

Cloudwalk · 30/03/2018 13:31

You are 100% right - she's not mamma!!!!

Nanny0gg · 30/03/2018 13:31

*Our English teacher told the class that a nanny is a paid help+

That comment wasn't funny the first thousand times.

BigDamnHero · 30/03/2018 13:31

Yeah, I wouldn't like that!

My mum wasn't keen on Grandma/Gran/Nana etc. so in the end we settled on Meemaw like Sheldon in TBBT. That's another option?

BigDamnHero · 30/03/2018 13:33

Ooops, I see Meemaw has already been suggested. Blush

LonginesPrime · 30/03/2018 13:34

The kids I know who have a mummy and mamma have two mums - do you think she wants people to think you are a couple, OP?

Sesimbra · 30/03/2018 13:37

yanbu -

You need to nip this kind of shite in the bud before the baby arrives.