M.I.L wants to be called Mamma!!

[Sarah1087]

As it says

I don't understand what is wrong with old fashioned Nanan or nana my mum will be being called Nana.
Mamma to me is the definition of mummy I've told Fiance I'm not happy with this, he said what about Mommar but im not happy with that.

Without sounding cruel and not doing into everything personal at the min I feel as though the whole situation is being monopolised this is my first baby after suffering with infertility and I stand by myself in thinking I've every right to disagree with this and even ask for This not to happen.

Does anyone agree with me ?

I've never heard of any of those variations and I am absolutely with you OP. They don't sound sufficiently different to what you're going to be called and it's confusing. Definitely stand your ground.

In terms of letting your child decide, it may be another word morphs out of the chosen name. My DD calls her Grandpa "Papa". She seemed to naturally drop the "grand" bit (and I think George pig from Peppa Pig calls his grandpa that...Possibly!!). I guess Papa could be a word someone calls their own father, but my DH doesn't have an issue, its sufficiently different to what he's called... Dad, Dada, or Daddy. Mamma is definitely not different enough to Mum, Mam, Mama and Mummy.

It's interesting as I have links to E. Mids/Nottingham too and I've never heard of it before!! Anyone I know uses Grandma, Granny, Nana and Nan. I'm really intrigued now how I haven't come across it!

What did your fiancé call his own grandmothers?

By the way, you can’t just let a child choose what to call someone. We’re at the “learning to say names” stage with my DA (18 months) and you have to say and repeat the chosen name ad nauseam. They won’t just make up their own name. It’s really important for everyone to be in agreement.

@TheUbercornMum maybe it's in pockets? I've heard it a lot in City Centre schools, working in that area, but less maybe on the outskirts. But then also heard it quite a lot in the Nottingham/Derbyshire border where a lot of my In Laws are from. I found it incredibly strange when I first heard it, and equally people found it strange that I found it strange!

I don't even want Mommar like Fiance is saying shouldn't this be our babies choice?

Er, no. The name will be long established before the baby has the ability to choose a name for someone! It’s usually the grandparent themself that decides what they prefer.

Just say no to this and she can either be Granny/Grandma or nanny or you’ll just call her by her first name.

It’s usually the grandparent themself that decides what they prefer

No it isn't

What's MIL mother referred to?

Well, the grandparent should at least have a say in what they are called, surely? Or is this another thing that can only be mediated through the child's mother?

My DD who is now 5 calls my mother Mama as she couldnt say grandma when she was younger and it's just stuck. I don't mind it at all!

If the grandmother wants to be called Mamma then they should obviously have no say at all.

Maybe she just didn’t think how it would make you’ve feel. Is this the first grandchild? She’s been ‘mum’ for 25+ years probably, it’ll take some time to get used to another role. I agree it’s a bit odd but we can all be a bit odd at times can’t we? I certainly cringe when I look back at stuff I’ve said and done not even that long ago!

My cousin’s son calls his GM ‘pawpaw’ which I think is just the most adorable thing.

“If the grandmother wants to be called Mamma then they should obviously have no say at all“

Unless, as this thread and google confirms, it is a not uncommon name for a grandmother.......

But it doesn't.

Does.

My DDs first word was mumma, it would have completely taken that away from me had my Mum or MIL assumed that name

Absolutely fine not to want the name used. Not fine to lambaste a woman for wanting to use it rather than having a sensible conversation-and lambasting if to proves necessary.

Ann - Actually it wouldn’t. You call yourself ‘mummy’ baby pronounces it ‘Mumma’. If mil calls herself ‘Mama’, daughter would’ve pronounced it something else.

I think it's fairly conclusive that we all agree that she is bonkers. Mumma /Mama/ or any derivative beginning with Mam are for the MOTHER !! Not the Grand mother.
If she wants to invent her own word let her make it something that doesn't sound like mum.

My grandma liked being called ‘grandmama’ - she thought it was regal!! But i then told my MIL this and then she decided that she wanted to be ‘mama’ (without the grand). Of course my kids got confused when they stared to talk and called her ‘mummy’ and ‘mammy’. And just couldn’t differentiate between mummy and mama.

Forgot to say - she died suddenly just as they turned two. Now I don’t mind them referring to her as mama

Tell mil to have a baby if she wants to be mama.
Agree with the poster who said it’s usually Babies first word so she will claim baby has addresses her and then tell everyone this.

You should yell her it's as inappropriate as you wearing white to my wedding ,.... is that coming next

In the easy Midlands the seem to say mummar or nannar (the ending sounds like aarrrrrr)

Well I decided I could not handle any of this grandma, grannie etc carry on. I am called ‘Tipuna’ which is Maori for grandmother - and also ‘wise female elder’ that appeals but is inaccurate - mostly gets shortened to Poona and now I hear my nine year old grandson referring to me as Caroline (my name) which is fine by me.
All this jostling for position. Why not call M.I.L. Milly? Would that do?

Don't use Grannie. It's almost impossible to find cards with grannie written on the front!

cece Moonpig is your friend, they have all the standard cards and you can personalise the spelling to whatever you want. They can send the card to you to send on so you can still write it yourself.