Other Half told me he doesn't want me to have an epidural

[FirstNov2017]

Lets all laugh together...
I don't want an epidural but this is my first child and I have no idea what to expect. I'm aware of the pros and cons and see it as a last resort. After our antenatal class this week my partner said "I don't want you to have an epidural, it's not an option in my eyes". Anyone else had similar comments/demands from partners? My body my choice and my pain threshold!

He is being stupid!

Gosh. Is he an arsehole in other ways?

Wow.
Do tell him that should he ever require surgery, then he can do without anaesthetic.

What did you say?

Everytime you have a contraction may I suggest you squeeze his testicles hard. .

What on earth were his reasons? And why does he think his opinion matters?

Thankfully no! Does he understand that it's very offensive to try and dictate what you do with your body to manage your pain?

What an awful thing for him to say.

Your body, your choice.

I wonder how he would feel if it was him having to squeeze a watermelon out of his bum?!

Reassure him perhaps that it is not what you are going in looking for, but that you also have no idea how things will go, and that you will take the medical advice of the trained docs and midwives in relation to the medical needs as they present themselves on the day?

I think you need to let the midwife know that's his attitude, but you are open to whatever you need at the time.

When I was in labour DP was the one who told the midwives what I wanted and he stuck by it thgankfully it was exactly what I wanted. I was too busy trying to give birth to be coherent.

Hahahahaha!

Oh dear, he really is a bit naive isn't he?

Perhaps you could try saying that although you see epidural as something to be avoided if possible, it is very much as option. The only way you would consider doing without that option is if you can use his bollocks as squeeze balls during contractions.

“It’s not an option in my eyes” - That’s a funny joke.

Say okay, but you will be punching him in the balls everytime you’re in pain.

(I’m joking, what you really should do is get an epidural if you bloody well want one, Please do not take his wishes into account!)

As someone who didn't have an epidural and would generally prefer to avoid one, tell him the day he pushes out a 9-pound baby he can make whatever decisions he likes about his pain relief, and in the meantime he can get to fuck.

Is he often controlling and/or unreasonable?

Why? What are his reasons or worries?

Oh thank God for your last sentence!

Goodness, that's not really funny -it's quite disturbing? Why would he want you to be in pain? Why does he think he has any say over your medical decisions?

That's fine, when he's giving birth he can tell them he doesn't want an epidural. As it's you doing it, you make your own choice. He doesn't get to say how you deal with pain.

Tell him that when you’ve finished bearing his children he has to have a vasectomy without any form of anaesthetic - see what he says to that! As you said your body your choice.

My word! He strange that he thinks that he can have a say over what medical intervention you choose to manage your pain during the labour that is happening to your body.

*How strange

Seriously though, hope this is just a case of him taking the antenatal 'drugs are evil, natural is best' schtick too earnestly in a misguided attempt at being supportive.

Otherwise it's not funny at all.

Anyone else had similar comments/demands from partners?

Goodness no!

What a dobber.

Laugh, OP- but be very wary.....