Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

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Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still

Stay positive, Cheeky. The bloods will be much more accurate and cramping is normal. I've got everything crossed for you. I agree with the doctor - the weeks indicators can really cause lots of stress. You pee could have been more diluted this morning. Try not to worry.

Thank you whatsername. The first set will be taken this Monday and results should be back Wednesday and then the next set will be taken the following week (need to make that appt yet).

At least the Wednesday results should give me a rough idea of where I am.

Thinking of you AKP, hope you're back soon.

Cheeky, no I didn't. Please don't judge me but he wouldn't have understood/agreed with me spending the (my) money.

Not at all lily. Everybody's situations are different and nobody has a right to judge. I just wondered whether I would tell him after or not.

I'm tempted to phone the EPU for their advice re this weeks indicator. I should be about 5-6 weeks so it could be early to detect a heartbeat on a scan and I'm not sure whether at this stage they would be able to tell if the sac etc was alive or stopped growing.

Unfortunately it does make sense that there could've been implantation failure at this early stage.

cheeky don't give up hope yet. The hcg doesn't look promising but I've had awful cramps for three weeks now and nothing has come of it.

I'd also love another scan but my midwife is quick to warn me of the risks. Appointment extra scans are associated with slightly higher risk of miscarriage and other risks I've forgotten and she recommends I save them up for incase I need them later in the pregnancy because it's not good to have too many. So confusing

There's no harm in ringing the epu (mega x post). I was fitted in with a scan. They will be able to tell if everything is present and correct

I would have done exactly the same of you, lily. Try not to worry cheeky. Ring the epu if it will help, they might be able to put your mind at rest.

www.myinformedlife.co.uk/my-clearblue-digital-pregnancy-test-with-weeks-indicator-shows-incorrect-timing-should-i-be-freaking-out/

Just read this article which has helped a little.

That's an excellent article. Stay positive!

Good article! Step away from the clear blue woman and wait for your bloods on Monday!

Remember this thread is about being positive says the woman googling ectopic pregnancy last night due to slight twinge in thigh from sitting far too long on that side on the couch

Macauley. Me too.

For a change in my negatve Google obsession of every twinge or everything that can go wrong, I googled rainbow baby. It's lifted my spirits a bit! then I look at my DH and realise that he is his mums rainbow baby and that makes me feel like it is possible just got to ride out these really long weeks.

Macauley, I had a little panic about that last night after a couple of sharp twangs in my right abdomen.

Cheeky I hope it's not what you think. I've heard lots of people say the Clearblue predictors are not that good. I understand not wanting to get your hopes up but I am crossing fingers that the bloods tell you what you want to hear. At least you've got that weekly check set up so you won't be guessing for much longer. If it helps, I had previously had a private scan on dildocam at 6 weeks and seen a heartbeat so not long until you might be able to see something if you had a scan. Our NHS EPU won't scan til 7 weeks though so depends on where you go/are I think.

Cramping and dragging period pains are very normal and often completely innocent. I usually have them until about 10 weeks or so. Stressful though!

chelle your MW sounds quite overly cautious about the effects of ultrasounds. Lots of women have to have them very regularly and others are offered very frequent reassurance scans, eg after late or multiple loss. When I was pregnant with DD the NHS happily scanned me about 7 times and I could have had more if I'd wanted, 4 of them were to reassure me, not due to medical need.

Cheeky - to make you feel better: I got 2-3 weeks on a CB digital on Thursday which was exactly 2 weeks after ovulation. I bought some super drug cheapie tests yesterday because the digital tests only last for 24 hours and I wanted a keep sake. The top test was taken last night and the bottom this morning. I admit i worried when last nights wasnt as strong as the control line but this mornings is clearly darker. All tests are different from batch to batch and you have different levels of urine in every pot of pee. I think the pee sticks make us worry more.

Thanks whatsername. Really appreciate it.

What's worrying me is that

a) the weeks indicator was already behind (got 2-3 when it should've been potentially 3+) but I put this down to late ovulation.

b) instead of staying the same or going up its now gone down to 1-2.

Doesn't look promising does it? I do know I went to the toilet at 1.30am and then drank some water and then went at 7ish at which it looked quite pale.

Really it could go either way but I would rather just know so I can deal with it.

Got the bloods on Monday so should just be patient really.

Tempted to buy another test just to see what it shows. Was it a fluke or is it more indicative of bad news?

I'm so sorry AKP.

Cheeky, I had exactly the same thing. Cramping, spotting, clear blue 2 weeks behind. Now 13w. So so scary but don't give up. The clear blue even showed 1-2 when my hcg was 7000!

Sorry to hear you're having an anxious day Cheeky. FWIW I think Whatsername is right about the endless stick-peeing causing more worry than it solves. Not that it isn't understandable to want to cling on to something that resembles an answer. The harsh truth is that you've done everything you can do. Nothing is going to change the outcome of your pregnancy. You could get a test result that proves reassuring and then get bad news, or it could be the reverse. Or the test result could be good, and also the result, OR, indeed the reverse of that! It's such a horrid place, the limbo of not knowing and its so unfair that miscarriage robs us, not only of those potential babies, but of the chance to get excited by a pregnancy like everyone else. You are so fortunate to have an understanding doctor. I hope that those weekly appointments are going to be a comfort to you.

Macauley and Butterfly, I also spent a night thinking I had an ectopic pregnancy a few weeks ago. It's great that we are so well informed these days, in large part due to the internet, but there is a part of me that wonders if all this was easier in the days when women probably only knew what their midwives told them and most people were likely blissfully unaware of all the potential horrors.

I have a big deadline as part of a postgraduate course I'm doing on Monday and I really need to concentrate on getting everything done this weekend. Still so much to do. I am usually a last minute, work through the night kind of girl but for obvious reasons, that just isn't working for me this time. It is proving impossibly hard to concentrate with the thought of my scan on Wednesday looming on the horizon. I cannot wait to be done on Monday, then at least there will only be one thing on my mind!

Thanks so much girls for your support.

Basically no point getting another clear blue today as it prob won't be conclusive. If it's back to 2-3 I would feel better though. But chances are it might not be...

Bloods on Monday can't come quick enough. 2 days for results?

I would still scan tinkly. If they offer you it id take it.

Bit down about the difference between this pregnancy and the last one. DH hasnt really acknowledged it's happening and if I talk about twinges or symptoms he just doesn't enter into conversation about it all. I mean I get it, I'm not shouting from the rooftops either and im being super cautious about how involved im getting just in case it goes wrong (which lets face it is dumb I'll still be just as gutted). But I would just like some kind of support from DH.

I agree with Macauley , take the scan.

Can appreciate what your saying Macauley. Feel the same with my DH. Especially today since I've mentioned the whole clear blue weeks thing. Could do with lots of hugs.

Think men sometimes find it hard to find something to say when there is no 'solution' to offer, which is a shame, because just recognising how the other person is feeling is often enough.

Could also be self-preservation on your DH's part, Macauley? I'm sure he was as shocked as you by your loss.

Also, they're men. Even in non-anxious circumstances, I'm not convinced they really get what's happening and how it makes you feel. I can't blame them really, I wouldn't have been able to understand it either, pre-pregnancy.

And yes Tinkly, I'd take the scan if it's been offered to you.

My dh has been similar but has openly said he won't handle another loss as well as he did last time. He's being a bit ott if I'm honest, questioning me about whether x,y and z is 'safe' etc which is really annoying because I'd never do anything unsafe. He has also told people I'm pregnant - his boss and his best work friend. When I had dd and with our lost baby he was adamant we mustn't tell anyone until the 12 week scan but this time he wants to tell people. I don't mind to be honest but despite all of this, he isn't talking much to me which is a bit annoying.