Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

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Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still

I feel like I'm in a daze

What's everyone up to tonight? Sorry for being such a party pooper I know this is supposed to be a positive thread. Don't mean to drag anyone else down.

I've had a fairly busy day, catching up with housework then went to visit mil and dh's uncle who is recovering from a heart attack. Had a KFC on the way home and just having a quiet night.

Mine is the same whatsername he's not talking at all about it. He even queried the flipping test result even though it's clearly positive! He did have a tough time with the mc. I had a natural mc at the hospital and he had to witness two medical procedures that were tough going. So yes mike I think your right it's a bit of self preservation. I just wish he'd acknowledge it.

cheeky just sitting in tonight watching tv cuddling my dogs

My miscarriage was a few years ago and with a different partner and was the beginning of the ending of that relationship. Current partner, who is lovely and supportive, has no clue really what that was like although I have done my best to explain. Couple that with the fact that this pregnancy was the result of a pill failure as opposed to a planned event and I have to say he's coping admirably so far. We've not been talking about it all that much though. I guess we'll see with whatever the scan throws at us on Wednesday.

As for tonight, I am dragging myself, sentence by sentence, towards my deadline. Envious of everyone who is relaxing on their sofas!

Sat eating peanut butter sandwiches and watching reruns of Farther Ted whilst snuggled up in my mermaid blanket.

I'd have the scan if it was me Tinkly

Good luck with your deadline mike. That must be hard that your DP hasn't shared the Mc with you and hence having to try and help him "get it".

I'm getting the first waves of nausea. Bollocks. Hoped it would be a bit later, but it's not too much yet. Hateful feeling.

DH is currently laying the new floor in our kitchen. I have been washing cat sick off DD's duvet...

Just had some brown watery discharge.. I think this is the beginning of the end for me.

Thanks. I'll phone the EPU in the morning xx

Thanks. I'll phone the EPU in the morning xx

((Cheeky)) I'm sorry. I hope the EPU can see you today. Just be prepared that it's possible you won't get a definitive answer today. In pre 7 weeks pregnancies I think they often say they need to do 2 scans 2 weeks apart to determine viability. Take care lovely, come and talk to us all if it helps xx

Thank you. I've just been thinking the same thing. Might not get a conclusive answer today but it also Could be obvious it's not viable if measuring too small.

I had bleeding last time around this stage too and it was fine at this point (but then stopped growing at approx 9 weeks and discovered at 12 weeks). I wonder if the bleeding at 6 weeks was a sign that something wasn't quite right even though they picked up a heartbeat. I remember them saying the chances of miscarriage after heartbeat detected were even lower. The stats mean nothing though as it's just all a lottery.

Is anyone able to share their experience of miscarriage at 6 weeks? Did they go for medical or surgical management? Since my body clung on last time I don't think it will fully miscarry itself.

Going into have bloods at 10. She didn't sound hopeful when I told her about the weeks indicator going the wrong way.

She said they don't think they would see anything on a scan - although if I didn't tell her about the weeks indicator I think she probably would've offered me a scan.

I guess the bloods just be for confirmation of miscarriage and to decide how to manage it.

Try not to panic just yet. Like butterfly said, they may not be able to tell you anything conclusive today. I know it's not easy

Thanks. Just rather prepare myself for the worst. Don't want to tell work this time so not sure how I'll take time off.

Thanks. Just rather prepare myself for the worst. Don't want to tell work this time so not sure how I'll take time off.

Thinking about you cheeky. Hoping for you.

Thanks. Had the bloods taken she will phone after lunch with the results X

Keeping everything crossed for you x

Keeping everything crossed cheeky.

How you doing cheeky?

tinkly I wrote you a massive long reply on my phone this morning but it wouldn't send and I lost the whole lot. Annoying.

I've found a quote from something on the nhs website AGNIR says there is no conclusive evidence that ultrasound is dangerous to the developing baby. However, further research is needed to determine if there are any long-term adverse health effects. From here It doesn't seem to be overly damning. I think my midwife was basically trying to say that there are risks and they aren't really researched so I should only really have scans if necessary.

Saying that, she's pretty ummm natural in her midwifery philosophies. She does both nhs and private midwifery and does placenta freezing/dehumidifying and other bits like that. She encouraged me to think through what scans and testing I want and told me that while recommended, none of it is compulsory. She's awesome but certainly very interesting

The hospital phoned and said the HCG level was only 129. They'll repeat on Tuesday but most definitely a miscarriage.

Thanks for everyone's support and Input. Wishing you all the best of luck and really hope you get the babies you deserve. Will miss you guys xx

Hugs to you xx

Oh no I'm sorry. I hope it's much less traumatic and painful than the one before. Let us know how you get on on Tuesday. Wishing you all the best. I'm sorry this has happened xx

cheeky. Look after yourself xx