Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

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Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still

Hi ladies
Was advised to join this thread.
I have a 4 year old son already me and my partner have been trying since April last year finally fell in November but miscarried in January found baby stopped growing at 6 weeks but thought i was 9 werks.
We have been trying since and after what feels likes long 5months I finally did a test Sunday morning and it was positive. I was due on today so am only early days but trying so hard to not stress. Which is Seeming impossible.
We told friends and family and our son last time over Xmas as we thought It would be a nice surprise but was a lesson learnt. Trying to keep it on the low this time until we have a scan and know all is OK.

Really hoping all works out fingers crossed x

Hi charlotte Welcome, but sorry you have to be here. Congratulations on your pregnancy. I had a blighted ovum in August (thought I was 7 weeks pregnant but baby had never developed) and am now 34 weeks pregnant. I know how hard it is trying to keep that balance of being excited about being pregnant but not wanting to get your hopes up. I would say that I regret spending so much of my pregnancy being anxious, and wish I could have relaxed more. I hadn't told anyone except my partner before I miscarried, but in my second pregnancy I told friends earlier than that as I felt like the support would be there if I miscarried again. It's really about what you feel most comfortable doing :-)

Hi Sophia1984
Congratulations aswell.
I spose in time and once I see a flickering little heartbeat I will feel better about it all...
I have so much coming to up like a hen party this Saturday wedding in 2 weeks time a theme park trip with my son and friends I play netball once a week if I stop these or people notice I am not drinking they will guess I am pregnant which I don't want them to do but can't stop it really. I'm not a good liar either but will try my best...
Friends and family were there for me but was hard as none of them apart from 1 friend has gone through it... the rest said all the usual things people say when trying to support you but didn't help really... was sad and upsetting for all so trying to avoid it this time round...just in case
Did you find out the sex of your bubba xx

Tinkly thanks for responding, glad to know yet again my little niggles are nothing to be worrying over! I've been going to the toilet fine, when I do go it feels like a relief but it doesn't help with my rounded belly! Partner told me off for mentioning twins lol. I'm hoping there is just one healthy one in there, that'll be just fine!
Charlotte I have been in exactly the same place as you. I'm currently 6+3 after 2 mc's. I know the anxiety it causes but when I came back to this thread and one of these lovely ladies said to me "there is literally nothing you can do to change the outcome" I knew she was right. I have tried to keep the mantra of "what will be, will be" in my head. I know this may be useless to you when your so early on but try to take each day as it comes. If you can't avoid telling people, don't put pressure on yourself to lie.
I really didn't want to tell my parents as I knew they'd be stressing for me again but in the end it was a relief to let it out. They are embracing my attitude, picking me up when I feel crap from the nausea and there if I need them.
It wouldn't be a bad thing to have that for you too.
Whatever you decide about telling people, I hope this pregnancy is plain sailing for you....your in the right place for hand holding and head wobbling!

Has anybody heard from keys? Starting to get concerned it's been so long. If your reading this, let us know your ok! Take care too.

Goodnight ladies xx

Massive congratulations, Eastend. Your son is beautiful!

Happy to hear positive scan news from Princess, am I right in thinking Tinkly has a scan coming up? Good luck for Mac on Friday and Carrick on Monday (I think.... this thread moves so fast these days!)

Welcome Charlotte, glad you found us! The support here is invaluable, I've found.

17 weeks tomorrow and I've had to give in and buy maternity jeans. I have been getting by with regular clothes that are supposed to be loose but no longer are. It's that horrid awkward stage of looking like I've eaten a lot of pies but not particularly pregnant. I'm hoping that the maternity jeans will at least fit in all the non-baby places. It is hard to get into the spirit of these things with the ever present 'what if...' looming but taking things one day at a time seems to be working ok for now.

Just a heads up if anyone now or in future tries fizzy water to beat morning sickness. It really doesn't work if there is any flavouring in the water at all

lynsey I've been suffering from awful bloating, my stomach looks so rounded. I don't look pregnant, just like I've eaten all the pies!!

truly are you ok? Are you able to go for a scan? Maybe privately?

welcome charlotte

Tinkly What time is your scan today? I'm sure it was today??

Yep, Mike I'm Monday morning. Midwife and scan one after the other. I've just bought those jeans extender things, where you can hook into the buttons so you can walk around with your jeans undone!

mac

I have lived off fizzy water with a splash of juice mixed in since the beginning basically. Any juice does the job, the pink grapefruit one is particularly good. A squeeze of lemon also works well....

Going to my first pregnancy yoga this morning. Wish me luck, ladies...

Oh no Mac

Welcome charlotte, I hope you find the group support helpful and everything crossed for you.

Thinking of you today tinkly, wishing you luck.

Enjoy the yoga mike. Hope you've found some decent mat jeans. I find that a bloody nightmare, am fussy and awkward shaped and can't seem to find what I'm after. If you happen to spot any slim, not skinny, under bump jeans that come in an 8 long or 10 long give me a shout!

Thank you all.
LynseyH5 - I am going to take that attitude... I cant change anything unfortunately. will take each day as it comes. if it gets too much not telling people I will mention it may help but just don't want everyone knowing and asking me, at the moment I can put it to the back of my head.
good luck all in your pregnancies hope to speak to you all soon :) x

Princess, great news.
Lynsey what a relief to get some meds. I had a phone consultation with my GP at 7 weeks, begged for tablets and literally sobbed down the phone with relief when she said 'of course you can!'. That reminds me, I need to send her a thank you card!
Mac poor you, I would definitely recommend getting all the help you can with sickness, tablets included if you need them. Re the water, have you tried ice cubes and lollies? I also drank milk in the first few weeks as water was one of my major voting triggers.
Welcome Charlotte and I hope you have a good outcome this time.
Good luck today Tinkly

Anyone heard from tinkly ?

How was yoga mike?

Afternoon everyone. Well the tablets kinda work. Literally for about 2 hrs at a time :-/ I went to have my hair done today and had a few moments of panic when I thought I might be sick...I need to hibernate til this passes! I might ring docs again in the morning to see if she can offer something different. Makes me really tired too so only able to wear my contact lenses til after lunch and I take them out cos my eyes get sore. Jeez this part isn't fun!
I'm kinda offloading and running so hope all is well with everyone and will catch up soon x

I am super proud of myself - I voted today, which is the first time I have left the house other than to drive DD to school in the past 4 weeks. I also walked down the garden and looked at my veg patch. Baby steps

Sorry Lynsey it is shit isn't it. I love my tablets but they certainly don't work magic. SOunds like yours aren't helping much though - if you've tried them for 3-4 days then I think you know that they are not doing the trick. Definitely worth asking to try an alternative.

How is everyone getting on today?

I am 31 weeks after a loss last July at 15 weeks. These past few months have been the most stressful of my life, but I am happy we're nearing the finish line.

I've not relaxed once this whole time, it's nice to know others have struggled and I'm not alone! (Not that I'd wish the stress on anyone :( )

Aww lynsey well done on getting your hair done and butterfly for going out to vote. I was so proud of myself for getting through a dental appointment without throwing up on the dentist! Felt like a major achievement.

Nearly there emyloo

Starting to feel so anxious now about tomorrow my heart is racing, I'm so scared.

Sorry I've just done the worst possible thing you can do and googled all sorts about missed miscarriage and no heartbeats at 10 weeks. Now convinced im going to find out tomorrow it's over

Stupid I know and I need a slap. Stress ate half a bag of Doritos to make me feel better

I ate a full bag of doritos on Tuesday night. A family sized bag. To myself. Mac - I have wound myself up in exactly the same way. I'm avoiding booking my next scan as I'm so scared. I know I need too though. Try and relax, I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you xx

Fab news Tinkly!

All the good thoughts for Mac for tomorrow.

Tinkly, I hope today (if it was today??) was positive for you.

Really glad I went to yoga, I think. It was strange, as it was so unlike regular yoga. A lot more of the breathing, focussing your mind type stuff. Less of the balancing on one leg, standing on head etc, which I suppose is to be expected. The other ladies there are all further along than me, I think it's not generally advised to start this class until 16+ weeks. The teacher was lovely, and seemed super-knowledgeable. This sounds ridiculous written down but she was talking about 'the babies' as if they were real entities, telling us to send them breaths, or thoughts. It really made me realise that I am the odd one out, for not doing that of my own accord. It almost made me quite emotional. But I think in a good way. Has / will anyone else tried / try it?

Congrats tinkly

It was a family bag whatser. I also have an emergency sharing bag of maltesers on standby.

Sorry Tinkly, posted that before I'd read your update. Congratulations!

Mac - . Try not to stress. Nothing you can do today will change what will happen tomorrow and at least, this time, you are properly informed on the possibilities.

Thinking of you today Mac