Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

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Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still

Morning all.
size if you need your bed and your able to stay there, do it. Twinges etc are to be expected as your body is changing. It's if the pain is severe that you'd need to seek out help.
tinkly I hope your plan for the day is on track so far! Sounds like quite a pleasant day for you and the sun is shining too.
My plan is to stay on the sofa as much as possible. I've been quite busy the last few days which has been hard with the nausea but I've coped somehow. I tried a little bag of salt and vinegar puff type things the other day and they were sooooo good. Now I can't find them in any shop at all Sleep seems like a luxury right now as I'm just tossing and turning all night. Lack of sleep makes me feel sick so I'm in a vicious circle right now.
I'd rather night feeds over this any day!!
Anyways, I hope you all have a lovely drama free day and enjoy some sunshine xx

Im struggling today. Im 9+1 with my third pregnancy ( Ihave one DD who is 5 and I lost a baby in January). I have popped. My lower tummy is round and firm and is noticeable, at least to me. It is making it all so real and so scary. I've seen the baby now, with a healthy heartbeat and now my bump is starting and I cant stay in denial anymore. I'm terrified because i'm so scared that I wont cope if something bad happens now. Every time I see my tummy it is a reminder of what I could lose. I know it is early to be starting to pop but the same happened with my daughter and, to a lesser extent with my lost baby. With my daughter I was in maternity clothes at 12 weeks and with my last pregnancy I noticed my bump pop around 10 weeks. I tend to pop early but by the end of my pregnancy with dd I measured small and was quite neat. Every time I see my tummy I want to cry. Sorry to bring the mood down, I just wanted to get it out.

Eastend he is beautiful! I hope you feel calmer now he is here

Whoo! Another one safely in the world! I love the birth annoucements!

Aw whatser take it easy and have a little cry if you need to. You have to do what feels right for you right now to help yourself along in the emotional roller coaster that your on. Your allowed days where it all feels too much but also tomorrow you could wake up happy...take it as it comes.

bowser if yours was a Facebook post, I'd have liked!! What a lovely way to word what we all are thinking.

I have a little bit of 'good' news. Doctor was happy to prescribe anti nausea tablets I'm thrilled and now just hope they work. I did just eat a Mars bar and really enjoyed it too first chocolate I've eaten since the yucky feeling kicked in! Was upset to find out I'd bought salted crisps instead of salt and vinegar so the Mars bar helped make me feel better hehe x

Woooo for drugs Lynsey! I felt over the moon and nearly cried with relief when my GP said "I am writing a prescription". What have they given you? I found it took 24-48 hours for them to properly kick in, and part of that was getting some food and drink into once I felt able to. There's various meds and they work differently so if in a few days you aren't feeling some improvement go back and ask to try something else. Hope you are feeling more human soon

Oh whatser ((hugs)) for you, it is hard, and somehow still a shock when you are suddenly faced with the visible proof that there is something going on - as you say, it's having the protection of denial removed. It's understandable to struggle.

Been very silly and instead of reassuring myself have made everything worse. I spoke to a friend who also had a miscarriage at the same time as me and she's also pregnant again.
We are vets and she told me she's been scanning herself every week.
I decided to scan myself as I've been feeling very anxious.
Anyway couldn't see anything on the scan. It was a very silly thing to do, our us machine is not great and maybe I'm too early but now I feel a bit sick and I dont have a scan until the 7th so will just have to wait and see. Feel very silly but at least I have accepted what could happen again on the 7th, I just hope if it is it's not another molar. I have been feeling very different than that time but think that's getting my hopes up. My DP is sure everything will be fine

my Dp also told me not to scan so now I feel like I cant moan to him!!

Hi all, just popping in to say that I had my scan & saw a heartbeat :) I cried all the way through though from sitting down to talk to the nurse to finding out it was ok so far. I still feel anxious as I've seen a heartbeat before & gone on to have a mc but it's one hurdle passed. I was convinced something was wrong, my symptoms have disappeared. I measured 3 days earlier than I was expecting but at around 6-7 weeks the nurse said if was fine.

One thing I would say is that this was a private scan with the private fertility clinic & although expensive (£120) it was really thorough & clear and she was great. They've just transferred me to NHS fertility care now as I'd been referred so I'll be looked after by them & scanned every 2 weeks. With my MMC I had a much cheaper scan in a scan shop essentially. It would've been fine if all was ok but it wasn't enough care for me at that time.

Hope everyone else is feeling ok today xxx

Frob my best friend is a vet nurse and she couldn't really make anything out on her work sonograph machine until way after 12 weeks. Even then it was blurred. Thanks for all of the kind words everyone. I'm going to book a private scan in a couple of weeks just before we go on holiday. Hoping to have the NHS one when we get back. Although if the NHS one comes through for before the holiday I'll wait until I get back for the private one. Scans are a mixed blessing. You feel reassured for a moment but it doesn't last.

Congrats to you princess, glad it went well!

tinkly I've been wondering when your scan date is. Mine's not till monday!! I think the pain you're feeling is a sign of everything stretching and moving around. I had a lot of sharp pains in my stomach muscles until I started swimming - I think the swimming stretched everything back out. My lower back is also very clicky. Every time I sit up everything creaks and clicks. Same is happening with my belly, I have a hard bit lower down and all the fat/guts have been pushed up. I look like I've eaten all the pies although have actually lost about a stone because I've not been able to eat much

princess such good news about your scan. I bet you're really relieved!
lynsey Thank goodness you've managed to get some meds! Hope you manage to get some food in you now.

whatser sorry to hear you're feeling fragile. I think we're all going to find our pregnancies a roller coster of emotions. It's really tough but hang in there and with any luck all of our babies will arrive safely. I know exactly how you feel though. I was in tears to DH the other day saying to him "i hope this baby doesn't die", it's a hideous feeling of dread and not wanting to get my hopes up too much

princess great news, first hurdle hurdled!

Oh frobs! I imagine as an untrained person, and trying to scan yourself it is not going to be easy. Remember your baby is only about 2cm long so probably quite hard to find, esp with all the other organs around. I was always amazed watching sonographers that the tiniest tilt and the whole thing disappears and you find yourself admiring your bladder or something instead. I'm sure it's all fine but can understand why you now feel stressed out. I suppose you have to weigh up the stress til the 7th vs the cost of a proper scan asap.

tinkly sounds like all the normal stretching/rearranging discomfort. Not nice though.

I got booked in yesterday and my lovely midwife is going to see if she can get them to bring my scan forwards a bit (it's scheduled for 13+1 at the moment) so that would be great. She's also checked and found that my consultant appointment has been arranged (nice of them to write to me!) and that's on 19th July (12+2) so it would make a lot of sense to have the scan before that so we are talking about realities not hypotheticals. Can just see me having a mmc or twins or something otherwise and having to phone her straight back up and go and re-plan!

I found myself musing this morning about whether I would chose medical or surgical management and childcare options for DD and had to try and snap out of it. I just can't help but think that however fine it might be right now, it will of course all go A over T at somepoint so considering the logistics. It's hard to be positive isn't it. I wish I knew if things were even on track now. I've a history of holding onto non viable babies so the idea that development is going awry/stopped/never started haunts me through the nights.

Morning ladies. They gave me prochlorperazine. I've just taken my first one (could only fetch them this morning) so now waiting to see if they make any difference. Fingers are firmly crossed. Bit worried about the drowsiness they can cause but will have to see how I go.

Wow there is so much going on! Congratulations princess on your great scan news!
For those feeling low, take each day as it comes and put no extra pressure on yourself. This is a really good time to be selfish! Put yourself and your needs first and do what you have to, to get through.
frobs very similar advice to the googlers, step away from the US machine! You'll do yourself no good by doing that right now and very possibly you couldn't see anything because you should be laying flat which is almost impossible if your scanning yourself.
Hope everyone has a lovely day xx

Lynsey that's great you got tablets. Just waiting for my booking appt, feels like Groundhog Day. Hoping for some help with the sickness and that last weeks random blood spot isn't an issue.

Hugs whatser hope you feel better today.

You'll need to see a GP for sickness meds Mac, the MW can't prescribe them. I would go for them if I was you. I wish I had in my past pregnancies, it's made a big difference, and frankly what is the point in suffering? Tried reducing my dose at the weekend - mistake! Back to 3 x a day.

Yeah didn't get anything but she did give me suggestions to try, one of which is working amazingly well! So far only been sick once today which is better than yesterday's five times. She has made me feel lots more positive about my scan and the random blood spot not an issue. So all in all a positive appointment

What is the top tip? Glad it's helping and you are feeling positive. Have you got a scan date?

Just had the midwife on the phone to say the fetal medicine consultant has decided he wants to do my screening scan but is on holiday so it's been put back another day. They are planning on organising a dating/viability scan a week or so before for my peace of mind which is nice. And then there's the ob/gyn consultant appointment for making a plan of care. So now I have appointments lined up at 3 different hospitals in a fortnight... and another at a 4th private hospital a day later for DD's chicken pox vaccination. Keeping them busy! I do feel slightly embarrassed to be a hassle but on the other hand if everyone had textbook straightforward pregnancies the consultants would be out of a job. GP on Friday for thyroid check up and sorting the next bloods.

I'm so so tired at the moment, falling asleep multiple times through the day - reading is a surefire way to get some zzzz's in! Just hoping I get a burst of 2nd trimester energy in time for the school summer holidays.

Referendum tomorrow!

Fizzy water! No idea why but I can drink this, I'm so happy! Scan is on Friday so only have one day now to wait to find out what's happening.

That's good you have all your appointments lined up now. I find I feel better when I have a date to focus on, it kind of breaks down the waiting that little bit.

Oh tiredness I hear you, I could fall asleep right now

Oh and she mentioned the T word which could be why I feel so bad. But I'm not telling DH about that as it will just freak him out!!! Guess we shall see on Friday how many are in there

Fizzy stuff is what's keeping me going too. I've branched out from the lucozade a bit but still diluting it down with ice cubes.
Can I ask about when you ladies had bloating? If you did. For some reason today my belly has gone really round (only 6+3). For the past week or so I've felt a bit jellyish around my belly, now I look about 4/5 months gone! I know fizzy drinks can blow you out but I'm drinking by sipping bits at a time and a cans worth can last about 4 hours so I'm excluding that! It's making me feel super heavy too

Hello everyone.

Butterfly I hear what you're saying about running through scenarios in your mind. I have a dread feeling today that came out of nowhere with no real basis. I felt like my nipples were slightly less sore so in my mind this means mc
Deep breaths all round