Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

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Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still

The lack of cramps is good. I've bled twice this pregnancy so far - the first time the scan was fine. Second time nothing came of it. I'm hoping it's nothing for you too. They don't normally panic when it's a small amount of blood, so hopefully it's 'nothing'.

We've got 3 and a half weeks left of the first trimester tinkly! It's going to be a bloody long 3 and a half weeks (i'm sat here chilling on the laptop, cramping like crazy and trying the psych myself up for work)

Sorry to hear that Tinkly. I think you're right about wait and see. That is in all likelihood what anyone would say. Try not to panic and remember bleeding doesn't always mean disaster. So much easier said than done I know.

Chelle sounds like you've had an anxious week. I hope the scan on Friday provides some reassurance for you.

Are you feeling any better today, butterfly? I have been blessed with a rare day with no commitments of any magnitude and have spent most of it napping on the couch. Hope you've also been able to get some rest.

We have started telling people and very irrationally, I think that has caused me to develop a whole new level of anxieties. It's like once I share the news, it is outside my control. Which it is anyway, hence the irrationality! If anything were to go wrong at this stage, I can't think how awful un-telling all these people would be.

mike I told people about my last pregnancy before I was 12 weeks - most people knew by about 8. I have no regrets about that. People were mostly amazing and I'm thankful that my friends and family knew what I went through. It hit my DH really hard, we were close to calling off the wedding and almost went off the radar for three or four months. I don't think you'll regret it

rest up tinkly x

tinkly when I had my mc I had zero pregnancy symptoms and the worst cramps ever. Fingers crossed everything is all good!

Thanks guys for lovely welcome back no contractions have not stopped :( I feel exhausted three weeks been contracting for now and they will get worst then my waters will go so I've been told however this could happen at any point so every hour to me is so precious I really don't want another preemie my poor little girl suffers so much further to being born so early bless her I've had my steroid injections just encase. They said in wouldn't make it past 30 weeks but I'm 29 weeks on Sunday so I'm hanging in there thanks for lovely messages
Thanks east hun I'll have a look as I'm a little worried spike to my midwife today she don't seem concerned at all and the doctors didn't either but when you try to read the scan and no one can explain it to you start worrying so so much. Think I'm measuring 26+4 but was 28 weeks i think i worry more about the head being so small as his length put me over my dates but the my OH has such a small head his nickname is peanut lol so I'm sure I'm worrying over nothing . This is what I mean from the minute you get them 2 lines the worry in constant.

Ahhh tink so sorry to hear of your worry I bled so much with little man I was in and out of epu all the time in really hope oh gives you lots of cuddles and stay strong hun hand holding with you.

Really feel for everyone in their first trimester keep going guys in promise you there are so many success stories with us further along now I remember being where you are now like it was yesterday and it does go quick even though to you it don't feel like that because of the anxiety. It don't help that there's not a lot of support our there either for anyone under 24 weeks it's like if the baby is not viable then they don't care I've had it all the way through. I remember getting a nasty infection at 18 weeks was kept in hospital for a week and a doctor saying just send her home there's nothing we can do for the baby she thought I couldn't hear her but I could. I got so so upset . Here I am 10 weeks later being told baby is small and I could have him at anytime the worry is non stop.

I found this site so so supportive and I know you guys will to. Big hugs to everyone xxxx

Awww keys hang on in there! Three weeks contacting sounds exhausting.

((Tinkly)) so sorry you are going through this. It's a good sign that the bleeding has stopped and you aren't cramping. I had a bleed at 11 weeks with DD and she was fine, but I remember the stomach churning fear and I do feel for you. If you wanted to have a scan to check things you could tell your MW on Monday about the bleeding - they would probably offer you one if it would ease your stress not to be guessing and wondering. Hoping for you. The sickness is a good but horrible sign!

Welcome princess.

God keys you've been through it. How prem was your DD? Are they going to let you deliver vaginally if labour establishes or is it better for the baby to do a CS? The stress sounds immense. You are doing a great job holding on x

Another rotten day here thanks, mike! I feel quite a lot better now which is ace, hence back on the laptop, I couldn't cope with the screen earlier. Thinking I should probably seize the moment and eat something!
It's hard isn't it in some ways when you tell people. I felt under more pressure to "succeed", but on the other hand preferred to have the honesty and not be dodging questions/people and fibbing.

My last pregnancy was unplanned and I had very complicated feelings about it and refused point blank to let DH tell anyone. However, once we knew we were going to have to let him go due to all his problems I suddenly had no issue telling anyone. The trouble with telling people is that the stock response is "congratulations!" and I found that really hard - I didn't want to hear that until the baby had arrived safely, it felt rather too much like counting chickens/jumping the gun. Having had a late loss I never once felt I had reached a "safe" point in pregnancy and when expecting DD felt robbed of the chance to be excited. I couldn't bear other people being excited for me, it felt like they were getting an experience with my baby that I couldn't have. Complicated old mess really. It's normal to feel weird about it though I think.

How are you feeling today Mac?

Lots of positive vibes Keys!

Any thoughts from anyone about taking aspirin? I've not seen a consultant yet, my appointment is in July, so I've not had any advice on what to do yet. I wasn't expecting a BFP so quickly. I feel like things aren't ok so I may as well so whatever I can to try to help it stick. I've taken aspirin today but don't know whether to carry on. Thoughts welcome!

I'm feeling a bit better thanks butterfly. Still really nauseous at times but find if I eat something it can make feel a bit better. Just having trouble today with needing to pee constantly

Princess my consultant last summer said unless prescribed that women shouldn't be taking aspirin to prevent miscarriage, unless it's been precribed for a specific condition. I was being seen at the St Marys RMC, Manchester, a regional reserch centre. My consultant told me that the number of studies on aspirin and miscarriage prevention were showing that there's slightly worse outcomes for women taking aspirin, compared to not taking it.

Aaaaah! Thanks Mimi. Maybe I won't take it again then!

Mimi, low dose aspirin is prescribed in first trimester for women with a diagnosis of Hughes syndrome. Details [[http://www.babycentre.co.uk/x568978/is-it-safe-to-take-aspirin-during-pregnancy here]]. Dosage is 60-100 milligrams.

There are increased risk of miscarriage associated with use of higher dosage aspirin. I have been considering taking aspirin ( on the basis that it might help and it won't hurt, but there is a risk that it may cause damage and it will only help protect against one possible cause of miscarriage. So, on balance, I decided that the gain is potential quite minimal and the risks higher than I first thought, so I won't be bothering with aspirin.

I think pregnancy loss should be taught about and discussed more. It would help you understand what's happening if it happens to you and also maybe help people to talk about it more.

Doctor said it was up to me if I decided to take aspirin. She did say it could irritate the stomach lining. I decided against as if I lose this pregnancy I want to do it for the next one and it'll let me clutch at something that's different.

So glad the bleeding has stopped now tinkly

Yorkshire thanks for the study info, my consultant wasn't specific with the facts, but he did say they'd been advising women to take low dose aspirin just 6 mths prior to my appt as it was seen as a no risk, might do something option.

Tinkly it might be worth speaking to your MW about aspirin, I think it can increase the chance of bleeding because it thins the blood, but I'm not a health professional, so definitely don't have an expert opinion.

I took my 4th hpt yesterday and the test line appeared before the control, felt a bit silly for doing that but am starting to feel this bean may stick. Brown spotting also stopped and between feeling knackered, nauseous, the constant peeing, the mega spots and womble pains, I feel pretty pregnant. Got an early scan in 3 wks and MW happy for me to arrange booking appointment once I know everything is ok. After having all the RMC tests come back negative, and no no known reasons for my previous 3 MCs, I'm feeling quite calm not sure how long it will last though, have even carried on riding my bike to work. I've been told numerous times that there's very little I can do affect the outcome of my pregnancies so I'm taking the carry on as normal approach and see what happens. I'm following the guidelines on what not to eat and drink, just not avoiding doing stuff like cycling cos I'm pregnant this time. Sorry for the rambling post.

I'm 6 weeks today and the nausea has kicked in. I feel like I can smell everything and it's making me feel sick. I'm really frightened of molar pregnancy due to having a 2-3 week result on a cbd at 4 weeks and a 3+ at 5. I'm worried my hcg levels are too high. I've had lots of tummy aches and lower back ache. I've got ibs so I tend to get lower tummy pain anyway. Plus I'm constipated (Sorry tmi) so I'm not sure how much to read into it. Two more weeks and I should get my scan so if nothing happens before then, and I'll know for sure. It's just so horrible.

Stick with it keys. You must be exhausted. Glad they've gotten some steroids in to you.

Glad the bleeding has stopped tinkly

I had such an awful dream last night - dreamt that I was pregnant with twins. One was dead and the other hadn't developed properly. My dreams play heavily on my mind because of last time. Roll on the scan tomorrow, although I'm convinced it'll be bad news!

chelle dreams are the worst and I get the reading into them as I do it too. Last time the night before I miscarried I had a dream where dh's nana (who had recently died) told me she had clothes for the baby and would take care of him. I find that strangely comforting now. Recent dreams although vivid have been about weird stuff like forgetting to buy tinned tomatoes at Aldi. But dreams still make me freak out sometimes.

Off to spend the day with my mum. I still don't want to tell her yet it makes it too real. Fingerscrossed I can get through the day without being sick.

My dream for my mmc freaked me out. I've probably already told it on this thread. I was about six weeks and dreamt the baby was dead. Woke up in tears telling DH that the baby was dead. He reassured me. Five weeks later I had a scan. Baby had stopped developing at six weeks. Freaky.

Enjoy the day with your Mum - I'm so bored of work being quiet (and worrying about money). The idea of maternity leave is currently a very scary thing

Hi all checking in - all well with my the little bub 19+4 today so almost halfway! The first trimester after a mc was full of anxiety but this far along I've let my self relax about it especially since the little one is kind enough to give me a kick now and then to let me know she is ok ☺️

Sorry things have been so tough keys - thinking of you and hope things settle down.

Thanks for giving us all some hope Lillian!

I'm going to try denial mode now - I've thrown away my cheap Internet tests as I think they're a dodgy batch. I got a clear + on a clearblue test this morning but another v faint on the cheapies. I'm going to try to ignore myself & not test again for at least a few days. Maybe Monday as that will be 1 week. How ridiculous, 1 week!!

Hang in there keys!

Just checking in - 21+1 here today and all rather uneventful so far in second trimester.

For those of you going through those first agonising 12 weeks, keep positive! I had brown spotting and a huge bleed just before my 12 week scan but all was Ok on the scan, and everything's been fine since. X

Thank you lillian and northern its so good to hear about life passed the first trimester!