Staying posifrickentive- Thread 8 for ladies after mc

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Hi ladies. I am rubbish at this computer stuff I hope this has worked as we can not add anymore onto our old post.

Good luck today northern - look forward to hearing all about it later xx

Good luck today northern - look forward to hearing all about it later xx

Good luck today northern - look forward to hearing all about it later xx

Thanks Sunday for the reassurance. Yep my MCs were all first tri. (none got beyond 8 wks).

Doc gave me a vit B12 jab this morning. One less thing to worry about.

Officially in the blue camp - baby very keen to show us he was a boy. All fine with measurements etc, I do have a synechiae band they've noted but shouldn't be an issue. From googling it seems it can be spontaneous or potentially left over from surgical mc management so hopefully nothing sinister.
Anyway right now I don't really care, baby is healthy and happy judging from the dancing going on!
Still can't feel definite kicks but watching the screen he was going for it and couldn't tell so he is obviously very well cushioned in there.
Have also just gone a bit doolally and bought a few things but so cute and so nice to have a moment of pure enjoyment

Hello...

Can I join in? I'm an undetermined number of weeks pregnant following a contraceptive pill failure. I lost my first pregnancy, with a previous partner, about 2 years ago. I told my current partner yesterday. He was wide-eyed with shock but supportive and wonderful.

I saw the practice nurse at my GP surgery today, hoping that she would be able to refer me for an early scan. She has suggested I return next week to see the doctor, who will be able to refer me to the maternity people, and then presumably they will arrange the scan. It seems a rather long winded approach but I was too dazed to properly argue for what I wanted. My partner's worries seem centred on how we would afford a baby with our precarious financial situation and where we would put it in our rented one bedroom flat - valid concerns - but things that I cannot even begin to think about until I know whether this pregnancy is going to go the same way as the last one. It feels like the first step there is finding out where I'm at.

Whoever pointed out that its not just the pregnancy that is lost in a miscarriage, but also your innocence and naiveté with regard to the process was bang on. I have no positive feelings about this pregnancy and I cannot envisage a way to move my default emotion from anxiety any time soon. I have a demanding job and am nearing the end of a Master's degree but am unable to concentrate on anything. I know from reading this thread that I'm far from alone. Any advice for all of this?

Hi mike, like you I recently joined this thread. Everything you express is normal for our world.

You asked for advice, I can only tell you how I am trying to cope. By taking things as easy as possible. I'm trying to remove all the weight from my shoulders in the other parts of my life (sounds like you have a lot going on). Congratulations on your pregnancy. I know you know a lot about what can go wrong (and Hiw awful it can be if it does) but remember, there's a good chance this one will be ok.

bowser what fab news, good for you enjoy your moment of joy!

Fab news bowser!

Glad the scan went well bowser, there's some lovely little boy clothes about (much nicer than pink girly stuff imo!)

mike all I can think to say is that you have plenty of positives to focus on, you said you have a wonderful partner who is supportive despite it being unplanned and assuming your masters finishes this summer (?) hopefully that should be completed before any mat leave although might be tricky with first trimester tiredness/sickness. I wonder if you might feel a bit better once the uncertainty has gone regarding how far preg you are? x

Whooping cough jab down, GTT and bloods to go tomorrow for me. Just beginning my fast by reading a cooking magazine, don't know how I'm gonna manage 14 hours without food!

Mike I loved reading your thread. It is so true that for this pregnancy all the joy is gone. If I start to even look at baby items in a shop I feel guilty and like I may be jinxing it all. I woke in the early hrs last night and felt my breasts to see if they were sore and they weren't...I lay there literally fuming. I told myself not to get attached to remain cool and to expect the worst,yet here Iam totally invested and desperately wanting this baby. I most likely will have a first scan in a weeks time. And boy is time ticking away so slowly........

Thanks for your replies....

Captain cabinet, that is good advice about taking things easy where possible. I'm trying to figure out the best way to achieve that. It's hard when I can't give a reason to anyone for the need to do so. I read back in the thread and caught up on your story and may I say I am in awe of the strength you must be displaying.

Sunday, thank you for pointing out the positives. It could surely be a lot worse. It has been hard to explain to my partner why issues of how / where we would deal with an actual baby seem like distant concerns to me right now. But despite this, I could not ask for better support. Yes, I am approaching the end of the Master's. I just need to find a way to knuckle down to the tasks and concentrate. I'm going to need an alternative to my usual approach for this is late nights and strong coffee. I hope your appointment went well today and the fast wasn't too trying.

Sofia, how far along in your pregnancy are you? I'm not a doctor, and maybe you've come across this before but just in case, have a look at this link: americanpregnancy.org/while-pregnant/hcg-levels/ It explains how often pregnancy hormones that cause symptoms such as breast tenderness increase. It seems like they double every 48-72 hours in the first 8 weeks of pregnancy. It says that between weeks 8-11 things will level off for the remainder. Having said all that, I know that rational advice doesn't do much to calm an irrational fear and that fears are no less valid for tending towards the irrational. I hope the week passes quickly for you.

16 week check all ok - found the heartbeat really quickly so that was good for my nerves! Starting to actually believe I'm pregnant now 😳

Northern that's lovely news! Hopefully it is enough to keep you going to the 20week scan

Luckily I've got another scan next week so that will break it up!

Hi ladies - sorry I've been keeping my head down on here for a bit. I was finding comfort in reading everyone's posts, but wasn't posting myself. Have a question for you lovely ladies... I am having some really odd sensations and I look about 20 weeks pregnant at the mo (it's my second and I'm only 9 weeks) so questions are:

• today I feel really uncomfortable internally and have lots of pulling feelings and sensations. The only comfortable position for me is my legs spread and leaning forward. It's not painful, it's just VERY uncomfortable. Do you think this is ok/normal?
• I have a bump already, which I know is mostly going to be water and bloating, but it's making me wonder if I'm further along than I thought. Miscarried over Christmas and had my first period on 27th Feb, but it was very light, didn't last long and was nothing like I expected. Starting to wonder if this could of been implantation bleeding. What do you think?

Really don't know what to do or think. Is this anxiety on overdrive? I've had no bleeding or significant pain.

Uncomfortable sensation update... I think it was wind!!!!

Still wondering if it's possible I'm further on though... I did mention it to the midwife at my booking in appointment yesterday and she was really disinterested which made me a bit embarrassed, so I didn't labour on it much.

Hello everyone - I've been on the December due date thread but had a bad trans-vaginal scan on Tuesday this week when the sonographer told me I'm likely to MC again.
I think my dates were 7+1 on day of scan and the CRL was measuring at 3.6 mm, yolk sac at 6.6 mm and hb at 96 bpm.
I'm just wondering if anyone has been in a similar position and the pregnancy has been successful.
I'm on tenterhooks ofc and upset at the idea of another MMC - esp as I'm 41 and this is starting to feel very last chance
Thank you for any help and advice

AK sorry to hear you are in such discomfort. And that your midwife was dismissive. I don't really have experience of those symptoms and the discomfort in all positions does not sound normal. Could you ring your midwife and ask her to listen to your concerns again? (Not easy I know but you know your body and what you're experiencing)

rider I'm so sorry to hear your scan went badly. I know how horrible is the limbo when you are pregnant but...not sure. I can't offer anything reassuring I'm afraid. What's the next step? Scan again? All the best, dear. I really hope it will be ok for you.

And my update.

My scan went well. Measuring 13 weeks. Couldnt believe it. Feel utterly exhausted. I spoke to my mum and ended up sobbing for an hour about all the things I'm still worried about. I obviously needed the release.

Thanks for all your good wishes.

I'm sorry for those of you who are not in a good place. I wish we could all have only goods news.

Hi,

Just wondering if I'm able to dip a toe into your thread? I had a MMC late Aug/early Sept last year and we've delayed TTC since as it's all been a little to raw and painful. We got married in Nov and have spent lots of time trying to get on an even keel.

DH wasn't keen ttc initially so we delayed a little. He decided this month that it would be a good time. I freaked but went along with it thinking I'd have a few months to get used to the idea and BAM, apparently I'm pregnant. We only dtd twice!

I only had my bfp this morning but kind of knew I was pregnant anyway. The symptoms are the same as last time - sharp pains about 7dpo and now awful nausea. I feel so sick and for the past two days have been gagging and urging. Pregnancy hated me last time - I was almost constantly dizzy and sick.

I couldn't stop crying this morning when I found out. I'm so terrified that I'm thinking 'what the hell have I done?' I hate that I've potentially brought on more grief and heartache and am praying that everything goes ok. And now I feel really sorry for this baby that too scared to enjoy it. I loved the last pregnancy, the baby felt so special. I just don't feel pregnant at the moment, I just feel normal and fed up already.

I'm guessing all of these feelings are normal but the 12 week scan feels like a very long way away

Rider - sorry to read your update. Everything crossed for you.

Chelle - you are in very good company here, it's definitely not unusual to feel the way you are doing but we're all here to keep each other vaguely sane!

Hello chelle, I also just joined this thread. I can entirely understand everything you're feeling. Is there any way for you to get an early scan? I believe that in cases of anxiety due to previous miscarriage, they will sometimes allow this. Might be worth thinking about if it would help you?

That is great news captain, I'm happy for you. Hopefully you've been able to get some rest!

Thankyou for the welcome I feel less crampy today which is either a good or bad thing!

I've already rung the midwife, I knew her from last year. She's booked me an appointment for 13th June. Nut I think I'd be 10.5 weeks by then. Does that seem a little late?

I'm not sure about an early scan yet. I had one last time as I was bleeding and it was bad news. I guess I won't relax until after the 12 week mark as my mmc was at 11.5 weeks.

mikesh how far along are you?

I don't know if 10.5 weeks is late for a first appointment Chelle but it does seem to be the default that, medically speaking, no-one is interested until you're approaching the end of the 1st trimester. I suppose they are aware of the stone cold facts that c. 20-25% pregnancies are not going to get that far. If it were me, and I thought it would help to see someone sooner, I would make a GPs appointment to discuss pregnancy related anxiety and see what support they could offer. I imagine this differs by area but there will be something.

In answer to your question, I don't know. I was on the pill, not TTC but here I am. Things being as they were, I was paying no attention to dates or anything. The withdrawal bleed is often quite minimal for me so the significance of those weeks doesn't really stick out either. I am hoping that the doctor will be able to hazard a guess when I see her next Tuesday and I'm hoping that I'll feel better after that.

At the moment, it's just a horrible mix of guilt, stress and anxiety. My MC was a few years back and with a different partner and trying to explain how that has added an extra, horrendous dimension to an unplanned pregnancy in less than ideal circumstances (rented one bedroom flat in expensive part of the country, job with most minimal maternity benefits / ongoing security) has been difficult.

Mikesh Iam about 8 weeks. Thankyou for the reassuring link. Today boobs sore. And I seem to simultaneously love and hate all food ( but not MS)
Chelle I totally understand and get it....Iam so emotional at the moment. My moods are driving my Dp away. And I don't even care. Anyone else experiencing this? Not sure if it is normal to be so moody or exacerbated by deep fears from previous mc