Staying posifrickentive- Thread 8 for ladies after mc

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Hi ladies. I am rubbish at this computer stuff I hope this has worked as we can not add anymore onto our old post.

The first trimester pg after MC was the longest three months of my life sofia, you're not alone in finding it strange and surreal.

Hi everyone - just wondered if anyone else is finding limbo land between the 12 week scan and 20 week scan really hard? I'm struggling, symptoms have lessened, no movement yet and really only the hint of a hard tum I'm
15+2 and struggling xxx

So sorry to hear your news penguins and hope to see you back here soon.

lex now is the time to do a bit more exercise if you feel you can or indulge in some actvities that might be difficult later on. Big hugs, you'll feel your little one soon!

Yes lex, I think I posted the exactly the same comment as you 10 weeks ago! Try and enjoy 2nd trimester as much as you can, before you know it you will find yourself unable to put your own shoes on

Could you get a doppler lex? This might not help if you can't find the HB, but thought that it might possibly put your mind at rest.

Thanks for your comments - I am trying to keep busy and take my mind off it - that sure helps.
I thought about a Doppler, I've got the midwife on Tuesday so after hopefully hearing a heartbeat with her I may well do that. And I know it's really early to feel anything yet - my sensible head tells me all those things then the 'hormotional' voice in my head pipes up and makes me worry!!
Xx

lex I am in the exact same boat. Had a private scan for reassurance at 14 weeks and heard hb at midwife but am 19weeks and pretty much preparing for the worst on Wednesday with 20week scan. Purely due to not 'feeling pregnant' and no definitive movements yet. Dp and my mum are constantly buoying me up but it is so so hard to have faith in this horrible waiting time.
I must admit i'm considering a doppler but at times lo can hide and it's hard to find a hb which I think would actually worry me more? If that makes sense?

Hello, may I join?

I'm having trouble keeping my grip during my first trimester after a run of 6 losses.

I'm 12 weeks pregnant today. I had a scan at 10+4 and everything was ok which felt tremendous as we never saw a heartbeat since DS who is 6.

The problem is since the last scan time seems to be slowing down. ( how, how could it get slower?). And I have also started to worry about the downs test result. My booking scan is Thursday and I guess the test result will be the following week.

I think I'm struggling because I feel like I am on the cusp of being able to be optimistic and hopeful and joyful but I don't yet have permission. (And my head will do its own thing regardless)

Hi captain you're in the right place! Can't make time go any faster I'm afraid tho but we do distraction and hand holding well on this thread

I'm in admiration of anyone who keeps functioning after multiple losses and I can't begin to understand how anxious you must have been the last few weeks. I wish you luck for Thursday x

Thank you Sunday I was so relieved to find this thread. In the absence of a time machine hand holding and distraction is just the tonic!
The last few weeks have been tough but my mum and a couple of close friends have been super supportive.

Good luck for Thursday!

Anyone else have any scans/appointments coming up? I've lost track again! I've got a week of injections coming up what with whooping cough jab, gtt and routine blood taking

So the problem when you live in a smallish town is the only good obstetrics Dr is always busy. My appointment with her was cancelled as she was needed at the hospital! So I have been bumped to May 3rd for my first appointment....grrrrrr.... Oh well at least it gets me through the weeks a bit. Iam now 8 weeks. If I have a day with no nausea I panic. If my boobs arnt too sore I panic....god this is rough!

sunday I have my 20 week scan tomorrow and am a wreck - cannot feel definite kicks yet (19+2) so this has translated to it being bad news tomorrow .
Hope the injection etc go well for you!

Sofia we've all been through that first trimester panic, and honestly for me the only mantra that helped a bit was thinking 'I'm pregnant until I'm not'. Lots of hand holding for you though.

Oh "Bowser" I totally get how you are feeling!
I couldn't wait until the 20 week scan so have actually booked a private one this afternoon. And I'm not feeling as terrified as usal but that's only because I just had my 16 week midwife's appointment and she listened to the little tike's heartbeat!! I was feeling just as terrified before that!
You'll be ok - just try to distract yourself! xxx

Sofia I am totally with you on the sore boobs/ nausea. this IS rough.

Good luck lex and bowser

This thread has already opened my eyes. I had thought if I got through the magic 12 week booking scan I would become a 'normal' person again. I'm starting to realise this is unlikely. and if i get past the scan I will still have anxiety on the other side.

Does anyone know what the actual risks are after the first trimester for someone with a history of RMC?

Thanks Northern for the good luck!

I've got mw 16 week appointment this week and a follow up scan next tues.

Feeling a bit teary at the min - think I've cried every day for the last week!

I've also noticed that my pants seem to be getting, ahem, damp - is this normal?!?

Bowser - good luck for tomorrow!

Lex - hope this afternoon gave you some reassurance :)

Thanks - yes it certainly did! And we've learned that the we're having a little girl
Xxx

Lovely news lex . bet that makes everything more real.

I rang the surgery today for blood results, apparently my vitamin b12 is low. Will speak to my doc about it tomorrow. Needless to say, I'm worrying about that now too. That does explain why my tiredness has become extreme in the last few days. Am crawling into bed as soon as home from work. Beyond shattered.

Hope your appointment goes well northern

bowser I think I've mentioned before that I felt more nervous prior to my 20 wk scan than my 12 week, which was strange. Am sure all will be great at the scan tomorrow, good luck x

captain if it helps I've been much more relaxed since 20 weeks and enjoying 'normal' pregnancy although there is always something to worry about and google I just like to make sure any info I get is trustworthy to avoid unneccessary worry. No idea about the statistics after 12 weeks but have your mcs always been first tri?

I've heard increased discharge is very normal northern and have had the same myself!

Congratulations on the little girl lex!

Wondering if it is "normal" at 8 weeks to have had days where breasts were very sore and now not too sore...and days were nausea was bad and now not too bad....does it ebb and flow? My brain tells me anything is possible but my heart says otherwise😞

I def had days when I felt better than others Sofia and they certainly brought on 'the fear' but generally found that I had a couple of panicky days and then boom rank again!!
Hugs Hun xx

I def had days when I felt better than others Sofia and they certainly brought on 'the fear' but generally found that I had a couple of panicky days and then boom rank again!!
Hugs Hun xx