Staying posifrickentive- Thread 8 for ladies after mc

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Hi ladies. I am rubbish at this computer stuff I hope this has worked as we can not add anymore onto our old post.

You're exactly the same as me northern and I'm right on the verge of having a high bmi, am sure you will be ok xx

I'm well over the BMI line! I've lost 5lbs since finding out in pregnant though - not purposely! Just haven't been able to eat a great deal!

Checking in again after a long absence. I've been lurking throughout, but just too anxious and nervous (and horribly sick) to post.

Had my reassurance scan today after 2 mcs in the last 7 months. So relieved to see a little baby moving around, with a heartbeat. I thought I was 9+5 but they dated me at 10+3 (is this good/bad?).

I thought I'd feel elated, but instead I feel kind of numb. Emotions all over the place I suppose.

Here's to lots more happy scans for everyone.

Hi maude and congratulations - I totally get the numb feeling, and I'm sure the other lovely ladies here also can empathise too. I go through days of feeling numb and then more and more frequently now have an 'up' day . Today is one of those as I've just got hometown find my 'screen negative' screening results .
Trying to stop myself from looking up the ratios online and succumbing to Dr Google-itis !! The letter says screen negative so obsessed just accept it !!! Xx

congrats on the good scan maude - I would take dating later as a good thing it means little one is growing nicely

been off work the last few days getting over a nasty cold and freaking out over looking forward to my NT scan on Friday.

Hi everyone,really needing to talk to some peeps that will understand what Iam going through. 8 weeks ago had a D&C for a missed miscarriage ( I was 9 weeks along). Baby was incredibly wanted. Had a scan and saw a heartbeat at 7 weeks,then because of the low lying position of the bean,they did another scan and it was all over. I took my Dp along to that scan and we both were in such shock when the ultrasound showed it was all over. We both cried buckets in the car park of the hospital.I shouldn't have been shocked because Iam 44. But naively I just thought because we had tried for 2 yrs and wanted it so badly all would be OK. But it was not to be. After the miscarriage (my first) things were very sad for me. I truly was a self absorbed crying mess. But I didn't really know how to act. I was surprised at my dps reaction. He was quite angry and said I was choosing to carry the grief etc.It was horrendous but we slowly moved through it.At one point he said he didn't want to go forward and do this baby
Thing anymore. That really was hard,as for me the thought of trying again was getting me through the grief. After a while we just silently shelved it and didn't talk much about the subject. Iam here today because I have done a test 3 days ago and had a BFP. Which means I conceived 4 weeks almost to the day after th D&C. I feel numb. It makes me officially around6weeks.Iam 44. So do not expect the best outcome. Iam utterly terrified to tell Dp. But keeping the news is doing my head in. Have not told anyone in real life. Feeling completely out of body. And very lonely.I feel like I need to keep it to myself because if I say it out loud I will jinx it.😞 I know I need to tell him. But also do not want to ruin his day. It should be a joyous time.But feels so heavy.

Hi all! Hope everyone is getting on ok?!

Not on here very much ATM as am just sleeping or moaning but I started a thread as I needed some advice from mums that have done the whole labor thing! No idea how to post a link, but here's the title if any of you guys wanted an update of what's been happening with me recently!

Welcome any newbies, may your stay be long and uneventful! xxx

Is this the start of labor?.......TMI pic included.......How did your labor start, how did you feel???

Hi all, just plodding along here. Still feeling grotty, but perhaps a little better. Got booking in appointment tomorrow then reassurance scan on Friday (should be 9+2 then). Absolutely terrified that it will be game over. If heartbeat was strongly at 7 weeks, what's the chance of it going wrong? I'll be feeling positive then read stories about mc after seeing a heartbeat. Hate this.

Hi Sofia I am so sorry for your loss, but congratulations on your BFP! I strongly think you should tell your DP. I understand he didn't quite give you the support you wanted previously but do cut him a bit of slack. We as women have to go through a pretty crappy time of it on the physical side, both during pregnancy and if it sadly doesn't work out. A man won't necessarily be able to empathise with that easily but you BOTH suffer emotionally from a loss or possibility of loss, often in different ways which will make it hard too.

We had an EP first, which was very scary for both of us. When I got pregnant again, like you we thought we'd had our bad luck but sadly the foetus stopped developing. I'm now 30 weeks and hoping 3rd time lucky. Whilst it's a bit sad, we didn't start letting ourselves get excited until after our 20 week scan and planned lots of distractions along the way. I couldn't have held it together without my DH- remember it's his baby too and so he really should be allowed to ride out the highs and lows with you. Good luck!

Paws- how exciting!! Good luck!

Oooh good luck paws
I would agree with the others on the post, it might be the start of it, but the start of it can go on an on! Keep eating, I totally ran out of energy after 3/4 days of the start of labour and struggled, got her out on my own but after about 3 hours of pushing, and a very determined midwife (who I later discovered was doing her first independent delivery!!) I thank her now but at the time when the doctors were coming in saying "are you sure she doesn't need some help" and she confirmed that no, I was doing it on my own, I did think you nutter just let them pull it out of me already!!!

Thanks east & lex!
Yes who'd have thought after two miscarriages and desperately wanting and needing to be pg, that you would get to a stage where you 'just don't want to be pg anymore'!!! Obviously I'm blessed, but man am I over being pg now, spd is killing me, and am so uncomfortable as he's measuring off the percentile chart! He's gonna be a big boy!

lex well done you for managing to get through days of early labour, its so draining isn't it...no point going to hospital yet though as they'll only send me home! Gonna wait till ctxs are more painful before going in X

eco best of luck for scan! The first few months are awfull I know, but statistics are on your side after a hb/scan at 7 weeks...i had two mc's in a row, neither of which I saw a hb (perhaps we just 'missed it' between scans before mc's were confirmed) But with this little fella we had a hb at 6 weeks, and they tried to reassure me that things 'usually' go smoothly from this point....obviously not for everyone, but for most X

Haven't been on here in ages....is keys ok???

Hi Sofia had to reply to your msg as you sounded in need. Hope you feel as little better getting it all off your chest here. Congratulations on your bfp! Gonna have to tell DP at some point so sooner rather than later would be best like eastend says, if only for your peace of mind. Good luck, sure he'll be happy about it once the news settles in x

Exciting times paws! Hope things get moving now!

Sofia, hope you are feeling better. We absolutely all know that feeling when you get a BFP after a MC and we'll all support you along the way.

Do tell DP - it most likely won't be as bad as you think. Good luck!

Hi everyone. Went ahead with your good advice and told Dp. He was very happy. I had no need to worry. He reassured me he said he did not want to go ahead with another baby because of the deep sorrow of our loss,but is cautiously happy at the news of a BFP. I myself just feel very numb. How on earth can we feel excited when it is so precarious? It really is just a matter of treading slowly day by day isn't it! At the moment Iam simply trying to watch what I eat as my bmi is too high,and I wonder if being told I have a metabolic condition made the previous mc happen. So have cut out all carbs and sugar and started to take metformin and baby aspirin in the vain hope it may help this one stick....

sofia congratulations on your BFP and I'm glad to here DH was happy. Can I just ask, what is the theory behind taking baby asprin and metformin?

Hi everyone,

I'm lily and I'm 5+3 today and due on 11 Dec. I had a m/c (my first m/c) at 6w last November. I have an 8 nearly 9 year old and a 6 nearly 7 year old already.

I'm very anxious and like most of us, just willing the days away. My 12w scan is on Mon 30/5 but debating booking an early scan near my workplace at 9.5w. Does it really only give you reassurance for one day or did anyone feel more of a sense of relief after seeing good results on reassurance/early scan?

sofia great news about dp's response!

Please talk to your doctor before taking aspirin, only take any medication on their advice...theres not much evidence to say it helps, unless you have been proven to have a blood clotting condition...im assuming your doc knows you're pg whilst taking metformin??? Best of luck with the pregnancy hun x

I've been prescribed baby aspirin but was told to only take it after week 12 so definitely speak to your docs

Hi,
I've been lurking here for a while.... I had a mmc on 14th April (no HB at 12 week scan) which was a huge shock after having such strong symptoms throughout the pregnancy (I already have a 4yo). After a long and drawn out medical management I've been feeling pretty low. We haven't been using contraception but had no idea what my body would do in terms of ovulation etc so I wouldn't say we've been actively ttc again. Anyway, after a day of cramps yesterday but no appearance from AF I did a test and got a BFP! I had this with my last pregnancy and assumed it was implantation cramps? Anyway... I'm currently feeling relieved we conceived again (there were a few issues on last scan which we thought might have made it hard to conceive again) and worried I'm going to get stressed about another mmc. Just thought I'd join in for a bit of moral support really.
Hope you are all OK x

welcome penguins - the first couple of weeks after BFP was definitely a strange time for DH and I. Def not the same excitement right away as I did prior to experiencing an mmc. Almost like holding my breathe for something to go wrong or reverse the result.

It is stressful but try to relax - it helped to to tell myself that this is a new pregnancy and things won't necessarily go the same way. The lead up to the week I got up to last time was the hardest but it does get easier after that. I'm 3 weeks further now than I got before and starting to let myself relax. Worry is normal we all want our beans to be perfectly OK - but try to also enjoy and be positive!

And congratulations on the BFP!

Paws how are you getting on? No more developments? X

Hi everyone, I've been away from here a few days, it's lovely to catch up with the news and I'm glad to hear no more news of bleeding etc.
I'm struggling with sickness, limping into work a couple of times a week then spend a day in bed recovering. Miserable yesterday and started to wish I wasn't pregnant. Ridiculous isn't it given how much this was wanted and what we've been through over the past year. I just have to ride it out. DH keeps reminding me that I forgot all about the sickness last time and will forget this too.
Sorry to be on such a downer, I'm not usually a misery guts! Xx to everyone