Staying posifrickentive - Thread 7 for ladies pregnant after mc

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New thread for all the lovely ladies facing the trials and tribulations of pregnancy after mc!

Rebecca exciting!!! So close now.

Congratulations on your bfp distance pregnancy after mc can be an anxious time, particularly in the first trimester and esp around anniversaries of previous losses. It does get easier eventually. Sometimes slowly, but getting past the hurdle of your first loss will help a bit I'm sure. So how many weeks do you think you are? Has the sickness settled? Knicker checking does get better for most of us, although I'm back at it at 35+4 wks after a bleed over the weekend because of a low placenta. Wishing you a boring 7 or 8 months ahead of you!

Wonderful news, topsy congratulations!

Glad to hear that things are settling down, mrsD and Disney let's hope that everything will be plain sailing for you now!

I've had a rough weekend... A combination of overdoing it on Friday (note to self - standing in a pub chatting for hours is not a good idea anymore) and a nasty attack of piles pretty much floored me on Saturday and half of Sunday I could barely walk! Started feeling more human again last night, and almost back to normal today. Really need to start taking it a bit more easy now - the problem is that often I only realise afterwards that I've done too much.
MW appointment today, and I had elevated glucose in my urine... But mw wasn't concerned, after she heard that I had orange juice for breakfast and fruit in my cereal. I'm still a bit - still worried about the whole gestational diabetes thing... What symptoms would you expect with GD?

cloud I know nothing of gestational db, but I'm sure someone will be along soon who can be of better help.

distance welcome, it really does get easier, my knicker checking settled after the point of my first and second mc, but the doubt is always there, it never really leaves you my lovely I'm afraid, you just learn to live with it and eventually you'll have new things to worry about like movement etc.....
Any loss can never be forgotten, they will always be in our minds and hearts, and sadly a loss leaves emotional scars, but even scars get better with time
Its a long few weeks in the first trimester after mc, but hang on in there and you will get through it! We are all here for hand holding, advice and such...try to get yourself an early scan to find out how far along you are, although I imagine you have only missed the 'one' period...the period you had after your mc sounds pretty typical of a post-mc period (although it can be heavy/light/painfull/non-painful etc) my first one was also brown, they say that the first period after mc is actually the mc finishing, your body removing the last 'old' blood etc....
But saying that, plenty have fallen in their 'wtf' cycle, so get yourself that early scan...

Wishing you an uneventful happy pregnancy x

Hi, I had a miscarriage in August with my 1st pregnancy and am now 6wks 3days. I'm petrified. I can't get excited and now I question everything. I have been experiencing diarreah last night and now I'm worried this is bad. Any advice? X

Thank you for the advice, very much appreciated- I think at the moment I am going to the toilet every 30mins to make sure everything is ok, which is stupid because if I hadn't have taken the test I wouldn't be doing this!

I think that I am either between 5&8wks pregnant but leaning towards 6+ (as that is the point that sickness started in previous pregnancy) but I could be wrong...I have a midwife appt booked in for next week so hopefully will be able to discuss an early scan to figure out how far gone I am.

Nausea is still there but haven't been sick in a couple of days...while the nausea is still there I am happy though because the end of nausea, in my last pregnancy, was followed by bleeding a couple of days later so I know I will worry if I stop feeling this way (even if there is no reason to worry)

Laura congratulations on your pregnancy...I'm in the same boat so can't really give much advice but hopefully someone will be along soon that can one thing that I am trying to keep in mind is something that I have seen on other posts- "today I am pregnant"...I know that this may not be helpful for everyone but, for me, I am currently just trying to take it hour by hour, day by day

Welcome distance and laura, congratulations on your pregnancies!

cloud I don't know anything about GD but just wanted to say I'm in a similar boat due to measuring big on a growth scan. They said they weren't concerned and won't be giving me a gtt as I don't meet any of the risk criteria, even though baby is on the 95th centile for 2 out of 3 measurements! All I can do is try to limit sugar and carbs where I can, it's worrying not knowing for sure though.

Just an update for you, my beautiful little girl was born this morning at 00.41 weighing 7lb1. Very quick water birth, couldn't have gone better. Can't believe I finally have my little angel. Thank you all so much for your support over the months :) I hope you all have a birth as easy as mine haha (I'm feeling very smug!)

That's absolutely wonderful news rebecca, congratulations!

Just jumping in to say hi and join you if I may?

Had a mmc in June followed by erpc and now approx 5 weeks pregnant. Was feeling fairly relaxed but starting to worry a little about a lack of pg symptoms, nothing other than tiredness so far. Glad to see there's some other ladies in the early stages too. I like your little mantra distance 'Today I am pregnant' and I'm gonna enjoy the feeling .

Btw congratulations Rebecca!

Rebecca made up for you! Congratulations on her safe arrival! You were right about the mucous plug then!! Lol xx enjoy the cuddles

Wonderful news Rebecca, congratulations and welcome to the world to your DD! Enjoy the precious newborn cuddles xx

Great news rebecca! Congratulations on the safe arrival of your little girl. Enjoy your newborn snuggles xx

Welcome newbies. Those first few weeks are hellish, but it does get a little easier (or maybe you just get used to the worry). Try not to worry about having no symptoms at 5 weeks, mine didn't really kick in until a bit later this time, it varies massively between pgs. And can't remember who was asking about diarrhoea, but I had it a lot in the early days, so definitely can be a pg symptom. Hand holding for all of you x

So I have a moral dilemma and I need some advice (or possibly a slap). My history is: dd born 2012 in very normal, naive pg. Then 5 mcs in 17 months. Now 22+3 pg. It's been a long hard road to get here, including a load of drugs in the first trimester due to high uNK diagnosis at Coventry, so it's been anything but a normal pg and have been very anxious throughout. Just starting to feel like it might be ok and doing my best to try and feel like a normal preggo.

So last weekend was my best friend's birthday. I went out for an afternoon lunch (dh looked after dd). Whilst there, I had a small glass of fizz , sipped over the space of 2 hours along with food and plenty of water. This is the first time I've drunk since i got my bfp. Last night it happened to come up in conversation and dh went ballistic at me, said I was selfish to take a risk like that after what we've been through etc etc. He's also said I'm not to have any more alcohol the rest of the pg. I certainly am not going out on the lash or anything, but had thought I might do the same on Christmas day. To my mind a small glass of fizz sipped over a long time period is no risk at this stage. I've eaten occasional soft cheese and eggs in all pgs and he's never batted an eyelid at this.

Am I being unreasonable? Maybe I am. I just want to try not to be ott with stressing about things, and most stuff I've read suggests alcohol in strict moderation is not an issue. My usual litmus test is - if i miscarried again now, would i blame myself for doing that? The answer in this case is no, as I honestly don't believe this could cause mc.

I suppose this should be posted on the aibu thread, but i feel like you ladies will have more insight into this situation having been through mc/rmc. I would appreciate your honesty, whatever way it comes out.
Sorry if this is a bit of a self indulgent post, but I've been up all night worrying about it.

Congratulations Rebecca enjoy your beautiful DD!

Welcome Sunday, congratulations on your pregnancy

March I wouldn't feel guilty about having one glass, the guidance on everything in pregnancy (from what you can eat to if or how much you drink) changes so often that I think that, as long as things are done in moderation you should be fine to enjoy a glass occasionally...I know a few people who would have a small glass of red wine daily when they were pregnant and they were all fine so I see no problem in having a glass at special occasions.

Saying that, I do understand that your dh is probably feeling very helpless at the moment due to your previous mcs, and maybe feels that this is the only way he can try and protect you and baby? Maybe try to explain that you're not planning on drinking often and show him the guidance on drinking alcohol? Also, if you did drink while you were pregnant with your DD maybe mention this to remind him that it was ok before?

march Do not feel guilty. Your are not unreasonable.
I have done the same. And I drink tea and coffee. I have even eaten raw cake batter with eggs in it!

I get that your DH is worried, but he needs to get a grip. Alcohol in those small quantities does not cause miscarriage, not even remotely! FFS, lots of women drink loads before they even find out their pg, and all is fine with them.
You are now at a stage where the early fetal development is nearly complete, and pretty much all your baby will be doing now is to grow. One glass of fizz once in a while will not make any difference whatsoever - there are far worse things you could do, but you aren't!
It's not as if you go binge drinking every week. Can you try to get him to understand that in spite (or maybe even because) of what you have been through, you really need to start treating this like a 'normal' pregnancy, both for your and your DH's piece of mind.

The worry will never completely stop for us, but I really think that we can at least try to stop walking on egg shells and try to enjoy our pregnancies, even just a little bit. We deserve it.

Welcome sunday, congratulations! Symptoms kicked in for me between the 6 and 7 week mark so I'm sure they will be waiting around the corner for you soon!

march I've been told countless times by my doc and midwife that a glass every now and again is not considered to pose a risk (I feel I should add the information was volunteered not asked for!) I've had a glass of fizz, sometimes mixed with oj on a couple of occasions for special occasions. Do not feel guilty. I appreciate your dh is worried and frustrated that there is nothing he can do but reacting like that is not needed or appropriate. I would point him in the direction of official guidelines.

31 week appointment this morning, and baby still stubbornly breech. Other than a slightly raised bp all is fine. Only 3 appointments left now hopefully!

Congratulations on the safe arrival of your DD rebecca, sounds like you had a dream birth too!

march you have done nothing wrong, one glass of fizz is really nothing to stress about at this stage. I can understand your DH is being a bit paranoid after what you've both been through, but to talk to you like that and basically accuse you of putting your baby at risk is totally out of order!

Welcome to all the newbies, I hope you all have very boring, healthy pregnancies.

march you are definitely not being unreasonable in your thinking or by enjoying one small glass of fizz for a special occasion. Now binge drinking might be a bad idea, but this isn't that. I've been enjoying lots of dippy eggs, cake batter and even stinky cheese although I feel really guilty after that. I've had fizz at a christening and occasional slurps of dh's beer. I think to deny yourself can cause more stress. Try not to stress about it. X

Thank you lovelies. I really appreciate hearing it's ok from you girls, esp as you all have more reason than most to worry over every little thing. I think you're right distance, that he does feel a bit helpless and that's what's brought this on. He's normally quite rational/reasonable. I did have fizz a couple of times at weddings when pg with dd and it was fine, so maybe I will need to remind him of that. I just need to try to be as 'normal' as I can for my own sanity. Annoyed with myself for even mentioning it to him, but I hate bending the truth.

I can't wait to fancy a glass of fizz around Christmas time when I stop feeling yuck. I did with my DD and will again here and then. Right now at 8 weeks then idea still repulses me, but dh is sure I got over the aversion suddenly about 12 weeks :)

When I first mc, my dh asked if I would do anything different next time.... I was furios and told him I'd consider different sperm!

Just back from scan, all looks OK at 8 week 4 days. A bit nerve racking as couldn't see anything on external scan and I find internals difficult. Titled uterus apparently.

Anyway, consultant said my first lupas anticog test was positive so had retest. My gp missed it! I might need daily email injections. Anyone else having these?

She let me book another scan next week as I got a bit upset after asking her to check my notes about when my first mmc stopped growing (I'm almost there, but not quite).

Whole thing left me abit emotional. Come home for tea and chocolate!

• Daily email injections... I wish!

Can I join in? I MCed at 5 weeks last time... I'm currently on 5+2 and terrified it is going to happen again. I did have sore boobs until yesterday when they were only mildly achy and not sore to touch. hope it's not a bad sign, guess only time will tell. was feeling light headded and queezy yesterday and today. Just praying everything is ok.

Hi sunny I'm finding my boobs are no where near as sore as they were last time. I'm guessing each pregnancy is different.

Ditto what everyone else has said march, don't think you are being unreasonable although our other halves do like to mother us sometimes. I'm looking forward to a small drink at xmas, i'm hoping my dating scan will happen before then and I'll feel more relaxed.

Welcome sunny, and congratulations on your pg. I didn't really have sore boobs until after 12 weeks this time. It really does vary massively, so though it's really hard, try not to worry

Congrats on the good scan cotton. Good scan at that stage is a very positive sign. I would get yourself on the heparin asap if it was positive for lupus. I took heparin from 6wks to 13 wks (for cytoprotective effect on placenta, not for clotting - you'd probably need it for longer), and it was fine once I got used to it. Annoying that the gp missed it but hopefully you can start treatment asap