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Staying posifrickentive - Thread 7 for ladies pregnant after mc

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Metalhead · 29/10/2015 09:34

New thread for all the lovely ladies facing the trials and tribulations of pregnancy after mc!

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sundayraspberry · 22/01/2016 18:31

Hey Sophia really pleased to hear you're doing well! 2.5hr commute sounds hellish. Sounds promising for a good scan next week, its nerve wracking beforehand but you'll feel sooo excited after x

Definitely more bloat than bump for me too keys. Nearly 15 weeks and I'm finding it a little boring ATM. Seems ages until next scan and appointments. Boring is good tho! Nice that you read back on the TTC thread, I still find it hard to believe I managed to conceive twice given that I only ovulated 3 times in 18 months.

Mimi I haven't any words of wisdom to add, just keeping fingers crossed for good news at your next scan x

Congratulations crumbles! Although sorry to hear about the loss of the twin. Not sure if that is the right thing to say? As keys says I've also heard its very common and could have happened to any of us without knowing unless you have early scans. Hope you don't get any bleeding but at least you are aware of the cause if you do start up.

MollyWho · 22/01/2016 22:21

Hi all, hope it's ok if I join you ladies. I found out I was pregnant last week, I'm 5+5. I had a mmc in June at 9 weeks. I've 1 DS but before him I had a pregnancy of unknown location.

Just wondered if any of you told your mum before 12 wk scan. I really want to but worry she'll worry too much. I know she'll be worrying that we're struggling to get pregnant if not. What do you think?

Sophia1984 · 22/01/2016 23:02

Welcome Molly and congratulations :-) I'm not telling my mum till after scan. Last time I didn't tell her either but did when I miscarried. I think she's going to be more worried that I am pregnant tbh :-/

Lilliana · 22/01/2016 23:45

Hi molly in the same as Sophia - mum knows we had 2 mc so I'm more worried about her being worried we're pregnant again!

I've been feeling fine so far. Had a lovely night with DH - we got out the old CDs and took turns picking songs while he drank beer and I drank tea! In the last hour or so though I've had some really stabby pains and I'm feeling sick. I know it could be everything moving about and is normal but it's worrying me that it's not all ok - especially as I've been feeling so well so far. No bleeding yet so that's good. Fingers crossed. I just wish I was as naive with this pregnancy as I was when I had DD. Every twinge was exciting then. Sorry, to be down. I just needed somewhere to offload with people who understand.

keys27 · 23/01/2016 07:59

Hi molly congratulations on your pregnancy. I was different I told my mum and she was not happy one bit because of my history. I had to tell her because of my other children and needing help otherwise I would of waited until after my 12 week scan.

crumbles everything was fine Hun her DS is now 6 and absolutely fine it's very common and so unlikely anything will happen to your LO. If you do start to bleed go get checked out anyway I mean I don't want to scare you but my friend had a really bad bleed passing the non viable pregnancy but as I said Hun she hadn't had any previous scans so didn't know she had twins and panicked as she was so late on in her first trimester. When I went to see her in hospital the next day the doctor was explaining to us it's such a common thing and people don't know unless they have early scans and it's extremely unlikely that the passing of a pregnancy will effect of harm the viable one so I don't think you have anything to worry about Hun.

keys27 · 23/01/2016 08:05

lillian that's normal Hun I wouldn't worry although impossible I know. Sometime symptoms can be developed strongly and different times of the pregnancy. The further on I got the worst I felt sickness wise and feel so crap now. Maybe it was your LO saying no more tea mum I don't like it hehe. All our organs are being squashed and pushed around lovely ay. And LO is taking all the good stuff out of our bodies leaving us with the not so nice stuff so it's very normal to feel that way. Do your u have any scans booked up soon just fry ur reassurance Hun?

sundayraspberry · 23/01/2016 08:43

Hi molly and welcome. My mum knew about my mc and I told her at 11 weeks with this one as it was over Xmas and we were staying over. My mum is not the sort to worry unnecessarily tho. Does yours know of your mc?

Try not to worry liliana although easier said than done! I've felt sick and had belly ache all night but I know its because I'm really constipated Blush. Seems so come on suddenly. Time to crack out the dried fruit, urgh!

Lilliana · 23/01/2016 08:54

Thanks keys and Sunday. I know I shouldn't worry. It's so hard though. We just had breakfast in bed - me DH and dd and I took one bite and threw up. Shame but reassuring!! No scans for a while yet. I'm seeing the midwife in a couple of weeks and hoping they will offer an early one - not holding out too much hope though. Hope you're all ok today.

Crumbles12 · 23/01/2016 09:09

Welcome Molly! Congratulations, I hadn't told my mum I was pregnant last time until the mc, this time I wanted to atleast wait until a scan for my own reassurance really I felt if I 'announced' it I would jinx it which does sound silly saying out loud! I am probably going to tell my parents this weekend and show them the scan, mainly because they want to book a big family holiday in August though when I will (hopefully) be very pregnant! Completely up to you though, I always feel once my close friends and immediate family know I feel I can relax about the refusing wine/coffee etc. And feel less anxious!

Thank you sunday, your right I know to be aware if I do bleed but I do think I will still worry and will definitely feel very sad knowing the cause of it, they said if it's bleeding that lasts over 2 days to come back but there's no way I would be laid back enough to not check after a heavy 2 day bleed Hmm

Lili Feel free to offload here, I'm sure we all understand why your feeling like that, try to keep positive your uterus has got so much stretching and adjusting to do to accommodate for the baby. I remember with DS pulling over in the car once as I had such horrible stabbing pains, the midwife said it was just the ligaments stretching.

keys thank you, that's reassuring her LO was okay, the doctors and technicians didn't seem concerned so hopefully everything will be okay Smile I don't think I will be having any more children after this one!! Constantly making us worry from day 1!!! X

Nousername2015 · 23/01/2016 09:32

Hi everyone, just checking in. So sorry to hear about solan and bowser, look after yourselves.

Sorry to hear some of you are having some worries, you are all doing fantastically and it's great that the end of the 1st tri is already in sight for some of you!

DS is 11 days old now. We are shattered and the house is a mess but would not change it for the world. I was so worried that that anxiety I had while pregnant would develop into something postnatal but I can honestly say that I feel that a huge weight has been lifted. If anything I wish I'd relaxed and enjoyed being pregnant more but hindsight is a wonderful thing! If you get those moments where you feel you can relax and enjoy it then just let yourself go, it can't and won't jinx anything. Good luck everyone, I'll keep following your updates when I can Flowers

dobbythedoggy · 23/01/2016 10:15

Sad to see we've had some early losses, but wonderful to see lots of you have had more positive news. Have read it all but a combination of exhaustion and baby brain has appears to limit my ablitity to function quite severly. Shopping is an endless task even with a list, walk into a room to forget what I wanted... it's even too much of an impossable task to transfer my sister's tempory holiday mobile number from the email she sent to congratulate her on getting engaged.

lill any twinge is worrying, had loads early on this time around where as with dd when I wouldn't have worried I had next to none. 'fanny daggers' were most panic enducing for a while.

keys pleased the clot has passed and peanut has stayed strong. Hopefully that's one less thing for you to worry about.

crumble it's such a strange thing to come to terms with, but really common, a few of my friends have had the same happen and while they're over joyed to have a baby they've also lots one. My sister's best friend is the twin who servied early pregnancy and abosorbed her sibling. My grandma also must have had it several times, 7 pregnancies resulting in 8 children in the days before scans. Other than with my dad and his twin, her dates were often out and she measured big for how many weeks she should have been since her last period.

molly congratulations, we found it hard to tell people and didn't want to tell anyone until after 24 weeks after our early loss. Fell in the wtf cycle so didn't have to worry about the people who knew about the mc worrying it was taking time to fall again. Actually told my parents at just after 6 weeks, despite a spotting, and a few selected close friends who had been through similar. My mum and dad were fantastic and I wouldn't have coped without their support with looking after dd with debilitating sickness. I think a lot of it depends on you and how your feeling and the sort of people you tell. My mum and dad were practically supportive and didn't bring up I was pregnant unless I did which was what I needed. Eventually told mil just before 20 weeks as she was worried I was really unwell as I'd been laid up for so long recovering from stomach problems, but made sure it was kept quite, although she talked constantly about the baby and was put out about not knowing from bfp. Very glad we never told her about mc. It became public knowledge at 24 weeks.

MimiDoddrioni · 23/01/2016 11:11

Molly, congratulations and fingers crossed for a boring 8 months ahead Smile. I'm 8 wks at the mo but pg is of uncertain viability, only a sac showing up at the moment. Apparently this is not uncommon with a tilted uterus so I'm still hopeful. We're not planning to tell family until I'm firmly in the 2nd trimester, but they all live miles away so I don't have to worry about showing/refusing booze etc. We told PILs when I was 10 wks with 1st pregnancy cos we were on holiday with them and MIL did really annoying things like rubbing my tummy and asking if I was sure I was only 10 wks. I also started mc that wk. Both MIL and DM have both said fairly unhelpful things once they'd known about my MCs so I'm keen to avoid them knowing until we've got some surety this pg will be OK. I have told some close friends though who know about my MCs as I think I'd be losing my mind without their support right now.

Sunday and Sophia thanks for the support, the waiting isn't too bad at the moment cos our LO just needs this time to grow. Doubt I'll be this calm about it next weekend though! And if LO turns out to be OK, I'm going to try not to have a scan before wk 10 in no pg cos if this was my first pg, I'd be none the wiser about all of this.

In other news I have a stinking cold, a hacking cough and feel like poo. In fact I've been coughing so hard my fooff hurts Confused, sorry that's probably tmi.

I'm setting the bar pretty low here but I hope everyone's having a better weekend than me

northdownmummy · 23/01/2016 11:26

Congratulations nouser I'd just popped back to see if there was and news from the lovely ladies that were on this thread when i was.
I found this such a wonderful supportive place and it definitely helped keep me sane.
For those of you in the early days, good luck. I'm sitting on the sofa on a rainy day feeding my DD who is now 12wks. I got my happy ending, you will too

MimiDoddrioni · 23/01/2016 11:38

Hi north, congratulations on having your little one. I remember you from my brief time on this board last February, I think we were due at around the same time. Is great to be reminded that being pg does equal having a baby most the timeSmile.

MollyWho · 23/01/2016 12:20

Thanks all for telling me your experiences, especially when some of you have your own more pressing worries xx
I'm still not sure what to tell my mum so I'll say nothing for now. My parents and the in laws knew of my last miscarriage, we'd told them we were pregnant after a successful 7 wk scan, they were all very supportive.
It's lovely to hear the news from those with newborns - congratulations.

1stTimeRounder · 23/01/2016 12:31

Hi everyone, nice to readsome positive stories on here. I'm 7 weeks on my second pregnancy; had MC @ 7weeks in November... The good news is we seem to have no problem getting pregnant (pregnant this time at first attempt!)....

BUT.... we had an early scan yesterday (had a 6 wk scan on last one and it showed the sac was not as big as it should have been and MC 1 week later). They said the same thing yesterday; not as big as they would expect, although bigger than last time, but they warned me that this type of result is linked to MC... booked for another scan on thursday next week but have noticed a little bit of brown discharge this morning so expecting it might happen over the next few days... trying to stay positive but it is hard.

Mimi your post made me laugh about the pain in your fooff!! I think there is no such thing as TMI around here...

We were planning on telling my mother next weekend when she is visiting as wanted to tell her in person (and would not get away without a drink when she is here for a week) but suspect now I will be telling her something different Sad

Crumbles12 · 23/01/2016 13:38

Thank you everyone for your support, it means a lot Smile. Glad to hear so many success story's though so keeping hopeful!

I agree Mimi having early scans are a blessing and a curse at the same time! So many issues are detected early which are normally completely fine and we would not know if we just waited! 10/12 weeks just seems such a long wait though.
Hope you are feeling better soon!

Hi 1st! Sorry to hear you had bad news at the scan, it must be hard when a similar thing happened before, but there are positive outcomes too so do try to keep positive, I know that's easier said than done Flowers

MimiDoddrioni · 23/01/2016 14:30

Hi 1st, firstly congratulations on being pg, and sorry to hear about your scan. It sounds a bit similar to what I'm going through at the moment. I'm 8wks but have had two scans that show just an empty sac so far, although the sac has grown between scans. Do you know if you have a tilted uterus? I only ask because sometimes early scans don't clearly show the yolk sack or foetal pole due to parts of the uterus being in a to location bad to bounce back the sound waves to produce the image. Also there's a possibility your dates may just be off cos it looks like you conceived in the wtf cycle.

I think most ladies on here have posted about brown discharge at some point, brown blood is generally old blood and could just be taking a while to find its way out. I know it's easier said than done but try not to worry it about, if it turns pink or red though you should get in touch with MW or GP. In the meantime, there's plenty of room on the first trimester fretting bench Smile.

1stTimeRounder · 23/01/2016 14:42

Thanks for the support ladies :)

Mimi no my uterus appears to be in the right position, they actually showed me the yolk sac and we could even see the heartbeat, but that was same last time, so not taking it to mean anything. Nothing more substantial in the discharge front, could just been because of dildocam yesterday (my new favourite term Grin

Will let you know if anything changes... going to head out now to look at interior design shops as we are in the process of buying a house too!

Phwoggy · 23/01/2016 16:16

Hi all, just wanting to join in as on Thursday I found out I'm pregnant again after a mc in October at 7 weeks.

Was going to ask if the worrying ever settles down but it doesn't seem like it! I'm constantly checking when I go to the toilet and worrying about things feeling the same or different to last time. I'm only 4+2 but feeling incredibly queasy already!

Curlywurly4 · 23/01/2016 19:44

I'd love to join too, I can't bring misted to post on the antenatal thread. I had two MC's last year, an early one in June then a mmc at 10 weeks on Oct.

I'm current 6+3 but i have been up and down to the EPU, as I've usual AF arrived but was still getting a positive testConfused

Initially they said another early mc, as the scan showed my uterus lining was gone, then bloods showed my hcg was rising, so they thought ectopic, then a scan at 4+5 scan showed a tiny bean in the uterus. I was a complete wreck by that stage and couldn't stop crying!

I have a scan on Monday and I'm anxious it's not going to be there or not have grown and I'll have to go through it all again.

Lilliana · 23/01/2016 20:31

Welcome phwoggy wishing you a very boring pregnancy. I'm not sure about the worrying calming down. I hope so!

curly that sounds awful. I'm sorry you've had to go through all that and hope it is good news for you next week.

Cuppachaplz · 23/01/2016 21:50

Just had a small bleed and lost some mucus plug.
Rang in and they said to come straight in.
DH is out in town, not picking up his phone. Baby is in bed.
Talk me down, please. I'm having a small freak outConfused

Cuppachaplz · 23/01/2016 21:55

Welcome to phwog. Wishing you an uneventful pregnancy.

Curly how distressing. Hoping you get some reassurance on Monday. Sending sticky hugs X Thanks

1stTimeRounder · 23/01/2016 22:04

Oh Cuppa that's rubbish. Is there anyone else who can come and babysit for you to be able to go on and get checked out? I hope DH picks up his phone soon. Big hugs.

I've had a bit of red blood now but still mostly brown discharge. Feeling crampy, we'll see what tomorrow brings but I'm not hopeful Sad

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