Staying posifrickentive - Thread 7 for ladies pregnant after mc

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New thread for all the lovely ladies facing the trials and tribulations of pregnancy after mc!

Yes I'm super crabby. Poor DD - I so look forward to her bed time .

Our car is dying and is going to cost a fortune to keep it running - DH has just said we can buy a new car. Not ideal timing but we got a good deal thanks to my Union (not been good for much else!!) and I'm excited to have a reliable car

Ahh exciting car news!! Best to have a reliable car definitely! You won't want to break down in labour

I've just got a call from the hospital to say they can squeeze me in Friday at 8.45, which is typically not going to work, DP is supposed to be at work at 8am and DS doesn't start nursery until 9. Arghhh

Ewnot really crumbles he swings in roundabouts really supportive sometimes then other times not. Here's an example my EED is August 22nd his friend fiancé emailed him asking if he could go racing in Germany in August bearing in mind I will have to have a c section so god knows in August when the baby will be born. He said yes then in September he has booked to go golf. We have 2 other DD the youngest being disabled and when I kicked off (which I think any new mum would especially who's having a c section with other children) said I can't stop him living his life. So sod it you go live your life but whilst your doing it I'm not doing your washing cleaning and cooking either I will stay with parents and help them. It's taken me to leave him for him to realise his actions and thoughts are unacceptable but it's not the point at time if he could of got away with it he would of and to me no OH would do that to their partners especially after just giving birth.
There's loads of other things could go onto write a book haha. But that was the icing on the cake he needs to change his lifestyle big time grow some balls and become a proper family man if he wants us back but he has got a long way to go to prove it.

We are due around the same time :) I am keeping everything crossed baby is ok and will survive this bleed I'm so anxious last time I got to this point I thought nothing can go wrong but it did. My symptoms are a lot stronger this time though after I posted this morning my nausea came back with vengeance. I have not been sick through this pregnancy I much rather I had instead I feel constantly sick and tired and also grumpy like I can not function properly awful feeling. We're nearly there though ladies hitting double figures slowly but surly.

So glad you called and got a scan date crumbles. Have you excepted it? It so awkward when they say we can fit you in you feel like you can't say no sorry that's not a convient time and really want the scan. My next scan won't be until 8th February now but might try beg at doctors or I have midwife on Friday so may voice my concerns to her. So frightened of turning up to the 12 week scan and baby has died like before. I'm sure for us all everything will be fine though.

Hi everyone, hope you've all had a good day. I had my first scan today, my big empty womb fear wasn't quite realised. Dildocam showed there's a sac that measures 5 wks (I'm 7 wks by my dates), and no yolk. I was told there's a 50/50 chance this could still be ok so FX little Doddrioni is a late starter and shows up on my next scan on Friday. Has anyone else had this?

keys I do think men don't seem to always have the pregnancy in the forefront of their minds like we do and sometimes say/do stupid things, I would go mad though if DP booked anything in Aug/Sept time and that's without a c section!

I didn't realise you had bleeding aswell have you been checked out? If GP won't offer an extra scan could you self refer to an EPU for advice?

They can't offer me another date for weeks so I will be accepting it, terrified to have to go on my own though incase it's bad news and I will have to tell someone as I will need a babysitter and I didn't want anybody to know until I had seen it was okay at the scan

Mimi I hope you are okay I don't have personal experience but I did have a friend who had a scan after some bleeding at about 6 weeks and something similar happened, the baby was okay in her case and they put it down to a possible long cycle and late conception.

Could your dates be possibly out or are you sure when you conceived? When will they re-scan?

Hi Crumbles, I'm doing ok at the moment. My understanding GP has signed me off so I don't need to face my 3 heavily pregnant colleagues whilst I'm in this limbo. I did CBD tests that put my OV on 11th December, and I got my BFP 12 days later so I don't think my dates are too far wrong. I'm trying to take some comfort that I haven't had any pain or bleeding, although had a bit of pink discharge after Dildocam (I think I might be allergic to whatever they put on it as it always stings like hell).

My next scan is on Friday, and I've been referred to my local EPU now. I was being seeing at the regional recurrent miscarriage research clinic in Manchester, which was great for getting tests done and being a Guinea Pig for new research protocols but less helpful for reassurance scans when you've an hour long train journey after bad news. So just a week of pacing about and knicker-watch ahead of me now.

Any chance you have a tilted uterus Mimi? I know that can make them get the measurements wrong..

Handholds for everyone out there worrying about scans and bleeds and everything. I just had a bit of spotting, too, including a smear of red blood. No pains, and the surgery is shut now so nothing to do anyway but wait and see what happens. But I'm sick with worry as this is about how far in I was when it all went wrong last time.

Just want it all to be okay this time

Hi Sophia, yes I do have a retroverted uterus, and the scan notes mention it's an echo-poor area. I've had this weird feeling that I'm some sort of pregnancy fraud and am not really pregnant. I was hoping my scan would put these feelings to bed, but alas, no.

Big hugs Manatee, I'm sure everything is fine, keep an eye on it if it becomes any more than spotting you can always call the out of hours GP for advice or call 111 who always take it seriously and can book you an appointment to get checked out. Spotting is so so common though try not to worry, could be a million different things unconnected to the baby. I know that is so much easier said than done.

Oh Manatee, sorry to hear you're not having a good time either . I'm 100% with you on wanting to it just to be ok this time, I'm not religious so I'm going for a mega big FX for all of us worriers at the moment.

Don't have much time but wanted to say I'm here reading and offering a hand to all having a worrying time. Look after yourselves

Keeping fingers and toes crossed for Friday Mimi, good that they're rescanning you so soon and not making you wait 10 days.

Hope spotting/pains settle down manatee and keys x

Nothing to report here at 14 weeks, don't feel pregnant yet and still got 6 weeks until my next scan! Is anyone else under consultant led care? My midwife told me I would receive a consultant appointment for between 12 and 16 weeks and I've not heard yet. Just wondering if has any experience of similar?

Hey everyone, just wanted to say fingers crossed everything goes well for you and your lo arrive as planned. Sadly ours hasn't hung in there but thanks for the kind words when needed

raspberry I'm consultant led due to recurrent losses. Didn't actually see anyone until I was 20 weeks but I've had growth scans and extra appointments. In my area it means a nice birth plan is out and you can't be midwife led.

bowser so sorry :( I wish there was something I could say to make it all make sense but I know it doesn't right now. Take care of yourself.

Everyone waiting for scans and having niggles - I'm thinking of you all and I hope for the best outcome.

My blood sugar has been all over the place the last couple of days so I need to see my consultant again. Terrified of all the obvious complications (stillbirth) do I'm going to beg for an induction or csection in the next couple of weeks. It's really affecting my mental health to carry on like this.

Bowser I'm so very sorry to hear this Take care and be kind to yourself.

Manatee and Mimi hand holding for both of you at this difficult and worrying time.

Bowser so sorry
Hoping you have rl support, be gentle with yourself xx

Mimi my last pregnancy involved heavy bleeding and a sac measuring 2w behind, with dates getting more and more behind. He turned 1 last month xx

Bowser I'm so sorry .

Thanks Cuppa, I'm trying to take reassurance where I can but I'm reading every ache and twinge down there as something bad. I'm really hoping it's just my mind playing tricks on me, did you experience that too?

I'm so sorry Bowser. I hope you have lots of RL support. Look after yourself

So sorry Bowser Nothing anyone says can ease the pain but we all know what you're going through

Mimi Hang in there - it's not bad news till it's bad news iyswim. All sorts of reasons for an apprent delay at this stage. Remind me, do you have a follow up scan booked?

Well the spotting seems to have stopped. It was just a tiny amount so am praying it was just a random thing. Have a MW appt today anyway so will ask her if anything else needs checking out. Might see if I can get referred for an EPU scan in the next week or so maybe.

Manatee I'll try but I'm a wreak today. I stupidly panic POAS with fmu this morning and the line is much fainter than my panic POAS one afternoon last week. It might not mean anything but I'm struggling to see how I'll ever have a take home baby at this rate. Glad to hear your spotting's stopped, hopefully the mw will refer you for a scan.

I didn't have good news yesterday. After 3 weeks of spotting/bleeding, scans and a sac measuring small and then growing a wee bit but not matching my dates it was confirmed yesterday the sac was now empty. I am booked in for a d&c tomorrow. I am relieved to finally have an answer and know where I stand and just want to get back to normal. At 41 I already have 2 daughters age 11 and 17 but my partner has no children this is our 2nd miscarriage. I think I have the ability to give this one more go straightaway as soon as I am back to my cycle but it will be our last shot. Love to all of you that are going through the same as me just now and good luck to all of you with healthy bubbas xxxx

Oh Solan, that's heartbreaking news I am so sorry. All the best for you op tomorrow and hope to see you back on the thread (permanently) very soon.

So sorry Solan

Mimi A quick rummage online suggests it's not unheard-of to get a fainter line further into pregnancy, or even a false negative. I found lots of forum discussion and a scholarly article about this.

Apparently very high concentrations of hCG can result in a false faint or negative test, as can changes in the type of hCG being released in your body. So don't panic - it seems the sensitivity of the test isn't always a 1:1 correlation with the concentration of hCG and it's normal for the strength of the test result to tail off further into pregnancy.