Staying posifrickentive - Thread 7 for ladies pregnant after mc

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New thread for all the lovely ladies facing the trials and tribulations of pregnancy after mc!

Hi new (or returning!) people congrats to you all.

12 week scan tomorrow.. so scared. Just been crying all day! Think i will pop over to mil's for a cuppa and a bit of tlc. Praying and praying im back tomorrow and can stay with you all and not have to leave again!

nouser I was really surprised at the response to that thread. I wondered if I was being morbid when I should be counting my blessings, but it turns out lots of us were feeling a bit grim at Christmas. My heart just broke for some people's stories - mine was pretty tame by comparison - and those actually going through it at that moment But I found it helped me to be able to talk about the sad stuff, like I hadn't been properly engaging with actually being pg before then but needed to get that off my chest first. Does that make any sense?

primary fingers crossed that all will be well at your scan! It's so nerve-racking when you've got experience of things going wrong

YY to hoping everyone has a boring 8 months

Quick hello from me. Reading but haven't been posting. Hoping you've all had good xmas's?

Welcome newbies! May the next 8 m or so be boring and uneventful.

manatee what nonsense from the antenatal thread. They can be difficult places to be when you've experienced mc and all they are talking about in the first tri is talk of what to buy or other naïve things that assume all pregnancy ends with a baby. We're much more understanding.

nouser hope you're keeping well!

So we're 4wks old today. Where has that time gone. Esp when I look back to the first long trimester or being stuck on rest at the end. DD is amazing. Keeping us, but mainly me, busy feeding and not sleeping but I'm savouring every moment. Xx

manatee It makes perfect sense, and I think the responses on the thread also show that. I know where you're coming from about having had a 'tame' experience but it also doesn't take anything away from the fact that it was your experience and it happened to you.

primary What time is your scan tomorrow? I'm not sure I can say anything to help other than there's a far far greater chance that you'll be back here telling us how fantastically it all went than not. Hand holding from over here.

I'm 37 weeks today! I've spent most of the year convinced I would never get to this point. Still terrified its all about to go wrong but so grateful to have made it this far.

Welcome keys & manatee lovely to see you over here! I remember you guys well! And you 'newbies'....to all of you, welcome, and may your stay be long and uneventful x

noodle good luck for scan tomorrow, I second what nouser said! X

nouser I would say you've made it hun...37 weeks! Relax....you'll have your little one soon enough x

diddly lovely update x

21&4 here, kicking away...god knows how strong he'll be towards the end still, its a good job he's strong, otherwise he may not have stuck, so I welcome the upcoming 'ouch' moments
NOT welcoming the already 3st weight gain...but that's what 3 pregnancies in a row will do to you I guess....just can't leave the fridge and cupboards alone

31 weeks today and feeling like I need someone to give me a slap! I think I've been using christmas as an excuse not to sort out all of our baby stuff. We've got lots of very kind people in our lives who are desperate to know what they can buy us to help out. I kept almost everything from dd, except for the baby bath which was impossable to store from day one of having it so I don't want another. While we brought mostly unisex stuff in newborn/0-3, we were given loads of girly stuff too so need to make sure we've got enough stuff sutiable for bump. Also things like the cot need to be built now as dh once dh goes back to work Monday his not going to have anymore time off until bump arrives. And he needs my sister's patner to help him with it before he heads of traveling for a couple of months next week. But I keep trying to find out ways to put it off! Currently saying I'll start new years day...might happen if someone holds me accountable to it.

Not long left to go, but getting really anxious about next scan and consultants appointment at 35 weeks. Trying to think that I am having a c-section 8 weeks today and that it will be a bonus if bump and placenta are in the right position to attempt a vbac. But if I'm honest with myself I'm really hoping to at least have the chance to attempt vb but trying to keep in mind that a cs is perfectly fine too. At the end of the day I know I won't care once bump's here and getting him here safely is all the matters. But I do want to know what my opptions are either way! The uncertainty is made so much worse by the fact I'm sure bump is head down due to pelvic presure and where I feel movement. I just want to be able to mental prepare one way or another even if it is the case everything is fine and I end up with elcs anyway if I don't go into labour!

Congratulations to those of you new or returning here.

Hi all
Congratulations to all those who've recently got bfps, hope its smooth sailing from now on! Recognise a few names from other threads. Glad you've moved over here Sophia, I'm trying to stick around on the TTC after mc thread to support those still trying but I'm conscious there's a bit too much pregnancy talk sometimes. Good luck booking in tomorrow.

Sorry you felt uncomfortable on the sept board manatee, am sure you'll be better able to give and receive support on here

Best of luck with scan tomorrow noodle! Mines in a week and I've been chilled out up till now, but the worry is starting to get to me and have had a few sleeplessness nights this week.

Hope you get a clearer idea of your options soon dobby, having a good plan of action always makes me feel more relaxed x

Thanks for the hand holding everyone. Last time i had to go on my own and merrily skipped along having had a positive scan only a week earlier... i keep having flashbacks of the sonographer saying "theres something not quite right with your baby". I know im being morbid but im just trying to prepare myself for the worst (not that you can prepare!)

At least mil is coming with me this time!

manatee I havent joined an antental thread yet for that very reason... had a quick scan after my bfp and found myself getting really upset by all the flippant talk about hoping its not a boy/girl.. i think once you have lost that pregnancy innocence, whether its through tfmr or mc, you can never enjoy pregnancy in quite the same way..

But thank god for you lot and how understanding everyone is!

Oh noodle, how awful for you to have that news on your own. Glad mil is going with you this time tho. I tend to find my scans a bit awkward as I know most of the sonographers personally or professionally. Last time I knew there was a problem straight away as her voice and manner changed. Can't be easy for them either but they were brillant with me.

noodle that must have been unbelievably rough, to get that news on your own I know exactly what you mean about 'lost that pregnancy innocence'.

We'll all have fingers and toes crossed for you that everything tomorrow is totally boring and normal.

Hi sunday! I know what you mean. I feel so at home over there but don't feel comfortable posting too much as it feels like I'm rubbing it in- especially as I've been fortunate to conceive both this and the last pregnancy very quickly. Equally I don't feel comfortable being on a thread where everyone can seem a bit naive! I tried doing a first trimester yoga Youtube the other day and hated it cause the I instructor kept going on about 'your baby' and I don't feel confident thinking about my pregnancy like that yet :-/ I guess it just highlights how individual all our experiences are!
Booking appointment tomorrow so hoping to feel more reassured after that! How are you doing?

noodle that must have been awful getting bad news after a positive scan :-( I was on my own too as it was just a check after a tiny bit of bleeding, and I get flashbacks too. The midwives were lovely but the sonographer was quite abrupt and matter-of-fact as I was only 7 weeks, then I had to get two buses home on my own. Dreading my scan to be honest :-/

Hello all

Just wanted to check back in after catching up on the thread. Now 15+2 and I can't believe how the last few weeks have flown. I can definitely empathise with all who have scans coming up, I was in absolute bits before mine but am beginning to relax a bit now. I lurked a bit on the June antenatal thread before the scan but the ladies here were much more able to understand my anxiety after an EP and MMC in the last 18 months. Now I feel a bit more able to join in on general chitchat. When I got my first flutters it was really amazing and I wish you the same experience very soon. Big hugs!

Thanks for warm welcome can't believe some of the names I recognised have only a few weeks to drop lovely to see after the heartache of the past losses.
I got called in for emergency re scan yesterday I was petrified the epu don't call you and ask you in within the hour. Turns out they were being over cautious because of my previous blood clot and losing my last baby at 11 weeks.
I know how you feel noodle I went for a scan at 9 uweeks baby was fine strong heart beat they said the blood clot was well away from baby and was passing through. So 2 weeks later I started bleeding everyone thought was the clot passing so did I. Took myself to a and e as advised at 7 in the morning for a check up baby stopped growing at 9 weeks so as soon as I had that scan the blood clot must of got in some how and I was on my own its such a horrible flashback. Glad you have mil with you my mum don't leave my side now when it comes to scans.

Over 6 weeks no blood clot is there and heart beat detected trying to stay so positive this time especially as I fee so rough (which is a positive sign for me) next scan 13th Jan will be 8 weeks seems so far away. Hate the first trimester it goes so slowly and so much worry is attached.

Congratulations again to everyone in here looking forward to hopefully spending your journeys with you all.

Welcome to all the newbies and returners. Wishing you all healthy and happy pregnancies. X

I think I've found my home on this thread. 5wks now. Am trying not to fret and obsess: I've got all the twanging feelings in my middle today, plus yesterday I thought I saw a tiny bit of spotting, though I put a pad in and nothing overnight or today. (Sorry if tmi). On the plus (ish) side I am exhausted and nauseous which is a good sign I suppose. Not sure how I'm going to cook up a NYE feast for later (DB and SIL coming to stay) but DH is being very protective and will commis chef for me I'm sure.

Hope everyone has happy New Years!

Had the scan. Last time they found a cystic hygroma, complete hydrops and an nt of 5.5mm which grew to 6.9mm within 3 days

Nt was 3.4mm this time which is stressing me out but head consultant checked the structure of everything else (spine/skull etc) and was very reassuring that 3.4 is still 'normal' so just gotta wait for bloods now.

So bittersweet relief but definitely definitely better than last time! And theyve said theyll rescan at 16 weeks because i keep crying im anxious lol

Fantastic news noodle! I hope you're feeling reassured. Appreciate the worry never really goes away but hopefully the bloods won't take long to do and it's not too long until the next scan. It's great that they will see you again for an extra scan to ease the anxiety.

manatee Good luck with the cooking, what's on the menu? We'll be settling in with our m+s 2 can dine later. I usually like to see people on nye so this will be a new experience! (And I'll probably be napping from 9 onwards anyway)

Great to hear everything is looking so positive keys. I remember you from some previous threads, fab news that all is going well!

37 wks nouser that's brilliant!

Hello everyone, can I introduce myself please?

I'm currently 20+5 with my first after three miscarriages since November 2014, never had a problem getting pregnant just keeping my little ones.

I was on the recurrent miscarriage thread but don't have Facebook so found it hard to keep up and my current 'home' is the the immune/natural killer cell thread in conception.

I think it's time I started acknowledging my little jelly fish after a great 20 week scan. I've been coping by living in denial and not telling anyone until it got to the point a week my sil gave me a card and said 'you just can't hide that bump anymore'.

Despite all the scans ( think I've had six haha) I still find it hard to believe the jelly fish is healthy. My latest worry is that I have an anterior placenta. I feel her moving but not really 'kicking up a storm' like other people describe. The midwife has said in a few weeks I should start to feel her establishing a pattern but that just makes me worried because I can't live in denial if I'm constantly monitoring movement haha

So silly to worry about these things isn't it?

Welcome Snoopy! It must be nerve-racking to be 20wks after so many mcs. Lol as well at your sister

noodle Glad to hear things are within normal range. I'm sure the worry will never completely go but that's one milestone down at least

nousername I'm doing mushroom and tarragon ravioli (home made) to start, with pickled chanterelles and a chicken broth. That's followed by slow roast duck stuffed with tangerines and glazed with brown sugar and star anise, then treacle sponge and cheese and biscuits.

I've prepared the ravioli and chanterelles and am now having a little sit down before I make the glaze and the pudding batter. There's only four of us for dinner, and this may well be the last time I can be arsed to cook anything fancy for a while, so I'm showing off having fun

Had my booking appointment today- went ok. I'm going to have consultant-led care as I have a history of anxiety disorder. Midwife has also referred me for support for that, which is brilliant. Felt a bit worried about opening up so much but though it best to be as honest as possible so I can get support I need. She wasn't particularly supportive about my morning sickness though :-( pretty much implied it's because I'm not eating, but I can't really eat cause I feel so sick! And she was annoyed that I couldn't give a big enough urine sample! Bought some fizzy grape juice for tonight- plan to doze on sofa with DP. Happy New Year everyone!

Well, I thought I'd managed to stay stealth over NYE dinner - I was disguising ederflower cordial as white wine, and pouring my red wine into other people's glasses, and pretending to drink a glass of champers at minight. But both my brother and his GF separately asked DH if I was pregnant, as I was looking so 'glowing' DH said 'we're not sure yet so don't say anything' so no-one did say anything to me. The main thing I didn't want though was a big fuss made, so at least we managed that.

Others who are further along - did you find it hard getting to or past the 'milestone' where things went wrong last time? I'm coming up to 6wks and this is where the first spotting started last time, so I'm hyper-alert and feeling properly neurotic about the whole thing. I have a feeling that's basically going to be me for the next month, until I'm passed 9wks when the MC actually happened.

Anyway, the dinner went very well and was lots of fun apart from not being able to get nicely shitfaced. Despite not having a hangover I've declared today a duvet day as I'm feeling queasy and exhausted. On the comforting side, I did another cheapy test and the line came up super-fast and quite strong so things are currently going in the right direction.

Hope everyone else had lovely New Years and that you're all lazing around now having peaceful Bank Holiday Fridays

Oh - dur - I re-RTFT and found the stats sheet. Here it is again for anyone else like me who's not paying attention joined recently. Have added myself, hope that's OK

Happy new year everyone :) really hoping we all have happy and healthy pregnancies this year.

Great news noodle about it downing in size I know how worried you must be the wait for scans is awful in first trimester and as we've all experienced a mc which makes us extra anxious. How long do you have until your next scan? I am sure everything will be fine otherwise it would of increased not decreased and consultant said its now in normal range honestly Hun your be fine.

snoopy we will never stop worrying whether its symptoms in first trimester then movement in second and third. When is your scan? I am sure everything is fine but if your worried go and see your doctor there normally really good with things like this and get you in for a emergency scan. We will always be extra caucious unfortunately. I've read load of stories like yours people panic as you would its normal and baby is bouncing on the monitor :).

sophia sorry to hear about your past anxiety it's so good there looking after you though and so glad to hear your booking appointment went well.

OThehuge hehe it's hard keeping it from people at the best of times let alone over xmas and new year. I had the same problem as you I just said I was on antibiotics was a water infection so could not drink. We're around the same gestation it's horrible this stage ay :(. Wish I could fast forward to week 12.

Feeling very sick today went to be sick but wasn't. Was off tea and coffee now I'm craving tea with sugar I never have sugar coffee still makes my tummy turn but now worried why I want tea as before I didn't last pregnancy I knew something could of been wrong as I woke up and could drink coffee. The worry never stops. Normally a crisp girl and no sugar in drinks etc now Im sitting here eating refreshers instead of Pringles so weird how it changes your hormones.