no jinxing for us - #6 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[northdownmummy]

Continuing the thread for ladies who are pregnant after MC

Welcome belkins, I'm so sorry to hear of your previous losses but everything crossed that things work out this time and you have a long and boring time of it.

Good luck with the interview northdown, if all goes well will you be going straight into the new job from maternity leave?

Good luck north!!

Growth scan went fine this morning, within an acceptable range but on the small size. And placenta has almost moved ... Just touching exit now so hopefully it will have moved by my next scan in 2 weeks. Already predicted 3lb 6. More I think about it the more excited I feel today which is novel but nice. Long femurs!! Hopefully she'll have dh's long legs and not my short ones! Xx

Oooh, north, I'm jealous! 7.5 more weeks to go here (not that I'm counting down then days )... And good luck for your interview! Nothing like going out on a bang!

mrsD That is great news about your placenta going in the right direction! Fingers crossed she'll be completely out of the way soon.

How did the test today go, belkin?

I'm feeling a bit meh this week... Had a scary episode yesterday, I nearly fainted at work. I have no idea why, but am wondering if I overdid it in the gym the night before (although I thought that I had been really careful) - my whole upper back was complete agony yesterday, and I'm wondering if that had anything to do with it.
Much better today, after going to bed at 9.30pm last night. I think I need to start winding down my activities, and that my days in the gym are numbered (sigh). I'm just worried about gaining even more weight!
Starting pregnancy yoga tonight, really looking forward to it.

Great news on your scan diddly, fingers crossed the placenta will be in the right place st the next one.

Oooh cloud yes sounds like you may need to start taking it easy. You sound a very active and fit person so I'm sure you'll be able to shift that weight once the baby is born. Hope you enjoy yoga tonight.

belkin hope your results are positive today X

Enjoy your last wk north and good luck with your interview!

Ooh good luck north!

Sorry you're having this worry Belkin, I hope your tests go well. I had lots of bleeding in the first trimester too, it's so hard not to panic.

How did it go today belkin? The first trimester is definitely the hardest. Hope you're OK

Does sound like you need a break cloud! Well done on all the gymming. I've been rubbish this pregnancy, but enjoyed my new yoga class on Monday.

Had a pathetic big cry on my way home from work. Must have needed it. It's been a long week so far and it just dawned on me how far we've got and how much I really want to be holding a baby in 10 weeks or so. Was overwhelmed by the fear of something going wrong. Not sure I feel better for it. Thinking about it has made me well up again. Early night tonight after the bake off will probably help. Hormones and tiredness are not a good mix!!

Can I join please. Currently 11+4 with (hopefully) DC1 following 5 previous miscarriages. I'm the most pregnant I've ever been and had my last good scan last week, but none of this is providing much reassurance. Just had my booking in appointment too which has got me down a little as there was a lot of talk that assumed a baby will arrive in 6m and I wasn't quite ready for that. Sorry to sound so blue. I'm hoping to pick up a bit after 12 week scan next week.

I know some of you from rmc thread/fb but have name changed. I think those from over there will figure out who I am (TS) from my stats but don't say as post hacking I am all paranoid!

Sorry to be a bit down in the dumps. I'm going to read back through the thread and hopefully give myself a bit of a boost.

My most recent good scan NOT my last good scan!

Good to see you here mintleaf. Yes I find booking in apps strange, they just talk as if mc doesn't exist and bombard you with loads of crap like the bounty pack, and even leaflets about having a car seat for the baby, wtf?!! I also found it weird having a due date to start with as it felt like nothing was 'due' yet, I was just managing to stay pg which was enough of an achievement.
Which day is your 12wk scan? Hopefully you'll have nearly got through the hardest part and once your scan is done next wk time will pass less slowly and you'll gradually become more positive.

How are you feeling today diddly?

Drained and emotional! I think I'm over tired. Not sleeping great. Nauseous. I could go on. But won't. Got next week off work and we're going away for a few days so that is my focus at the moment. To survive a day and half at work and then collapse! Thanks for asking bumble

Hello mintleaf welcome aboard! Booking in appointments are frustrating. To me anyway. All that enthusiasm and talk about 'baby' when you can't imagine actually taking one home. Well done for surviving it! It is a milestone.

Welcome mint, and well done for getting through your booking appt. I agree they are very weird when you've had one or more mc before; not sure why they can't wait to do them after 12 weeks really.

I'm with you on the not sleeping well mrsdiddly! I don't know if baby changed position or if it's just her size, but the last week or so she feels really down and is always kicking me right on the bladder every time I try and go to sleep!

Hi can I join you?
I'm 9weeks, I miscarried last dec at 17weeks and have a 7yo DS.
I'm finding it sooo tough, I keep getting déjà vu as I was doing all this last year at almost the exact same time. I'm finding it so hard to be positive and am convinced they are going to tell me something is wrong at the scan. My first scan will be at the end of Oct and I think I'm going to go crazy. Lovely to read so many positive stories.

Welcome mint and wonky!

Good luck with your interview North!
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Hope you're feeling a bit better today CloudJumper, and you manage to get some rest MrsDiddly, sounds like you both need to slow down just a little.

Sadly the miscarriage was pretty much confirmed today. Hcg levels down to 149 yesterday, and scan today showed nothing (apart from a very 'good lining' - I guess I have to be proud of something!). Another blood test tomorrow and then they'll let me stop taking the progesterone. Hopefully then I'll bleed (who knew I'd ever look forward to that happening...).

Best of luck in your pregnancies, and thank you for being so welcoming.

Belkin x

I'm so sorry it's another mc belkin, life is so cruel at giving people so much shit. Please feel free to join the recurrent mc thread for some support xxx

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/2461442-Recurrent-Miscarriage-Support-Thread-30-Support-for-Tests-Treatments-and-Trying-Again?pg=11&order=

Welcome wonky, the first weeks are so difficult. So sorry for your loss, particularly as it was so late on. Remember this is a new pregnancy though, new egg, new sperm, new lining etc. Good luck xxx

Oh Belkin I'm so sorry

belkin I'm so sorry, be kind to yourself

belkin, so sorry to hear this. Such horrible news. I hope things resolve quickly so you can start to heal. Look after yourself and as bumble says, come and see us on the rmc board xx

Welcome mint. Nice to see you over here. The booking in is very strange and uncomfortable. My mw was asking me where i wanted to have the baby! I didn't know whether to laugh at the absurdity of me getting to full term or cry at the thought of what was still to come in order to get there. Hopefully after the scan next week you will start to feel a bit more and more positive each day. Big hug x

Welcome wonky. Congratulations on your pg. You've been through a really tough time of it and it's so hard to relax and enjoy it after that. Could you get an early scan perhaps, just to put your mind at rest? Big hand hold for the next few weeks x

Sorry you're having a tough time diddly, but you're so close now. I totally understand how scary that must seem, because of what there is to lose, but you're nearly there. Just hold on xx

Oh belkin so sad that this is happening to you again. Hope you have plenty of support in real life, be kind to yourself

belkins I'm sorry another mc has practically been confirmed. I can understand looking forward to being able to move on by stopping the progesterone. Hope you have some RL support and are being looked after. Be kind to yourself. Xx xx

wonky welcome and congratulations! You're so close to your scan. Time drags so much in the first trimester. Just take it a day at a time and even though you feel a bit of de ja vu this is a new pregnancy and stands a really good chance of succeeding

Oh belkin I'm so sorry. It's unfair and cruel that you have to go through this again. Please look after yourself xxx

Welcome newbies! The first trimester is just brutal, one day at a time.
Booking appointments are highly overrated, imo. Just filling in forms.
Our hospital scheduled a meeting with us to discuss birth options at 14 weeks Absolutely ridiculous - I pushed it back to after the 20-week scan, when I was in a much better place to even consider thinking about birth.

Hope you're feeling better MrsD. Hormones and tiredness definitely don't mix! Take it easy, it's not long now. I've just totally welled up while writing an email to the counsellor who I had sessions with last year after my miscarriage, to let her know what's happening with me. Had to pretend that something had gotten in my eye (I'm at work and can't really burst into tears here...). I also cried at the Bake Off on Wednesday, but from what I have heard, everyone did!

Had my first pregnancy yoga session on Wednesday, and it was so lovely. I had the same teacher when doing pg yoga last time. It made me realise how little I have really enjoyed this pregnancy so far, just because I was either too sick and/or too scared. Which is really sad, especially since this is very likely my last time ever being pg So I need to make the most of the last trimester!! 28 weeks today, whoop!

belkin Thinking of you today.

mrsd and cloud, John Lennon's 'beautiful boy' was on the radio on my drive to work this morning and it made me very emotional. Never heard it before, the lyrics are gorgeous. I also confess to welling up at Bake Off.

Welcome wonky and mint, wishing you both boring and uneventful times of it.

Exhausted and on edge (again today). Baby didn't have his usual 9pm party and it took cold drinks, lying down and lots of prodding to get him to budge. He finally gave me some kicks at about 11:30. Couldn't sleep past 4 so feeling it today. Also had some thick jelly like discharge this morning (sorry for tmi) which is new but unsettling. Midwife says it's fine but my first thought was mucus plug so just feeling a bit on edge from the past 12 or so hours at the moment.

cloud final trimester! Congratulations! Lovely to hear that you had a good time at yoga and can totally empathise with the lack of enjoyment. I feel a bit robbed of the whole experience with this constant expectation that something is going to go wrong.

cloud yey for last trimester! I see what you mean about not enjoying it. I went to Pilates last night and there are a few who are pg and they were laughing and joking about typical pg things, made me feel like I was only just joining the 'pg group' and being able to relax and I'm half way through! You have a good while now to relax and begin enjoying it, go for it!

Btw- I'm welling up at reading about you welling up writing your email!! (and of course did at bake off)

nouser how many wks are you? (Sorry I'm crap at keeping track) I'm sure if your mw is not concerned about the discharge it is nothing for you to worry about. Mine has been quite thick, stringy and jelly like all the way through (sorry tmi!), but I'm sure if I got a lot of it I would also be concerned. There's always something to make us worry isn't there eh?!

I'm officially half way through today and have the 20wk scan later today. I've felt much better the last few days after my wobble early this wk, so feeling quite excited now. Just telling myself not to start worrying about it as I can't do anything about it. xxx