no jinxing for us - #6 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[northdownmummy]

Continuing the thread for ladies who are pregnant after MC

Yay for 24 weeks nouser great milestone!

north glad your check up went well and the bag wasn’t needed! Hope they are happy with growth next week – but if not at least you will be at 37 weeks

I have my nuchal scan yesterday - all very low risk though a bit annoyed as I had turned down the test but MW pushed me into it saying they check the heart of both babies too and check for other syndromes so advised us to have it but they didn't so just got my downs risk level that I wasn't really interested in. Was lovely to see both babies again though, and DP came with me which was really lovely too - and we got to hear their heartbeats. Am now 13+5, one baby is measuring 4 days smaller (and wasn't last week) but they told me not to worry - so trying not to!

Can I join you all please? Im just pg with no 3. After Mc in aug. And nervous like you wouldnt or actually would believe!

Great scan news mummy!

Welcome msfeisty, congratulations on your pregnancy!

Congratulations feisty may you have an uneventful 9m ahead

I'm all ranty and annoyed. Saw consultant this morning. Tried to get them to discharge me but now I'm booked in for a growth scan next week. I should be grateful for the extra care perhaps but I just want to see my lovely mw instead. I'm only under her because of my low bmi and because DS was on the 15th percentile when he was born (at 7lb 5oz which was a really good weight). After ranting at dh I've suddenly started to wonder if maybe something could be wrong. Heads going in stupid bloody circles! Sorry for sounding crazy.

diddly that does sound annoying – but I don’t think they can secretly monitor you for something they are worried about – they would have to tell you why, so I don’t think anything is wrong – just keeping an eye on growth.

Congrats and welcome Fiesty

diddly is there anyway you can call your MW and let her know how you're feeling? It might help to have a bit of a rant to her and get some reassurance or advice from someone a little friendlier than the consultants x

Hi fiesta congrats on your pregnancy

Thank you all! Im slowly wrapping my head around it all. Gp being very good and hopefully arranging reassurance scan asap if not ill just pay! Im questioning every ache as you do but feeling tired and sickish so i guess thats something. This is my DC3 but DPs DC1 so a different experience for both.

diddly that does sound a bit irritating, i got gestational diabetes in my last 2 pregnancies so was scanned every week by the end, and understand what you mean, the extra care is great but after a whilr you just want normality and to be left to it a bit.

How's everyone doing?

I had a grumpy weekend, lots of aches and pains. Was at my not comfortable floating in the pool.
This is my last week of work before starting maternity leave and cause of appointments and tile off I'm only actually in the office 2 days. Just need to make it through this week

I've been a bit grumpy too north, so fed up of being pregnant now and can't believe I still have 8 weeks to go! Time seems to be standing still again at the moment.

4 more weeks (or 12 days) at work for me. Bought some stuff for my hospital bag at the weekend and made a start on the Christmas shopping.

Grumpy weekends all around, I cried in the carpet shop while looking for new carpet for baby's room on Saturday.

Maternity leave is depressing me, I'm so bored already. Signed up for aquanatal classes starting next Monday, and OH is decorating babys room today so a happier start to the week :)

Morning ladies, good weekend over herr but definitely a grumpy Monday. Got a stinking cold and achey bump has now moved to a constant feeling of being saddlesore. I did do 2x4 hour drives at the weekend so hopefully it's just my body telling me not to do that again.

Very jealous of all you on/about to go on mat leave, although I think my perception is that it would be much better than it actually will be!

Hi everyone - I found you! The thread totally dropped off my threads I'm on, so I haven't been on it for ages!

I'm 17+4 and have been doing really well, not worrying too much and starting to relax, actually looking forward to my next scan, thinking about names etc. But since yesterday all the anxiety has come back! I just don't feel as pregnant any more, I don't know what is different but I just have a dread feeling. Did anyone else have this sudden anxiety? Scan is two weeks tomorrow, it can't come quickly enough!

Hi everyone, hope you're all ok.
suz I was just going to post the same thing!! It's horrible that dread feeling isn't it?!
I'm 19+3 today and have my scan on Friday. For the last month I've been feeling more and more positive, starting to imagine we'll actually have a baby and even discussed names. But in the last couple of days bad feelings have started to creep up on me, similar to the ones at the beginning when I was assuming the worst.
It didn't help that I had a dream last night and the Drs kept telling me our baby was going to die and that I should terminate. I expect I'll be having more like those til the scan.
Just getting really scared that it's going to be bad news and after finally thinking we might get out baby this time, we won't. Thinking about it makes me want to cry and that it'll be over after the scan and I'll have to say goodbye.
I should add that there's no sensible reason I'm feeling like this, bump is still growing, baby's still kicking and a scan a couple of wks ago showed everything was fine (but wasn't a full check).
Sorry for the selfish post! Just hoping to get some reassurance from others that have had the same feelings but it's been ok. xxx

suz and bumble, I don't know if I can reassure you but I was/am exactly the same. From about 18-20 weeks I was in a bit of a state about it all, even had a panic attack the night before the scan. The sonographer said everything looked fine but I still googled the measurements I was given to check she was right. I really feel for you both, if I can reassure or help in any way then I will. I've got my fingers crossed for both of you.
The anxiety hasn't massively calmed for me now but I've accepted that it probably won't. I'm on edge when I wake up until I've had a decent kicking session and the poor thing is probably massively fed up of me poking him.

I felt the same way on the run up to my 20 wk scan. The anxiety hasn't left me but once the movements became more regular I have relaxed a bit and now at 29+4 I have a very wriggly thing constantly reminding me if her presence.

Mega sore throat here. Rainy day and stuck inside with DS has been hard work but went to a new pregnancy yoga class tonight and it was nice to have some time to myself. Just need to get through this week then I've a week off work and then only 12 work days left over the following 4 weeks... Never imagined I would get to this point.

I can relate to the scan anxiety, it never really goes away

Really wish I'd found this thread earlier... You guys seem like a lovely group!

I'm really hoping someone can give me a bit of advice.... I'm 5+3, have had 7 (early) miscarriages in the past and am on progesterone.

I had bloods taken yesterday that were only 210. I'm 99% sure I've miscarried but the progesterone is stopping me from bleeding. I can't get an appt with a gp (booked up) and the local EPU is not self referral.

What do I do? I've not been in this position before as all previous miscarriages I've bled very quickly.

Sorry for just crashing in

Oh belkins so sorry to hear you're worried. Is it just the bloods that make you suspect or are there other symptoms?
Could you get repeat bloods done in a couple of days to check levels?

belkins So sorry that you are having this worry! Is the 210 referring to your Hcg level? Who was it that took your bloods, if it was the GP, then maybe you could ask them to refer you straight away without having to see them again? Or could you talk to the EPU and explain your situation?

Sorry I don't have anything more constructive to say! I would call your GP and ask if they can talk to you on the phone, since they don't actually need to see you, they might be happy to make the arrangements. Good luck!

So sorry to hear about your history belkins and that you're worried. I think an hcg of 210 at 5 weeks would be in the normal range, but what's more important is whether it is going up at the correct rate. So would echo north and cloud's advice to try and get your bloods checked again tomorrow or Thursday to see whether it has doubled. If you can't get an appointment at your GP surgery this week could you try and book two blood tests next week 2-3 days apart?

Thank you such quick responses Cloudjumper, Northdown and Metalhead.

The 210 was hcg levels, yes (sorry). And I've got another test booked for Wednesday so hopefully that will give clarification as can be compared. I was given the results by the results team rather than a gp yesterday and when I tried to book an appt this morning (I rang at 8am), all the drs are booked up (even for a phone consultation).

The reason I think it's a miscarriage is due to some horrendous cramping last week and then all symptoms disappearing on Sunday. I know I can't base it on this but I just don't feel right. In the past, I've relied on starting to bleed to know for sure but this is the first time I've had progesterone and I've read it can mask a miscarriage.

I know I need to just wait But it's blinking difficult (as you all know!).

Belkin I know it's little consolation, but you still have everything going for you! I had bad cramping and backache all through my first trimester, and I spotted/bled from 6 to 10-ish weeks! I was convinced I'm going to lose this baby as well, but I'm now approaching 28 weeks.
I was on progesterone as well for the first trimester. Please do not give up hope yet! The early weeks are awful, take one day at a time.

Thanks for your replies nouser, diddly and north. I'm trying to dismiss all the bad thoughts and feelings and keep busy.

Belkin so sorry for your losses and that you think you're having another mc too. Are you 100% on your dates. I'm thinking if you ovulated late and implanted late it could account for the low hcg. Sounds like you won't know for sure until you get your results wed, and I can't think of anything they could do to check in the meantime. Sorry this must be a very difficult time for you again. xxx

Friday is my last day at work before starting my maternity leave. Rather than being very quiet and relaxed, I now have an interview for a new role first thing in the morning ....eeekkkk

Oooh good luck north!