no jinxing for us - #6 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[northdownmummy]

Continuing the thread for ladies who are pregnant after MC

Hi all, checking back in after pretty much spending my second trimester away from this thread! I didn't mean to, but I name-changed and it's only just dawned on me you can type an old username into the box above a post.

I'm 31+1 now and feeling a bit in denial that I'll be having a baby soon! He'll be coming at 38 weeks as I've got gestational diabetes and SPD, maybe even a little bit before then if my mobility keeps getting worse.

Welcome mini, reebok & horse congratulations on your BFPs!

Exciting times for you Eleanor & Biscuit you're so close to meeting your little ones can't wait until I'm that far along!

I've had a trying few days......has a dream on Fri night that I'd started bleeding, it was so vivid that when I woke up on Sat morning thinking it was real. Horrible, really horrible. I had been doing quite well thinking positively, I've got past the 5 week mark when I had my last MC, I'm now 7+3 so nearing the 8 week mark when my first MC happened, hopefully I'll fee better once that milestone is reached.

Also worrying about symptoms coming and going, worried that I'm not feeling sick every minute of every day (which is plain daft). Worried that I'm having too much cm and the mucus plug is coming away, worried on other days that I don't have enough cm. Constantly poking my boobs to see if they are still sore. Obviously have far too much time on my hands, on a positive note, I'm managing to avoid 24 hour knicker-watch....for now. Anyway enough of my ranting, it'll all be worth it in the end!!

Hi ladies hope you're all ok.

Struggling today. Having mild period pains and cramps in my legs...well more like the Aches you get when your sick. Anyway I'm staying at mums with my siblings and no one knows I'm pregnant. Feel like shit. And on top of it, my toddler is messing around so much as its a bigger house and I'm struggling to look after her. Feel like crying.

Hi ladies, almost 31weeks and the perma-hunger has kicked in. Had to get up at 03:30 this morning for a bowl of cornflakes.

reebok I had the pains in the legs for a few days, but it appears to be easing off. My left leg hurt for most of the morning today, though. Could you just say you are feeling poorly and someone else can look after the toddler for a little bit? I'm trying not to worry too much about niggly pains, since I had no pain whatsoever with my mc...I also had no symptoms.
I was better in the afternoon today, but I'm actually really glad that it's still the summer holidays and that I've got a bit over a week before I have to go back to work.

We haven't told anyone, yet. Last time, I told my mum and dad as soon as I found out at four weeks, but DM is terrible at keeping secrets. We've decided to wait until the eight week scan, which we'll hopefully make it to this time.

Feeling very envious of those people, who are so close to the finish line already. Very happy for you, though.

So sorry you're strugling reebok. The early days are so hard. Dh works evenings so up until last week dd has been going to bed rediculously late when he got home from work as I just couldn't physically manage it. We just had to survive.

Hope your lo settles down soon and that you can get an early night and maybe a private cry if you need one.

My mum guessed I was pregnant at just over 6 weeks when I nearly threw up in the supermarket. I don't think I'd have been able to say but was so glad she knew as she and my dad took over as much as they could. Not when I was so worried it was all going to be over at any second. You must feel so isolated with all your family around you but no one knowing.

Thinking of you tonight and hoping tomorrow is a better day.

Thank you...just wish I could tell someone as they keep asking me to do this and that and all I want to do is cry because I'm so damn tired!!! And I need help! They all think I'm being a grumpy cow and have pmt...heard one of them say it earlier. In bed crying at the moment.

Eleanor 38 weeks! how did that happen and how exciting! About time for a new thread baby I reckon!

Reebok sorry you've had a tough day. How long are you at your mums? I never thought being pregnant and looking after a toddler would really be so exhausting (naive me) but it is. Just try to muddle through. Could you just tell your family you think you might be coming down with something to help you get through the next day or so?

Welcome newbies! Wishing you boring pregnancies

Hope you're feeling OK cava

Arggghhh

Insomnia is evil. Its 4am and I've been wide awake for an hour and a half plus about another hour or so tossing and turning before then.

Have finally given in and got up. Booked my TENS machine hire so at least that's something productive

I like llama also decided to stay away for awhile plus it's been quite a busy last few days. welcome to the newbies, I need to go back and read now but wanted to give a quick update.

Last Thursday I had reduced movement and came to be checked out at day assessment unit, baby was kicking away fine on the monitor just the anterior placenta can make it so difficult to feel. However they decided to scan to see if baby had moved from breech or not and found that it was in a bit of a tricky position - oblique lie. This is fine but leaves me at risk of cord prolapse and if my waters were to go I'd be in an emergency situation so they admitted me to postnatal and I will remain here until Friday (fx baby stays put until then). Hospital is boring but we have got streaming packages etc to fill my time and I genuinely would just rather be wherever my baby is safest. Its taken us a very long time to get here and at times it looked very bleak so on a positive note I now get to relax with my feet up and just look forward to meeting my baby!

Oh no cava! How stressful for you, but as you say you're in the best place. And being forced to put your feet up sounds ok! Make sure you have a ton of trashy mags.

cava how stressful! However you are in the best place and as you say it's an opportunity to put your feet up and relax before baby arrives.

reebok I second what the others have suggested, could you say you aren't feeling well so you get a hand with dc? Hope you managed to get a good night's sleep and feel a bit better today.

Hugs cava You are in the best place now, both you and baby are in safe hands, try not to worry too much. Do put your feet up and relax, you have come so far, you can take this last hurdle.

reebok It's so tough, trying to function normally while feeling so rough! Can you not tell a white lie and pretend you have food poisoning or something? So that they acknowledge that you are ill and let you get a break. Or just come clean?

Glad you're where you need to be cava. Lucky they discovered the position really.

reebok, really sorry you're having a tough time. I'm honestly all for just telling them the truth. I hate that society makes us wait until after the 12 week scan to tell anyone. You're made to feel like a weirdo or like you're somehow tempting fate if you say anything before that, but why??! I'm not suggesting anyone goes shouting it from the rooftops and announcing on fb to all and sundry as soon as they see the second line, but to tell a few close family/friends because you need the support, i don't see what the issue is. For my pg that turned into mc3 we didn't tell anyone and i just felt so bloody isolated at a time when i was stressed and scared. And afterwards i just thought 'why did i do that?' because i ended up telling them about the mc anyway so why not tell them earlier to get supported. So since then I've told a select few each time, and i have to say it's really helped me manage better. I know this approach isn't for everyone (sorry for the rant), and maybe it's not for you, but i just wanted to say that you shouldn't feel pressured into not telling anyone. If it will help, then tell them. Life's too short to suffer in silence!

this is an article that made me think about allowing myself to tell people about future pgs, after mc 3

Hi ladies, hope you have all had a lovely weekend.

reebok hope you are feeling a bit brighter today.

cava enjoy putting your feet up !

I've really began to struggle this weekend with anxiety regarding movement. I'm now 26+4 and I still don't have a regular pattern of movement (not sure if this is because of anterior placenta?) I've been waking up in the night worrying why I haven't felt her move (rational answer would be I've been sleeping...) and then working my self up thinking my bump feels different and I don't look as big etc etc. I really feel under pressure to notice a pattern but I just can't I just want to enjoy my pregnancy, but I feel I've just gone from knicker watching to symptom watching and now movement watching.

Sorry for the glum post

Rebecca it's natural I panicked about movement with dd while I was being induced if your on Facebook try and find count the kicks they do a wrist band to help you monitor movement also possibly try writing it down for a week or so might just be you are missing the pattern or that your little ones pattern is that she doesn't have a pattern if that makes sense

baby I've started writing it down, started yesterday, hoping I'll see something, but I just don't think I'm going to have a pattern. It's really getting me down, I just feel like crying today :(

rebecca I have an anterior placenta this time and the movements are much more subtle than my previous pregnancy.
Almost all the movements I feel are on the right side, some I only feel when I have a hand resting on my belly. This has made me realise that there's a big area they can still hide behind. Doesn't stop me stressing totally but has helped apply some logic.
Even now at 31 weeks I have quiet days.

march that's a brilliant article. I've told some close friends now about my mc and all have said they wished they'd known at the time so they could have helped. If I'm lucky enough to get pregnant again I'll be sharing much earlier

Hi everyone. I haven't posted for a while what with the passwords thing and being away for a long weekend. Welcome to everyone who has got their bfps recently - the first few weeks are so stressful (I'm just 10 weeks and waiting for the first tri to be over - although I know that bad things can still happen later on too). I've thought about it milestone by milestone do far, trying not to think very far ahead yet. Next milestone is dating scan in 11 days.

I liked that article march. I have told my mum and dad and a close friend because these are the people who supported me through the mc and would do again if it happened again. So I thought, why not tell them? It has been good to share with a few people as they understand my anxiety.

cava I hope they are looking after you well in hospital. I was admitted for nearly a week before I had my twins as my waters went but no labour. It was so dul! Hope you are getting some sleep, I definitely recommend ear plugs.

Hello all

I only joined MN a week ago after finding out I was pregnant. I have been very lucky in the past and have three DC from a previous marriage. My new partner and I have been TTC for about 18 months and sadly last November I had a MC at 7 1/2 weeks. Not uncommon I know, but new for me and it really did leave me devastated. What surprised me was even up last month I would still have moments where I would be beside myself again about it all.

Being early 40's and nothing further happening I had started to give up and think about exotic holidays with my family however, that has all changed again!

I am on here today as I am falling apart with worry and a couple of lovely MN members suggested I join the thread. It took two weeks before a test showed up positive but by my date calculations I should be about 7 weeks today. After doing a digital test this morning to see if I had moved on from 2-3 weeks I was upset to see there was no change (it was still reading the same). Initially I thought maybe there was a problem but then it dawned on me I may have just ovulated later in my cycle which would also explain the negative tests.

I wish I could just relax about it all and stop worrying, but I feel like a wreck today.

Any advice about how to chill out would be welcomed!

Brilliant article! I feel very much the same. my 20 week scan is in 9 days and I feel like I can't properly start enjoying my pregnancy until I've passed that mile stone. I wish I could stop prefixing everything with 'hopefully' or 'if all goes well'. I got myself into complete hysterics last week over nothing and ended up at the midwifes feeling very silly. Look forward to feeling proper movements!

Welcome sezramum In all honesty there's not much you can do to calm down, these days and weeks will drag! I found that crossing off the days on a calendar really helped, now I'm up to crossing of weeks which is a nice change!

hoping for an uneventful pregnancy for you!

Hi ladies, sorry I've been not very good with keeping up with the thread, I'll try to do better!

I've finally had my booking in appt on Friday and booked my 12w (although I'll be 13w by then) scan. It's in 10 days. Feeling very nervous although the all consuming tiredness is quite reassuring... although I could do without it having to look after an active toddler!