no jinxing for us - #6 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[northdownmummy]

Continuing the thread for ladies who are pregnant after MC

Great news baby and congrats MrsR :)

That's lovely Rebecca, enjoy :)

I'm having a day where I can't stop worrying. I don't think there's even anything wrong. I've just convinced myself I'm feeling baby's movements less strongly and less often.
I'm feeling him every few hours and definitely when I relax. A little lighter but he has less room.
Rang fau and they just said monitor and if im worried I can go in.
I'd rather not if I don't need to, I think I'm just having one of those days.

Congratulations on the birth of your rainbow MrsR

rebecca lovely to hear you've had a positive day! throw some my way please

great news baby fingers crossed for next week

rebecca that is just lovely, enjoy every minute!

I'm not having a great day, I've stopped feeling sick for the past couple of days and now I'm worried something is wrong - which in itself is a bit ridiculous as I hate the nausea but it makes me feel more pregnant and more sure. DP is getting more worried as time goes on and keeps making me take pregnancy tests which have a positive response immediately so nothing to worry about. Time just feels like it's going so slowly!

Oh panda the first trimester feels so long. Nausea always comes and goes. I'm not keen on repeating tests. A bfp is a bfp and testing over and over can drive you crazy. Do you have plans for a scan anytime soon?

Well I've had another consultant appointment. They leave me feeling really flat. They're keeping an eye on the growth of the baby which is good but I'm not sure what the point is. Down to my low bmi and I think it's because I went to Coventry so they feel locally they should be doing something. Just seems a waste of time. Esp when appointments are constantly being cancelled then rebooked by the hospital. Maybe I should feel more grateful. If the appointment s left me feeling more positive maybe I would be. I guess I just feel like I've been put in a system which doesn't seem to be helping the people that really need it. Moan over. Going to stuff my face on pasty now!!

I'll quietly sneak in and sit somewhere in a corner for now, if that's ok... So, Hi.

Found out that I'm pregnant last Sunday. We've got our fertility clinic appointment in a few weeks... My mc (well, something like that...I still don't quite understand how something can be a "pregnancy of unknown location") was in July 2013. Not a peep since. Did a cb test, and while it came up with the "pregnant" very quickly, it only showed "1-2 weeks". Hm,...I should be 5+4 by now. DH doesn't want to talk about it and told me not to get excited, yet. We'll see how far this one gets.

My mum and my nan never had any pregnancy symptoms, so I'm not sure whether the lack of them is a good or bad thing. I'm not sure my tiredness is a pregnancy symptom. I think it's more a symptom of caffeine withdrawal. (The last one didn't like black tea and this one doesn't appear to, either.) I constantly feel like bursting into tears because of silly things, though...

Hi mini congratulations on your bfp. I'm not good with cb tests. Get confused by them. My dh has only recently become happier to discuss this pregnancy now we're passed 20 wks. Everyone's different with symptoms. I never get sore boobs which everyone else seems to get. I think a symptomless pregnancy where you feel good must be amazing but to us worriers on here a few symptoms to help drive us crazy helps us muddle along. Hope you have a boring and uneventful pregnancy

Hi, is it ok if I join? I had a natural mc 5 weeks ago now (my second one in 3 years) and found out I'm pregnant again on Tuesday. As you can imagine I'm freaked out and worried something is going to go wrong yet again....so much so that I'm wearing a sanitary towel, convinced I will bleed soon. I am able to carry to term as I had my dd after my first mc (she's 2) but I really want to give her a sibling. Been having shooting pains in my downstairs area which scare me. They last for 10 seconds and disappear. Just need to be around some women who are going through what I am at the moment and can reassure me as we are not telling anyone in RL yet.

Welcome mini and reebok and congratulations both of you. Wishing you both long and uneventful pregnancies. The thread is a bit quiet at the moment add lots of people have been kicked out or chosen to leave because of the hacking issue, but hopefully it'll get busier again soon.
I can't say you're going to stop worrying, because i haven't yet (at nearly 10 weeks), but you sort of get used to the terror. I'm hoping after the 20 week scan it might ease some more!

diddly I've got my 12 week scan booked for 21st sept, feels like an absolute age away, although we're heading to Rhodes on Weds for 10 days so that'll definitely help pass the time.

Hi mini and reebok Welcome to the thread, congrats on your BFPs
reebok I had a mmc end May but am now 8 weeks pregnant again. It is scary and nerve wracking but hopefully time will help, we had a scare last week but all turned out to be fine and the EPU at lister were wonderful and managed to get an early scan where we saw baby's heartbeat. Just need to get through it one step at a time.

I've only just managed to get back in after all the hoohah this week.

Welcome mini and reebok. Hope you have a boring and uneventful next 8 months or so. We are all well accustomed to the worrying, reebok I only stopped wearing pads at 14 weeks for exactly the same reason!

Have booked a private gender scan for next Thursday, mostly due to my movement meltdown from earlier, but also due to impatience. Complete mix of terrified and excited in equal measures.

A friend who is 28 weeks came over and showed me reuseable nappies last night, was lovely to talk about things as a 'when' rather than the 'if' I'm still using at the moment.

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend despite the weather, it's grey but boiling here. Not a pleasant combination!

Hi reebok,

I had a natural mc at 5 weeks at the end of may, fell pregnant again right away. Totally get the idea of thinking you're going to bleed at any second. I carried towles with me at all times and would only wear new white knickers so I could see if anything was going on.

But despite some spotting leading to two referals to epau, I'm now 12+3. Starting to worry a bit less too. I also have a little girl who is 2, 3 in November, who I'm desperate to give a sibbling.

I had pain like you discribe quite early on this time. If you google 'fanny daggers', does it describe what you feel. I did have it when pregnant with dd but not until right until the end. Apparently it's actually meant to be a good sign and is caused by the cervic pulling up. The midwifes at my local surgery have been fantastic, I went to see the gp because I wasn't sure I could be pregnant right after a MC. Although they didn't officially book me in until later were happy to have a chat if I had any worries.

dobby I just googled it...yes that is exactly what it feels like!! Hopefully I will be ok this time. I know I should be happy as I already have a LO so I'm blessed but I can't but feel that after 2 mc I should be cut some slack already! Worried I'm not really feeling sick yet. Just hunger causes slight nausea and slight pain in boobs. Also tired but that could be because LO keeps waking me up at night. With LO I had such bad sickness early on. It's great you have a supportive gp. Mine is rubbish! Haven't been to him yet as I know he will make comments about me getting pregnant straight away so trying to get myself to at least 6 weeks without bleeding.

nousername good luck with the private scan! Let us know how you get on!

I feel really silly. Was just watching that movie 'what to expect when you're expecting' and it's the part where everyone is in labour and I just suddenly started bawling! My poor 2 year old got scared and started hugging me and crying too. What is wrong with me??

I watched it too and was crying. Lucky dd is a fan a babies being born, LOVES call the midwife. So sat on my lap going baby, baby, baby. The c-section made me ball most as that's how dd was born, I was also high as a kite on morphine!

Fell off the thread so just jumping back on before I go to bed. Will catch up in the morning.

Every day is a battle in pg isn't it? (although actually it's not, it was lovely to read rebeccas post earlier this week). Can't sleep as mind is racing. Went out for a meal with closest friends last night and got pregnancy news from one of my oldest friends. She's still early on and I'm overjoyed for her but even so I can't help but worry for her, even though the odds are much greater that everything will be ok than not. Our babies are due 9 weeks apart.

That then got me thinking quite selfishly. If anything happened with this pregnancy, could I be strong enough to see her? That then went on to the usual worries I have - bricking it about 20 week scan showing up something, something else going wrong, something going wrong at birth. All situations that have not happened but there's this expectation that they will. Dh very helpfully contributes that I 'can't think like that', I wish there was a switch! On top of that my first due date is in a few weeks and that has crash landed into my head and seems to now occupy a lot of my thoughts.

On the other hand possible movement activity seems to have picked up again. I don't know if they are movements exactly as I've gone from a bubble popping feeling (always singular, never multiple) to feeling like something is nudging me on the inside. Never in the middle of my tummy, usually towards the sides or lower down. Is that movement? Have I just bypassed butterflies and gone straight for kicks? And is it ok that there's usually only one, should there be multiples? I've never had these mythical flutters that people talk about which is why I'm so unsure. I do still get bubble popping sensations when I have wind so there seems to be a difference between these feelings.

reebok I had exactly the same type of pains early on, they were really sore!

I've not watched WTEWYE whilst pregnant but may try to watch it soon. Not sure if the miscarriage scene would be a bit tough though.

Sorry for the long post at this ridiculous hour, there's noone in rl who would 'get' this really.

Bloody hell, that was a right essay. Apologies again.

I know exactly how you feel nouser, I have the same worries. A family member and I have sadly been on a cycle of one being pg and the other mc-ing this year, and I think we've both been worried about how we'd deal with seeing each other. We tend to completely ignore the subject which is slightly odd but otherwise fine.

My first due date is in a couple of weeks too, and realistically if I don't see a heartbeat at my scan on Wednesday i could spend it miscarrying. I think that's my main worry at the moment.

nouser I completely understand what you mean. Been having a tough 5 weeks myself as my sister is in the final stages of pregnancy and my nephew was also born less than 2 months ago which is making me difficult to be around both of them. On top of it I have several pregnant colleagues at work (I teach) and I dread seeing them soon! One will be as far along as I should have been.

Keep trying to give myself milestones. First is to get past my mc anniversary. I was 7 weeks and I'm currently 5 so still have a while to go! How far along are you all? Nouser, is this your first?

Thanks reebok and suz, managed to drop off and get a couple more hours sleep and feel a bit better this morning. I'm 18+4 and this is my first, first pregnancy ended in mmc at 11 weeks after a hb seen so all innocence well and truely gone.
suz, that must have been so tough for you and that family member to have both gone through that. Fingers crossed for Wednesday for you, it also sounds like we would have been due originally at around the same time.
reebok, sorry to hear you're also having a tough time. I'm only just starting to have to deal with pregnant friends now really, and they are coming thick and fast! Delighted at all their news and wish them all healthy pregnancies but also a bit jealous that pregnancy is enjoyable for them. I'm absolutely not taking it for granted that it is all plain sailing for them, or that it hasn't taken a while to concieve, everyone has their own story. I'm definitely the only one to have had a mc though which can make it lonely which is why I really appreciate being able to share on here.
Having also been part of the less than 5% before, it's difficult to think that I won't end up being another statistic. I guess none of us will stop the worrying until we have a physical baby in our arms. I look at families with 2-3 (seemingly) healthy kids and wonder how they pulled it off, but again it's not right to assume there hasn't been dificulties or that there should be mpre children than there is. I hope the next couple of weeks pass quickly, anything we can do to help speed it up?

Wishing everyone a positive Sunday, the sun is finally shining here after storms yesterday so thats a start!! Thanks for the support (yet again)

And sorry about another essay, getting to be a bit of a habit...

Hi ladies, room for another little one? I had a MMC at 9 weeks in May and have got my BFP again this morning. My period was due last week and it took me all week to pluck up the courage to test as wasn't ready for the anxiety. Hubby convinced me to test this morning and already I'm anxious, mainly because the test wasn't as dark as I wanted and at 5 weeks and with FMU I wanted a good strong line to reassure me. Not had any symptoms, boobs totally normal, not starving, skin crap when it was lovely last time around. Have a feeling I might need some hand holding over the next few weeks, I am 5w1 today and trying to get to 7 weeks when we will pay for a private scan. So good to see so many on here already far into successful pregnancies, giving me a lot of hope. Xx

Welcome horse, and congratulations on the bfp . I think sometimes symptoms or lack of can be misleading. Fwiw, my skin is really crap with this pg (wasn't with dd) and virtually no sore boobs. It's a long hard road ahead but we're here to hold your hand x

Thank you March. I don't know why I am worried about not having the same symptoms as last time as last time didn't work out! No sore boobs, no sickness and a healthy baby would suit me just lovely (but surely is too good to be true....)

Hello All,

Just checking back in - I've namechanged after HackerGate (was previously enviousllama) - nothing to report here other than that I've got two weeks to go to due date and I am sporting a proper megabump! Had 38 weeks GP appointment on Friday who, without even measuring the bump, commented on what a 'good size' the baby was.

I asked for my posting history to be deleted as the hacker had accessed my account details and I've realised that this means that the last couple of stats updates have been deleted. I'll do a new update when we our next baby is born (should be Cava - so exciting!).