no jinxing for us - #6 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[northdownmummy]

Continuing the thread for ladies who are pregnant after MC

Many thanks melonface. I am feeling a bit calmer today. Yesterday I managed to convince myself it was all going to go wrong! It still might be but I am now trying to worry less and take each day as it happens. I have also stolen someone's mantra of every day saying 'Today I am still pregnant' and being glad about it . Not a lot else I can do really.

Welcome sezra. Glad you're feeling a bit calmer today. The first few months are really tough, but taking one day at a time is the best you can do. Are you having an early scan?

Can I join please? Got my bfp on Friday, the day AF was due. It was a strong line but I don't have many symptoms yet. I'm worrying already even though I know it's silly at 4 weeks. My last pg ended in Mmc at 10.5 discovered at 12 weeks (after a healthy scan and heartbeat at 10 weeks) so I have a long way to go before that milestone! Any tips for getting though the early days?

Having one of those day exhausted and sickness from hell but really stressed about my scan in the morning

Sorry to hear your in cava not long now though although hospitals seems to run on a completely different time zone to everywhere else

Hi Marchgirl. My early scan is two weeks today as I wanted it when the kids have gone back to school. It cant come soon enough though. I have thought about trying to go in earlier though to try and stop my worrying!

Today I have a strange low down heavy feeling in the front of my stomach (kind of where my CS scar is) and my normal amount of achiness. When I miscarried before I remember one day feeling that everything suddenly felt much lower in my stomach (about two days before bleeding) so I am hoping this is not the same. It is 10 years since I was pregnant with my DS and I just cant remember what it felt like at this stage.

Desperately wishing for some kind of reassurance. Maybe I should go for the scan earlier?

sezra, My epu generally don't scan until about 8 weeks, because by then you've passed the big developmental leap that happens around that time, so it's more likely that things will be ok after a positive scan then. If you can hold out til then, you might find it more reassuring, but completely understand how hard it is to wait! I would certainly say don't go before about 6 and a half weeks, because if you don't find a hb it can be very worrying (possibly without reason) and you'd have to go for a follow up. The potential torture of that week or two waiting for the follow up is not worth the reassurance at 6 weeks or less (imo). Obv if you have bleeding or pain that goes out the window and you get the scan

Welcome fruit, and congrats on the bfp! Hope you have a long and uneventful pg

Good luck for the scan tomorrow baby. Keeping everything crossed for you x

Welcome serza & fruit congratulations on your bfps!

It really does vary from EPU to EPU, mine wanted me to come in at 5 weeks! I said no way that's too early but they insisted I come in at 6 weeks and luckily everything was fine and there was a strong heartbeat.

Good luck tomorrow baby do let us know how you get on.

I'm very wobbly today as I've got a bit of spotting, nothing major but enough to send alarm bells ringing. My fiance has organised a private scan so I'm off to have that done at 5.15pm today. Here's hoping it's nothing to worry about and that history isn't repeating itself for a third time........!

Hi all, I posted an absolute age ago, but have been too anxious and in denial (and afraid of jinxing, obv) to come back on. I've had three miscarriages previously but today I had my first successful 12 week scan. I am feeling utterly amazed and grateful. And maybe hopeful enough to join you guys here...

Thank you MsGlitter

I really hope your scan goes ok. Keeping everything crossed for you!

Hope all goes well MrsGlitter

Welcome flen lovely news!

Thanks melonface! Am at last allowing myself to think about eg. getting a bra that isn't incredibly painful...!

Congrats Flen, amazing news!

Keeping fingers crosses for you MrsG for a successful scan!

Great to see you back here flen

Keeping my fingers crossed for you glitter, so unfair to have these worries keep happening.

Fantastic news flen v pleased for you!

Thanks everyone, scan went really well, I'm actually measuring a few days further on than I thought. Baby is doing fine, saw and heard the heartbeat which is nice and strong so huge relief all round. PHEW!!

Hello march!

MrsGlitter so glad the scan went well - I've had spotting this time round and I know how scary it is, so very pleased you have had some reassurance.

Great news

Yay glitter!

Great news glitter

Nice to see you back carrot Well done for getting through your booking appt and booking your scan. Toddlers are exhausting during pregnancy. I'd like to say it gets easier, but probably depends on the toddler! And pregnancy!

Welcome sezra and fruit

Good luck tomorrow baby sorry you've had a tough day. Hope you have your feet up now.

And big wave to flen! Lovely to see you here again. I'm so happy you had a good 12 wk scan.

Mrsglitter congrats on the scan.

Having a hard day. Still at parents (where no one knows I'm pregnant). Not ready to tell them as they weren't pleased with the pregnancy I mc anyway and my siblings will just be judgemental. Only need positive vibes at the moment. Anyway my toddler has hit the terrible twos..tantrum mania at the moment. Keeps kicking me. Feel like a failure and keep crying. I'm exhausted as it is and feel even crapper because of her.

Worried about lack of symptoms as I had hyperemesis with her and was already sick by now. But all I feel at the moment is a teeny bit nauseous from hunger in the morning and hungry constantly. Sorry for the rant! Been one of those days!

Hi flen Welcome!

Great scan news, glitter

Sorry things are still tough reebok Can you offload your toddler to your mum and/or siblings? Keeps everyone busy and you out of the spotlight... How much longer will you stay there? Could your DP help at all?

Deep breath - I have just signed up for pregnancy yoga! I loved it when pg with DS and couldn't wait to do it again. So when I got to 14 weeks last time, I was so happy to sign up - went to one session, then found out that the baby had died... So I'm now really superstitious! But I decided that I'll do it once I get to the 3rd trimester, beginning of October. This really seems to be happening now.
I'm 21+4 and huge! Starting to get a bit worried about how big I am, actually... I've put on 1.5st, and I really don't want to end up like I did with DS, i.e. 3st heavier than at the start. So no more biscuits/cake/chocolate, sigh...

That sounds exciting and nice to have something to look forward to clouds.

Everyone has their own kids and dd is too much for my mum. She's quite unwell all the time. Off home in two days so hoping getting our routine back in place will help. Still haven't been the the gp to register pregnancy. I'm convinced something will go wrong so I'm not ready to yet.

cloud, I loved pregnancy yoga last time, was hoping to do it again. Need to find a new class as the one I went to is no longer running.

I've got my scan today, I'm so nervous! Last time was a mmc only picked up at the scan, we had no idea, so it could very well happen again. I keep trying to console myself that if it does we could well have a four year age gap next time and save on childcare (ds is September so full time childcare until 5), which is madness I know. I've tried so hard to not get my hopes up, we haven't really talked about it or thought about names or anything, but i can't help assuming I'll be on leave next year, that I'll be huge at Christmas etc etc. I just want to know!

Congrats on great scan news MrsG!

Reebok poor you, i too find it harder to look after DS when not at home. Hope things will get easier once you're back in your environment!

Suz good luck with the scan today, I'm sure it will all be fine.

Welcome fruit, today you are pregnant, repeat repeat repeat. It's hard though, just try to distract yourself and not think about it too much...

Thanks carrot that is a great mantra. Yesterday I was stuck in horrific traffic and I tried to visualise little fruit and all the layers protecting it.
Fx for the scan Suz hopefully you can relax a bit afterwards.
Pregnancy yoga sounds lovely cloud I wanted to go last time but never made it.
reebok so sorry you are having such a terrible time. Toddlers are impossible creatures. My friend has a particularly headstrong girl and I see how difficult it is. Can I ask why your family weren't happy about your last pg? Can you leave early? You don't need that kind of negativity around you.