Another posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage #4

[Treaclepie19]

Welcome aboard ladies - bumps big and small :)

Hi sourpuss So sorry to hear about your losses. I've only had one, thankfully, but whatever anyone has been through this thread is amazing, and I've only been here a very short time.

pizza that's great scan news. Brilliant.

gum how are you feeling, love?

So, I managed to get the train home without stopping at boots for another CBD. Are you proud of me

My trousers, however, are suffering. I've had to undo them and cover the undone flies with my handbag due to my blimp-like bloating. Highly elegant.

Does anyone else get a really sharp, pulling, muscular pain in their lower side when they sneeze?

Oh and I phoned the EPU and they are going to do a reassurance scan at 8 weeks.

Sourpuss welcome and congrats on BFP. Plenty of us have had at least one mmc and are near term now but it's really worrying - I hope your EPU will see you soon? Raffertys well done on kicking that CBd habit!

Glad your scan went well pizza.

Gum - don't really have anything additional to add from the other comments, but am also really shocked and she sounds like a cow bag. It's not definitely not over, but understand how hard it is to stay positive, especially with such shite comments from your sonographer.

Welcome sourpuss, may your stay be long and uneventful

Got an appointment with an obstetrician tomorrow as my bump is measuring big. I'm worried they are going to try and talk me into an induction which i don't want. When I first got pregnant I said I wanted all the drugs they could through at me. The NCT course is making me feel more confident and I was just getting my head round the fact that I might be able to do it naturally. And now this... GAH. The thing is, I know when I ovulated & she's actually younger than they put me at at my dating scan. Which must make me super extra large, right?

*definitely not over! Not 'not definitely not' lol

small, will they scan you tomorrow? I was told at a late scan (due to previously low lying placenta) that I had extra fluid with dd and all the medical talk and folk who had to be there for the birth scared me but she was absolutely fine and actually had no more fluid than average! It really annoys me how they have all this technology and can still be wrong! Don't let them talk you into induction if that's not what you want (unless it's absolutely medically necessary). You can do it without drugs too - just focus, breathe, trust your body and make sure your birthing partner knows exactly what you want and so they can support you if the doc or mw is trying to coax you into something that's not necessary. If the pain is too much, well, where exactly is the shame in taking the drugs? Bar the first few exciting days when everyone wants to know everything about the birth (tis true!), no one will ask you about what drugs you had or didn't have so there's nothing to be ashamed of xxx

[slightly at how much my hippy-ness shows through in that last post!! Sorry folks!!]

They don't scan for a large bump at my hospital. My community midwife is actually attached to a different hospital (where they do scan for big bumps). She said she could tell a 'little white lie' to my hospital to try and get me a scan i.e. that she'd felt extra fluid around the baby (she hadn't). I said no, as I don't want lies in my notes. I've already been told that extra fluid around the baby could be a sign of gestational diabetes and I've already had two tests for GB due to sugar in my wee. I don't want them making me go for a third test, due to some made-up midwife statement about extra fluid!

Anyway, I now have this appointment because I'm big, but if they don't scan me how do they know if it's the baby that's big or just the bump? Seems pointless!

I think bump sizes are incredibly misleading and it's just so hard to use it as a measure of how big the baby is. I measured spot on throughout my first pregnancy and DS was 10lb 4oz I have friends who have had 'large' bumps and had much smaller babies than expected.

Hi ladies, I have just spoken to the on-call Dr about the scan results and I honestly think I need to prepare myself for the worst. The report on the ultrasound said that the yolk sac measurement of 6.2mm is associated with poor outcomes. That combined with the crown rump measurement of 8mm (6+4 according to a chart I looked at) just makes me feel I should prepare. The heart rate was 141, which is good at that stage.

I also got beta hcg level: 35,000, which I know is in the range, and progesterone of 77, which is also good.

My symptoms aren't very strong and I have an awful feeling it isn't going to go well.

When I asked the doctor if I should have another scan, he said he'd spoken to my doctor (who is on leave) and she said to "just see what happens". That sounds like I am just waiting to miscarry.

I feel very alone in this right now, not terribly supported by the HCP as I'd hoped.

In tears now and trying to hide it from DS. This really was my last chance, so I feel pretty hopeless right now.

So sorry to be a downer.

Still think there are lots of positives in what you've been told gum. But I understand why you have to prepare yourself for the worse. Don't be hard on yourself. We're here for you what ever happens xx

Hi all, sorry I've been a bit quiet, we're at my parents where the Internet connection is a bit patchy.

Sorry to hear you're having such a worrying time gum, I hope you get a positive outcome. As others have said, it sounds like there is reason to hope, but I understand why you want to be prepared for the worst.

I'm 12 weeks today, and got my scan on Monday. I was going to tell my nan this week because I won't see her again until September, but now I'm suddenly paranoid that I'm going it to jinx it by telling her! I quite happily told a few people after my last scan at 10 weeks, but now the fear has set in again that we'll get told bad news on Monday...

Hi All,

Gum I am sending positive and huggy, handholding vibes your way. Like everyone has said, be kind to yourself, we will be here for you no matter what and I hope you have some RL support.

Metalhead completely understand about the jinxing. I 'outed' myself on FB at 17 weeks, pretty stealthily, because although I hate pregnancies being all over FB, people were 'outing' me and I didn't want people to find out from anyone else. After that I sobbed uncontrollably for about an hour as I thought I had 'jinxed' it. I hadn't though. Good luck for Monday. The 12 week scan was by far my favourite, probably because of the immense relief I felt!

I had my GTT yesterday and an antenatal appointment. I saw a different MW to normal as I was at the hospital and apparently I am measuring big . I am 29.5 cm at 29+3, and should be about 28cm according to my chart. I am not convinced that the MW stretched the tape properly though. I see my normal MW a week on Monday so we will see then but if I measure big again I will get referred. I am now super paranoid about my GTT result which I wasn't before. I should get a phone call today or Monday if there is something to worry about. I would be really upset if I have GTT, just because I really don't want to be induced or have an ELCS if I can avoid it. Obviously as long as the baby comes out healthy I don't care but it would kind of ruin my 'keep calm and have a baby' birth plan

happy they have sent me for 2 x GTT due to sugar in my wee and they both came back negative. They're now telling me I'm measuring big, but I don't have GD. So try not to worry as I think big doesn't always mean a problem. From what I've read on here those tape measure readings don't seem to be an effective way of predicting anything!

I think I am just peed off that it is the first 'non-perfect' thing I have been told in the pregnancy. I haven't had any other issues physically (apart from heartburn and constipation), baby has always been perfect. This pregnancy has been a mental slog of anxiety and worry but everything has always been fine. I feel like she has tainted my record.

happy, I could be wrong but 1.5cm is not massively over and wouldn't stray into the dangerous camp. At my last appt, I was also 1.5cm bigger and the mw was not at all concerned. From what I've read, it's only when you're at least 3cm over that there could be a concern. Obviously, though, if you do have GD, that's a different matter but even then it doesn't automatically mean a section (one of the Ladies on my an thread has GD but managed through diet and she's still getting a natural birth).

Also, hun, baby is still perfect. Could've just been how he or she was lying at the time or you may have a little extra fluid. Try not to worry or get upset

Thanks broody obviously my baby is perfect, and she always will be to me (I may revoke that statement during teething and/or terrible twos). I just like medical professionals telling me that. The MW just spent ages on deciding whether to refer me or not, before deciding to wait for next time.

I will be gutted if I have GD...... i love cake, especially bakewell tarts at the moment

Gum I'm sorry that you're getting some unclear messages. The heart rate was the measure I thought would be clearest at this stage and around 140 is very good... My baby's was quite slow at 6.5 and I feared the worst but all fine now at 31+6. Really hope you get answers soon.

Bump measuring is a ridiculously inexact science. They don't even bother with it in most places I don't think. I have gd and am starting to think it may have been a blessing in disguise as I have lost weight and have been really well cared for with extra scans etc. It's ruled out the mlu but I will have 1:1 midwife care and can still use the pool if she arrives before 40+5.

Just at the hospital now. The doctor was lovely, agrees that bump measuring is inaccurate and is sending me for a scan now. Just a bit gutted that DP is not with me to see the baby again.