Another posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage #4

[Treaclepie19]

Welcome aboard ladies - bumps big and small :)

I have been wondering that too Sunbathing, it doesn't seem right just to leave once baby shows up.

Hey all - sorry I've been a bit quiet lately. Felt the need to take a bit of time away from the anxiety and such.

Can't remember where I was when I left off... had I just had the dodgy scan? Had another with a lovely, lovely consultant in Foetal Medicine who found that the original scan wasn't really that far off and Erwin did have little legs and a much bigger head but he thought that there wasn't anything really to worry about especially as DH was there, who has a long torso and little weeble legs... and a big head he booked me in for a uterine doppler scan for 23 weeks but was very clear that that wasn't to do with any problems this time - I had pre-eclampsia with DD so my consultant would probably want to book one anyway, so he was being helpful.

And I had my 20 week scan on Saturday, with a - how shall we say - very forthright sonographer who was most put out that they'd been scanning the long bones before 20 weeks as apparently it's the best way to frighten parents - mmm, tell me about it! Anyway the good news is that Erwin has been doing lots of growing and everything is measuring normally, if on the little side. The long bones have jumped up the centile chart, which is a great reassurance. Still a very badly behaved baby who wasn't at all cooperative for the scan... but it looks very much like she's a girl! So big smiles all round. Feeling much more reassured now I'm getting movement.

Consultant appointment tomorrow - have made a list of things I want to talk about and made sure DH knows too. I've heard nothing but good things about her so I hope it goes well (and that I actually get to see her - I know people who were under her care but only got to see her registrars before being discharged to midwifery, but they were less high-risk than I am)

Had my private scan today. Was measuring ahead at 7+6 and HB seen. Haven't felt the tiniest bit sick yet today cue major freak out. Feeling brave enough to add my Stats:

Mrsdiddlydoo, 34, 1DS, 2MC, EDD 17/12/15

Hi ladies, I'm a long time lurker of this thread from the other mmc one. Hadn't dared allow myself to believe this pregnancy would progress but had my dating scan today and baby is perfect! So finally plucked up the courage to join :)

Great news on the scans Commander and Mrs and welcome Amy, great to see you here!

Just had a doctor appointment and have to take the dreaded iron tablets. I tried to suggest I only take them every other day but she wasn't having any of it.

I'd be up for the fb group too :)

Great news on the scans commander and Mrs :)

Hi Amy :)

Odd about that thread purple. It's very weird behaviour to come on a board like this and make a load of stuff like that up

Glad everything is going well Commander.

Welcome Amy. Would you like to be added to the stats?

Hi all, found out today I am pg again, after a mc on 15 March. Am trying to be positive hence adding myself to this thread! Bit worried as we are flying to Miami on 22 May, so really want to get a reassurance scan as soon as I can. But will have weeks to wait as not even 4 weeks yet!

Stats: kep1979 36, 2xds from previous marriage, mc 15/3/15 at 6+2 edd 19/1/16 (I think)

smallbear also if you're up dating please make me 35 as well as amended EDD 30/10/15. Thanks!

Welcome kep & amyyy

Glad the scan went well mrsdiddlydoo!

My day off tomorrow and I think I'll spend it in bed to try and get over my cold!

Thanks everyone :)

Stats: Amyyy27, mmc Oct 14, now 13w0 edd 11/11/15

Thanks treacle for the new thread. Tori I posted on our other thread but more hugs this side. I can't believe how close we are to the top now! I finish for maternity leave on Friday. CANNOT WAIT. Should have finished last week really as sickness has returned with a vengeance and so tired but at the time waiting till the election (it's relevant to my work) seemed like a good idea.

Welcome kep and amy, and great news on your scans commander and mrsdiddly!

Managed 15 minutes on my exercise bike earlier, which is the first time in about two weeks I've done anything remotely energetic! I've also been trying to eat a little bit more healthily again as I don't think stuffing myself with crap was actually helping with my nausea.

So lovely to read so many positive posts today, glad everyone is doing ok

Metal you have suddenly made me feel very guilty about lying in bed watching Mr Selfridge all day eating sausage rolls and chips... I may need to have some more now to console myself!

Metal it's so hard to eat healthily when you feel sick isnt it? I had great plans for superfood salads and tons of protein in the first trimester and I could barely keep vegetables down, it was very disappointing! At the 12wk scan I was amazed to see a baby had developed fine nourished only by brown toast, plain yoghurt and Pregnacare!

Stats update

Haily111: DC3, MC May 2014, EDD 5 May 2015.
Mslad: 33, no DC, MMC June 2014, EDD 18 May 2015.
ToriB34: 34, no DC, MMC in July 2014, EDD 29 May 2015.
longestlurkerever: 1DD, 2MC, 1MMC, EDD 30 May 2015.
SunbathingCat: 35, no DCs, MMC in May 2014, EDD 13 June 2015.
WrappedInABlankie: 1 DS, ectopic 3/14, EDD 22 June 2015.
Phryn: 32, no DC, MC in Aug 14, EDD 6 June 2015.
thesmallbear: 33, no DC, 1 MMC in June 2014, EDD 2 July 2015.
Boozle: 1NMC, 2MMC, 1DD, EDD 4 July 2015.
sarahlou20: 35, no DC, 1 MMC, EDD 9 July 2015.
ThePurplegiraffe: 36, 1DD, 1 MC in Sep 2014, EDD 11 July 2015.
Ibelieveinpink: 31, MC, MC, DD1, EDD 12 July 2015.
Ignominious: DD, MMC in August, EDD 12 July 2015.
Broodylicious: 36, 1 DD, 1 MC at 12 weeks on Feb 27, EDD 20 July 2015.
Thegirlwiththebrokensmile: 28, 1 DD age 2, 2 MC, 1MMC, EDD 23 July 2015.
Charlieis30: no DC, MC Feb 14 7.5w, MC Aug 14 9w (trisomy), EDD 26 Jul 2015.
Littlelady33: no DC, MMC March 13 and 14, EDD 25 July 2015.
Happygojo: 28, no DC, MMC September 2014 (blighted ovum), EDD 10 August 2015.
Daisysunshine: 23, no DC, TTC 14 months, 1MC Sept 2014, EDD 10 August 2015.
enviousllama: 33, 1DS (2yo), 1MMC (Nov '14), EDD 4 Sept 2015.
Cavamonster: 37, no DC, MC Dec 3011, MMC Mar 2012 & Jan 2013, Ashermans & Endometriosis, EDD 4 September 2015.
CommanderShepard: 32, 1 DD via EMCS, 1 MC December 2014 (5 wks), EDD 14 September 2015.
Treaclepie19: 24, 1 MC in May 2014 at 8+4, EDD 20 September 2015.
worriedmum100: 39, 1 DS (nearly 4). 2 MCs around 6 w (June 2010 and Feb 2014), 1 MMC (July 2014 at 9 w). Also have endometriosis & Ashermans Syndrome. EDD 24 September 2015.
SomeSortOfDeliciousBiscuit: 30, TOP at 14wks due to abnormalities, 1 DS, had cancer treatment, 2MC at 4-5weeks. EDD 29 October 2015.
northdownmummy:40, 1DD (2), 1MC Aug 2014 10w, EDD 29 October 2015.
gr33dyeggs: 35, 1 DS (6), 2 MC 08 & 14, EDD of 30 October 2015.
Amyyy27: MMC Oct 14, EDD 11 November 2015.
Rebeccaelizabethxo: No DC, MMC June 2014 at 9+3, MC in January 2015, EDD 29 November 2015.
pizzakat: 23, no DC, MMC Dec 2014 at 10+ 2. EDD 2nd December 2015.
Metalhead: 1 DD, 1 MMC in Feb 2014, EDD 11 December 2015.
Cariad2014: DC1, had a CP at 4+5 in June 2014 followed by a ruptured ectopic and tube removal in September 2014, EDD 16 December 2015.
mrsdiddlydoo: 34, 1DS, 2MC, EDD 17 December 2015.
HariboBrenshnio: 25, DS is 18 months, MMC at 9 weeks in October, EDD 17/18 of December but probably C section around the 10th.
cherrylola: 29, DS 23 months, MMC February 2015, new PG due December (date TBC).
cloudjumper: 43, 1 DS (4), 3 early MCs in 2013 (3rd was trisomy 2), 2nd trimester MC in 2014 (trisomy 18). EDD 28 December 2015.
kep1979: 36, 2 DS' from previous marriage, MC 15 March 2015 at 6+2, EDD 19 January 2016.

Need updates

Psmith: 1 MP, 1 MC, EDD 23 April 2015
OneDayLikeThis2013: 27, no DCs, MMC June 2014, EDD 26 April 2015

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envious I TOTALLY get where you come from. I had a blighted ovum too and my main emotion was anger. I gained a stone in weight, I had felt like crap (morning sickness etc) I then had to go into hospital to painfully miscarry and it was all for nothing. There was no baby, so nothing to mourn. I was mourning the idea of pregnancy rather than a baby that had passed like you said. I know this may make me seem heartless. Anyway you are not alone in how you feel. Maybe it is a blighted ovum thing

envious Thanks for sharing how you feel. I am glad you feel good. Don't feel guilty for being happy. There is no right or wrong way to feel. Fwiw i have always been sadder about the barrier rmc seemed to be to having a healthy baby, rather than the loss of the babies themselves but I know and respect that others feel differently. It's not quite so straightforward as that as I did feel sad around my last due date even though my pregnancy was progressing well, but I think when this baby is safely here I will maybe stop thinking about what might have been too, though I have been permanently and deeply affected by the struggle to get here - hopefully in positive as well as negative ways.

Envious I totally understand. I feel sad when I remember how sad I was but there being an overlap between when that pregnancy would have come to term and the beginning of this one changed my perspective. I couldn't be carrying this baby if that pregnancy had continued and that takes so much of the pain away. But I was lucky really to never have a due date and I know that for everyone it isn't like this - I also feel guilty for posting this! I certainly do not belittle even slightly hoe upset others still are or how upset until very recently I was about the MC. These are recent developments !

Blimey, it's taken me ages to find you!

Hi here's my stats,
Natalieday: 28, 3 DS (11,8 and 3) mc 1st mar 2015, now pregnant again, approx 9+3, edd 6th dec 2015
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