Another posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage #4

[Treaclepie19]

Welcome aboard ladies - bumps big and small :)

Morning ladies. Boob watch continues here; I never thought I'd be so pleased to say I have painful boobs

I am tempted to pee on another CBD today to see if I up an get a 2-3 weeks. This is a bad idea, isn't it?

gum will be thinking of you today...I bloody hate that waiting. Time just drags and there's nothing anyone can do to make it go faster. I hope you get great news. I have everything crossed for you.

llama I guess some people may feel movement depending on how sensitive they are and where the baby is positioned. I think I felt DS at around 15 weeks?

I felt my second child at 13 weeks (although I do get wind it was a completely distinct feeling) so it is possible to feel them early. She's almost 6yo and still poking me now
I'm 7 weeks today. Scan tomorrow. Thing is, my scan which revealed my mmc was at 7+1 on the 29th of the month in room one with mw Jane. My scan tomorrow is at 7+1 on the 29th of the month in room one with mw Jane. Someone talk me down from critical anxiety please.

So exciting longest hope you are feeling back to 100% soon x

Also scan day for me today gumblossom X and brickie I was in the same position as in same place with same MW (although not same day) but it was sprung on me when I arrived rather than announced in letter... I did have a sinking feeling at first but in the end it was fine x

I'm actually doing ok this morning, although had to leave my brothers birthday meal last night as I just got so upset thinking about what today could hold... It's definitely going to be a rollercoaster as we have the scan in the AM, a funeral at lunch time then work this evening!

Thanks all! Think i will go over like with dd but I have an induction booked a week today so not too long to wait. Is only just starting to feel real!

I felt movements really early with dd but less so this time, even though you're supposed to recognise them sooner so who knows. They're a mixed blessing anyway as as soon as you feel them you start stressing that they're not frequent enough.

pizza and hand hold for all the scans.

Well, not the best news I'm afraid. Apparently the yolk sack is a bit too big (6mm) and baby measures 6weeks 3days but I know when I ovulated so it should be 7+2. I'm in tears, despite seeing a heart beat in healthy range. The lady doing the scan wasn't very positive and said I shouldn't expect too much at my age. Feel so sad right now, worried that I am just waiting for another miscarriage.

Has anyone else had a similar experience with a scan? I have never heard the yolk sac thing before so it came as a bit of a surprise when it was the first thing the utrasonographer said to me,"The yolk sac looks a bit on the large side", I asked if that was an issue and she said,"yes, a large sac usually means a bad outcome' - that's how the scan started. So I felt awful from the outset. Then when she said it measured 6+3 I just held it together until I got out of there. I wish she had told me the heart rate. She just said it was in the "healthy range".

I have phoned my Dr and she is going away tomorrow, the receptionist said the Dr would ring me if she needed to talk to me.

I suppose the ultrasonographer was right: I shouldn't expect too much at my age (I am 48). Doesn't make any difference to feeling really sad I might lose another one.

gum . That sonographer sounds like a total cow. What ridiculous things to say. A hb sounds very positive and I have had measurements behind in both my healthy pregnancies. I haven't heard the yolk sac thing either. I hope it's nothing. Have you got another scan booked (with a human)?

gum what a rubbish sonographer. I've never heard the yolk thing either. I'd try to focus on the key points. Heartbeat and in healthy range. Can you have another scan in a week to check on progress?

Hand holding with yours pizza. What a busy day you have.

Brickie tomorrow will be fine. We'll all be here for you. It's a brand new pregnancy. New lining. New egg. New baby.

raffertys I'd step away from the tests and just accept you're pregnant, but if there's something good to be gained by it for you... I've spent too much money and time staring at pregnancy tests!

gum that is an awful way for a supposed hcp to approach/broach a sensitive subject. She needs retrained in humanity! Was it an internal scan? Anyway...there is a vast range of normal. Just because you know when you ovulated doesn't mean baby is too small...it could've taken the best part of a week to saunter down the fallopian tube before becoming fertilised plus there is a margin of error when measuring something so tiny.
Have hope please....It's not over until it's over. Was this an nhs scan or private?

I've had a look here and it says a yolk sac normally measures 3-5mm internally but then begins to increase from the 5th week of pregnancy. It also states that it is only hypothesized that it's size and structure can indicate outcome of pregnancy.....doesn't seem to be a fact exactly. www.jultrasoundmed.org/content/31/1/87.full

Gum that sonographer sounds like a dick. I'm so sorry she's put you through that. Can you arrange a scan with EPU in a week to check development?

Thanks so much for your comments. I am in Australia, so no NHS. The worst part was having to pay for the scan with tears welling in my eyes, almost unable to punch in the PIN on my credit card.

I am hoping my Dr will call and tell me what's next. However, if she doesn't, I have a referral for another reassurance scan for while she's away (She's written on it to check viability due to spotting - which I now fear may actually happen). I will probably get another scan in a couple of weeks, unless I do get some bleeding before then.

It wasn't an internal scan, and seemed to be over very quickly.

I don't know whether to try and remain hopeful or try to come to terms with losing the pregnancy because I'd rather be prepared for the worst.

I know I won't be ttc again, so it will be very final for me.

Oh gum I don't know why she didn't do an internal at that stage. How on earth could she accurately measure with a trans-abdominal? It sounds as though she's rushed it and given you a really poor picture of what is actually going on inside you. Can you put what she said out of your mind and try and wait for the next scan?

Loving all the movement discussion, has made me feel a lot better, obviously varies hugely and I will put myself at the less sensitive end of the list

raffertys step away from the sticks, in that way lies madness!

brickie hugs to you, horrible when you feel everything is lining up again but as the very wise mrsD says, new egg, new lining, new pregnancy. Will be thinking of you tomorrow.

gumblossom sonographer sounds insensitive and not helpful at all. As others have said, measurements at that stage are not that accurate where a single mm can make you think 'normal' or 'bad news'. Try and stay positive, I know you don't want false hope but I really think it's pretty inconclusive from what was said. I hope you can get to your next scan and have better news.

pizza good luck for your scan. Hope the funeral is ok as can be.

gum One step at a time, lovely. Today you are pregnant!

rafferty Stop testing - that way madness lies. A line is a line is a line. You are pregnant.

longest Wow, I can't believe you're up next! I can remember when you got your BFP. What a journey!

Well, I can confirm that I am definitely going mental... Woke up about 5am this morning with a stabbing pain on the right side of my stomach, sort of in the ovary area. Cue me freaking out, thinking, 'that's it, the miscarriage has started' and 'I'm having an ectopic' (after confirming an intrauterine pg at the scan 10 days ago, duh).
At 6.30am, I finally get up (still with the pain), go to the loo and - have the mother of all farts! It was trapped wind .
Honestly, I need a break! Any ideas for how to best distract/relax? I need to make the cake for DS's birthday party, but I think that's not going to be enough.
On second thought, let's face it - I will never relax, will I? Especially not 2 days before a scan. Sigh...

Gum I'm so sorry you've had such a rubbish experience. I've never heard the yolk sac thing before either, and I don't understand why the scan wasn't done internally - it surely has to be at this stage. Sonographers at private clinics add to be handled with caution in my view. When I visited one to confirm my MMC I was told all sorts of frankly medically unsound made up nonsense, which left me not only confused but worrying that a normal, tiny cyst was cancerous. Oh and told that often women miscarry their first babies until their bodies learn how to do it. Nonsense. Please try to see a doctor ASAP!

Oh gum what a total bitch that sonographer sounds like, how can someone so insensitive end up working in such a profession?!
When I had a scan that had me measuring 6+2 I was told yolk sac was measuring very small which had me panicking just as much as the opposite was, but pleased to say now at 13 weeks and everything is fine so please don't let this vile woman make you feel like all is lost so early on xxxxx

Thanks everyone for all the hand holding and positivity, scan went absolutely brilliantly, everything just as it should be and wow isn't amazing how much changes in 4 weeks? Feeling totally relieved and finally going to (try) and stop automatically jumping to worst case scenario whenever I have a twinge... I am determined to at least somewhat enjoy pregnancy!

cloud I can totally relate RE: the wind situation, I woke up similarly early a month ago in agony, ended up in a&e which was very embarrassing when they discovered it was constipation

Pizza hurrah for the positive scan!

Great scan news pizza

Glad all went well pizza :)

Gum what a complete cow!
I hope you can get some reassurance.
Don't worry about your dates, I was measuring 6 weeks at 6+4 (they also did an external scan with me at 6 weeks) and by my dating scan I was a day ahead of what I thought originally.

I must confess to being slightly on meltdown today. My back pain is ridiculous, can't sit for more than about 10 minutes without having to get up. I'm due to work for another 6wks and have no idea how I will manage. Managed to get bupa cover for a wonderful osteopath but after seeing her it's better for about 24hrs and no more. I'd happily swap my first and second trimester sickness for this to stop!

Hi all

Can I join you guys. I am 5+6 today. This is my third pregnancy after two MMC in the past 18 months. One stopped at 8.5wks and the other at 8 wks. Absolutely terrified of my first scan. Just sore boobs at the mo, no MS, and this one feels exactly the same as the last two so not very hopeful. Anyone else pregnant after two mmc?

gum you poor thing, what an awful sonographer?! I don't get why someone with such little compassion is working as a hcp. I would try and look at the positive of a normal heart rate, dates can be odd, at my 7 weeks scan I measured a day behind, at my 9 week scan it was correct and at my 12 week scan it was 3 days ahead ! I have everything crossed for you

pizza congrats on the scan! Cherish the excitement ! I wish I had as three days later I was back to incessant worry !!

Do any of you ladies suffer with hat fever and have you any experience of medications whilst pg? I get it so bad and I saw a dr today who was less than helpful and basically said it's up to me what I do ?!

And by hat fever I mean hay fever haha

sourpuss welcome. I am pg after 2mmcs aand a chemical pregnancy. It's scary isn't it but I am almost at my due date and all has been well this time so it can be ok. Are you eligible for an early scan? Different hospitals have different policies but mine offered one at 7 weeks.

Great news pizza. Don't feel silly cloud. V glad it was wind.

Sorry you are in pain little. Can you get signed off work for a bit at least? Not fun to battle on when you're in agony.