Another posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage #4

[Treaclepie19]

Welcome aboard ladies - bumps big and small :)

envious, yeah I had to have a colostomy bag after mine. It wasn't a huge cut and I'd been doing my kegels religiously so I was a bit miffed, haha! Baby just got tired and I was exhausted so I needed the help of a ventouse. Nothing I could've done I guess but I was still miffed!

Great shout for peacocks, I'd not thought about them for nighties. I got some lovely maternity linen trousers and jeans from there a few weeks back.

envious just to give you another perspective - I tore quite badly then had to have surgery afterwards where they cut me open almost front to back and I didn't have a colostomy bag.

Oh yikes metal, that sounds scary! But v positive re not having a colostomy bag - can't say it was the most glam accessory I've ever had Hopefully the doc I had was just one for wee bags and if history repeats itself, I'll get away with it

Thought some of you may be interested to see that aldi is having a baby event from Thursday. Some good bargains...

www.aldi.co.uk/en/specialbuys/thur-28-may/

You didn't sound flippant at all, envious, don't worry. It's good to know another side of the coin and it gives me hope that I might not have to do the same again Yes I think we got a thermometer from aldi too and those spoons and little pots when dd was close to weaning. I'd like to get one of those bubble blankets because I've been admiring the same ones in mothercare but can't justify the cost and also because I have a serious blanket addiction!

Hope your doing okay cloud pregnancy after mc is so hard isn't it.

Got my results back from my downs testing, 1 in 10000, pleased with this! However I've been as sick as a dog the last few days and my breasts have gotten really sore again, stupidly I'm worrying that this is a bad thing :/

Sorry to hear about your house sunbathing the last thing you need hey! Hopefully something better is on the horizon.

Hope you are feeling better too treacle

Got my fingers crossed for you sunbathing

I never imagined it to be this hard, worrying about every little thing is exhausting, i can't imagine how I'm going to make it through the next 26 weeks ! I just keep trying to tell myself that it would be very unlikely for anything to go wrong now I'm past 12 weeks :s gives me a lot of hope seeing all the babies that have been bought in to the world by the lovely ladies on this thread.

Rebecca, those odds are very reassuring.

Everyone is so right: pregnancy after miscarriage is terribly difficult. It's so hard not to worry. I know worrying can't help, but nothing helps, unless we could have a uterocam, 24/7, but then that would be fraught with issues too no doubt!

I am celebrating another milestone: 7 weeks today. However, mild symptoms yesterday, after strong ones on Sunday,have me worrying!

I had a great visit with my doctor last night. She's a sweetheart. She was so excited about me being pregnant; I am now worried I will disappoint her. She seemed much more positive about it than I am.

She agreed that I should take the aspirin and also asked me to take folate with iodine, Vit D, a prenatal, and that the latest research (which still isn't written up, apparently) says that probiotics are extremely important, particular with recurrent miscarriage caused by autoimmune conditions. She was happy with continuing the progesterone cream, but also wants me to get my levels tested. I will organise blood tests today.

She's requested an ultrasound asap, so I will book that today. She has also written out requests for another scan if I want it around 8/9 weeks because she will be away for 4 weeks on holiday. She's also given me the request for the Harmony test. She kept telling me that "all my ducks were in a row" because up until 5 days ago the Harmony test wasn't available in my town and was double the price. Now it is available here(I'm in a rural area in Australia) and for about $420.

I am pleased that the doctor is so supportive. It feels good to have her in my corner.

I'm really wanting another scan before my 20 weeks, it feels like so long away and I'm just going to be fretting other wise that something is wrong, I had two before my 12 weeks on the nhs but I don't know if I would have to go private for one between now and 20 weeks ?

I'm sure that the little ones are none the wiser of all the agonising worry we put ourselves during ! You haven't got long left now have you ? So exciting ! x

Also has any one else had palpitations since being pregnant ? I've had them regularly since the weekend and don't know if this is something more to worry about ?!

Thank you lama I try and steer clear of google, I always end up making myself worry ten times more !! I may book an appointment with my gp as I'm not due to see my mw for another two weeks yet! Anaemia wouldn't suprise me, I'm the fussiest vegetarian and in the last 10 weeks I've not really been eating the most substantial diet

gumblossom I am loving the 24/7 uterocam idea! Would certainly be reassuring if we could check in whenever we wanted

Woke up to my first really awful nightmare since I booked my private scan, it knocks me for the entire morning I know it's just my silly subconscious fears but really wish there was some way to stop dreaming all together!
I was considering calling the sure start centre this morning as they have a drop in where you can go see midwife and they let you listen to baby's heartbeat but I'm scared they wouldn't be able to find it as that would have the opposite effect of reassurance!

On a positive - Absolutely LOVED my first shift at my new job! Was incredibly busy and I limped home but had a great time and can't wait to go back this evening x

My worrying / anxiety hitting a new high! Went to bed last night with a shoulder pain - woke up still there. Near certain it's cus I was lying on the sofa all day yesterday as I've no other symptoms - but called my mum in a panic wondering should I just not go into work today and go to the docs instead Have myself in some state. This pregnancy after mc is a roller coaster

rebecca, I'm another with palpitations. Frightens the life out of me! I go a bit warm at the same time and it's usually when I put dd to bed at night. But yes as the others have said, it is a common pg thing apparently. Don't worry about your other symptoms, they're great symptoms! I was sick until 26 weeks and while it was not at all pleasant, it did put my mind at rest a little. Once I got to the 20 week scan, I felt a whole lot less stressed (our downs results were 1:85 though so I'm still not totally chilled when I think about that!) and could start enjoying life a bit more. It is hard, i know it is, but try to remain positive and all will be good xx we are all here for you and will help you through all your wobbly days xx

Update from the July an group - one f our ladies had her twins yday! She was 34 weeks. Both babies are doing great and mummy was looking forward to meeting them last time she posted. Adorable.

We are still debating names here. It's such a palaver. I love so many names that dh apparently hates or will not even consider!

Hello all

Is it ok to join you? I've been looking for a pregnant after mc thread but not sure if it's alright to join an established one?

I had a MMC in January at nine weeks. Found out in pregnant again on 22nd May and I'm shitting a brick. I'm only 4+3 and to be honest just waiting for the same thing to happen again. Tell me it gets a little easier?! I have a lovely DS (4) already.

Hi Raffetys - big welcome to the thread. It's been going a while but it's for anyone who is pregnant after a miscarriage so welcome to the bittersweet club. Something lovely about this thread is that people range from being very early days like yourself to nearly ready to pop. If you check out the stats list we also celebrate the thread babies too!

I've found it really helpful and encouraging to post here (had a mc last year) as people are very friendly and totally get how worrying pregnancy after mc can be.

Really hoping for a good outcome for you - in my experience the worry eased up as I got to the 12 week scan, but I've had some big increases along the way too (like in the run up to the 20 week scan). Am a bit paranoid about spotting reduced movement at the moment (38+3) so I'd be lying if I said it was smooth sailing - but I'm much more confident that I will have this baby safely in my arms soon!

sunbathing I'll be 8 weeks this Friday - think my anxiety just ramped up yesterday and today with feeling so unwell. Couldn't get a docs appointment - so will give them a buzz and lunchtime & see if I can get speaking to the doctor at all to settle myself