Shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

[MrsGiraffe12]

Hand holding, fish slapping and general bat shit craziness :-)

Thanks for the fish slaps, I need them today, can't seem to pull myself together. Just can't believe how stressful this all is, I was hoping after the magic 12 wk I might start to feel more positive but no there's always another milestone and the anxiety may go for a few days then just pops right back again. Grrr, so annoyed with myself but at least I'm not alone so thank you all. onelittle I think you're right I just won't ever relax until this new little person is actually in my arms.

One I get that paranoid. I count them, they are the same... but I worry are they different is the baby injured in some way. Totally irrational. We're not human scanners, if you're getting normal movement all is usually well.

Alb Did you ring the MW? What did she say?

That's me booked in with the midwife. I know it doesn't mean much but I didn't get there with either of the mc.

8 days till 12 weeks scan and already I have the fear....

I didn't phone cos it stopped after a while, the pain is getting worse day by day tho, really hope it means something. Can't help worrying that it's cos something's wrong rather than cos my body is getting ready for labour :-/ that must be illogical tho, I'm 37+4 and the baby is engaged, so why wouldn't my body be getting ready? Pregnancy worries after mc really do never go

All sounds normal ALB you'd expect twinges. But after loss everything is a worry!

Lots of updates, just caught up ahead a busy morning, in laws arrived at 7am this morning ( bloody 7am!!!) and we've already been out swimming and the the park, feeling loads better today, not sure if it's the b6 or what, (olive I tried one day of 100 mg then just had 50mg last night, thanks do the advice) trying to be positive and not worry.

I still cannot sleep though, it's been over a week since we've been back and I would have though jet lag would be done by now, just lying there night after night until the wee small hours..it's driving me mad.

I am worried about our exam results do a level tomorrow though, so hopefully I can get that out of the way and sleep.
Signed up for swimming today, going to try to go three times a week and do 30 lengths or so, I used to run but hadn't been in weeks when got the bfp spoiled feel odd about starting again just now, although I might try a gentle 3k or something once a week. Going to try to keep on shape, I have a bad back and I know it will help loads to keep me mobile. Might look at some aerobics DVDs too.

We are telling the in laws tonight, q lots of fussing, mil was only here 10 mins and told me dd's poor behaviour is because she doesn't have a sibling. Then again, so is every other woe we have apparently, after a year and a half of trying it wears a bit thin! Finally be able to shut them up, although I've told dh he has to have a word about not going over the top as its still early days.

Sorry to ramble on, first bit of quiet I've had to mn in two days what with cleaning and tidying ready for them to visit.

Bloody phone, ilove not olive! Sorry! Plus all the other mistakes!

missmake your ils sound delightful lol

Got my 12 week app through today :) week Friday so I'll be 12+2 actually got a bit excited when it arrived 1st time since my bfp lol

Then in my excitement I agreed with DH that when DS starts school next month i should use that time to do the stuff in the house I've wanted to do since we moved in almost 2 years ago which is basically redecorating top to bottom as the day has gone on I have become less sure that it's the best idea ever but there is tons that needs doing if baby is going to fit in the house atm DS has pretty much taken up all available space lol

baby they mean well but they do my bloody head in, they are Irish and it's like having someone of my great grans generation to stay, they are so set in their ways and mil dies nothing but fuss.

We have got a long list of jobs to get done, after 8 years of living here we still have only half the coving up in our bedroom, there's other stuff, but when we first moved in we had no doors, no heating and no floors at one point so it's pretty much perfect!

DD starts school in September and she is so ready... Going to get uniform tomorrow, it's perfect timing as she will be at school when this one is born, so hopefully I will get some time alone with the new baby too.

Anyone finding it difficult to find stuff to wear? Everything is uncomfortable or makes me look fat, I'm not even 8 weeks!

missmake yes clothes are a nightmare. As I'm sure you aren't ready for maternity clothes yet. Or at least I didn't until pass 12 week scan. I was so crushed after wearing my maternity jeans to the 12 week scan which I discovered my MMC. Felt like a fraud.

Now I'm on the other side and again nothing to wear. The maternity jeans and work trousers no longer fits. I'm left with only leggings and dresses. But I'm determined to not buy anything anymore. I'm 34+6 today and went into labour last time at 37+3. First it was the jeans not fitting. Then the work trousers on my last week at work (33 weeks). It is easier without the jeans while working full time. But I am struggling now. Hopefully I'm not going to get to 42 weeks otherwise I would really have nothing to wear as my maternity stiff are all summer clothes!

Hi all
Apologies for the long absence. I have been following daily though - congrats on all the great scan news, especially baby and missmakes after the earlier scares!

After last week's nuchal suspicion, I had my follow-up scan today (10+4 by dates, 11+3 by scan). Baby measurinh almost 5cm. Got a nuchal translucency measurement of 3.8mm, which apparently is above normal.

Consultant explained things much better this time. Didn't take blood sample for hormone measurement, as they were sure it would come back high risk and I would face the same choice: CVS on the NHS or Harmony scan privately.

The pros and cons as I see them:
CVS: could be done as soon as we decide, result is certain, takes 3 days for results (so if bad outcome termination would be earlier via erpc), but it carries a 1% MC risk
Harmony: non-invasive, so no risk, result 99% certain, but costs £500 and takes 2 weeks (and if bad outcome, need to do CVS anyway and termination might need to be induced birth)...

We're veering towards Harmony because of the MC risk... Anyone else had this choice? appreciate any advice!

P.S. Good news is that size and HB were normal so I will brave adding myself to the stats list
silverine: no DCs, 1 MMC at 10 weeks, 1 MC at 8 weeks, 1 CP/early MC; EDD 1 March 2015

sliverine I think there are a few ladies here who have gone for the harmony test. Although I am not sure if they just did it because of age, or they did it after they have got a bad NT scan result. Have you tried the antenatal tests board? There must be many on that board who have faced the same choice as you.

I think I need a daily dose of haddock to be honest. So let's all share the haddock love.
I know what you mean too cake. Thinking about the future means I actually have to think there might be another baby in the house. Still struggle with that too to be honest.
I've only got 4 more days of work now - and find that weird too.
I've joined a new Facebook group of second time mums due locally - but feel scared of actually meeting up as still struggle to believe my bump will produce a healthy baby to take home.

Hi all quick stop in from me, lots of aches and feels like af starting, roll on scan tomorrow

If you can afford the £500 silver I would do harmony based on the mc risk. But it also depends what you would do with results if they come back positive for chromosomal issues. Ie on what basis would you terminate or not, or have you thought that far? But i don't think you should base the decision on test based on how you would, if it came to it, terminate the pregnancy

missmakes I have in yesterday after my scan and actually put on maternity clothes still not sure it isn't too early but it's soooo much more comfy than squeezing into jeans or wearing leggings that I only bought to do housework in I'm a bit odd but I can't go out in leggings they feel like pjs lol
School shopping for DS week after next when DH gets paid unless I can persuade DH that we need to do it earlier or we'll be shopping days before he starts school which isn't ideal.

Sorry about your NT results silver sounds like a hard decision to make what ever you decide I hope everything comes out ok :)

fedup I think we would, dh is definitely certain about that...
If the harmony came back positive, we'd do the cvs anyway (it's included in the harmony price) to confirm, but if it was negative (1 in 10000) then we'd be avoiding the risk of cvs.
The downside is the extra 2 weeks it would take and termination would be more complicated if positive...
So yes, we are thinking that far ahead...

Ok this might sound like a daft question has anyone else's hormones made them suspicious and maybe a little bit paranoid? Sat here on the verge of tears and I'm not even sure it's not all in my head

What do you mean baby? I think I was a bit crazy / irrational during my first few weeks pregnancy with DD but we had a much tougher life situation then so not sure or that was to blame. This time around I've been slightly emotional and it's peaked at times but generally quite normal (DH may not agree) but I've felt more rational. And that's why I think this one will be a boy if I'm lucky enough for it to get here.

silver sorry about the NT results. I don't really know what to say as no experience in it as was low risk last time but I googled the harmony test and it looks a really good option if you can afford it. I realise you have to wait two weeks tho which I agree isn't good but the reality is it will probably come back negative and you'll be glad of such a safe and convulsive test. I know it's hard to think positive at times but what did you get a risk factor based on the measurement alone or have they not done that yet?

A good day here. Felt flipping awful yesterday and night but today pretty ok. Instead of worrying I've allowed myself to enjoy it seeing as my boobs are sore and I have no pain and I had a scan on Monday! Really trying to enjoy the brief moments of feeling good!

Ok so I probably sound totally off my tree but yesterday at dh's work I saw him talking to a girl he works with and he had his hand on her back then everytime I look over she is touching him. I told him I wasn't happy and he told me that he had touched her shoulder and she tried to stroke his face he said he told her to go on break and leave him alone and that as unprofessional as it is he can't stand her bit she is good at her job. Fine then today they become friends on Facebook and he says quote it's part of his job?? I dunno maybe I am hormonal and paranoid but it's getting to me even of that's what it is the 1st time I met this girl she told DH that there was no way DS could be his because DS is blonde and DH isn't some one slap me and tell me I am being stupid please

Hi all
Pleased to say scan went well. Baby is head down which makes the ELCS easier. So all set for the 28th provided I don't go into labour before hand, in which case I'm VBAC x

baby mini fish slaps but I understand the frustration, me and DH are both dark haired but DS is blonde so had similar said to us. The fact we were both blonde as babies obviously means nothing haha.

As for the inappropriate touching, I don't think I would have been as rational as you, I would have thrown a hissy fit and told the woman to fuck off!

I did tell DH if I saw it again I wouldn't be so reasonable. He is refusing to take her off Facebook says it's part of his contract bit beyond me that. I dunno I think I will just pretend to be asleep when he gets in and hope he doesn't call me I'm really angry and emotional at the moment seems yesterday's high hasn't lasted long :(

It's the hormones baby I cried today for something I never usually would. Though yours is a perfectly reasonable reason to be angry and upset x