Shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

[MrsGiraffe12]

Hand holding, fish slapping and general bat shit craziness :-)

Think it's another ice cream night just had enough and this has really got me down I'm not normally the jealous type but I can't handle this ice cream and sleep and I'll feel better in the morning :)

Oh no baby sorry to hear you're stressed. From what you describe though I understand why you're angry! I would go mad if I saw that! I am quite jealous (and hate self for it) and was terrible the first time around. I remember being at a party (sober) obviously and seeing DH (then DP) talking to a female friend about me. I was 100% convinced she was convincing him to leave me and he was saying he was unhappy (I was 7 months pregnant). I cried loads, he was drunk but ok and in the end told me he was asking her advice on how to propose. At the time I didn't believe it because I was quite frankly irrational and hormonal but 6 months later he proposed. She is married and I realised I was just being a right old fool. It's normal though. Pregnant we are vulnerable and I never liked that feeling. I think I am a bit of a control freak! I'm much more settled in our relationship now but from time to time have those sort of worries.

Maybe you should speak to your DH tomorrow when less tired and let him explain. Tell him why it bothered you and make it clear it upset you. I doubt it will ever happen again. She sounds like a pain in the arse tho btw.

giraffe happy news on your scan!

Thanx guys I'll talk to him tomorrow plan is to either be asleep or pretend to be when he gets in and talk to him tomorrow. It is good to know that I'm not completely insane :)

Sorry mrsg in my self pity I forgot to say fab scan news not long now either till your lo will be here :)

baby I'm not the jealous type but she sounds a bitch. Why can't a brunette have blonde children? She obviously knows nothing about genetics. As long as either of you have blonde ancestors you can have a blonde child. It doesn't matter even if both of you are brunettes. Or that all the grandparents are not blonde. That kind if ignorance is why they took that gypsy girl away in Greece because they can't believe a Romani can have blonde children. (I think it is Greece). As it turned out the girl did have Romani parents though not the ones they found her with.

And why is she saying it to your DH? What is the intention other than trying to imply someone to your DH? I wouldn't ask my husband to de friend her if it were me, because sometimes you need to keep peace at work. But you are right to be angry. Is your DH showing any preference for her? If not it's just your hormone talking.

Baby what utter tosh about it being "part of [his] job" to friend her on fb! I cannot believe that is that case at all. I would call him up on it, and ask him what the real reason is for him doing so, and doesn't he think it is a rather stupid idea given her clear lack of respect for boundaries?!

Nothing really going on here. Can't believe how much heartburn I have at this stage. It is making me feel pretty miserable, but I keep reminding myself that I'm just going to have to get on with it - far worse stuff going on in life than heartburn!

Obstetrician appointment this Friday, and 12 week scan on 1 September (bang on 12 weeks). Just trying to decide whether or not to tell my "boss" (actually not my boss, but my main client) before then or not...

Can't believe you are so close to meeting your baby MrsG! Soooooo exciting

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teaandhobnobs I don't have my work colleagues on fb. They are on LinkedIn. But I'm willing to accept every workplace is different. Are any of his other female colleagues his fb friends?

Though I still think she's stepped over the boundary for suggesting your child is how his son! That's just not on.

Thank you guys I talked to him he called and I was half asleep so I answered he got really defensive said I was accusing him of having an affair then said when he gets home he'll use the PC and take her off his Facebook. This girl has a history and DH is too nice for his own good and my own sanity. He said pregnancy makes me crazy I caught him messaging an ex early on when I was pregnant with DS he said it was innocent he took her off his Facebook and blocked her I dunno maybe this time it hormones aslong as he takes her off I'll be ok I think I will be. His boss called me after DH did I explained about yesterday and he is going to do a staff meeting about appropriate behavior in the work place he actually did a better job of making me feel better than DH did sorry for the drama again guys

My little boy has white hair. I'm fair and DH has gone grey but people are always suprised how white it is.
I would have been jealous too baby and not trust her at all. Women who say odd things like that in my opinion have alterior motives. So he should defriend her. I met one of my then boyfriends friends - the first thing she said was 'oh, you are so much prettier in real life than the photos he has of you'. Errrrr. What do you say to that? Initial reaction was - she fancies him, thought I wasn't that pretty so could probably 'get in there'. Week after we broke up (almost a year later) she made her move within the first week. Didn't get anywhere tho but still.

Exactly fedup that's not the kind of comment a normal coworker makes. They usually say things like what a cute little boy you have? Do you have plans with your children for the summer? Or the dreaded when are you having a second?

Morning all. baby I hope you are feeling better today and DH can understand why you were worried. I would have freaked out and not been very calm at all.

Tea I tried having a milky coffee just before bedtime and sleeping on a mountain of pillows - it has helped the heartburn quite a bit - mighr me worth a go?

Feeling so tired today and not sure why. 13 + 4 here. Just ready to get back into bed and snooze, I wish!

DH thought I had gone loopy and over reacted but he said he has unfriended her so feeling a bit better this morning. She has no boundaries at all it should be fun as his work are having a party for staff and their families at the end of the month just hoping she either doesn't show or keeps her distance. Think DH maybe felt a but guilty about having a go last night he got up and made me breakfast this morning. Thank you for listening and not telling me I was mad :) x

GandT I have been eating a yoghurt right before bed and it's helping my heartburn and I dug out my v shaped pillow too that seems to help mw said sleeping on your left side is meant to be good aswell although I fidget to much to know if it works lol

Waves to all!

Having a feeling poorly day. Bump was hard and painful on and off all night... paranoid morning re movement, but okay now. But in the middle of the night I just kept thinking ... its just Braxton HiX ... or is it eek!?@
Just being a bit vigilant re movement and tightening!

How many weeks are you now squiz?

I have come to conclusion that I'm probably not going to be able to fully relax about this baby until I can feel it moving hopefully not much longer till then excited and anxious about my 12 week app next week pretty sure all will still be ok but that niggly doubt is really irritating I keep catching myself getting excited and all of a sudden remembering that I'm not quite out of the 1st trimester really quite annoying specially as DH possibly to make up for yesterday has taken the whole day of my app off and is planning a baby shopping trip afterwards I want to be able to to just be excited now because I know deep down that the chances of anything going wrong now are tiny but I can't seem to relax.

squiz when I first started gettin more Braxton hicks I found it harder to feel the movements for the first day or two cos I mixed the tightenings an movements up n cudnt feel him moving properly when the bump was tight, but after a few days the problem seemed to go away so I dunno if I learnt how to tell his movements apart or somethin, but just wanted to say it took a little getting used to for me!

baby id have been the same in your position, uv done the right thing gettin him to take her of Facebook. Iv found that I'm slightly more paranoid in pregnancy regarding OH aswell tho, I think it's just because we use to have a very active sex life and now it barly exists while I'm so big I can't help but feel insecure at times, I'm hoping it's a normal hormonal thing

Hope everyone else is ok today

alb me and DH barely have a sex life at the moment partly because it's hard to feel sexy when I feel so sicky I think that hasnt helped the situation. It seems though I'm not the only one who has an issue with her behavior a few of the girls I know who are with guys working there have similar issues with her behavior and apparently a complaint was made by a member of the public about her today after she was inappropriate towards her husband. Hoping that she isn't there much longer as bad as that sounds. I don't need the extra stress this pregnancy is scary enough.

HI All; scan went well this morning, nice long check as bumblebee kept moving too quickly (apparently the sugary haribo's make them move loads lol) all is well moved 4 days on so now 12+6 plus I have edd or 20.2.15.

ref the sex, we've tried twice in 10 weeks (poor hubs!) both times it has been preceeding a scan so I can check all is well after. although boobs v sore and hubs is a boobs man so it's not so good for him. oh the whole though positive day can relax until I start feeling movements now.

davidtennant fab scan news DH is a boob man with me too and has been having a bit of a sulk that I suddenly have huge boobs that he can't touch because they are too sore love him although I am feeling less sicky today so hopefully things are settling a bit although I don't want it go totally just yet as it's quite reassuring some times :)

Just went to my local shop and the woman behind the till said "oooh you can't have much longer left looking at you" I nearly wet myself laughing at her face when I said I am only 11 weeks lmao

Great news re the scan davidt

I am a bit freaked as in the last week a couple of ladies from the march an thread have miscarried after seeing heartbeats at 8 weeks. I now have escalating scan fear. I am trying to reassure myself that with noth my mc i did have small amounts of bleeding which alerted me and noth were before 9 weeks. Only 137 hours to 12 week scan.......

Congrats on the scan dtm!

Us too re sex - 3 times since bfp and am 32 weeks!

So I braved it today. Had a boots double points voucher that runs out and went to buy stuff for hospital bag / new born days. Got nappies, maternity pads, cotton wool and all the oils / potions for sore bits down there (assuming I can go for vbac). Then felt scared as hadn't felt baby move much today. So just sat still for 10 mins and it's booted me a good few times so hoping all ok. Weird how the mind plays with you though :(

hollyben I've seen allot of that as well it doesn't make it harder to stay positive it doesn't sound like long till your scan although my poor brain will not convert hours into days lol

fedup exciting times I got so excited doing my hospital bag although I was 26 weeks when I did mine with DS as the little monster tried to make an appearance at 24 weeks unsuccessfully thank god. I never used any lotions or potions for sore bits after DS and been seeing tons about needing ice packs and witch hazel ect which has me confused after the 1st time going to the toilet I felt ok down there though so wondering if it's something your meant to do that I didn't ??

Scan is next Thursday at 910 baby Only calculated hours to distract me as I am at work.

When you said you braved it fedup I thought you were still referring to dtd. I was intrigued by what you had bought in boots

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Hi everyone,

Glad to see everyone is doing well! I love keeping track of everyone's progress. All this good news at 12 week scans is fantastic! 14 weeks for us now so have started telling people and I even bought a little cardigan the other day! I'm telling myself it's ok to get excited now and trying to make myself chill out and enjoy it! Feels great to finally be past the 12 week mark but there's still that slight bit of being cautious that I think will stay to the end! X

holly you had my poor sleep deprived brain going mad then my 12 week app is 22nd at 10.30 dunno if I am excited or scared.

Made an appointment to see my gp today see if maybe I can get some counciling to deal with my anxiety in this pregnancy coz I want to enjoy it but I don't seem to be able to :( so fingers crossed seeing her Monday.

happily DH came home the other day with a huge bag of baby clothes that I won't even look at yet lol maybe when 12 weeks passes I can relax a bit like you and have a look through :)