Shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

[MrsGiraffe12]

Hand holding, fish slapping and general bat shit craziness :-)

Great scan news squitza. Was reading your posts from last week. Big hug. Hope this week you are managing your anxiety. I was very anxious with DS. Medicalised pregnancies, I think, add another layer of stress. (I get gestational diabetes in mine) This pregnancy is much better anxiety wise. (Apart from first 12 weeks!! That was hard.)

Good luck for everyone this week!

Great news on everyone's scans. I have my 20 week scan on Thursday - and am 20 weeks today. I am nervous and don't think I have much of a reason to be!

Anxiety has been a staple throughout for me, and when I catch myself actually being happy, its like I can't let myself continue. I have given in and last week reffered myself to the mental health team, and then will be calling me soon.

My mum is coming down tomorrow night (she lives a 3 hour drive away) and will be here for the scan, She is so excited, but doesn't understand my anxiety - just tells me to chill out. DH is very helpful at scans when I am a nervous wreck.

Sorry for the vent - Good Luck everyone else who is off for scans soon, and congrats to those with positive scan news! :)

babytinx have you tried B6?? You probably have but if not I'd really recommend it! I've been taking 25mg, 3 x per day since Saturday and the improvement is incredible. Still v tired but can cope with that, now eating normally (well more than normal) and only have stronger symptoms late evening at 10pm ish but usually in bed and manageable.

I have to say I'm astounded it's worked so well and if it wasn't for my scan yesterday I know if be worrying about sickness dying off but it started before my scan so pretty confident it's the B6 doing it's job. Also ask your GP about taking it alongside Doxylamine at night (anti histamine) in Canada and us it's widely prescribed / recommended and I can only really find good reports on it but we don't tend to do it here. I asked my pharmacist and he said it's a popular choice abroad. Saying that I've really only needed the B6 so far so that's probably the safest option.

I felt so bad last wk I got Stemitil from the GP but I've not taken it as the info on it and testing is weak and I feel id be taking a risk. I do think B6 is safer tho and also another tablet Cyclizine recommended by my GP friend too I think is safer than Stemitil. To be honest I don't know why I was prescribed that, seeing midwife today so may bring it up!

Have a good day all

Hi all, apologies not been on much lately...
Great scan news chops, littlemissy, tanny and tea!
I too am in pre-scan hell seasalt and happily... Mine is on Thursday afternoon, 2 weeks after my last one. Been really worried as I've had virtually no symptoms since last Tuesday... My boob swelling went down, no sickness and not even as tired; just the occasional indigestion and constipation but of course that may be unrelated to pg.
I know symptoms can go even if all fine. No bleeding (both my mcs were MMCs, so didn't have that before either) but had some pains last week, so I guess it could go either way...
Will be reaaally relieved if all is all. Will be later than all prev time. FX!
Hugs to all!

Uh oh. Just got to work and went to loo. Lots of cm when I wiped. Mainly yellow in cliur but a bit of brown blood tinged as well. Also feeling a bit if pulling down there. I am going to be in full knicker watch, rushing to the loo every 5 minutes

hollyben deep breathes my lovely. It's a scary time. Can you contact a midwife/gp about a scan or something? xx

Thanks mrsg. When I went for my 8 week scan they said to phone then direct. Been back to check and nothing more. Will see what happens today. Not sure i will get much work done though. Fingers crossed x

Definitely fingers crossed! Your in the right place to vent your worries though. Let us know how you get on x

Just realsied I'd fallen off the thread.

HollyBen fingers crossed all is well and it was just a one off thing.

I'm 12 weeks today and have my scan on Thursday afternoon - good to see there are quite a few of us. I am struggling with serious worry. I've not slept properly for about a week. DH has finally got sick of me waking up at 4 and needing to eat and get up and has moved to spare room for a couple of nights. We are meant to be meeting up with people at the weekend and then having family stay over next week and I just can't even begin to think these things will happen because I'm so worried I'll be told on Thurs its another mmc.

Sorry for the woe is me thing.

chops no I haven't tried B6 I just got back from seeing my gp who gave me new anti sickness meds and then said all anti sickness meds carry a risk to the baby so now I am scared of taking it :( will deffo try B6 it sounds much safer its a bit scary that it could hurt my baby taking this medication :(

Hill, I popped on to the last thread but am thinking about joining properly now as the internal thoughts ate driving me mad and I need an outlet! I've read all your posts and just have to say good luck to everyone, some of you have got so many things going on my worries seem small in comparison. I had a mc at 7 ish weeks last May, it's taken this long to get pregnant again and I veer from hope to panic to negative in equal bursts!
Right now nothing amazingly different in terms of symptoms, nausea and the usual tweaks in my abdomen and needing the loo constantly. But as the same point approaches I just keep thinking of coincidences. Last time we had gone to a wedding abroad at the same point, then my in laws came to stay and I mc while they were here, we didn't tell them as we hadn't told themail I was pregnant and my mil in particular (old, hypochondriac, Irish, Catholic) would have overreacted.
This time, we found out just before we went away, got back yesterday, in laws are coming to stay next week.
Stupid but I am panicking! They will be here at exactly the same point, when I'm 7 weeks.

However idol have positive coincidences too, we found out about dd while we were abroad, I did the same things ( drank a little, didn't think about it at all until 6 week's essentially) and she is now a very active doing my head in 4 yr old.... Also my edd would be a couple of weeks before her birthday!

Sorry for the brain dump ladies! I keep thinking of the positives but can't help panicking about next week. Not sure if I should go to the doc and ask for a scan, I've no real reason to, don't want to waste resources.

Holly can understand your worry, and really hope it's nothing serious. Keeping things crossed x

Hi missmakestuff sending lots of positive thoughts don't worry about wasting resources asking for a reassurance scan I'm sure your gp will understand I was very lucky in that my gp offered me one if it will help relax ask for one :) I know the feeling with a busy little one my DS is 3 and is constantly doing my head in mainly because he takes advantage of me being sick to misbehave lol the joys hey

Thanks Baby I think I might, in two minds as I wouldn't have anyone to go with me or look after Dr so don't think I could fit it in anyway. Got to just keep busy and not think about it, easier said than done, although the piles of washing and tidying in anticipation of the outlaws arrival next week should do it.
I swear my dd knows something is up, her behaviour on holiday was shocking and she keeps climbing all over me, elbowing me in the books and the belly, it's driving me mad. When will reconsider telling your ds? I've no idea when to even think about it.

How has everyones Dh/dp been about pregnancy early on? Mine barely acknowledges it currently, just think he doesn't know how to act and is being cautious.

miss my DS was the the same we ended up telling him there is a baby in mummy's tummy to stop him now he spends allot if time telling me it wasn't him who was naughty it was the baby lol my DH is mixed in the way he has been most days he is fab but he has had the odd slip up he is still paying for the last one lol

Do you get on with your outlaws miss?

Hi everyone,
I have been quiet and lurking the last few days as they been exceptionally difficult for DH and I, not least because of the situation with amnio appointment and decision looming, but also for some horrendous family news and disturbances.

Great to read the lovely scan news.
squiz fab news, and hoping the anxiety settles down. You have provided so many wise words and so much reassurance to myself and countless others on here xx

DH and I decided to decline the amnio; given that a Down's baby will not make the slightest difference to either of us, it seems an unnecessary risk just to 'know'. We were advised to keep the appointment where they did a really detailed anomaly scan. Mini cup is back a couple more days on dates, but this drop has been consistent and fits a lower centime curve. The head circumference and femur length sit on the same centime curve, and there were no cardiac/other internal organ abnormalities seen. All of this, whilst not ruling out chromosome abnormalities, does make more severe presentations less likely. However they did find a small interhemispheric cyst (lies between the two frontal lobes of the brain). They have said this might be incidental and may spontaneously resolve, and will keep an eye on it (check at 20w scan next Monday, and recheck at foetal medicine clinic in a fortnight). I am desperately trying to stay away from Dr. Google and pubmed, and trying to stay calm and positive.

cuppa best of luck with it all, you sound like you recouping brilliantly, I am worried about the 12 week scan as I'm 37 And I can't see either of us coping with a ds child, although I know we would really because the thought of it is different to the reality of a child. it does sound like you have very good chances of everything being ok.

baby we get on ok, but mil is just a bit much in a Mrs Doyle sort of way, and just is so different to us, having them staying for nearly week whilst I'm on school hols is going to be a bit of teeth gritting. If everything is still ok by then we will tell them and will probably tell them about the mc before to explain why we aren't running around grinning like loons.

First day with no coffee today..now I'm 6+3 I'm taking it a bit more seriously and will avoid the booze and coffee.. Really need some, still have jet lag, dd was up for hours in the night until 5:30am then slept till 12pm!

I need to get moving on housework and need to stop reading threads on mn!

yep, having and up-day :)
scan also showed placenta is high :)
DH and I have talked and neither of us give a monkeys whether baby has Downs or not. I'm just hoping that I can get my head around a potential brain lesion in the same way...
missmakeshoft hoping your outlaw weeks passes swiftly and without incident ;)

miss sounds a bit like my mil only thing is she is more hyacinth bucket than mrs Doyle lol unqualified pain in the ass thankfully though she lives close enough that there are no week long stays hope your week goes quickly

Really really stressed and worried again that something is wrong :( no reason at all think it's a timing thing tomorrow is when we found out in last pregnancy we had had mmc :( the next 2 weeks are going to be a nightmare it seems such a long time hoping my app comes through soon and it's not a 2 week wait feel like I am slowly going mad here well not so slowly :( fish slap please some one and I think it needs to be a really big one

I know that feeling baby, be gentle on yourself. This is a new pg with a different baby. Worrying won't change anything but how you are in yourself. Some deep breaths and distractions and some hand holding from us. Have a minnow, if you need one, but we all feel the same sometimes x

I love what you've done with the thread!
Hello. I'm a thread grad, dd2 was born in march. I just stuck my nose in to have a peek, had a read and just want send a hug to Cuppa. I know what you're going through, my LO has DS. My pg was a hell of worry and fear and uncertainty. However, the reality of Lucy is better than my wildest dreams.
If it does happen, you'll be okay. it'll be okay. xx
pm me if you'd like. xxx

Oh baby, sorry you're feeling rubbish. teeny tiny slap, because I doubt there is a woman on here who has not felt similar anxiety at timings of previous MCs, however TODAY YOU ARE PREGNANT wishing you feeling better soon x
Thanks saggy

Thanx tanny feeling sick and tired generally pregnant just can't relax not feeling myself at all need my next scan to hurry up maybe when I finally get to
The magic 12 weeks I'll start feeling better and maybe relax a bit