Shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

[MrsGiraffe12]

Hand holding, fish slapping and general bat shit craziness :-)

Seasalt try not to worry. I too have my scan on Friday and in a very similar position to you. Had a scan at 7+1, all was perfect, then my symptoms went around the end of week 9. Had another scan at 10 weeks-perfect wriggling baby.

It's hard not to stress but the lack of symptoms doesn't mean anything. This is the furthest I've got too-can't believe I've gotten to the 12 week mark it's so scary and I'm waiting for someone to burst my bubble! It's only natural to worry but once you have seen the heartbeat things are looking good!!

I'm sure we are both going to have good scan news on Friday! X

Shall we hold hands until then?

Your story about the symptoms going but all being ok does help thank you x

Most definitely hand holding sounds like a plan.

I remember saying to my husband just before my scan that I was glad I had a scan because I felt much better and would be stressing if not. I think il constantly be worried about something! X

I've said similar to my DH and I just get a withering look. He knows how much I worry!

I'm having scan dread and I haven't even got my app yet for 12 weeks still throwing up all over the place and generally feeling pants DH keeps telling me if something was wrong I would know just wish I could trust it. Need a fast forward button to feb/March when they baby is due

Just had a follow up scan and they've dated me at nearly 7 weeks. Baby is fine and heard a strong heartbeat so somewhat relieved (for now).

They've kindly offered me follow up scans every fortnight due to miscarriage history which is a relief.

Feeling marginally better (less sick) today after starting on the B6 which is a relief altho so exhausted still!! Can't wait for DD to nap so I can too!!

Ps good luck to all you ladies heading for a scan today, I know there were a few of us!

Have taken the plunge and bought a cosleeper crib from ebay, desperately wanted one last time and it was a good price. For reasons that are unclear to me, this caused an enormous argument with DH about how I'm getting overambitious about how much driving I can do, as I had a long break from driving and have only driven for a couple of hours at a time, and very little Mway (can get it during a trip I need to do anyway for work, an hour from home and all on A-roads). Then came down for bfast in my pj bottoms and sleep bra to find the curtains wide open, DH claiming he didn't do it when I definitely shut them. He may have done it without thinking, DD may even have done it, but I started ranting about him gaslighting me. Fed up and honestly felt like leaving him this morning, am really conscious of things I'm saying out of anger in front of DD, not swearing but angry conversations, don't want her to grow up in a house of fights.
Bleeding lessened over weekend and baby has been fidgeting plenty, am just feeling tired and sad that things are strained as we did have a lovely weekend with DD, at a party and friend's house, she is just a joy, but was a massive pain this morning and didn't want DH to do anything for her at all, just wanted me.
Gah.
Anyway, sorry for self-indulgent post, am feeling pointlessly sorry for myself. Hope all are doing well, and DIY disasters aside that you're all feeling good. (squiz, had I been able to get DD out of our room at 6mo she'd have had a lovely nursery, but as it was she took a lot longer to oust from her privileged position in our room).

Alb good to hear your scan went well. Hope he turns!

Tanny, Blank & LittleMissy FX for your scans.

Fedup Sympathy!! Don't think I could handle an extension while upduffed, not at all!!

Holly sounds like our previous owners. There are some right howlers!

Seasalt it really is v common for everything to settle down about 10 weeks. I found it scary too. After 8 weeks, if the embryo is fine then it's over 95% likely to be OK... I remember my RMC clinic downgrading me to just seeing a nurse at 10 weeks as they were feeling secure, so being OK after 8 weeks is a big thing. :) Happily hope both you and Seasalt have great scans!

Baby you're feeling pregnant, you're body's acting pregnant... most likely all is well. :)

Chops That sounds great! :) And lovely they are giving you some reassurance scans. Clinically I understand they further increase success even more (no one knows why, but they do!).

Corp My DH has moments like this. He gets moody and stressed after I've had a day when I had to call the MW but usually about something else (like I'm doing too much housework and that's why I forgot to count kicks). Silly man stuff.

News from the scan today... 34+3 and baby is 1lb off full term weight. Guess mild APS's number one risk... low birth weight... won't be an issue even if she comes early. She's all proportional and looks tall and sturdy.
Bit daunted though and glad St Marys has plenty of epidural anesthetists!!
Mind you give me a few hours and I'll need fish slapping about rarer risks...
She's moving well thanks to a frappacino so I also popped into some shops and got some Primark baby bits and Mothercare nursing 'soft' bras (as I dunno my exact size when milk comes in, can pop them on for a few days while I order nicer ones).
Oooh optimism. Must be that frappacino!!

Thanx squiz the last few days I've been alternately to tired or poorly to worry although last night DH nearly undid all the kind caring things he had been doing by saying if I still have sickness after 12 weeks he is going to " take a step back and stay with a mate from work till the baby is born" which led to floods of tears and me in bed at 7.30 haven't spoken to him since as I was asleep when he came to bed and still asleep when he left for work at 6am. I understand it's hard for him me being poorly and tired all the time but that was uncalled for hoping for an apology when he gets home tonight

Aw, I'm getting all excited about those of you with rapidly approaching due dates!
baby sorry to hear that DH upset you yesterday. I do understand that our OH's are going through a lot as well, but it's very hard to muster up any sympathy for them when it's our bodies going through all the physical stuff, the sickness, the bloating, etc etc
I really hope the sickness does ease off for you at 12 weeks, I know how it can really grind you down. I feel like a different woman now at 14 weeks, thank goodness!

Was wondering if anyone uses a home doppler to hear babys heartbeat? I thought it would be a good idea for the stage I'm at now for some reassurance until I can start feeling kicks and movement. I know some people say they get more stressed though if the machine doesnt work and they can't pick up anything

and Yay Squiz that's excellent news on the lovely healthy size of your little one! You should feel proud!

Thanx gail he called me in his break and apologised I do feel sorry for him he isn't used to me being like this I wasn't this pork with DS but it really annoys me that he even thought it was ok to say even if he didn't mean it

Scans seem to have gone well today. Mine was great, strong heartbeat and dates matching mine. Phew!

Scan went well. Measuring 8.5ish weeks, heartbeat and kicking legs!

Discharged from Coventry, and now under care of local team.

Phew!

Wonderful news tanny I am so pleased for you x

Lots of good scan news! So lovely to hear :) I'm off to bed, I can barely stay awake, such a party animal me.

Fab to see everyone's fab scan news :) I too am heading off to bed off to the gp again tomorrow as I have got to stop throwing up long enough to get some work done and play with DS fingers crossed they can actually give me something that works tomorrow :)

Yay for all the lovely scan news :-)

And hugs and hand holding to all that are concerned and nervous.

As for me, BP and protien are still in pre eclampsia range, but not enough for admittance to hospital. Seeing them again Thursday. Having fairly regular and painful Braxton hicks which suck x

Hope the GP can help tomorrow babytinx, I can't imagine how awful you must be feeling. I can't believe your "D"H said that, oh poor him, you feeling so awful is so hard for him... what a load of crock. I'm glad he apologised, but don't feel sorry for him - he needs to pull his socks up and look after you, not moan about himself and threaten to stay somewhere else! Grrrrrrrrrrrr

Scan went well today - I am so relieved, I had a little cry! Measuring 10 days behind but that is consistent with my belief that I conceived late in my cycle, so I'm ok with that. Puts me at 8 weeks today. Heard the heartbeat too. Looks like I have another corpus luteum cyst (as I did with DS) so I will just ask them to check that out at the 12 week scan to see if it is growing. It hasn't caused me any pain this time though, which is good.

I suppose I'd better start admitting to myself that I am really pregnant, then, eh? Because the nausea and heartburn clearly weren't doing a good job of that... My next mental milestone is going to the US to see BIL and SIL when I will be 16 weeks - from memory, that was when things started to feel more real and I got less anxious last time, so I will be happier when I reach that point.

Great news on the weight squiz. (hugs) for Corpore, both for the irritating DH and the clingy DD - hope things get a bit better for you this week. Yay for good scan news for tanny and littlemissy!

Hi lovely ladies, mind if I join? I'm 6 weeks today, have a lovely DS who is 1 and had a miscarriage in Jan at 10 weeks, although the doctor said he thinks that the baby stopped growing around 5/6 weeks and it just took my body a bit longer to miscarry.

So very worried atm, although I'm starting to feel more nauseous everyday which I'm taking as a good sign. Have my GP appointment in the morning and going to ask for an early scan around 8/9 weeks, do you think it's reasonable to ask for one or is it only if you've had more than 1 loss or cause for concern in this pregnancy?

Welcome Christina! And congratulations.
Do ask about a reassurance scan, but I have no idea whether they will give one or not. I paid £80 for a private one today, just because I knew I couldn't cope with another 4 weeks of not knowing if everything was progressing as it should (I had a blighted ovum in my last pg), but I don't know if I would have been seen by the EPU if I had asked.

TandH I have made him suffer for it tonight and he has been on best behavior since he got in from work I know he has been fraustrated as sickness has stopped me working for over a month which is expensive but I made it clear tonight that I'm not going to put up with it. Soo hoping gp can give me magic medicine can't sleep because of the sickness :(

Thanks Teaandhobnobs! I'll ask anyway, if she decides not to refer me for one I think I'll do what you did and pay privately, congratulations btw, I'm sure you're so relieved! Wishing you a happy & healthy pregnancy.

I have a few family events coming up around my 10 week mark and I'd like to tell them then but only if I have the reassurance scan behind me x