The even newer posifrickentivity thread for ladies pregnant after miscarriage! Spring 2, welcome!

[squizita]

Hi Ladies, continuing our posifrickentivity journey.

Wishing all healthy pgs and lots of thread babies!

fod Keep well, you've made it thus far!

As for me, still negative and still no period... Aaargh! Have nurse's appointment tomorrow am but does it have to be a doctor for the HGC blood test? And will it count as MC #3 if nothing there..?

He has hiccups! hes kicked a few more times (once strong) so I think he's ok. I have a consultant appointment tomorrow anyway and they'll listen in so I'll mention it to them then. Hes now moving as much as i would expect him to in the morning, but this is usually his quiet time so I think maybe dd2 jut scared him and he decided not to move!

silvverline i have no idea, but if af hasnt arrived, wait till you see the nurse before jumping to conclusions xx

fod oh no, that all sounds a bit odd! Perhaps it is the very start of things? It does sound like somethings going on. When does your DH get back? Could he get back quickly if needed?

silverine really sorry to hear that, keeping fx for you. I think it does have to be the doctor yes (at our surgery it does anyway), so it might be worth making an appointment for today if you can. I'm sorry but I'm not really sure x.

Cbeebies really great news to hear your little chap is moving about normally again, you must be very relieved! They do love worrying us don't they? I would definitely mention it tomorrow. Really good news though x.

Hi guys. I've reached my first mini goal of this pregnancy. Getting past my period due day! Hurrah!

Next mini goal - CBD next week in the hope that it will read 2-3 or 3+.

Then, scan on 27th. Eek.

How did you get on corp?

silv I'm pretty sure it's the nurse that would take your bloods and send them off for a HCG measurement and the Dr that would give you the results

stars I think your right there's definitely something going on - it's very weird - I'd be looking at a good 3 hours before he could get home if there was any action

sea hiya and congrats on achieving your first goal post!

sea that's brilliant, congratulations! Setting mini goals really helped me too.

fod three hours is quite a bit, in that case I'll keep everything crossed that things start moving and get straight into full swing as soon as your DH is back.
My DH often works about three hours drive from our hospital, our house is only an hours drive, but where he works is the other side of our house to the hospital, if that makes sense. It is worrying.

my dh is the same, he's agreed not to do any over night stays until the baby is born, so has managed to book in 'local' clients from now until the baby is born, but that still means up to a 3 hour drive to clients every day! (he works all over the country) Its very worrying, especially when he is in meetings and I cant get hold of him for hours [worried]

Fod when is he due back? and how far are you along now? (you're another one I've been measuring my pregnancy against!) hoping your body lets you know what's going on soon!

Re babysize: Thanks Stars, Cor blimey Cbeebies! and awww Squiz so dinky!

Thinking of you Corpore and Silverine.

Cbeebies glad you're getting usual movement levels again, phew!

Good milestone Sea here's to the next one.

Gosh Fod could be the start! Keep us posted.

Thanks to all for kind thoughts. This morning was very exciting, they called me on the way in and said they wanted to re-scan as it had been a week, and then decide what to do re HCG based on the scan. There is evidence of some bleeding near the sac, but I am thrilled to report that our baby now has a tiny fluttering heart beat :D. Was then sent over to book my 12w scan. So happy. I know I will be scared again (and there was even some discussion as to whether I should go back again in 2w for another scan), but for now, I am pregnant and have seen the little one :D.
fod I was over at UHNS, if that means anything to you ;) we might be able to organise a meetup. Hope things are moving now but slowly enough that you can get DH home.

Corpore Big phew. :) A hb is a great sign.

corp that's brilliant news!!! So pleased for you - yes I think I know there you mean
cbeebies he's due home about 3pm, I'm 39 weeks now, I can feel her on my thighs now so she must have dropped further, was still bobbing the loo until a hour ago but i think I'm going to brave it and go for a long walk - FX
stars it really is a worry? I've been told that the third labor can be quiet the quickie!!!

corpore that's lovely news, great that they decided to rescan aswell rather than just do bloods.

silver this must be very stressful for u, i don't really have any advice but an keeping fx that the Docters figure this out quickly for u

fod also fx that this is the start for you! But hopefully not too speedy a start given that ur DH is away lol

Jbrd hope everything goes well for you today!

Sorry to those I'm missing, I really need to keep up more!

Ahh my pg news has gone facebook official (DP and DM decided to announce it, not me) this is causing a bigger wobble than buying the pram did, I don't believe in ginxing but it sure feels like were ginxing it!

Only 2 ish more hours to go then fod! how are you feeling now?

Alb, congrats about the Facebook announcement, it's scary especially when you don't fully want to.

Yay corp just checking in between work meetings to see your fabby news - hurrah!!

Hope everyone else ok. silver so sorry about the bfn but I would def get to doctors to chat about this.

I just ate a mountain of prosciutto without thinking. Paranoid it will give me something bad and harm the baby. Should I not be eating cured meats? Have you all cut them out?

Fedup NHS page said they're OK mostly. It was in the reader Q&A bit at the bottom.

Alb OOh FB announcement: exciting times! As I have been told 100 times jinxing doesn't exist (I should get DH's mantra "jinxing doesn't exist, clexane does!" tattooed on me lol) told DH, DM and HR manager I'd be telling everyone at week 14. Lo and behold I'm 3 days away and bricking it. Another milestone I suppose!!

Feel sick as a dog this afternoon.

Good news corp

seasalt one mini milestone at a time is a good way to tackle it...

fod hope this is the start of something, sounds promising!

I had 28 week growth scan today and all good. Baby has short legs (like my Dad) which was a concern at 20 week scan but they have grown on the centile line so they seem less bothered. Head and abdomen pretty average, estimated weight now 2lb (aww) Had a chat with the doctor which did not fill me with confidence, I had a horrific PPH with DS2 so am under consultant care this time but she didn't give me much hope they can prevent another, just that they will be ready for it this time. What freaks me out is that on baby 2 I arrived at hospital with 10 mins to spare (less than 2 hours first contraction to him arriving) so I think all their brave talk of putting in venous lines etc is just not going to happen. I am not going to be letting DH out of my sight for the last few weeks!

fedup the nhs website says it doesn't recommend pregnant women avoid cured meats cos the risk is so low, so u shud be fine (jus double checked that on their website before writing it aswell) :-) I'm still eating pepperoni on pizzas if that counts?

Squiz it's funny house nerve wracking it can be telling people isn't it! DP just decided he wanted to and so posted the scan pic, I'd love to have his happy careless nature about it all, were very lucky tho, absolutely everyone has been incredibly happy for us, including boss, work people, etc, however I'm still avoiding telling my gran as she's so traditional and were not married n don't own our house im scared shel go nuts, but obviously now everyone else nos telling her is an urgent priority, luckily there's no one on my fb that nos her so she can't get the news 2nd hand...

Hello lovely ladies, I was wondering if I could join your group? I had a MC at 5+4 in December after TTC for 6 months. We got our BFP last week (I stupidly tested when AF was due...I always said I would try and wait a bit but couldnt resist). Anyway it was a very strong positive (on ICs, the positive line was showing before the pee had even reached the control). This was loads stronger than my PG which was very faint at DPO18, which I suppose I should take as a good thing.

So now I am 4weeks+5 and am super paranoid. I cant stop checking my knickers and thinking Im going to see blood. Every little cramp/twinge is sending me into a flat spin! Only symptoms at the moment are constipation (joy), dizziness and a bit of boob pain but I know its too early to have loads of symptoms anyway. How do I stop going crazy? I just want to relax and be happy that i'm PG but the thought of another MC is petrifying. I just want to get this first trimester out of the way. Anyway I hoped I could talk to you all about it because we havent told anyone yet and my two best friends have recently both suffered MMC as well so I cant even talk to people about what a normal pregnancy is supposed to be like. Help!

Aw Corp that's great to hear, super chuffed for you hon.

Alb I would be eek! like you about fb but it must be lovely to have everyone's congratulations and support so I hope you can enjoy.

Hello Baxter, welcome to the madness, you will find many fellow knicker checkers here! You sound exactly like so many of us! Best advice is to scroll back through the thread -it helps to read everyone else saying and feeling what you do-, to distract yourself and make other plans to break the weeks down, and to come here any time you have any genuine concerns or daft panics for hand holding. And of course, the PG after MC mantra: Today you are pregnant. Remember it's okay right now in the present

This week is feeling very real for me. Almost like getting bfp all over! I only have a few days and I've made it as far as we got last pg. It suddenly seems massive and, well, like I said SO REAL! I can't quite get my head around it. But it's nice!

Also, if you do scroll through Baxter you'll see just how many thread babies have been welcomed of late. I don't think anything could be more inspiring.

corp congratulations that's fantastic news! Really glad to hear everything went well for you

fod how are you feeling?

alb congratulations and keep squiz's DH's mantra in mind, there's no such thing as jinxing. It is hard announcing, but hang onto the posifrikintivity

fedup I'm vegetarian so I'm not sure, but I seem to remember hearing that they're fine, I think so long as you've bought it from somewhere reputable and not a back alley street market it should be ok.

Squiz hope you're starting to feel a bit better soon.

Bakingtins really great news about your scan! Not about your conversation with the doctor though, ten minutes to spare, eek!!!

Baxter congratulations and welcome but sorry you find yourself here if that makes sense, and sorry to hear about your friends too. I had the same for this pregnancy, positive on ICs before wee had reached control panel, whereas in previous pregnancies the lines stayed very faint, and I'm now 28+2. I still knicker check, I don't think the worry ever goes away really, but I found that setting myself mini goals and having a countdown app for them on my phone really helped, eg. X days until midwife appointment then when I reached that I set a new goal. It really helps break the time up, and I know others on here set mini goals too.

Jen here's to only a few more days until you're further than before, that will be brilliant I should think! Really happy you're having a good day x.

JBrd hope you're ok and the scan went well xx.

After reading alband squiz's posts about announcing, I have just realised today that we still haven't told anyone except our parents, DH's niece (who lives with MIL) and both of our works HR departments/immediate line managers. It's been quite freeing just being able to get on with it without nosy, interefering, condescending, smug interested relatives continually asking questions .
I used to get continually told by female relatives that I am the only one to have EVER miscarried, let alone repeatedly, in either mine or DH's family, and reminded that "our lot are a fertile lot it's always been said, so not sure where you get that tendency from" always said in a knowing, smug, proud voice . I (and DH) completely lost it in the end and got the rage. Still, we've now decided that we're not telling anyone else until he's born, and we're not allowing visitors at the hospital or for at least three weeks afterwards, and even then only our parents. I just cannot put up with the smug nonsense anymore, and it feels so liberating

Evening all. I've been trying to follow these threads but have been too nervous to join (no such thing as a jinx eh!). I have a scan on Thursday and I should be 13 weeks. I miscarried last year and had a little bleed at 10 weeks this time but the scan then was fine. To be truthful I am shitting myself, statistics say the risk of miscarriage drops to 2% and I had a good 10 week scan but there are so many ladies on here who've suffered losses after 12 weeks. Thursday seems so far away.