The even newer posifrickentivity thread for ladies pregnant after miscarriage! Spring 2, welcome!

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Hi Ladies, continuing our posifrickentivity journey.

Wishing all healthy pgs and lots of thread babies!

polka welcome and well done for finding the courage to join, although sorry you find yourself here x. Nope, no such thing as a jinx, but I didn't find the courage to re-join this thread until last week when I was 27 weeks . It's great news that you've already had a good scan, that's really positive, and not long until Thurs either, although I appreciate time is probably really dragging for you, hang in there.
Statistics can really haunt you, but try to think of it that you have a 98% chance of everything being perfectly ok on Thursday, and those are fantastic odds.
There are ladies who've had losses after 12 weeks (I'm one of them) but those losses account for a tiny percentage of all pregnancies and are not common. It is really tough being pregnant after a loss/losses, but try to take it one day at a time, remember the thread mantra, today you are pregnant, and that's wonderful. Congratulations and welcome again

Alb that's fab!!!! Eeeekkkkk feeling real now baking that's great news about LO scan, I'm not sure what PPH is so daren't comment either way although it sounds very scary and I too would want DH around got support
stars it's funny you should say about the smugness, I've (literally) seconds ago put a status on fb requesting that all fakers stay away post delivery etc etc

polka I'm sure I remember you from the other thread, your stats sound about right to me especially after seeing a heartbeat, remember that losses after 12 weeks are rare and usually due to a incompetent cervix or other bodily related issues which are picked up on eventually and can be rectified - thinkin of you goe Thursday x

stars thats awful! on your behalf, I'd bet there has been miscariage down the line, but no one wants to admit it/didn't fully realise (until early testing came along women often thought miscarriage was just a heavy period bought along because they had skipped a month or 2 - in relity women very rarely 'skip' months)

My mum had 3 miscarriages, my sister has had 2, I've had 6. My grandmother swears blind she never had them but considering the latest 2 generations have had them I'm guessing she did

polka, i remember you too! so glad to see you here, sorry some how I missed a whole page of posts! And polka remember its a strange community here, were all here because of miscarriage, there may seem many women who have miscarried after 12 weeks here, however when you line them up against people who have miscarried before 12 weeks or pregnancies that haven't been miscarried you would actually see its a very small percentage! As everyone else has said Today you are pregnant and that is an achievement

fod how are you doing?

Thank you stars & fod. I did post in a panic at 10 weeks!

And Cbeebies too!

stars, LondonJen, Alb, fedup thanks for the good wishes!

Unfortunately, my period did arrive this afternoon... So I guess I am not pregnant today... Within the week, I've been going "Shit... Yay! Shit...." of negative, then positive, then negative PG tests.

I still have my nurse appt tomorrow morning, but wonder if they will stillbe able to verify if I was pregnant or not and if any HCG would show still. They might not believe me I had a positive test or that my period was a week late... In that case, would it still register as a MC??

stars good job for not paying attention to anyone - you have to cut out all the negative crap, focus on nearest and dearest, maintain the posifrickintivity, and be selfish for a change!!

silver on my medical records I have 1 miscarriage written down, the other 5 I delt with at home by myself. I record them as miscarriages and when asked by midwifes how many I've had I say 6.

It doesnt actually matter what it says on your medical records, they arent going to call you a lier. You've had a miscarriage, even if it was 'just' chemical, its still a huge emotional rollercoaster ride and will take its toll on your well being. Take care of yourself.

cbeebies still nothing! ;( such a drawn out process this starting to be! Totally agree with your previous post about MC it was only when I'd suffered a loss that I discovered that both my Nan and Aunt had suffered losses too, it's such a taboo subject that most people won't talk about it until it's in their face

I worked with a woman for years that had lost her son during labor - it was a twin pregnancy - her daughter survived and the MWs response was that 'at least you get to take one home'

Thanks Cbeebies!

So I guess it's back to the drawing board, aka bedroom, for me and DH! Hope to be able to be back in the threat as soon as next month!

Phew this thread moves quickly when im actually doing some work!!!

Firstly thanks for the calm posts back about my prosciutto indulgence it was a sandwich from pret. I think I will steer clear from now on though as don't want to risk anything. Cooked on pizza though is fine as heat kills the bacteria.

silver I wouldn't worry about it being on your records... As the others say, they wouldn't question you lying about that. No one has even checked back at my records when I talk about my mcs. Take care of yourself, mc is horrible, whenever it occurs and you need to go easy on yourself xx

fod' at that twin Mw story. - that's terrible.

DH just ate my last chunky kit kat whilst I was at pregnancy yoga. I think that counts as reasonable grounds to start divorce proceedings based on mental cruelty.

Onto more important topics - I haven't been on the thread since the start of the weekend, what a lot has been going on! I can't keep up.

Huge congratulations to pixie and swangirl on the birth of your little ones. Don't forget to pop in and see us every now and again and let us know how you are getting on!

And big congrats to bakingtins and corpore on your good scans. Happy news!

Welcome to the newbies too, pull up a comfy chair and join in

penguin my first ever LTB!

silver sorry to hear AF got you. It's worth getting it put in your records, they shouldn't need any 'proof' other than your word. Hope you are ok.

polka welcome and good luck for Thursday.

fod apologies for acronyms. PPH= post partum haemorrhage.

jbrd been looking out for your news, hope everything was ok at your scan.

thanks baking and fedup!
Surprisingly resilient this time...

Got asked by a stranger today when my baby is due. Am 14+2. Don't know whether to be pleased, ie pregnancy progressing well and look pregnant not fat or horrified ie obviously pregnant at 14 weeks, didn't show with DS till about 24-26 weeks :-S

silverine I'm so sorry to hear your news, sending unmumsnetty hugs xx. Regardless of how it gets recorded officially on your medical records, it is still a loss, and still a hideous thing to go through and a massive trauma. Thank you for all of your lovely comments, take care of yourself, and I really hope to see you back here soon xx.

cbeebies thanks, I was a bit and I did think what a load of crock. I'm really sorry to hear about your losses and your families', as you say, your grandmother can't have escaped them, not with that family history.

fod sorry to hear things aren't moving yet - come on fodlette! That's awful about the mw! Makes me really angry to hear things like that

Penguinita sue him for all he's got!

In quite uninteresting news my tummy feels like it is going to burst, it's gone rock hard and the skin feels like it's splitting, which from previous experience means the bean is having another growth spurt. Tummy usually seems to relax again looking noticeably bigger (and with more stretch marks ) after a day or so. When I was scanned yesterday, at 28+1, the consultant estimated that he weighed just under 4lbs already. Now I know scans can be out, but that's pretty big isn't it?

MrsGiraffe, crikey! But go with pleased I think . I always felt that people thinking I looked pregnant mean I could justify more

Stars that sounds massive! I had growth scan yesterday at 27+3, measurements 50th centile except legs which are short, estimated weight 2lb! I am expecting another little'un, prev babies 6.5-7.5lb at term. Surely yours can't be twice as big at this stage though???

bakingtins we have consistently been told to expect a very large baby (consultant said at least 10lbs, probably more like 11lbs+ at term, GP said yesterday probably more like 12lbs+) and his measurements have always been off the charts, apparently nothing wrong though, as this has been extensively checked for. DH and I were both very large babies, so not sure if that makes a difference?
Should I be worried? We've seen two consultants and neither have been worried at all, but it's starting to really concern me now . I don't have gestational diabetes, or any of the other things which can lead to big babies, and I haven't actually put on much weight at all (only gained 3lbs so far) as I had severe hyperemesis until about two weeks ago and lost over two stone in first tri.

Meant to add that I know it isn't accurate but fundal height is currently measuring 37 weeks. I am starting to feel quite worried now, I didn't realise it was quite so abnormal

Stars, I've had big babies. The worry is baby getting stuck. I was due to be induced at 39 weeks with dd1 and went into labour naturally at 38+6. With dd2 I was induced at 37+5 (which in hindsight was too early). Both times the baby wasn't as big as predicted but they both managed to tear me and half as I'm only 5'4 size 10! Have the drs said what they are going to do?

allisgood thank you and ouch! My request for an ELCS has been approved for a while, so hopefully that shouldn't make much difference if he's big as he's coming out via surgery anyway?

I guess they are thinking your baby will be twice as big as mine then! My DS2 was not 12lb until he was 4 months old! Since you've had worries about him arriving early I would think him being big and strong is a good thing, as long as they are planning for him being big if he gets closer to term it's not going to be a problem. One of my friends had hyperemesis and despite being tiny herself produced a 10lb baby (by early ELCS) they said the baby develops a hyper-efficient placental nutrition gathering system in response to maternal "starvation" early on. He's a perfectly normal size child.