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The even newer posifrickentivity thread for ladies pregnant after miscarriage! Spring 2, welcome!

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squizita · 07/03/2014 18:59

Hi Ladies, continuing our posifrickentivity journey.

Wishing all healthy pgs and lots of thread babies!

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Baxter2014 · 13/03/2014 16:40

seasalt I am so sorry you are going through this. I wish you the very best and will be thinking of you. MC is truly the shittiest thing and am so sorry that we all find ourselves here. Please try and keep the faith. There will be a positive outcome for all of us one day Thanks

Honey786 · 13/03/2014 16:57

Sea I'm so sorry to hear what ur going through, it is such an awful experience. Sending u lots of love xx

Thank u ladies for ur kind words, it always does help.
Ceebebies ur post made me cry, can't imagine how u have coped with so much loss xxx

I'm trying to think positive and enjoy the next few weeks but it hard.

StarsInTheNightSky · 13/03/2014 19:55

Hello all, just catching up with the thread. Really sorry to hear all the sad news.

Dav when are you having the meetings about your ELCS? The waiting is really awful. I'm not sure if you've said why you're requesting one (sorry if you have and I'm just being forgetful) and I don't want to pry, but I was given some really good advice by the matron midwife at our hospital, she spent ages talking to me about how best to get my ELCS granted. I asked for one because of PTSD and previous pregnancy loss trauma.
She said to say to the consultant that "if you can guarantee that absolutely nothing will go wrong with a vb, and everything will go perfectly to plan they I may be prepared to consider it, but if you can't guarantee me that then for my wellbeing and that of my baby I insist on an ELCS". I asked for advice on how to get one granted on the childbirth section of the forum and I got some great advice.
Not to worry anyone who's having a vb, as I said, I'm having an ELCS for my mental health.

LoveCharlie welcome and congratulations, but sorry you're here if that makes sense. Try not to worry, the cb tests are notoriously difficult to get a bfp out of as they only detect higher levels of hcg, so it's a great sign that you got positives out of them, and yep you're definitely pregnant Smile. I had a similar thing with our surgery and turns out they thought they'd picked up a UTI in my sample so send it to the lab to confirm, so it could just be something like that. It doesn't do much for your peace of mind though does it? Sad

cbeebies how are you and your little chap? How did it go this morning? Really sorry to hear about your bad experience, as you say, what did they expect your daughter to do? Hmm. Really hope you're ok xx.
Your post about the service made me cry too, I really admire you for going, I don't have the courage yet but hopefully one day we will. We have planted a white climbing rose for each of our lost babies in the middle our back garden, they're all growing up tall white metal obelisks and we've got a brass armillary sun dial in the middle inscribed with "never forgotten" it shines golden when the sun hits it.

Baxter thanks! Wink Really good news about the test progression, and only seven days until your next milestone Smile. Time does drag doesn't it.

Corp hope your cold is feeling a bit better.

Mabel really glad to hear the tissue has disappeared Smile. I had very few symptoms until hyperemesis kicked in around week eight.

Honey hope you're ok xx. Anniversaries are always horrendous, but you don't have long at all, try to hold onto the positivity, I know it's tough, particularly when you've had one thing after another. I'm 28+4 and we had one thing after another too, and it does make it really hard to get excited. Offering a hand to hold Flowers xx.

fedup how are you today? If it helps I had cramps and very dark yellow cm in the first try and it turned out to be the beginning of thrush Hmm. I hate it when cm changes colour though, always gives me massive wobbles. Hope you're ok xx.

seasalt I am so, so sorry Flowers. Keeping everything crossed for you that all will be ok xx.

silver my losses were just down to really bad luck, no underlying medical reasons. I didn't do anything differently this time, and accepting that it was just crap luck and that nothign I did or didn't do made a differnence was a massive part of healing for me. It is very difficult to feel so powerless though. Hope you're as ok as can be xx Flowers

Pixie Imogen is a really beautiful name, and it's brilliant to hear from you. Sorry to hear the recovery isn't going as smoothly as before though, hope you start feeling better soon xx.

I think that's me caught up, but really sorry if I've missed anyone.

Well I had a bit of a nasty experience today, I was allowed off bed rest temporarily to go to the doctors surgery for a check up, blood tests (I have to have them every fortnight) etc. DH drove me there, and I found out I've got thrush again Hmm (am blaming it on overuse of very bubbly bubble bath Grin). The pharmacy was closed unexpectedly so DH drove us to another chemist. The till assistant refused to give me the cream and started telling me it was irresponsible to use it, and not suitable in pregnancy. I politely told her that I wouldn't have a prescription for it if it wasn't safe, and she started getting very snotty about it (she wasn't a pharmacist). DH demanded to speak to the pharmacist instead and the till assitant flat out refused to get the pharmacist and started ranting at us, saying I was a stupid irresponsible young girl (DH and I are both in our thirties) and that she was fed up of seeing stupid girls who didn't care about their babies and that she would be praying that our baby was stillborn as I didn't deserve to be a mother. Sad Sad Sad.
I burst out sobbing, DH was furious and demanded to see the manager straight away, who spent the next hour apologising profusely whilst I sobbed hysterically and DH ranted at him. The manager made the assistant apologise, but she was very sullen and begrudging about it.
I very rarely cry, and I would usually just get calmly angry back at someone, but it really shook me up. Sad. I really wish I'd have said something to the stupid old hag, but I was just so shocked and shaken that anyone would actually say something like that. People can be so vile. DH is still fuming and is spoiling me rotten to try to make me feel better. I'm thinking about writing a complaint to the HQ of the chemist (big national chain).

StarsInTheNightSky · 13/03/2014 19:57

Ooops, sorry that was such a long post!

Pixielady83 · 13/03/2014 21:37

stars I am literally dumbstruck at that woman and her appalling treatment of you! you need to name and shame that chain (here, Twitter) that is truly appalling. If I were you I would definitely complain, complain, complain to head office, she should not remain in a customer facing role. So sorry you had to experience that Sad

Penguinita · 13/03/2014 21:45

So sorry to hear your sad news seasalt Sad, it must be so hard to go through the mill again. It isn't over yet, there is still hope, fingers crossed for you.

Nice to hear from you pixie, lovely name! Sorry to hear you are having a bit of a hard time with the recovery, hope you DP is looking after you well.

Bloody hell stars, the behaviour of that till assistant is just shocking! Shock Definitely complain, that is totally unacceptable. She should have been sacked on the spot.

emki yes it is seven weeks until mat leave starts for me! although I have a week of holiday in the middle and Easter too, so it is more like five weeks actually at work. I'm looking forward to finishing but I have sooooo much to do before then, it seems a bit daunting! I have managed to pluck up the courage to order a pram and car seat, but have bought absolutely nothing else yet. I don't want to jinx things.

Apologies for TMI, but my boobs have started to properly leak today. This is a new experience for me, I'm absolutely fascinated and keep getting them out and having a squeeze, DH thinks I am totally crazy (which of course I am)! Grin

StarsInTheNightSky · 13/03/2014 21:49

Pixie thank you. I still feel pretty shaken up, I know that's a bit wimpy and oversensitive of me but I've just spent so long telling myself that there's no such thing as a jinx that hearing that really shot the wind up me. All the more so as we've now had three hospital monitoring trips for reduced movements, and the junior doctor helpfully told me the last time we were in that three or more periods of reduced movements puts you in the high risk bracket for stillbirth Hmm.

StarsInTheNightSky · 13/03/2014 21:53

Penguinita sorry cross post. Thanks, it did make me feel really awful and we are definitely going to complain very strongly to HQ and demand something be done.
It made me laugh about your boob fascination! Mine aren't leaking but have horrendous stretch marks that make me look like I've been mauled by a bear, and they fascinate me, I keep poking at them Grin.

Alb1 · 13/03/2014 21:57

Stars it's not wimpy at all, I think we would all feel like that! What a horrible horrible person to say that, you shud deffiently complain!

Pixie that's a lovely name, hope your feeling better soon Smile

StarsInTheNightSky · 13/03/2014 22:20

Alb thank you, that makes me feel a bit better. Yes, we are definitely complaining. DH is drafting a letter as I write this.

fod27 · 13/03/2014 22:25

sea I'm so sorry about your news, crossing everything for some good scan news

pixie love the name! Still nothing my end... Naughty girl isn't she? I've decided she will probably show up on April 1st knowing my luck hahaa

fedupofrainydays · 14/03/2014 07:02

sea so sorry to hear that :( it's all so unfair. Please take care of yourself. Xx

stars Shock Shock Shock how could someone say that? To go as far as she did too is just horrific. She should definately be fired. I really would complain, that is terrible. And then the junior doctor?! Why on earth do people say these things?

pixie hope the recovery improves soon for you but welcome to imogen! I can empathise with the emotional mess too - hormones and tiredness turned me into a blubbering mess after birth of my son.

So after my worries re cm and lack of symptoms I'm off for a private scan today at lunchtime. Typically I've woken up feeling v sick. But I need to go to check all ok as last two days I've been going mental. And if everything is ok at least I will feel more relaxed that loss of symptoms doesn't necc mean it's all gone wrong.

CbeebiesIsMyLife · 14/03/2014 08:08

Stars I haven't finished reading the thread bu just wanted to say The junior dr doesn't really know what he's talking about. With dd1 I was literally in hospital every other week from 35 weeks with reduced movements, but each time I just couldn't feel her! This time I've been in 3 times already and again he's just in a funny position. You're only at risk if there is actual reduced movements that they are concerned about, and they wouldn't be letting you go home if try were.

The woman was a bitch and that's putting it mildly. Complain complain complain and avoid that pharmacy from now on so angry on your behalf Sad

I had a scan yesterday everything looks perfect, baby is breech and back to back an when they tried to put him on the monitor he wouldn't stay still long enough to get a good trace! The longest period we had was 3 minutes!! The midwife decided it was a good sign and I'm seeing my community midwife for a checkup next week just to make sure he's still all ok.

These babies like to dare is don't they!

CbeebiesIsMyLife · 14/03/2014 08:12

Sorry bathing my children at the same time as typing, more concentration on them than predictive text! (They're 3 and 2 so perfectly fine playing by themselves in the bath as long as I'm sat here watching them. I'm not a completely neglectful mother I swear Wink)

CbeebiesIsMyLife · 14/03/2014 09:07

Wow, has anyone seen the grandparents thread in pregnancy? Shock talk about entitled and nieve! I see a steep learning curve is in store for op on how difficult babies are to look after Shock

kjh5 · 14/03/2014 11:15

Hi everyone, just quickly checking in, we have intermittent access to the internet at the moment and I'm quite enjoying being 'cut off'. Trying to enjoy the lovely weather we are having and getting things sorted for the baby to get here! Somehow being able to sit and soak up the sunshine makes the worsening SPD, carpal tunnel my new least favourite pregnancy symptom and general discomfort more bearable!

Sea hoping everything turns out ok for you and you have lots of love and support in RL

Pixie I love the name Imogen! Hope you are enjoying every minute with her and the recovery is going well.

Fod keeping Fx you don't have to wait too much longer for your bubba to arrive!

In theory I've still got 5 weeks to go - everyone keeps telling me he is going to arrive early... I have a feeling he quite likes it in there and I'm going to be pregnant for another 2 months... ugh! The thought does not appeal, but I suppose they arrive when they are good and ready!

Hope everyone else is gearing up to enjoy this lovely spring weekend!

squizita · 14/03/2014 11:39

Cbeebies offered some advice - similar 2-career-marriage and my ill health last year meant DH made some practical changes - but to 20-something lawyers/Drs (from experience) think 30-something public sector workers do colouring in and I'm clearly not worth listening to. Who knows, my DH might be the bossy old law hack sending demanding emails to her hubby? But what do we know. And don't get me on the culture thing. I'm half Asian half Irish ... demanding childcare is still taking the p**s.

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CorporeSarnie · 14/03/2014 14:25

Just popping in. I can't believe that anyone would speak to a customer (particularly a pregnant woman) like that stars; I really hope she gets a proper bollocking at the least. Just galling. I'm not surprised you reacted how you did - I can't think of anything worse one could say in all honesty.
I struggled with the MIL thread squiz mentioned above - I think the OP has some growing up to do - but what was particularly crazy was she was only 7 weeks gone and thinking about ramping up demands already! For what, a year's time? Bonkers!
DD has caught my cold. She doesn't have a fever and has a runny nose which makes her cough at night when she lies down. In the world of a 2 yo this is terrible, and I am the worst Mummy in the world for sending her to nursery thus afflicted. Still took an extra hour to get her there this morning, so she's had some sort of revenge there .

LondonJen · 14/03/2014 15:16

Afternoon lovely ladies,

I'm sorry I'm really behind on the posts as work been too busy to pop in, but I just wanted to come and say a big THANK YOU to you all for getting me this far from when I first came on here in January. I had my 1st mw appt yesterday and today I am 10 weeks which is when I lost the other pregnancy. Back in January I did not know how I would get through the never ending early weeks but here I am, about to step into unknown territory and by the looks of things just having a plain old boring normal pregnancy Grin I hope everyone is able to relax and enjoy some sunshine this weekend. Thanks again xxxx

fod27 · 14/03/2014 19:18

Vent alert!!!

Went to the inlaws to show them our new carry cot for the pram (there was a bulls up with the shop etc) when we arrived DH vile sister in law was there with her DH as was FIL and they were all smoking in the kitchen! Infront of me and the new pram! I'm fucking fuming! They had offered to have my kids should I go into labor (never would I allow that to happen she's the worlds worst mother!) what makes me really angry is the fact that once LO is here they will all trot off outside to smoke... The damage has been done now though! It's really upset me. What's more is that DH and MIL said nothing!

fedupofrainydays · 14/03/2014 21:08

So my scan was good - phew!! 9 + 3 so getting there. Feels so slow though.

Hope everyone is doing okay - and yay to 10 weeks london

I just wouldn't go near them full stop fod. I wouldn't want my baby to be near smokers whether they did it outside or not as it clings to their clothes etc. but not avoidable I guess if lots of the family smoke. Fortunately none of mine do so don't have to have that awkward chat.

Hope you got that complaint written stars

sea how are you doing if you are still here? I hope you are ok lovely x

Honey786 · 14/03/2014 21:28

Stars how awful to experience such a thing! I've only just caught up reading the thread and can't believe someone could say such a cruel thing. I'm lost for words an that woman should be sacked. I would definately make a serious complaint. You have every right to feel and react the way u did, I would've been the same and probably too dumbstruck. So sorry u had to hear that xxx still very shocked

MabelMay · 14/03/2014 21:29

fedup great news on scan.

Hey everyone else.

stars that sounds totally despicable and absolutely a firing offense. How awful for you!

sea fingers crossed for you.

In other news, I am in severe panic as feeling totally symptomless today - no sore boobs, no tiredness, no nausea - even pinched my boobs in desperation to make them hurt.

i hope all okay. Sad

MabelMay · 14/03/2014 21:30

I'm 5+6 weeks by the way, as a reminder. x

squizita · 14/03/2014 21:42

Mabel honestly if you scroll back I was the same. Begging to feel sick.

Then everyone ROFLed as I had a little puke fest weeks 7-10. Grin

My mum carried twins and did not work out she was pregnant till about week 11. Had spotting twice, thought it was a light period. You can have loads of hormones and few symptoms... just one of those things.

:) In the nicest possible way I hope you feel sick soon (to put your mind at rest) though.

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